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women date FOR THINGS THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX: i.e a man's resources, money, time, energy, protection, skills, investments etc. If a woman already has these things by herself she will see no reason to date: "I make my own money I don't need a man"
Women don't see a relationship as a source of sex the way men do. Women ALWAYS get sex offered to them everywhere they go. They don't need a relationship to get it.

Meanwhile men date FOR SEX AND THOSE THINGS THAT HAVE TO DO WITH SEX. And a man who gets plenty of sex from plenty of women will see no reason to date, e.g a Player.

Monogamy was a concept inbred with love, the fallacy of one man,one woman, forever. It encouraged simping from men because now, they have to try to please just one woman forever while in polygamy, many women compete to please the man.

Loneliness can't be cured by marriage or old age. If you are never content with your own presence or love yourself, you'd be a burden to whoever and whatever. No matter how you sugarcoat it, you came alone into this world and you will go out the same. Learn to love yourself and be content with your own presence. As you age, death and illnesses take most of the people you grew up with and could include your wife and even some kids... But a man who isn't sick would always find something to do to keep his mind and body strong. What most people suffer from is not physical loneliness per se....it's the void in their hearts and souls that they can't fill, the emptiness of the spirit. This is why churches and religious houses help out with that.

JESHAL007:
Loneliness can't be cured by marriage or old age. If you are never content with your own presence or love yourself, you'd be a burden to whoever and whatever. No matter how you sugarcoat it, you came alone into this world and you will go out the same. Learn to love yourself and be content with your own presence. As you age, death and illnesses take most of the people you grew up with and could include your wife and even some kids... But a man who isn't sick would always find something to do to keep his mind and body strong. What most people suffer from is not physical loneliness per se....it's the void in their hearts and souls that they can't fill, the emptiness of the spirit. This is why churches and religious houses help out with that.

oga go out & meet people, seun is making his damn money, fight your way out of joblessness, nl won't employ you.

REAL LIFE mehn… The redpill has never been a lie.
I am grateful to be part of this movement.
If you don’t understand women you will suffer, lol.😂

Please, let’s keep this page alive for posterity sake. I believe only nairaland has got a long thread of dosage of red pills and real life tales to back up the stories. So don’t mind some douchebag that comes here to spit rubbish and derail the thread with their myopic views.

I check up here sometimes, take the dose and continue to apply them in life endeavors.

Funnily enough, women still win by settling down with a man at the end of their youthful exuberance. It’s just a win-win world for them, maybe, maybe not.

@emmaodet, I can never compare myself with a woman, my cousin was jobless for 3 years post NYSC and she met an abroad based Nigerian online, they chatted, next thing I know she married him last year, now they have relocated to America, like Jesus, me that have been hustling since, most women are even trying to see what they can gain for me, my female cousin whose family are average at best now have their daughter in US

Summary
Men are loved under the conditions they provide value or are powerful,women and children are loved unconditionally

Your timeline and women timeline are not the same, never you see them as your equals, they have the opportunity of leveraging men and society in general to advance, most men don't have that advantage

sabbiboi:
REAL LIFE mehn… The redpill has never been a lie.
I am grateful to be part of this movement.
If you don’t understand women you will suffer, lol.😂

Please, let’s keep this page alive for posterity sake. I believe only nairaland has got a long thread of dosage of red pills and real life tales to back up the stories. So don’t mind some douchebag that comes here to spit rubbish and derail the thread with their myopic views.

I check up here sometimes, take the dose and continue to apply them in life endeavors.

Funnily enough, women still win by settling down with a man at the end of their youthful exuberance. It’s just a win-win world for them, maybe, maybe not.

