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Diamond098454:
caaz is that purple💜 light wow.... I thought it was green🟢 light

this girl na troll oloun

Tenrack:
this girl na troll oloun

hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Oloun Meaning?

Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Oloun Meaning?

God lol. You no Sabi Yoruba

Tenrack:
God lol. You no Sabi Yoruba

I don't speak or hear Yoruba

Diamond098454:
I don't speak or hear Yoruba

chai. You are missing o. Leave PH and come to Lagos.

Tenrack:
;Dwhen na useless hungry girls full everywhere? Who wants burden in their lives?

Internet dating is almost always a scam bro, from either end...one of the two parties or even at times both of them act with bad faith from the get-go

Sirianese:
Internet dating is almost always a scam bro, from either end...one of the two parties or even at times both of them act with bad faith from the get-go

Omo ehn

NiRfreak:
Funny thing is we men are quick to generalize that any woman above 26/27 should not be considered again, I used to be so, but on a closer reflection, if I meet a lady of my sisters age, edu, outlook, character, job, religious & dating history, I will gladly marry her even if she's 30.
The reality of my sisters now makes me understand that not all 29 or 30 year old are Bad or Ashana...... But to know 29/30 year old who are still okay is the problem.... unless you talk and relate to understand their psyche

I wonder who gave some guyz this narrative aswear..a girl of 29 and 30 is old ..nawaoo..buy eventually she dies she is young

franchasng:
Some of you guys are the reason the ladies are replying the way they did on this thread, just reread your comments, it doesn't make sense.

What is wrong with marrying a 34yrs old lady, and you are here making it look like a big deal marrying 29/30yrs old ladies? People are marrying ladies above 40yrs, I know some that did and they are living absolutely fine and their wives even look hotter than the under 30 ladies. You better change your orientation oh


For your information, I married my wife when she was 29yrs approaching 30.


And guess what? We have our beautiful kids that give me super joy today without a single delay.


I know the issue is most of you have wrong notion and belief about women's fertility and childbearing. You guys believe ladies around 29/30 won't give birth easily which is totally wrong.

I am not mocking anyone, just for the sake of this thread, let me share my real life experience with you guys.


I married my wife 29 going 30yrs and immediately after our wedding she took in and had our first baby without delay.

Unfortunately I have 3 friends who married their wives at; 24, 25 and 26. All of them had serious childrearing delay. The one that married his at 24 had 8 years delay. They even resorted to IVF which all failed twice. It was prayers and God's intervention that made them later had a child. The other one just had his not long ago, it was close to 7yrs too.


My point, these things are all in God's hands and your destiny in life also matters plus your family background and the spiritual battles in your family and your wife's family too, those are the things that cause delay in giving birth in Nigeria. Some come from men too, a lot of men are not potent but won't know cos they can still ejaculate spm.


My point?

There is nothing wrong in marrying 29, 30, 31, etc ladies.



In fact while single I never liked the idea of marrying any girl below 28yrs, I always knew I would marry someone mature and sensible, though there are ladies that are very sensible and mature at even 22yrs, so all these things are individual based. Just pray to marry the right person, someone that have human conscience, empathy, zero or less spiritual baggages and from a good/reasonable family. All these age and other things don't usually matter at the long run.


Until you guys marry, you won't understand some things about life and marriage sha


If you make sex and sexual matters (she must be a virgin this, body count that) a top priority in deciding who to marry, take it from me, you will most likely end up marrying the wrong person that will make you regret ever getting married.

Case closed! You just said it all..don't know when 29/30 become old...my sister married at 30, she has row beautiful sons now...going for third child ..guys shouting that 29/30 is old are those guys been brain washed by bitter red pillers

pocohantas:
I am proud of that too and on a serious note, I don't see the issue. While I understand your concern, we need to get rid of the mentality that 30 is some rush-hour age. People do not wither and die a day after 30.
2) They might be dating and keeping it to themselves until engagement. Most women do that. So you cannot be sure until you ask. If it bothers you, ask them. I bet they will answer.

Their ages are perfect to me for current realities. It is only on NL men have stopped marrying 29yo women. I see every age group get married out there. Though the older she is, I notice they both have jobs or have japa'd and came back here to do wedding.

It will happen if they want it and it is their destiny. Until then, they are doing fine. I wish them the best as you seem like a chill guy. They are women anyway. I wish every woman the best.

