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Kobojunkie:
Let me get this straight! You were looking for a free booty call or maybe even a situationship, and after finding you a broke orphan, you thought that by buying her drugs when she was sick, she would be the perfect girl for your private use? She would have made you a perfect prey, but fortunately for her, she met other women who called her back to reality, and got her to realize that her worth as a woman was not tied to her being an orphan but in her having valuable emotional, physical, and mental energy which most crave and should rightly not be able to access for free? 🥱🥱🥱

She's 22 and he's 17. You just assume they have sex. Age of consent is 18. Have you considered she is raping him?

It's okay to break up with her but don't stop supporting her.

This is why I fellow Geh Geh and Indiscov on Facebook. Those two have a way of updating your brain box when it comes to dating the almajiri Nigerian girls you people parade as girlfriend.

Always date your level, if tables were to turn, she may not even look your side. Don't date or marry out of pity.

Mrdealer4all:
The universe will never forgive you if any thing happens to her.
This is how I met girl too schooling.
Her parents and her siblings nothing to write home about.
I wanted to dump her but my chi warn me never to do it.
I called her and pour my mind to her..
Gave her rules and set boundary.
I opened fashion shop for her and told her to use that to sponosor herself and establish

SIMPle man I sight you.

everythingtall3:
Any man or woman that tells his or her spouse that they need space, that person doesn't love you at all.

okay

You dont want to train a baby tiger.

The girl was foolish, instead of showing gratitude and genuine appreciation she listened to her friends.

jehoha696:
This is a cooked up lamba,but lemme believed it happened to you...,what's stopping you from discussing things with her,and how you knew her friends influenced her billing you,so cus you gave her money and she didn't say thank you,naw crime for your side? Dude,fake alpha goat that's a pure definition of who u are,cus several times have given my babe things,Shima juz smile collect am without thank you,you wanna know y,cuz we have been so much in2 each oda so too much thank you no dey fancy any of us,person wey don spend night for my house, first me wake up,after her quiet time,kissed me,did her morning exercise,bath prepared tea and left my apartment, @tymz we juz walked pass each oda,smile & wink to each oda...,So cuz she collected money from you pocket naw taboo,did u tell her first hand,before I get entangled to any lady,I go first tell u my rules my DO'S & DON'T'S ........ Anyway whichever way naw u use pity mind dey date her, so somehow she don sight u as mugu/maga,but check her activities towards u,if she really love u,or juz a gold digger opportunist,I once dated a gal wen she no get shigba,and wen everywhere stew for her,d babe juz wan spoil me with things, we couldn't marry cux of religion,but till now we still best of besties

@Admins, please delete this poorly written comment.
E fit give person wey try read am better brain aneurysm or even stroke.

wildcatter23:


Call me stingy but I find it difficult to invest in a relationship with a lady.

To me, it's likely placing bet on Arsenal to win champions league 🏆.

So I just mind my business and move on.

mumu. Wetin carry Arsenal enter this matter now?

I hope say you knack am enough before you ended the relationship o

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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Once a girl who appreciate your little kindness started billing or feel too entitled, just know that she has found someone else giving her better money withiout doing much for him compare to you. It could also means she had seen how men spend lavishly on her friends or other girls around her.

You made a good decision though but next time, you should've called her attention to it and watch her next attitude for awhile before you break up. Young women could be easily unknowingly influenced by friends, especially if they don't have wise elders or good mentors to talk to them.

Okay.

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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Which kind of Men are we breeding nowadays.

I have 2 questions for the OP @ Goodmarlian

You helped the girl because you like the girl, Fine. What were expecting from the the whole helping, did you convey your expectations to her and she agreed or you ASSUMED that because you were "helping" she should just be your girlfriend and show gratitude?

2. You started with you providing help and she receiving help, It's a known fact that how you start a relationship is the way you will sustain it. That is you have to be the odogwu spender and she will aways the receiver. Do you understand?

You work in a campus of a prestigious university and you couldn't look for a decent relationship, you went and hoodwink and
innocent girl, an orphan with false promises of supply and now the bill is coming, you came to Nairaland for moral support.

Bro, if you knew you can't carry her burden (which your are not supposed to, because you are not her father), you should have let her be. Instead of going in and now trying to emotionally blackmail her.

Sadly, you are not planing to leave her, because if you are, you won't monitor how she is reacting to your manipulation and you won't come to Nairaland to seek justification.

You are slowly trying to sell your peace for unnecessary drama but soon you will learn what we all learnt.

Goodmarlian:
My instincts says otherwise, she had start seeing me as a fool and Atm from experience if a woman starts seeing you as Atm it also means she has lost respect for you.