You are very accurate, my female cousin whom I discussed above is a vivid example

JESHAL007:
@emmaodet, I can never compare myself with a woman, my cousin was jobless for 3 years post NYSC and she met an abroad based Nigerian online, they chatted, next thing I know she married him last year, now they have relocated to America, like Jesus, me that have been hustling since, most women are even trying to see what they can gain for me, my female cousin whose family are average at best now have their daughter in US

Summary
Men are loved under the conditions they provide value or are powerful,women and children are loved unconditionally

Your timeline and women timeline are not the same, never you see them as your equals, they have the opportunity of leveraging men and society in general to advance, most men don't have that advantage

I totally agree with you.
That is why a boy who comes from a poor home and goes to university party and drink most times with ladies of same caliber is only setting himself up for failure if he is not wise because after school, some of these ladies will secure financially average men while the boy is starting from the scratch and those ladies will avoid him like a plague after school.
Women have he luxury of squandering their future yet still have leverage and insurance of men but a man doesn't have such opportunity.

Merry Christmas redpillers
I know the thread is not as bubbling and active as before but the immense load of wisdom archived here is for generations to come even if we are all dead, except they delete it or nairaland stops functioning as a company, the information here is timeless for all men regardless of your age or status or background or experience

Thank you all for the discussions, reposts,debates,memes, even trolls for keeping these thread alive, I'm very grateful to be part of these family liberating men from the shackles of bluepilled idealism, one sided romance, societal and religious expectations, uncontrolled sexual lust and so many more

The difference between a prostitute and your regular girlfriend is that you'll know the amount it will cost you from the beginning and you are sure to get what you came for.

Merry Christmas, Fellas. Jesus loves you.

Have an amazing red-pilled day!!! 🎪🎪🎀 😎💪💥

As a man ,you are in constant competition with every other male that would procreate with your girlfriend or wife.
Nature is a battle between organism's seeking premium biology to mate with and successfully carry forward their genes.
The illusions of safety and security within your relationship are irrelevant to nature when it comes to it programmed agenda.
Your value is always being monitored by her ,unconsciously,and will become aware if another male enters and demonstrate higher value. At this point,her biology will evaluate and test your desirability against his in order to determine who can supply a greater chance of survival. If the other male wins based on her tests,you are now placed lower on the value scale and her attraction will fade over time.

The best way to eliminate your competition as a man,is to constantly increase your value .

CONCEPT OF LOVE
What is often forgotten is that until quite recently marriage and relationships were a pragmatic decision often made by the families of the couple, not the couple itself.
The concept of love based on emotions is beneficial to women. Man is weak when emotional as such he will be willing to do anything.
Women use sex to get what they want from men… but since sex is often a temporary thing as in a one-on/one-off situation. Women needed a more permanent/ long-term solution.
The reason why women need men to fall in love is because “in the name of love” men will DO THE 3S’ (SHARE, SACRIFICE, SUPPORT).

Men will SHARE their time, wealth, resources and wisdom… voluntarily SACRIFICE their hobbies, friends, opinions and dreams, even their very safety and security and SUPPORT her materialistic lifestyle.

Sure I can list many others but you get the point. When a man falls in love he will beg, borrow, steal and kill for his woman… this is why women push love over sex… because sex is just a physical thing, so after the sex, you’re gone… but love, love is an emotional thing, lasting much, much longer..it’s the thing that makes you stay and pay her way.

At best, women can ONLY love a man conditionally. Unconditional love is only reserved for her child, never the man.

Love is the greatest tool a woman has in her “Trifecta,” to control and manipulate a man (the other two being sex and deception).

SEX AND MARRIAGE

Men that marry because of sex end up being frustrated. It is evident in threads on FP where men cry how their wives do not give them sex.

Marriage is not a sex guarantee.

Most beta males devoid of sex are of the expectation that in marriage, there is freedom to have sex anytime, anywhere and try on new techniques. Must end up getting frustrated at the end. For the marriage end up not being as rosy as it seems.

A man was complaining that his wife do not want him to do doggy style, she only allows him do missionary and he is bored. Another was complaining his wife doesn't give him sex only to find out she was cheating on him.

The best sex a man can have is beyond the confines of marriage for there is no holds barred.

Take the case of campus marriage. A lady will stay in a room with a guy and bang the dude everyday for a month despite lectures but will complain to her husband that he wants too much sex. She is very tired and can't handle his sexual urge.

80% of Men are sexually attracted to women they marry but 80% of women are not sexually attracted to men they marry.

When the desirable is not available the available become desirable.

