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Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Tendd: 2:52am On Jan 01*

Well, conflicts abounds when gender roles are not discussed or set properly.Men and women are different in some ways and this calls for plans of various duties, something that feminism does not often uphold..Also, studies show that some regions mainly Asians in the diaspora has a relatively low divorce rate compared to Nigerians or African Americans.Why is it so? Don't they have women emancipation?Our parents didn't have so much divorce at least according to statistics.Another striking correlation is the health aspect.Most divorced west Africans and Black American women seem to be overweight or suffering from obesity.

Kobojunkie:
The alarming rate of divorce has absolutely nothing to do with feminism, but women individually bulking against the bullsheet they have had to settle with for a long time before reaching their limit.

And this divorce trend is not unique to the diaspora, as it has existed since even the time of our ancestors, who had tried so very hard to hide it all behind the refusal to officially declare marriage abandonment as divorce.

2. What is instead pathetic is how married men do not put in as much effort in maintaining their so-called marital homes but are all up in arms when teh women who have for the longest had to carry on without their input decide they will no longer put up with the neglect and abuse. 🥱🥱

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Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by westside365: 3:24am On Jan 01

Lilosama:
A lady has come out to say what happened when she tried doing Feminism with her husband after years of being a submissive wife. The husband is an Edo man and she has said women should not try feminism with their husbands especially if he’s a Benin man.

What do you think? Watch the video to find out how her husband reacted.

Feminism is a spirit of jezebel. God said woman should be submissive to husband, its a divine commandment, the sane way God told man "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Anyone practicing feminism is already fighting against the commandment of God. There is nothing good in feminism, rooted in disobedience, ego, pride and destruction

Source:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSzuWQEHyTk?si=sr3PSDQUHZcPHXdr

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Feldie: 4:21am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

I don't think so. You will not be able to do it. It's easier said than done especially if it is a serious guy

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Honestey: 5:20am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

And you will see your second co-wife soon . Injure your marriage with unnecessary nonsense and it can never balance again

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Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by frankson1(m): 5:30am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

I changed my original thoughts when I saw your emoji.

Happy New Year, Samantha125

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Kobojunkie: 5:32am On Jan 01

Tendd:
➜Well, conflicts abounds when genders roles are not discussed properly.
➜ Men and women are different in some ways and this calls for plans of various duties, something feminism does not often uphold
➜ ..Also, studies show that some regions mainly Asians in the diaspora has a relatively low divorce rate compared to Nigerians or African Americans.Why is it so? Don't they have women emancipation?Our parents didn't have so much divorce at least according to statistics. Another striking corelation is the health aspect.Most divorced west Africans and Black American women seem to be overweight or suffering from obesity.

1. Conflicts only abound if they remain unresolved.

2. Men are not so different from women. The same men you speak of are clearly able to not only submit to a female boss but also completely abandon the gender illusion entirely when it calls for it, clearly showing that men know how to do pretty much whatever it is they are required to do in any situation. The same man who refuses to wash dishes in his own home would not blink an eye to do the same job in a restaurant if his livelihood depended on him doing so. Clearly, the hogwash of difference and the need for plans for different genders is all in your head. undecided

3. If you read those studies carefully, you would have also noted that the major reason for th artificially low divorce rates in those regions has to do with the fact that the laws in those regions make it so many more times harder for people, particularly women, to seek divorce. Add to that the many injustices wrought against women in society, and you will find that there is reason why so many women now reject marriage altogether, choosing instead to remain single for as long as they can endure. undecided

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Ezekiel2122(m): 6:22am On Jan 01

Women are very wicked. When they don do olosho finish and can't fund anyone again, they will turn Feminine just to decieve the gullible ones in being with a man. We all know Feminines are retired olosho.

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Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Kobojunkie: 6:53am On Jan 01

Ezekiel2122:
➜Women are very wicked. When they don do olosho finish and can't fund anyone again, they will turn Feminine just to decieve the gullible ones in being with a man. We all know Feminines are retired olosho.

The men wey follow them do olosho, many of them eventually turning traditional husbands, are not wicked, abi? Na only the women simply requiring they be treated no less than they were before marriage that are after their olosho season don over for both men and women be the wicked ones, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

It is too early in the year for these nonsense statements, don't you think? 🥱🥱

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Haakeem(m): 6:53am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
Tell me one good reason why should I continue including you when I'm cooking when you'd have made a choice to stop eating my food? Should I cook it only to go to waste?

If you're gonna be throwing tantrums like a big baby, be my guest, but while you do it, keep in mind that I'm not your mother who's gonna be entertaining your tantrums.

Another thing, I don't believe in raising a family in rented apartments or mortgaged properties... Like what do you take me and the children for? There's nothing homely about raising a family in rented apartments... Why should I be raising my family in rented properties when my parents didn't raise me in one? It's like you're not taking me and the children seriously... Where I'm from, real men build their wives and children homes... Rented apartments are only kept for work purposes in cases whereby your workplace is far from home.

