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Na like this break up suppose be , no fight, no threat , no invasion; just casual talk make each party go their way. The OP is a realist, na real G.

Usmanovic95:
Na like this break up suppose be , no fight, no threat , no invasion; just casual talk make each party go their way. The OP is a realist, na real G.

He could have issued a warning based on my opinion above. If she absconds, then you fucck her off. Women hate to see their fellow having blissful relationships

Anguldi:
Did she eventually relocate? Did you seize d business?

I closed the business place after allowing her to move everything out.She relocated

This is 2026





be wise

tommy589:
It took me a long time to realize that God has no time for stupidity or reward nonsense. My own mumu no be here,me that my wife,now ex was relocating from Nigeria without my knowledge.
I married a simple girl that I set up in business.She started having ideas when decent money started coming in for her.
To avoid untimely death from broken heart,some people are not meant to be empowered. Just leave them as you found them

How many years of marriage before the separation

Goodmarlian:
Infact I am 17 years old, but if I come here to cry about her dumping me because I went broke you will laugh call me simp wouldn't you .

17 years old lol una still be small pikin na

What do u two know about relationship in the firsts place..where do you want the friendship to lead to

Good for u young man to dump the gal to d street

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.
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God rescued you with common sense.

You succeeded in offloading over 50% of your future life problems in one swoop thought!

This is 2026. Men should stop making the mistakes of ending their lives at 50 because of women. The mortality rate for men in Nigeria is on a steady decline since the birth of this millennium.

everythingtall3:
some ladies just gets very comfortable with you and see you as part of them. Not in all cases though, but once your girlfriend stop saying thank you, it may also mean she feels like one with you.....

Talk to her about it

Is that how you were brought up?

Precious201010:
Wetin come bring Arsenal for here? U better behave yourself

Mrdealer4all:
The universe will never forgive you if any thing happens to her.
This is how I met girl too schooling.
Her parents and her siblings nothing to write home about.
I wanted to dump her but my chi warn me never to do it.
I called her and pour my mind to her..
Gave her rules and set boundary.
I opened fashion shop for her and told her to use that to sponosor herself and establish

You are not loved at home and I can bet on it.
That's why brings about this kind of self-destructive thinking.

everythingtall3:
some ladies just gets very comfortable with you and see you as part of them. Not in all cases though, but once your girlfriend stop saying thank you, it may also mean she feels like one with you.....

Talk to her about it

Great perspective.

Good for you getting yourself out if the mess.

Don't dump her until you find out the reason why she behaves the way she does. It's always good to guide an erring person. She might be doing all that out of ignorance. Please find out.

2elliot:
You did the right thing, bro.

Hw re u so sure the girl is not fucking someone else steady now.Am experiencing such now ..bro fear women oo

Sonnobax15:

Bro,you just made the best and wisest decision of your life and I believe angels will be jubilating allover in heaven on your behalf by now

Wallahi 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

Goodmarlian:
See this one?
No be only universe na galaxy, I should keep being a fool and being used by a small girl that will dump me later because of universe abi? If she is in my shoes will she date an orphan boy answer me.

Allow that guy oo, him just finish smoking igbo😂😂😂

This is a cooked up lamba,but lemme believed it happened to you...,what's stopping you from discussing things with her,and how you knew her friends influenced her billing you,so cus you gave her money and she didn't say thank you,naw crime for your side? Dude,fake alpha goat that's a pure definition of who u are,cus several times have given my babe things,Shima juz smile collect am without thank you,you wanna know y,cuz we have been so much in2 each oda so too much thank you no dey fancy any of us,person wey don spend night for my house, first me wake up,after her quiet time,kissed me,did her morning exercise,bath prepared tea and left my apartment, @tymz we juz walked pass each oda,smile & wink to each oda...,So cuz she collected money from you pocket naw taboo,did u tell her first hand,before I get entangled to any lady,I go first tell u my rules my DO'S & DON'T'S ........ Anyway whichever way naw u use pity mind dey date her, so somehow she don sight u as mugu/maga,but check her activities towards u,if she really love u,or juz a gold digger opportunist,I once dated a gal wen she no get shigba,and wen everywhere stew for her,d babe juz wan spoil me with things, we couldn't marry cux of religion,but till now we still best of besties