Many Women marry one who is ready not whom they love. They love the fvck boys, the bad guys, the guy that can bang her well but because her parents as well as society will not like a guy with a mohawk or dreadlocks hairstyle she will go for a guy that dress responsibly and is ready for marriage.

Women date who they love and marry who love them.
The guys they love are who they end up fvcking while the ones they don't love are the one's they end up marrying.

Your son will be able to handle these truths once he's a teenager:

-Men are success objects. If you're unsuccessful, you're dehumanised. Men are treated like shit, thrash and dungs

-Most people don't give a shit about you and will never give a shit about you.

Nyascobar1414:
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And please, can you tell us the story,so we get better from the lessons 👐

Never hate women, never hate the game. Just learn it and be a master player. Be very ruthless, don't be emotional.
But always remember, even those you call your guys can play you. Don't blame them, you might actually be the problem. Big up to my Boy, I have learn a lot from him in these past weeks of practicals than I have learned in my entire lifetime.

Bro was busy running a girl I was thinking about being serious with. Make Una pour me water. The worst part is that this two act like they don't talk or hate each other, I have never been deceived like that in my life..

I literally caught these guys fvcking yesterday, yet they still acting like eñemy today. This girl will be acting loving dovey on me while fvcking my guy in secret. I was not expecting this at all.

To those of you taking girls on dates this lovely Christmas day; If I catch you ehn?

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you.
That is why a boy who comes from a poor home and goes to university party and drink most times with ladies of same caliber is only setting himself up for failure if he is not wise because after school, some of these ladies will secure financially average men while the boy is starting from the scratch and those ladies will avoid him like a plague after school.
Women have he luxury of squandering their future yet still have leverage and insurance of men but a man doesn't have such opportunity.

I saw this a lot during university days... Girls who weren't good in academics got married in their twilight years or immediately after and began living comfortably (better than when they were single). So a guy whose parents aren't comfortable yet loses focus in school or trade will pay for it. What is the backup? I am always glad I was serious while in school, even with a more comfortable background than some I know who did not have a similar background, yet played along in school. The girls they dated while in school, they cannot approach today because they (the girls) have upgraded. I don't know how it feels, but it will be extremely awkward to come across ladies you paroled with in school, but their economic standing has surpassed yours as a man.

JESHAL007:
The difference between a prostitute and your regular girlfriend is that you'll know the amount it will cost you from the beginning and you are sure to get what you came for.

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Prostitutes are more honest than wives cos they'll tell you the price upfront 😹

JESHAL007:
CONCEPT OF LOVE
What is often forgotten is that until quite recently marriage and relationships were a pragmatic decision often made by the families of the couple, not the couple itself.
The concept of love based on emotions is beneficial to women. Man is weak when emotional as such he will be willing to do anything.
Women use sex to get what they want from men… but since sex is often a temporary thing as in a one-on/one-off situation. Women needed a more permanent/ long-term solution.
The reason why women need men to fall in love is because “in the name of love” men will DO THE 3S’ (SHARE, SACRIFICE, SUPPORT).

Men will SHARE their time, wealth, resources and wisdom… voluntarily SACRIFICE their hobbies, friends, opinions and dreams, even their very safety and security and SUPPORT her materialistic lifestyle.

Sure I can list many others but you get the point. When a man falls in love he will beg, borrow, steal and kill for his woman… this is why women push love over sex… because sex is just a physical thing, so after the sex, you’re gone… but love, love is an emotional thing, lasting much, much longer..it’s the thing that makes you stay and pay her way.

At best, women can ONLY love a man conditionally. Unconditional love is only reserved for her child, never the man.

Love is the greatest tool a woman has in her “Trifecta,” to control and manipulate a man (the other two being sex and deception).

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Chaiii, coming to think of it.
Women actually control men via sex..
And most men love sex..
It's a woman's world..

That's why I don't want any female to gain from me,either via attention,any form of kindness etc..

When I walk past the street,I see how these females look at this males with total disgust 🙁..
When I was a child,I was always angry at rich men who beat their wives,now I see the reason why..