You could have just pretended you don’t have money for a month and see her reaction. That’s better than your sudden breakup.

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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I was angry with you when I saw the topic but after reading hrough; man got to protect himself.

If what you wrote us true then the girl in question lacks character

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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-If your story is true, then you made the right decision. Relationship is for 2 or more not with yourself.

-Do not pay attention to those saying otherwise, they are the kind of people ruining women and raising entitled bitches everywhere. Good luck for the future.

She only love you because you are taking good care of her that all .

That not love it just transactional

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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Sad how women flipped the script and made the world a toxic place for their unborn kids

Mrdealer4all:
The universe will never forgive you if any thing happens to her.
This is how I met girl too schooling.
Her parents and her siblings nothing to write home about.
I wanted to dump her but my chi warn me never to do it.
I called her and pour my mind to her..
Gave her rules and set boundary.
I opened fashion shop for her and told her to use that to sponosor herself and establish

Nobody has time for all these emotional outburst ,@op has taken his decision and you also do what works for you don't try coerced people into what you do ,there are more orphans around try to open shops for them or build house is your choice

You made a wise decision.


I once dumped one of my ex girlfriends and she got home and started bombarding me with insultive text messages. She expected me to reply with same gbas gbos but I ignored her, I didn't send a single text......Two days later she got back to her senses and started sending apology messages which I also ignored.


Don't give any woman the opportunity to send you to early grave because your ancestors would be so disappointed in you when you arrive at the other side.

Errmmm. I won't encourage to to date anyone that feels entitled upon your hustle.

Frankly, some orphans didn't get that sufficient training to be a good wife.

I married an orphan and I always give credit to her aunt for a good job done on her

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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bro when she comes back don't ever allow her again no matter the excuse

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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you should have atleast have a heart to heart discussion with her before dumping her. She might not have seen it clearly that she was messing up, pointing out what you noticed could have helped her.

Goodmarlian:
Bro I felt really bad when I discovered this I believe her friends told her I am a maga she should keep billing, some ladies no just get sense

The thing is, many girls in the street are rubbish. They might have corrupted your innocent girlfriend.
Make her suffer for some while and see if she will come back to her senses.

What I have to say is, I have to borrow a leaf from you. One don show me shege😢

Mrdealer4all:
The universe will never forgive you if any thing happens to her.
This is how I met girl too schooling.
Her parents and her siblings nothing to write home about.
I wanted to dump her but my chi warn me never to do it.
I called her and pour my mind to her..
Gave her rules and set boundary.
I opened fashion shop for her and told her to use that to sponosor herself and establish

Your chi must be stupid

Goodmarlian:
My instincts says otherwise, she had start seeing me as a fool and Atm from experience if a woman starts seeing you as Atm it also means she has lost respect for you.

She only showed her true colour. They always do once they feel they have you wrapped around their little finger.

Later on in life, she's the type that will ask "are you the first to support a lady at school? Were you not sleeping with me?"

Every lady who asks the latter reveals her OS mentality, and it's about 90% of them. I exclude none, friends or relatives who express such.

everythingtall3:
some ladies just gets very comfortable with you and see you as part of them. Not in all cases though, but once your girlfriend stop saying thank you, it may also mean she feels like one with you.....

Talk to her about it

Are you normal? Is everything okay at home?

Goodmarlian:
My instincts says otherwise, she had start seeing me as a fool and Atm from experience if a woman starts seeing you as Atm it also means she has lost respect for you.

You get time responding to that comment.

You should ask your mother, because if she had trained you well, you won't talk to strangers like this because their opinion is different from yours

thomas2024:
Are you normal? Is everything okay at home?

Eniitankorede:
You could have just pretended you don’t have money for a month and see her reaction. That’s better than your sudden breakup.

Well, it will be as if she left him.

No, far better like this. She can go meet her bad mates to give her a high-spending sugar daddy.

Ashawoman82:
Bro one thing u don't know about desperate poor girls in need is that they never love, they only try to survive, trust me I have been there.. Let's avoid very poor girls as men, they can't love u and u won't blame them, one has to survive and afford the basics before thinking of love... I had one like that, an orphan and all, very cute girl, her billing no be here, I don't blame her but I can't cope, omo the babe was draining me literally I had to give myself brain....

Word on marble.

Poor people in general are on survival mode. Especially in developing countries without any social safety net. Most will grab as much as they can. Sadly, it's a widespread poverty mode.

Once acquired, people retain it lifelong. Even if they become ministers or senators. The fear of poverty and the desire to always have enough become ingrained in the psyche.