FIRST PERSON TO AVOID PREMIUM TEARS IN THE NEW YEAR

Tell her bluntly that you are done with the relationship
Simple

It's normal to take care of your woman. But it's also normal for a woman to respect you and your boundaries. You are the one responsible for setting them. Seems to me like a good girl who just needs a real male figure. You're not it yet. Sorry

Very good decision bro. Na so one Smallie wey I for marry that time before finally getting married to my wife. I told her everything about my Separation from my first wife then, this girl took advantage of me, started Billing me upandan! Na so God just made me meet my now wife. I remember the day I dropped the bombshell, She just called that she was in Lagos to come and see me all the way from Benin. She didn't tell me she was coming. Na so I tell her that she isn't welcomed say my woman is with me. She was really shocked! No time for Nonsense. Thank God for my marriage now.

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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You did well

Being an orphan is not a ticket for you to lack gratitude.

You as well did not do well justice, you don't rebuke wrong with wrong ur own tone is rude as well.

YoungLionken:
See how you stoop so low just to fight dirty, simply because you both are having contrary opinions on the topic. You lots should desist from this habit of resulting to throwing tantrums when others refused the food you're trying to sell, your favorite food is swallow does not mean it should be same for everybody..

Now, sentiment aside, from you both comments so far, who is really "still a kid" between you two..?

Skepta - Same old story

OKOATA:
Women are like kids, you correct them the way you correct a child. Whether hardly or subtly. You said it yourself someone is influencing her. And from your write up you didn't even tell her your reasons for ghosting her. As a man try to be matured, you said shes an orphan so she also wants the best for herself.

If you talked to her about it and she didn't listen then you can bounce but you just don't bounce on someone you can still correct. If a girl dips her hand in your wallet. Tell her straight up you don't like it. Thats how Alphas do, if she does it again then you have the right to end it. Everything no be to dey show muscle and power on top women.

Go Nd continue from where the dumper stopped. It's a free world

wildcatter23:


Call me stingy but I find it difficult to invest in a relationship with a lady.

To me, it's likely placing bet on Arsenal to win champions league 🏆.

So I just mind my business and move on.

Na qa o. So Arsenal with all the gun wey dey their logo, dem still collect STRAY BULLET😄😆😂

Bro! That is the reason why a lot of men keep their wives away from female friends. It is never to isolate them but simply to protect them from unhealthy influences. Women are easily influenced, because they don't have a "strong mind".
Why not talk to her first to make her see that she is being negatively influenced and her behaviour has suddenly changed negatively just to see how she handles it. She might get her senses back, but if she continues with the nasty attitude, then you can move on.
No woman is perfect, all na manage we dey manage ourselves.
For the orphan tag she has, she will always survive. She survived well enough before you met her. What's important now is, has her orphanage made her stronger or improved her as a person?
Women are succumb to peer pressure than men. Men too succumb and women mostly get swept away.

Ashawoman82:
Bro one thing u don't know about desperate poor girls in need is that they never love, they only try to survive, trust me I have been there.. Let's avoid very poor girls as men, they can't love u and u won't blame them, one has to survive and afford the basics before thinking of love... I had one like that, an orphan and all, very cute girl, her billing no be here, I don't blame her but I can't cope, omo the babe was draining me literally I had to give myself brain....

the most underrated comment in this thread, poor girls don’t love, you will only exhaust yourself trying to prove your love they can’t reciprocate, and the moment favors stop that’s the end the end she will replace you with another maga, I experienced this in my formative years very traumatic

Kobojunkie:
Let me get this straight! You were looking for a free booty call or maybe even a situationship, and after finding you a broke orphan, you thought that by buying her drugs when she was sick, she would be the perfect girl for your private use? She would have made you a perfect prey, but fortunately for her, she met other women who called her back to reality, and got her to realize that her worth as a woman was not tied to her being an orphan but in her having valuable emotional, physical, and mental energy which most crave and should rightly not be able to access for free? 🥱🥱🥱

Oya confess..... Wetin you dey smoke? I'm really curious 🧐

Goodmarlian:
22

You are 17 and she is 22. The age of consent is 18.
I hope you have not had sex because that would be rape!