The man knows if he had nothing no.one will be with him,hence the reason he wants everything to be done his way and his way alone..

Even in medical school,males are always in a silent competition amongst themselves..

Maybe to have the attention of their female colleagues who most of the time do t really give a fvck about them..

Damnn bro,most males out there are very naive,such that I pity them,cos all they are working for will be taken away from them via love 😹..

I've seen a whole lotta shiit,such that sometimes I feel consciousness is a curse,I think,I suffer..

This rabbit hole is truly endless..
I was warned though 👐.

I love this thread cos most times I find myself wanting to simp,but when I come back here,I see reasons not to give a fvck and live only for myself..

A red pill a day,keeps simping away

JESHAL007:
CONCEPT OF LOVE
What is often forgotten is that until quite recently marriage and relationships were a pragmatic decision often made by the families of the couple, not the couple itself.
The concept of love based on emotions is beneficial to women. Man is weak when emotional as such he will be willing to do anything.
Women use sex to get what they want from men… but since sex is often a temporary thing as in a one-on/one-off situation. Women needed a more permanent/ long-term solution.
The reason why women need men to fall in love is because “in the name of love” men will DO THE 3S’ (SHARE, SACRIFICE, SUPPORT).

Men will SHARE their time, wealth, resources and wisdom… voluntarily SACRIFICE their hobbies, friends, opinions and dreams, even their very safety and security and SUPPORT her materialistic lifestyle.

Sure I can list many others but you get the point. When a man falls in love he will beg, borrow, steal and kill for his woman… this is why women push love over sex… because sex is just a physical thing, so after the sex, you’re gone… but love, love is an emotional thing, lasting much, much longer..it’s the thing that makes you stay and pay her way.

At best, women can ONLY love a man conditionally. Unconditional love is only reserved for her child, never the man.

Love is the greatest tool a woman has in her “Trifecta,” to control and manipulate a man (the other two being sex and deception).

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Chaiii, coming to think of it.
Women actually control men via sex..
And most men love sex..
It's a woman's world..

That's why I don't want any female to gain from me,either via attention,any form of kindness etc..

When I walk past the street,I see how these females look at this males with total disgust 🙁..
When I was a child,I was always angry at rich men who beat their wives,now I see the reason why..

The man knows if he had nothing no.one will be with him,hence the reason he wants everything to be done his way and his way alone..

Even in medical school,males are always in a silent competition amongst themselves..

Maybe to have the attention of their female colleagues who most of the time do t really give a fvck about them..

Damnn bro,most males out there are very naive,such that I pity them,cos all they are working for will be taken away from them via love 😹..

I've seen a whole lotta shiit,such that sometimes I feel consciousness is a curse,I think,I suffer..

This rabbit hole is truly endless..
I was warned though 👐.

I love this thread cos most times I find myself wanting to simp,but when I come back here,I see reasons not to give a fvck and live only for myself..

A red pill a day,keeps simping away..

Nyascobar1414:
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It's a woman's world..

You have said it all. Truly it is a woman's world

I lived amongst women for the better part of my life, I am just fortunate that I have never simp or being taken for a ride by any female.

I just reminiscence those years and my conclusion is, women believe that men are working for them. Like I have heard countless times now from my sisters saying things like "I trust that when X(that is me) have money he will help me buy this or pay for this or that", even my older sister say things like that. And when I ask for money, yes they give me oo, but they will always tell me that I am a man and I should work for my money.

Like the giving ratio no dey ever balance with them.

Gobengroup:
Never hate women, never hate the game. Just learn it and be a master player. Be very ruthless, don't be emotional.
But always remember, even those you call your guys can play you. Don't blame them, you might actually be the problem. Big up to my Boy, I have learn a lot from him in these past weeks of practicals than I have learned in my entire lifetime.

Bro was busy running a girl I was thinking about being serious with. Make Una pour me water. The worst part is that this two act like they don't talk or hate each other, I have never been deceived like that in my life..

I literally caught these guys fvcking yesterday, yet they still acting like eñemy today. This girl will be acting loving dovey on me while fvcking my guy in secret. I was not expecting this at all.

