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kingthreat:
You obviously came here for justification for your act of violence you didn't get in real life. If the man has a son, you have triggered an unnecessary beef.

His lilly livered sons? Lol, people like me who hardly talk always have something sinister brewing inside, I beg them to prod me bro, and yes I came here to vent but it seems there's more of my uncle on nairaland too, y'all don't see anything wrong with the drunk hitting an adult first for no apparent reason.

tunjijones:
Go and mark it today, your nephew or your niece will slap you too back.

How person like am wan see chance near me again, failure beget failure, and I can't put myself in a position where a niece will slap me simply because I'm not a drunk failure at family gatherings forcing people to respect him, respect he never earned, what if I had died growing up, will my corpse respect him? He didn't know how I survived to adulthood so why is he claiming uncle, uncle na by mouth?

StillDtruth:
I think you are a very bad person but you just hide it by staying away from people, hence why you are an introvert.

You feel because you have gone through sh.... , then you have a right to behave as you like.

So, your bad nature showed because in spite of your withdrawal, your uncle still came into your personal zone. And so like a cobra in its hole, you just had to spring and bite.

Anyway, just know that another child is going to do it to you

Of course I'm a bad person, Una wey good please go and submit to village people let them use you as they like, nobody will oppress me for any reason bro, including those you promised will slap me, I can't stoop so low to a position where I deserve a slap from someone younger because I respect myself, learn to respect yourself as well and fight for your personal space.

illicit:
You could have done better tho

Such things have a way of coming back


You really didn't have to slap him, what if you were a boxer and he did exactly the same thing

That's your uncle man, its okay that u guys have history so u guys single each other out anytime


He is your uncle even tho he ain't all well

We don't have history, he has been non-existent all my life only to pop up like an annoying arsehole itch at that burial then choose me to oppress amongst everyone present in the name of uncle, I would have beaten him sef.

Lexzeey:
Lol nothing is prickling me other than the fact that I feel restraint due to our African way of life, an older person is always right, first off the rubbish he kept saying did nothing to me, infact I like it when he talks endlessly of his failures and pains but refuses to call my name, that's fear, he followed me elsewhere and hit me on my back hence the slap, so yes no remorse at all.

My point is; you were tagged a "bad person" by all and sundry and now you are looking for validation as to your "slap" retaliation, which is good anyway (conscience at work if i may say).
I am not in anyway blaming you bro, but what i was trying to convey is that, if it was something you could have walked away, you would have just jejely done that instead of all this backlash and calling you a bad person.
But your uncle was not actually saying "rubbish" he was saying what is prevalence in the society with young lazy boys looking for quick money but he was wrong in portraying it in a way that is based on feelings rather than facts or proof: (intuitively). Maybe because he did not have enough resources at his disposal.

Nobody have Monopoly of anyone but this is Africa and our law here don't sometimes work in favour of the first complaint.

Lol. Na the same blood dey run from una body. He slapped you and you slapped am back. Na family blood. Slapping na water!!! U wey u suppose greet am when he slapped and accused you. U for just warn am after you don greet am never to slap you again with a very strong voice.

Anguldi:
Guy, I lost inheritance Worth 2B naira. It was late when my eyes cleared, I blasted my late uncle. Omorr, if na now, he will be at the orthopedics.
Mine was using Jesus stories, leave matters oOoOO

Some things are just hard to explain. Where I’m from, I’ve seen how diabolical people can get. They’re just waiting for you to step out of line so they can start plotting something. Whether that stuff actually works is a mystery, but I’m definitely not interested in being the guinea pig.

I used to be just like the original poster. When I was 15, I’d talk back and banter with my uncle, but as I grew up, I realized it was a mistake. He still holds a grudge, and looking back, I wouldn't do it again. I know that if anything ever happened to my dad, I'd probably need my uncle's help. The poster should just apologize; it’s not going to kill him. I wonder how he’d feel if his own nephew did the same thing over some misunderstanding.

Lexzeey:
How person like am wan see chance near me again, failure beget failure, and I can't put myself in a position where a niece will slap me simply because I'm not a drunk failure at family gatherings forcing people to respect him, respect he never earned, what if I had died growing up, will my corpse respect him? He didn't know how I survived to adulthood so why is he claiming uncle, uncle na by mouth?

Hey... In this world, every man to himself.

