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Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

The earlier you do away family in your marriage affairs the better for you... And if it's something you can't handle pls don't start what you can't finish..if you can't settle for the plan you have for your marriage then I think no one will b able to prefer a solution to your issue.. because if you don't set d record straight between your family and her too, den expect bigger confusion in d union, and you will exposed your wife to alot hatred from your family and vice versa...
Or is it d family that is sponsoring the marriage??.or after marriage you will b staying in family house??.. if not then o
Pls man up and communicate to your family if you are going for church wedding, or court or which ever suit you..and why are you against court wedding??! Or are you planning chop and run 🥲😂😂.just make best decision for yourself but b a man and let your family knows what is best for you, because they won't b there to face the consequences of your actions and decision today... choose wisely

olayinkabank:
Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

Alot of churches do bring in court certificate in to the church wedding giving it a legal credibility.
So if you do church wedding in a way u have done both.
I am never in support of inter religion and inter tribal marriages there are usually problems attached to it, alot of problems.
Best advice is do traditional and court wedding and move on.

olayinkabank:
Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

What are you afraid of?

Do the damn court marriage and stop complicating matters!
After all, the court marriage is the middle ground between you two.

Someone wanted to harm herself, just to marry you, but you're finding it difficult to "sacrifice" marrying her legally. 🙄

Na wetin quick marriage dey cause be that

You are to become a Christian. Why don't u marry a muslim girl sebi islam is the best nah. Or sey na lie una lie again?

Even Sheik Gumi go soon become pastor

I am a Christian.... A zealot
Please convert to Christianity for the sake of your fiancee...
It was better that way

I dey come. First of all, in all you do, please avoid court marriage. You dont know how tomorrow will look like. U are a Muslim and tomorrow things can change.
Secondly, please dont see your in laws as evil people, they are also looking out for their own sister / daughter even u urself will do thesame. U might want to get more wives and relegate their sister tomorrow. So, hookIing you up with a church or a court wedding would do the trick. But will it work in your favour tommorrow, only time will tell.
Now here is my take, do not shift grounds on going for a traditional marriage; it is the only solution to this dilema. It is the only thing that will guarantee ur interest and also save guard you. If the family refuse, plead with them again and let the see reasons why u want to go for the traditional marriage. In fact tell them u are low on finance.. However, if they refuse to see reasons with u, end the whole thing. It is painful and u might think u will never get pass it, but u will be thankful u took a very tough decision.
Avoid impregnating her. Truth is she might start suggesting she take in for u and that will let the family relax a bit. Please dont even think about it because tomorrow , it might backfire.

TAKE THESE THREE STEPS

1. URGENTLY IMPREGNATE YOUR FIANCEE
2. GO FOR COURT WEDDING
3. FIX THE WEDDING DATE ON A WORKING DAY LIKE TUESDAY OR WEDNESDAY

MY CONSULTANCY FEE IS 5K

This is one of the real reasons my first marriage ended. Wife then was from a Muslim background, she got converted, her Mom Also. One other Siblings of her codedely got converted too. Father Not really a fanatic, but was pushed by his Alfas and Imams not to allow me marry his daughter. Fast forward, we Sha married. Did Court, Nikkah, Church blessing. Me a Christian o! I no do church wedding. Well, just 6 yrs later, Marriage crashed and thankfully, after 5 years of Separation, we finally divorced 2 years ago. I have Since remarried and enjoying my marriage now. So bro, na u get ur life, na u get ur decision, no go do wetin u go regret later o. Just take ur decision! There are red flags from both family already which can Make or Mar ur marriage in the future.

olayinkabank:
Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

I need a honest answer, why do you think the court marriage will not Favour you in the long run?

Some comments above are very myopic.
Some people on this forum are narrow-minded.
How about Christian men that marries Muslim ladies?
Oga op,just do the court wedding jejely unless you have any ulterior motive.

So what's the problem now ? Every family has made one form of compromise or the other? So what's the big deal about a court wedding. It is quick, quiet, cost - effective and the most legally-recognised of all marriages.

Do your court wedding and move on with your life. There's so much more to achieve.

Why do you think a "court marriage" would be unfavourable to you?

Sufficient enough is Allah for you as Protector/Guardian and Helper. Seek His face instead of this.

Mariangeles:
What are you afraid of?

Do the damn court marriage and stop complicating matters!
After all, the court marriage is the middle ground between you two.

Someone wanted to harm herself, just to marry you, but you're finding it difficult to "sacrifice" marrying her legally. 🙄

I think he is not sincere with himself. Why is he scared of court wedding?

nawa for peoples mentality o.

If at this stage you both are still having this issue even after your introduction, then i see no reason why you both should be married. It will be hell in a cell. Both parents dont like each other, even the siblings, bro, na early signs you dey see so.

If i were in your shoes, i will just end the marriage make everybody go their way. I cant be married to a family who are at loggerheads with each other,to the extent that my siblings are even accusing ne of the brides sister of dong money ritual. Na for your head dem go break coconut laslas...

olayinkabank:
Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

From your write-up, I can sense alot of selfish reasons behind it.
For that lady's own good, let her be, marry from your faith, marry someone else whom you feel is free to allow you marry other wives and perform your religious activities as desired. Do not cage her.