You're not the only one experiencing this. Most guys on this thread and in red pill deceive themselves with books and quotes thinking they're making progress.

Unfortunately seduction is about real world experience. Nothing beats staying in the trenches of seduction to find what works.

For you, you became a bf/husband material to her. So she most likely encouraged him to keep it a secret. This way she doesn't ruin her chances of care from you.

And it's not about being ruthless. In fact, ruthlessness doesn't work long term.

You want to put yourself and your mission first. Once you do that, words like "wicked" "stubborn" "I hate you" will start flowing from women's mouths to you along with bjs and sex.

I've always told guys to drop the bf/husband material route. And go hard on being seen as fwb or fb material

That's how you win long term.

Anyways, there are still more lessons to learn. More wahala to see. Just man up and embrace them

It will all pay off. Soon you'll have a deep sense of calm knowing you get women anywhere and in in any place and in any situation

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you.
That is why a boy who comes from a poor home and goes to university party and drink most times with ladies of same caliber is only setting himself up for failure if he is not wise because after school, some of these ladies will secure financially average men while the boy is starting from the scratch and those ladies will avoid him like a plague after school.
Women have he luxury of squandering their future yet still have leverage and insurance of men but a man doesn't have such opportunity.

Very very true

Rizzputin:
You're not the only one experiencing this. Most guys on this thread and in red pill deceive themselves with books and quotes thinking they're making progress.

Unfortunately seduction is about real world experience. Nothing beats staying in the trenches of seduction to find what works.

For you, you became a bf/husband material to her. So she most likely encouraged him to keep it a secret. This way she doesn't ruin her chances of care from you.

And it's not about being ruthless. In fact, ruthlessness doesn't work long term.

You want to put yourself and your mission first. Once you do that, words like "wicked" "stubborn" "I hate you" will start flowing from women's mouths to you along with bjs and sex.

I've always told guys to drop the bf/husband material route. And go hard on being seen as fwb or fb material

That's how you win long term.

Anyways, there are still more lessons to learn. More wahala to see. Just man up and embrace them

It will all pay off. Soon you'll have a deep sense of calm knowing you get women anywhere and in in any place and in any situation

I literally fvck myself up and I regretted it. There were many times I could have get done with this girl but I choose to stay calm but now I'm on the loosing side.
This girl literally give me 101 chances but I messed everything up. The first time I wanted to hit, I left because I confirmed she was a virgin( my biggest mistake with her). I feel like she now see me as a bf material, I literally knew all her secrets. Wanted to hit yesterday but she rejected.

This is same girl that will secretly use an excuse to see my guy and they end up hitting, I caught them days ago. It was like I was watching a porn, it was so painful and made me regretted not hitting earlier.

I was being used as an emotional dumpsite while my guy is hitting for free and maybe little sacrifices. He was not available emotionally for her. This guy doesn't even rate her at all.

Damn, I was played..

I already ignored her and detached. I wanted to hit yesterday to satisfy myself but it did not work out. What do you think I should do? I feel like my guy already know her weak point and has her on the palm of his hand.

@Rizzputin @Pukkalolo @JESHAL007 and other bosses.

Gobengroup:
I literally fvck myself up and I regretted it. There were many times I could have get done with this girl but I choose to stay calm but now I'm on the loosing side.
This girl literally give me 101 chances but I messed everything up. The first time I wanted to hit, I left because I confirmed she was a virgin( my biggest mistake with her). I feel like she now see me as a bf material, I literally knew all her secrets. Wanted to hit yesterday but she rejected.

This is same girl that will secretly use an excuse to see my guy and they end up hitting, I caught them days ago. It was like I was watching a porn, it was so painful and made me regretted not hitting earlier.

I was being used as an emotional dumpsite while my guy is hitting for free and maybe little sacrifices. He was not available emotionally for her. This guy doesn't even rate her at all.

Damn, I was played..

I already ignored her and detached. I wanted to hit yesterday to satisfy myself but it did not work out. What do you think I should do? I feel like my guy already know her weak point and has her on the palm of his hand.

