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1. How long have you been married?

2. How long after getting married did the first resentments begin, or was there never any resentment?

3. Are you happy in your marriage?

4. Have you ever wished you had remained single?

5. What do you like most about marriage?

6. What do you dislike most about marriage?

7. Did you get married willingly, or were you coerced (due to pregnancy, family pressure, etc.)?

Lol just make it 21 questions...
See questions! Over to the married, loved up couples in the house. Make Una come answer

Marry who you love .. some one you’re compatible .. as a Christian .. someone that loves God more than you do.
You will enjoy your marriage .. marriage is sweet

Is like u are in my house i tell u the truth nothing but the truth, my wahala started wen we did out TM n stayed together since 2011 till date everyone one wants me to leave n start a life outside with my kids but i still trust God 4 a new leaf

Bolfton:
✓ How long after getting married did the first resentments begin, or was there never any resentment?
✓ Are you happy in your marriage?
✓ Have you ever wished you had remained single?
✓ What do you like most about marriage?
✓ What do you dislike most about marriage?
7. Did you get married willingly, or were you coerced (due to pregnancy, family pressure, etc.)?

1. Resentment in marriage is signs of toxicity in the marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

2. The vast majority of married Nigerians are not happy in marriage. Why? Because a lot of them, particularly women, are married to their enemies. 🥱🥱

3. The fact that Nigerian men literally now believe that cheating is their right in marriage ultimately means not only are they unhappy but they also continue to live as though still single in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

4. The Mrs badge is one thing many Nigerian women like about marriage. While for men, it has to be having a woman's labor and energy for free in marriage that keeps them holding on. They know their sidechicks will not offer them the same benefit without marriage and possibly with, so they hold tight to the maid-wife they already have while they continue to live single. 🥱🥱🥱

5.. Most people hate the person they are married to. 🥱🥱🥱

What I love about marriage is the companionship and collaboration.

What I hate about marriage is that it takes away some of your freedoms.

dollytino4real:
Is like u are in my house i tell u the truth nothing but the truth, my wahala started wen we did out TM n stayed together since 2011 till date everyone one wants me to leave n start a life outside with my kids but i still trust God 4 a new leaf

I don't know you and yeah it's a faceless forum but it's better if you say less about this your marriage wahala. I know it hurts and I can't even imagine what you had to go through and still going through even now but just try keep it minimal. Think positive, see possiblities and keep trusting God but stop focusing on the loss and pain it will hinder growth. I wish you well and i hope you get what you need to forge ahead in time

Why is it that whenever women try to open up about their marriage struggles on this forum, you guys always find a way to try and silence them, but men are free to whine about their marriages as they please?

dollytino4real, don't mind these misogynists, feel free to open up, for this is a faceless forum and we don't know each other in here... Block anyone who tries to mock you.

kiddaz:
I don't know you and yeah it's a faceless forum but it's better if you say less about this your marriage wahala. I know it hurts and I can't even imagine what you had to go through and still going through even now but just try keep it minimal. Think positive, see possiblities and keep trusting God but stop focusing on the loss and pain it will hinder growth. I wish you well and i hope you get what you need to forge ahead in time

Samantha125:
Why is it that whenever women try to open up about their marriage struggles on this forum, you guys always find a way to try and silence them, but men are free to whine about their marriages as they please?

dollytino4real, don't mind these misogynists, feel free to open up, for this is a faceless forum and we don't know each other in here... Block anyone who tries to mock you.

thanks that is wat my pastor tod me, dat the anger in the regret is getting a bigger side og me, i tod u dat God is my strength here

Marry someone committed to making the marriage work through thick and thin just as you are willing to. Never marry anyone who threatens a break up at the slightest instant. They will easily walk away in marriage. Marry someone who believes in you and shares your goals and ideals. By all means, avoid a disrespectful woman. By all means. Any woman who raises her voice at you and disregards how her actions make you feel should be avoided.

The small things count. Any partner that struggles with saying sorry should have no business in marriage. Do not married anyone without some form of income. Loving in marriage is standing BY, FOR and WITH you at all times against anyone and anything. Find the person willing to do that for you.

Samantha125:
Why is it that whenever women try to open up about their marriage struggles on this forum, you guys always find a way to try and silence them, but men are free to whine about their marriages as they please?

dollytino4real, don't mind these misogynists, feel free to open up, for this is a faceless forum and we don't know each other in here... Block anyone who tries to mock you.

Well, if all you can see is me "trying to mock her" then something is definitely wrong with you.

Peace……… ✌️
And yeah, freedom😊

I’ll never trade them for anybody or anything else.
🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️

No one is answering the questions

Then why are you trying to silence her?

How many nairaland men have you tried to silence for bringing their marital issues on this forum? The level inequality on this forum is ridiculous... A faceless forum is supposed to be a safe space for everyone regardless of gender.

Seun, if nairaland is a masculism forum, please let us know so that we ladies can know our place in here... And as ladies, we need a permanent ban on this forum because this three weeks ban is not working for us.

kiddaz:
Well, if all you can see is me "trying to mock her" then something is definitely wrong with you.

dollytino4real:
Is like u are in my house i tell u the truth nothing but the truth, my wahala started wen we did out TM n stayed together since 2011 till date everyone one wants me to leave n start a life outside with my kids but i still trust God 4 a new leaf

We didn't ask for summary

Answer all the questions

If it invove a threat to life, you might need to take the advice

kiddaz:
I don't know you and yeah it's a faceless forum but it's better if you say less about this your marriage wahala. I know it hurts and I can't even imagine what you had to go through and still going through even now but just try keep it minimal. Think positive, see possiblities and keep trusting God but stop focusing on the loss and pain it will hinder growth. I wish you well and i hope you get what you need to forge ahead in time

Close your mouth and get out of the thread. We came to learn and you just spoilt everything, discouraging others from sharing their experience.

femi4:
We didn't ask for summary

Answer all the questions

If it invove a threat to life, you might need to take the advice

dis my guy during Jonathan era, no strong threat yet but bad words

Northernblood7:
Close your mouth and get out of the thread. We came to learn and you just spoilt everything, discouraging others from sharing their experience.

Get a life

Samantha125:
Then why are you trying to silence her?

How many nairaland men have you tried to silence for bringing their marital issues on this forum? The level inequality on this forum is ridiculous... A faceless forum is supposed to be a safe space for everyone regardless of gender.

Seun, if nairaland is a masculism forum, please let us know so that we ladies can know our place in here... And as ladies, we need a permanent ban on this forum because this three weeks ban is not working for us.

You have spoken well

ogashman:
...What I hate about marriage is that it takes away some of your freedoms.

That is what responsibilities and burdens general so as far a life is concerned...the more responsibilities/burdens you take out in life, the more of your freedoms you lose as an individual. That is were discipline should equally follow. 🥱🥱🥱