My guy, I hear your matter well well and I think say you need to find middle ground for this wedding palaver since you no dey religious like me but both families dey press you, you fit consider do court wedding quietly to satisfy her. If her siblings dey find wedding wey bem go attend make the go marry.
And also do your traditional wedding for your family side, because your papa no go gree for church wedding and her people no want only traditional just make sure you and your fiancée agree on wetin you both want, and if you worry about court wedding concerning money, you fit talk to lawyer to advise you on how to protect yourself, but no let too much family pressure confuse you because na you go live with the woman so just manage the situation wisely make everybody dey calm.

Mariangeles:
What are you afraid of?

Do the damn court marriage and stop complicating matters!
After all, the court marriage is the middle ground between you two.

Someone wanted to harm herself, just to marry you, but you're finding it difficult to "sacrifice" marrying her legally. 🙄

As harsh as this may sound, it's the pure truth. The middle ground between you two is the court marriage

Oisagbai78:
This is one of the real reasons my first marriage ended. Wife then was from a Muslim background, she got converted, her Mom Also. One other Siblings of her codedely got converted too. Father Not really a fanatic, but was pushed by his Alfas and Imams not to allow me marry his daughter. Fast forward, we Sha married. Did Court, Nikkah, Church blessing. Me a Christian o! I no do church wedding. Well, just 6 yrs later, Marriage crashed and thankfully, after 5 years of Separation, we finally divorced 2 years ago. I have Since remarried and enjoying my marriage now. So bro, na u get ur life, na u get ur decision, no go do wetin u go regret later o. Just take ur decision! There are red flags from both family already which can Make or Mar ur marriage in the future.

It doesn't look like your marriage crashed due to religious differences from what you wrote here, is there something you are not telling us? What are these red flags because Muslim or no Muslim, there are red flags in EVERY family. As people grow older, they will start to see people for who they truly are regardless of their religion. This I have seen and experienced.

Issues pass the marriage and.

What are you scared of about a court marriage? No naija court will give her half your wealth .....that is a Western practice. But you will be required to provide upkeep which is often reasonable.

Your not being open about your religious reasoning is also a red flag.

She has agreed to convert to islam....hmmmm ........ok......I hope she does not have her own other plans.

You will both need to protect each other from your respective families cos issues go plenty after. Remember that you are the head of your own home. No be family go tell you as e go be, they can only advise. They will need to know this and know peace.

Inter religious marriages come with a lot of drama. I would rather not do it but since this is where you guys are, you must agree o ln how the marriage will go. If that agreement holds then the external drama can be held at bay.

olayinkabank:
Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

You are not a religion fundemtalist, yet you cannot do either church or registry marriage, maybe you forget the type of marriage parents will conduct for their daughter,is exclusive decision of bride family.


Your wife to be, still blinded by marriage palaver now, when she finally settles, she will realise that, she married boss and not husband.

In the story that you urself narrated, which is still one-sided story oooo,it shows l u are not compromised in everything you table down, meanwhile, marriage is all about reaching compromise, ORDINARY "COURT MARRIAGE" WHICH IS BEST IN THIS SITUATION, YOU STILL DOING STRONG HEAD.

use your own story to look at it, as if, you are the father in law........"you want to give daughter to husband, you now carry all your Muslim family & friends to church to do Christian wedding for her, how will your family and friends look at you ooooo

thisisit:
TAKE THESE THREE STEPS

1. URGENTLY IMPREGNATE YOUR FIANCEE
2. GO FOR COURT WEDDING
3. FIX THE WEDDING DATE ON A WORKING DAY LIKE TUESDAY OR WEDNESDAY

MY CONSULTANCY FEE IS 5K

Dont try this nonsense. This is just a street talk with no iota of sense

You consider yourself agnostic. Lol.
May Allah give you shifa.
And make you firm on his religion.
That's what I would say.
Lastly, love is not enough for marriage but commitment. If I was you I would have back off. Reason, if anything goes wrong after wedding, her family will blame you, your family will blame her. Think bro
Assalam alekum!

The problem you will have in this marriage is from your wife especially when children come. You too will contribute to it if you don't put your feet on the ground. Children will always tie you together. This is why some people leave the area and go somewhere else after marrying but blood is thicker than water. You need to be sure she is as strong as you are or else they will keep whispering into her ears especially when you have problems in your family, which every couple goes through but they can use that to exploit the situation. Nigerians are very religious people, not spiritual, RELIGIOUS.

We always want to blame everyone else for our problems and take no responsibility for ourselves. The evil we do is the opposite of the religions we claim to belong to. Nigerians take advantage of their religion to do nasty things. Christian O, Muslim o. So don't be deceived by anyone who is so religious, look at their actions. Their actions will tell you what is in their heart and what they will do to you if you are hanging on a cliff and you need someone to give you a hand so you don't fall.

olayinkabank:
Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused.
I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today.
I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year.
My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background.
Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed.
On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage.
For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died.
The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable.
As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her.
Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group.
Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed.
My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion.
Now I am confused and stuck between:
Her family insisting on church or court wedding
My parents rejecting church wedding
My own fears about court marriage
Religious pressure from both sides
Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?

If the girl likes herself, she'll run away from you.

Your parents will make life difficult for her because of religion

Your cultural and religious background is already fighting your future marriage, let me advise you look for another lady who is a Muslim, because when you marry anyone you marry their family too.

So many red flags waving on both sides....you both should move on, separately.