@Rizzputin @Pukkalolo @JESHAL007 and other bosses.

It's good you're spotting your mistakes.

"Emotional dumpsite" is a great way to describe a therapist. It's a common mistake guys make. Becoming emotional tampons. Soaking up her worries, problems, dreams and aspirations while she bangs another guy recklessly

Also are you sure she was a virgin?

Anyways, even if she was... it's meaningless. I'll never understand the ignorant obsession with virginity. It doesn't mean anything.

What she did to you is one of the common tricks virgins play. One find a husband/bf material like yourself they hope to marry and will take care of them. Keep him believing the virgin lie. Then get a fwb or fb to take her virginity and bang her.

Now, you have take the steps back to understand the issue. Did she meet you first before your guy? Are you guys living in the same area?

You have one of two moves 1) get her aroused (this requires serious skill. So you wont be able to pull it off) 2) withdraw from her

The second one is your move. Give her less and less attention. Not in an angry or butt hurt way. But in a "I have other things to do" kind of way.

Does she know you saw them having sex? If no, then she probably thinks you see still her as a virgin and wants to maintain the image.

Also whose idea was it hide it from you ? Hers or his?

Once you're clear on those answers, withdraw from her like I said... slowly. Find other girls to be involved with. Soon she'll start chasing again. This time you must make her work for it.

You dont have to have sex first time. You can baby step it with other sexual advances.

Also, don't believe what guys tell you about "I dont send her" Most times it's a lie. Guys are just as bad as the women they claim about.

Only actions is what matters.

Gobengroup:
I literally fvck myself up and I regretted it. There were many times I could have get done with this girl but I choose to stay calm but now I'm on the loosing side.
This girl literally give me 101 chances but I messed everything up. The first time I wanted to hit, I left because I confirmed she was a virgin( my biggest mistake with her). I feel like she now see me as a bf material, I literally knew all her secrets. Wanted to hit yesterday but she rejected.

This is same girl that will secretly use an excuse to see my guy and they end up hitting, I caught them days ago. It was like I was watching a porn, it was so painful and made me regretted not hitting earlier.

I was being used as an emotional dumpsite while my guy is hitting for free and maybe little sacrifices. He was not available emotionally for her. This guy doesn't even rate her at all.

Damn, I was played..

I already ignored her and detached. I wanted to hit yesterday to satisfy myself but it did not work out. What do you think I should do? I feel like my guy already know her weak point and has her on the palm of his hand.

@Rizzputin @Pukkalolo @JESHAL007 and other bosses.

You’ve already lost the advantage here. Once the first moves are wrong, it takes a miracle to beat a superior opponent. It’s like a game of Chess or Ludo—once your first few steps are off, you’ve handed her the upper hand. To win from here, you’d need a level of game you clearly haven't mastered yet. She has more game than you, and she knows it. Even if you manage to hook up, the manipulation will only get worse. If you stay, you’re just a student in her class because she’s clearly more experienced than you.

At this point, either use this as 'field practice' to sharpen your skills or just walk away and start fresh elsewhere. She’s been outsmarting you for a while, and even if you eventually 'get' her, she’ll keep manipulating you because she knows your weak spots. Plus, your friend is already in the mix, so she has nothing to lose. There are billions of women out there, why stress yourself over one girl when the world is full of beautiful women? Regroup and find someone new. There’s zero pride in sharing one girl with your homie. sharing one with your circle is a low-vibe move. Except it’s just for sex but Gf? Too low.
Stop simping, reclaim your time, and go where the respect is mutual.

Keep “SPINNING PLATES”, that’s the basic foundation of dating redpills.

SpencerForbes:
You’ve already lost the advantage here. Once the first moves are wrong, it takes a miracle to beat a superior opponent. It’s like a game of Chess or Ludo—once your first few steps are off, you’ve handed her the upper hand. To win from here, you’d need a level of game you clearly haven't mastered yet. She has more game than you, and she knows it. Even if you manage to hook up, the manipulation will only get worse. If you stay, you’re just a student in her class because she’s clearly more experienced than you.