For females, 30's really is a rush hour, time goes fast. Ladies must be very conscious of this. I know sometimes Life does not turn out the way we want but that does not mean we should see what life has given us as the best. Imagine a student having a dream to graduate with First Class but end up with Pass and believing the Pass is not bad and it can still be very great, people have done great things with it, yes indeed! but it is still bad. Focusing on the bright side means such a person does not want to face the harsh reality waiting for them on the other side, the struggle they will now have to face due to the position they are now in. This optimism might end up pushing them to make greater mistakes, moving things from bad to worse.

Am I saying Ladies at 30's with no man ready to marry them insight, finished? or Men at 40's with no job, finished? or Someone who graduated with bad grades as I have cited, finished? No! No! No! No!

But only on the condition that they accept their new profound reality. The earlier they do this, the earlier will they start to make decisions that would really, really change things and give them that reality they want.

A lady at 30's with no husband is a crisis.
Graduating with Pass, Third Class is Disaster.
A man at 40 and still leaving with his mom is Abominable.

This is not about Feminism, male the conqueror and all other Nairaland's dogmas. This is about laws of Nature; you can't turn them upside down. Society cannot!

Kobojunkie:
Those they call good men typically turn out weapons fashioned against women. I recall reading, not too long ago, a thread where a brother detailed how the good man he introduced to his sister turned out to be a weapon of abuse against her life. He claimed he knew the guy for 8 years and believed he would be best for his sister, but the opposite turned out to be the case.

And it is funny?

OP you have not answered my question. Are you married? In Nigeria, most families go by the order of eldest first. So you could be the problem they don't want to talk about. Just the way you are worried about them, they too could have told suitors to leave them because their bro never marry.

SixSeven:
OP you have not answered my question. Are you married? In Nigeria, most families go by the order of eldest first. So you could be the problem they don't want to talk about. Just the way you are worried about them, they too could have told suitors to leave them because their bro never marry.

Oga this is not true, women tend to marry earlier than men, much earlier.

It is actually rare to see a marraige where a woman 5 years or less younger than her older brother marries after him, very rare.

aswani:
Oga this is not true, women tend to marry earlier than men, much earlier.

It is actually rare to see a marraige where a woman 5 years or less younger than her older brother marries after him, very rare.

You will be surprised that some people do things according to order. Their elder brother must have his own children before me the younger sister has hers. He's not even married, we are talking about children.

In some families, younger siblings are traditionally expected to wait until older siblings have married before they plan their own weddings. If younger siblings proceed before the elder ones, they may marry without family blessing which is considered significant in the culture.

MerchantMNT:
✓ And it is funny?

Of course, it is. If a man can not spot a good man from among those he is around for so long, how then do you expect a woman to do that... spot the mythical creature that is a good man? 🥱🥱🥱

NiRfreak:
Nairaland clown, I no say na wetin go come ur head be this.
Naso dem dey chew ur sister ba? Repent bro, and be good example to your younger ones

The guy is everywhere on nairaland.
He's either the first or second to comment on every Thread

Hello brother, I can feel the love you have for your sisters, and to see them settle down maritally. Please, I would like to meet with them. Can you connect me? I don't mind going through you.

Blessings!

NiRfreak:
Who also get worried and hopes his sisters gets married off the street to a good man in no distant time? And not suffer the dreaded husband search syndrome of 30+ ladies.. Imagine that your innocent god fearing little sister

Omo how time flies, those sweet little sisters of 16, 17 of yesterday are now hitting 30. Looks unreal. Already graduates, one has Msc

Although they are doing well job wise for themselves paying their own bills, but I see myself praying for them to get good husband. Am I the only one having this feeling as a brother. More like I've started counting time for them.
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God abeg o, favour my sisters, They are too young for husband wahala abeg. Even at 29/30 , in my eyes they still feel young and naive.
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I don't know you before, but you have said 80% of my mind to the OP. God bless you mightily for your wisdom.

franchasng:
It's normal for all men, not just brothers, fathers too worry about this the most


My suggestion?

You need to have a man-to-sister talks with them individually, that's if you have a close relationship with them and if they respect you.


Make them understand some of the realities on ground when it comes to today's economy, finding love and getting married. They must understand that due to failed leaders like Tinubu and co, Nigerian youths, especially guys are not finding life easy financially. And it is when a man finds his fit financially that he starts thinking of settling down; at least most reasonable guys. And because of failed leaders and failed Nigerian government, many young guys are struggling even after graduating from the university and even after acquiring postgraduate degree certificates.


This has made many ripe and overripe single guys pretend like they dislike marriage, it's not true, most Nigerians desire to marry (male and female) but most times financial difficulties make them act like they don't wish to marry, they all do, forget internet banters and pretense.