As for the groceries, you can keep your money, not all of us women are broke and financially dependant on men, in fact, I'm the one who's buying monthly groceries in my house, that's my department...😃😃😃

your dad still living in rentage stop lying🤥

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Hismercy234: 7:21am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

It's ur type that is a weapon fashion against men. May you not happen to any man

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Blackdisciple(m): 9:40am On Jan 01

You think say na America you dey abi, your eye go clear

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Mcslize: 10:05am On Jan 01*

Many ladies will use their own hands to destroy their marriages by listening to and following damaged women without husbands online.

They will do you no good, instead they will corrupt your mind and you will start displaying what they taught you to your husband at home.

That will finally crash your marriage and you will end up joining the gang of damaged women without husbands.

Last last, it's still married men that will still be hanging your legs. In the end, ask yourself, who lose?

Femini$m will do you no good as a young aspiring lady who wants a happy marriage. The things they teach about in femini$m groups and ocçults are things that will destroy marriages.

They teach disobedience. They teach disloyalty. They teach their followers how to use a man. They teach how not to be submissive to a man. They teach their followers how not to respect a man. If you think that as a lady femini$m will bring good to you, you are just deceiving yourself.

In fact, modern day feminist$ teach against women submissiveness.

Common sense is not always common with some women.

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Mcslize: 10:30am On Jan 01

horlakay:
On this subject matter, you can be a feminist in your workplace, but if you bring it to your home, you will enjoy the brunt. Cos to begin with, a a man of peace I won't drag anything with you, but just inform your parents and your kids that you re now the father of the house period!!! I will resign from my fatherly duties, and become extremely quiet to stupor....... Who get time for nonsense

True talk brother. Who get time to entertain shenanigans behaviours from a woman.

A handful of women are not as wise as they think they are. Few have common sense. Very few. But many are still wallowing in irredeemable ignorance and pure lack of wisdom.

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Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Ochyes: 10:42am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

So You are willingto destoy something beautiful. So so sorry.

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Idaytesj29(m): 11:06am On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

Prepare to leave the house. Cos his lawyers would serve you soon

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Tendd: 12:57pm On Jan 01

Work is work irrespective of who is the boss . However,Working in the mines, enrollment in the military, heavy warehouse jobs, logistics or generally physically demanding jobs are done majorly by men.At home, men often change the car wheel tyres,mow the snow, change the electrical appliances,chop the woods,lift heavy stuff etc.I think there should be division of labour in the household chores where spouses do what they know or do best.Feminist don't often address this differences and this often leads to conflicts or divorces.

I am talking of Asians living in the west.They stay in marriage than west Africans or black Americans in general.Filling for divorce isn't made difficult for any group.There are problems in most marriages but divorce should not be encouraged just for the sake of it.Our women should be cautioned since they are often the ones filling for divorce and their is equally very high.The children suffer, family bond destroyed and the women even look miserable jumping to different men every now and then.This is never healthy mentally and physically.

Kobojunkie:
1. Conflicts only abound if they remain unresolved.

2. Men are not so different from women. The same men you speak of are clearly able to not only submit to a female boss but also completely abandon the gender illusion entirely when it calls for it, clearly showing that men know how to do pretty much whatever it is they are required to do in any situation. The same man who refuses to wash dishes in his own home would not blink an eye to do the same job in a restaurant if his livelihood depended on him doing so. Clearly, the hogwash of difference and the need for plans for different genders is all in your head.

3. If you read those studies carefully, you would have also noted that the major reason for th artificially low divorce rates in those regions has to do with the fact that the laws in those regions make it so many more times harder for people, particularly women, to seek divorce. Add to that the many injustices wrought against women in society, and you will find that there is reason why so many women now reject marriage altogether, choosing instead to remain single for as long as they can endure.

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Kokodeni(m): 4:03pm On Jan 01

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

In whose house??
Who's money is not even a question here except ogun Wan kee u

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Kobojunkie: 10:29pm On Jan 01

Tendd:
➜ Work is work irrespective of who is the boss .
➜ However,Working in the mines, enrollment in the military, heavy warehouse jobs, logistics or generally physically demanding jobs are done majorly by men.
➜ At home, men often change the car wheel tyres,mow the snow, change the electrical appliances,chop the woods, lift heavy stuff etc.
➜ I think there should be division of labour in the household chores where spouses do what they know or do best. Feminist don't often address this differences and this often leads to conflicts or divorces.
➜ I am talking of Asians living in the west.They stay in marriage than west Africans or black Americans in general.Filling for divorce isn't made difficult for any group.There are problems in most marriages but divorce should not be encouraged just for the sake of it.
➜ Our women should be cautioned since they are often the ones filling for divorce and their is equally very high.The children suffer, family bond destroyed and the women even look miserable jumping to different men every now and then.This is never healthy mentally and physically.