At this point, either use this as 'field practice' to sharpen your skills or just walk away and start fresh elsewhere. She’s been outsmarting you for a while, and even if you eventually 'get' her, she’ll keep manipulating you because she knows your weak spots. Plus, your friend is already in the mix, so she has nothing to lose. There are billions of women out there, why stress yourself over one girl when the world is full of beautiful women? Regroup and find someone new. There’s zero pride in sharing one girl with your homie. sharing one with your circle is a low-vibe move. Except it’s just for sex but Gf? Too low.
Stop simping, reclaim your time, and go where the respect is mutual.

Keep “SPINNING PLATES”, that’s the basic foundation of dating redpills.

Yeah bro, I was too slow and missed out..
Na she wasn't more experience than I am.

I have few other girls, I wasn't giving that much attention. I think I was lenient to her and gave her so much freedom around me. I don't really rate her until I caught she was smashing my guy, so I want to hit too.
I don't want to compete against my bro.

just feel I could still smashed, wasn't considering her a gf material.

Rizzputin:
It's good you're spotting your mistakes.

"Emotional dumpsite" is a great way to describe a therapist. It's a common mistake guys make. Becoming emotional tampons. Soaking up her worries, problems, dreams and aspirations while she bangs another guy recklessly

Also are you sure she was a virgin?

Anyways, even if she was... it's meaningless. I'll never understand the ignorant obsession with virginity. It doesn't mean anything.

What she did to you is one of the common tricks virgins play. One find a husband/bf material like yourself they hope to marry and will take care of them. Keep him believing the virgin lie. Then get a fwb or fb to take her virginity and bang her.

Now, you have take the steps back to understand the issue. Did she meet you first before your guy? Are you guys living in the same area?

You have one of two moves 1) get her aroused (this requires serious skill. So you wont be able to pull it off) 2) withdraw from her

The second one is your move. Give her less and less attention. Not in an angry or butt hurt way. But in a "I have other things to do" kind of way.

Does she know you saw them having sex? If no, then she probably thinks you see still her as a virgin and wants to maintain the image.

Also whose idea was it hide it from you ? Hers or his?

Once you're clear on those answers, withdraw from her like I said... slowly. Find other girls to be involved with. Soon she'll start chasing again. This time you must make her work for it.

You dont have to have sex first time. You can baby step it with other sexual advances.

Also, don't believe what guys tell you about "I dont send her" Most times it's a lie. Guys are just as bad as the women they claim about.

Only actions is what matters.

She doesn't know I saw them having sex. Thinking about it now, she gave me a whole lot of opportunities but I fvcking misuse them.

We live in same area, just few house to my lodge. I live together with my guy. This is a girl that always sleep inthe same room with me and my guy. Just thinking about it now, my guy is probably the reason she does that many times despite them acting like they don't talk to each other.

Another thing I noticed is that, she stop sleeping over the first day I caught them together.

LifeofDream:
She doesn't know I saw them having sex. Thinking about it now, she gave me a whole lot of opportunities but I fvcking misuse them.

We live in same area, just few hours to my lodge. I live together with my guy. This is a girl that always sleep inthe same room with me and my guy. Just thinking about it now, my guy is probably the reason she does that many times despite them acting like they don't talk to each other.

Another thing I noticed is that, she stop sleeping over the first day I caught them together.

Yeah your guy went the back door to smash her.

She doesn't know so that's why she's holding back. To her, you think she's still a virgin

Anyways I've seen this happen many times. Been a part of it too.

I've already explained what you should do. However it seems you're not observant enough. They've probably been smashing for a while now.

LifeofDream:
Yeah bro, I was too slow and missed out..
Na she wasn't more experience than I am.

I have few other girls, I wasn't giving that much attention. I think I was lenient to her and gave her so much freedom around me. I don't really rate her until I caught she was smashing my guy, so I want to hit too.
I don't want to compete against my bro.

just feel I could still smashed, wasn't considering her a gf material.

If you feel like smashing, then go ahead. The world is amoral. Just smash and pass. But give your attention to other girls. She’ll get jealous once she finds out you’re hitting girls way outta her league and might even plan the rematch herself.