My point?

Making your sisters understand that it's not easy to find a rich, handsome, God fearing man to marry presently based on the realities of today will bring their senses to reality. Yes they can still find a rich, handsome, Godly husband but the possibilities are very slim, we all know this.


Many guys today start getting financially stable from 38yrs due to failed government and leaders, so bearing this in mind, they must lower their expectations from men when it comes to financial status especially. Since they have good jobs, they should focus on other good and futuristic qualities in a man, qualities like; empathy, does the man have empathy, conscience, does the guy have human conscience, fear of God, does the guy fear and reverence God? Not being born again oh or being fire bred brother in Christ, I said fear of God, does he have absolute fear and reverence for God?


Is he ambitious in reality not just in words? Is he making serious efforts to become better financially? Is he street smart? Does he have sellable ideas and making efforts? If he is lazy, flee! If he is violent, flee! Does he respect his dad? This is very important. Is he nice to strangers, neighbors and friends? If he is mean and always acting mean to people around him, flee! If he believes in get rich quick, flee.


Above all, make your sisters also understand that most financially stable guys who appear to be the dream man of most ladies are already married, yes. If they see any guy that have a good paying job or business, drives a very lovely car, dresses well and have a kind of settled and attractive lifestyle, he is most likely married, especially in Nigeria


They should focus on building with a sensible guy with conscience and empathy, there are many of them. I have some of them I can recommend but I am always scared of matchmaking.


Your sisters must work very hard not to offer sex to guys too early, any guy rushing for sex is on a fast lane, he is probably married or looking for just fling miracle do happen though but not always. In every rule there are exceptions but it's always better to follow the rules to be safe than to be sorry.


They must not look down on any guy.


Unfortunately many ladies fail to realize that their future husband is usually among:


1.) Their school mates

2.) Online, yes online if you apply wisdom as already explained. But not on hookup Apps, you see forums like this, you see Twitter/x, you see general platforms for news, comedies, business, etc

3.) Their hometown, especially for Igbo ladies, try and be visiting home during Christmas season like now.



But most importantly, single ladies today must be realistic with the current economic situation of Nigeria and you must not make yourself look too sophisticated that potential single guys will be scared to approach you such that it will be only financially buoyant and bold married men like will be the ones approaching you, if you make yourself that kind of lady that appear too sophisticated and too hard to approach, na married men you go de end up with last last


Don't reject matchmaking, be nice to older women, men, your husband could be in their hands.



Above all, they must not neglect their feminity and physical beauty/appearance cos it matters a lot oh.



I wish your sisters the best

OP, you are right. Many God-fearing, loving, stable, and single guys are marrying 30+ years ladies today. Your sisters have over 70% chances of marrying single men (never married before). I know of a lady (32 years) who is still a virgin with zero body count. Your sisters will marry right, if they have all that it takes.

Blessings!

NiRfreak:
All these noise by you and your ilk is not necessary. You should see how I highlight their positive trait which if I see in other 29/30 ladies I won't hesitate to give them a chance....Their life still makes me believe there are still cool 29/30 ladies out there
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If a man is sure of the family & upbringing a lady comes from, and meets a simple minded hardworking lady, of course 29/30 can still be attractive if the character and worldview is not messed up by current craze.
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What I mean by worldview is...... view about life, children, sex, marriage, men, religion and success

pocohantas:
And still not picked?

Maybe Shiloh next or you give it time. It will happen for them when other men get welcoming of their age group. They might be dating and keeping it cool until it matures. Who knows?

Shiloh queue too long 😁😁

Direct them elsewhere. We still dey line😀

doggedfighter:
Shiloh queue too long 😁😁

Direct them elsewhere. We still dey line😀

Hahahaha! I wish his sisters well.
They can try Chosen as Shiloh done full.

NiRfreak:
Who also get worried and hopes his sisters gets married off the street to a good man in no distant time? And not suffer the dreaded husband search syndrome of 30+ ladies.. Imagine that your innocent god fearing little sister

Omo how time flies, those sweet little sisters of 16, 17 of yesterday are now hitting 30. Looks unreal. Already graduates, one has Msc

Although they are doing well job wise for themselves paying their own bills, but I see myself praying for them to get good husband. Am I the only one having this feeling as a brother. More like I've started counting time for them.
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God abeg o, favour my sisters, They are too young for husband wahala abeg. Even at 29/30 , in my eyes they still feel young and naive.
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😆 there are no good husbands anywhere.

There are only people willing to compromise. Maybe your sisters are waiting for billionaires