1. So, your so-called gender rules abi delusions do not apply in workspaces where both genders are also involved?

2. During World War II, the majority of those roles were occupied by women here in the United States, and they did very well. The nation recorded an economic boom, too. However, many of these women were eventually forced to give up their positions after the men returned from war, and were told their place was back in the home. Clearly, gender roles only matter when men feel they are threatened. undecided

3. So many women homeowners do these things themselves, even to this day. They have machines to lift heavy stuff.... machines equally used by men when necessary. So? undecided

4. So, if a woman knows best how to mow the lawn, change car tires, mow the snow, change electrical appliances, she should do it while the man does the chores something he had to do for himself when he was single, and probably has so much more practice at than the former, which not all men can do? So, again, this isn't about gender but about you needing to force a gender-focused idea on these things? undecided

Asian Americans generally have the lowest divorce rates among major racial/ethnic groups in the U.S., with studies showing they are less likely to divorce than White, Black, or Hispanic individuals, though rates vary slightly by gender, nativity, and specific subgroup, with Asian women often having the lowest rates overall. Factors like immigration status (fear of deportation), cultural emphasis on family stability, and language barriers can influence these lower rates, especially for foreign-born Asians.

6. Cautioned against leaving situations that they have decided are no longer of benefit for them, when the divorce rates among even Northerners have been known to reach as high as 81% since the 1980s? Clearly, divorce should instead be normalized since the culture has all but done nothing over the decades to better the situation of women and children. undecided

Children are actually known to thrive better after a divorce if they do not have a bitter caregiver inflicts toxicity on them after the divorce. If both mother and father truly care for the well-being of the children, they would do anything in their power to ensure that the children are not confronted with their anger or pain because of the divorce. undecided

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:39pm On Jan 01

You'd have stopped eating my food in the first place... grin

... You can't expect me to force you to do something that you don't want, can you? grin

And if you don't want me eating food from groceries bought with your money, it's fine, I'll use mine to eat out while you cook your grocery for yourself and the children.

Kokodeni:
In whose house??
Who's money is not even a question here except ogun Wan kee u

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:40pm On Jan 01

That's if my lawyers don't serve him first and I'm sure I'd have been long gone by then.

Idaytesj29:
Prepare to leave the house. Cos his lawyers would serve you soon

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:41pm On Jan 01

He'd have destroyed it first the day he stopped eating my food.

Ochyes:
So You are willingto destoy something beautiful. So so sorry.

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:41pm On Jan 01

Okay.

Haakeem:
your dad still living in rentage stop lying🤥

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:46pm On Jan 01

Which co-wife when I'd have already been long gone and probably even enjoying myself with another man? cheesy

He'd have injured the marriage first the day he stopped eating my food.

Honestey:
And you will see your second co-wife soon . Injure your marriage with unnecessary nonsense and it can never balance again

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:50pm On Jan 01

Serious guys don't behave in unserious manners, they instead sit down with their wives and have a heart to heart talk with them.

Feldie:
I don't think so. You will not be able to do it. It's easier said than done especially if it is a serious guy

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:51pm On Jan 01

He'd have started the foolish behaviour when he decided to stop eating my food.

Bitter old women were created by bitter men.

lanre316:
This kind of foolish behaviour is a sure ticket to losing your husband, if you ever get to have one, and joining the league of bitter old women with no husband forming feminism online

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:56pm On Jan 01*

He'd have started the foolish behaviour when he decided to stop eating my food and honestly speaking, I wouldn't mind losing such a man, for he'd have done me a big favour by saving me from his constant manipulations.

And bitter old women were created by bitter men.

lanre316:
This kind of foolish behaviour is a sure ticket to losing your husband, if you ever get to have one, and joining the league of bitter old women with no husband forming feminism online

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:57pm On Jan 01

No problem.

Mirasteel:
You should provide for yourself too, don't depend on your husband for anything.

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 11:58pm On Jan 01

Then goodbye to the marriage, in fact, where's my suitcase? Ke nyaka go sepela... grin

Akalia:
Kiss your marriage good-bye.

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 12:09am On Jan 02

Lmao... See your level of immaturity, so you'd rather punish your own child with hopes that it'll hurt your ex who's probably long moved on with another man and abandoned the child with relatives?😂😂😂

The only person who'll suffer here is your child, not your ex, for she'll still get married and have more children with another man while your child will forever be sidelined for being a fatherless child... And the main fact that you're chest beating about it just shows that you're still hurting and not completely over her while she's probably long moved on wherever she is.

And you can't expect a woman to be a home maker and invest financially in your life as well... You can't eat your cake and have it, such a confused man...🤣🤣🤣... Rather do yourself a favour and stay single for the rest of your life because marriage is not for confused people...😂😂😂

irumole1975:
I agree with u. I did, indeed, have unresolved childhood trauma. I’m proud to be a deadbeat tho. I’ll always be. Especially to women who lack compassion and fail to fulfil my needs. If u can’t fulfil my needs (both sexual , emotional, home management, investing in my life financially), I probably don’t need u and I can do better. That’s a sure sign u don’t love me as you claim

Re: I Tried Feminism With My Husband And He Stopped Eating My Food - Nigerian Wife by Samantha125(f): 12:11am On Jan 02

And I'll get another man who'll start eating my food as well... There'll be no need to continue the marriage with such a childish man, so he can go ahead and get another woman.

FlipModeSquade:
And he can get another woman to start preparing his food.
Choose your battles,not all are worth it and not all can you win.

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