Pls stop sulking on how he did not check on you while growing.

You know karma is a real, it will always catch on you.

SpencerForbes:
Some things are just hard to explain. Where I’m from, I’ve seen how diabolical people can get. They’re just waiting for you to step out of line so they can start plotting something. Whether that stuff actually works is a mystery, but I’m definitely not interested in being the guinea pig.

I used to be just like the original poster. When I was 15, I’d talk back and banter with my uncle, but as I grew up, I realized it was a mistake. He still holds a grudge, and looking back, I wouldn't do it again. I know that if anything ever happened to my dad, I'd probably need my uncle's help. The poster should just apologize; it’s not going to kill him. I wonder how he’d feel if his own nephew did the same thing over some misunderstanding.

You are wasting your time telling an atheist to be good. It is only evil and pains that is in their souls which they cover up by avoiding people so that when they enter, they will do their evil

The uncle was just the silly person to fall for his trap. He thought because he is an uncle atheist will respect him. He did not know that atheists and disrespect go together

At the end of the day, you still need family ties. So mature in a way that this beef will not go on for a long time. Apologise and move on. Do a family meeting, apologize and chop your L. It will help you.

“When a child washes his hands, he can eat with elders.” A proverb meaning respect is earned through dignity and conduct, not simply age.

Your uncle could have behaved badly but your response should be better even though it's expected that the older people know better. Can you see the other people here warning you of consequences? That's the fine art of living and becoming an adult, we don't take certain decisions, not because we can't do them but because when we weigh the actions against the consequences, wisdom is profitable to direct us to manage the situation.

He who angers you, owns you.

Hmmmm,datz very bad of you
If your uncle is dangote(a very big man) will you slap him! Irrespective of what ever he said.beside he is talking in general about y-boys,why are you offended re you! He saw you and tap you as one of his son and said you didn't see him and greet him and you gave him a sound slap claiming he didn't participate in training you, is he your parents,he will assist if he have enough because he have children too. You came to village to just run burial,few time everyone will travel and you can't control yourself no matter what,you wrong that man deeply and that's very bad of you,try and appease with him before going back to receive forgiveness from him and blessing this year from him,he too is like a father to u too,a son don't slap his father no matter what,even if he is a drunkard.

All of una way de blame Op de mumu! Op na man you be, the last time any of my brethren para for me be it my Uncle or whosoever, I de stop to follow de person talk, because it's a clear sign of envy. If you no do like that next time em go repeat the same non sense, over family this family that na em de tigh Africans down.

kodix:
Hmmmm,datz very bad of you
If your uncle is dangote(a very big man) will you slap him!

@Lexzeey..can you honestly answer the question above? Let me ask another question: if it was a renowned cultist or bandit that slapped you, would you retaliate?

You clearly admitted that he was intoxicated, so your reaction was very wrong.

Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine been hit by someone young enough to be your son, regardless of the circumstances.

I think you were triggered by his criticisms due to guilty conscience. I should encourage you to go apologise, but of what use is that? He may never forgive you, and I am down with him on that.

Next time, you will learn how to control your temper and not flex muscles with someone physically weaker just because you bear a grudge against him.

Lexzeey:
✓ Lol nothing is prickling me other than the fact that I feel restraint due to our African way of life, [b]an older person is always right[/b], first off the rubbish he kept saying did nothing to me, infact I like it when he talks endlessly of his failures and pains but refuses to call my name, that's fear, he followed me elsewhere and hit me on my back hence the slap, so yes no remorse at all.

Yes oh! They are so right that is why Nigeria ended up the trash pile that it is today....a failed state. 🥱🥱🥱

No mind the gaslighted morons -- the wrong crowd--- who still hold on to that delusion despite how much reality continues to shove the truth into their faces of how wrong the older generation Nigerian has always been. 🥱🥱🥱

tunjijones:
✓ Hey... In this world, every man to himself.
Pls stop sulking on how he did not check on you while growing.
You know karma is a real, it will always catch on you.

Wait a second... This karma did not catch up with the uncle who never checked up on his own nephew but karma will catch up with the nephew for assaulting the same uncle who assaulted him? Are you people for real? 🥱🥱

And folks keep wondering why I keep insisting that tradition(and religion) are the major issues keeping people blind to the facts before them.in that country. 🥱🥱🥱

We4all:
➜ @Lexzeey..can you honestly answer the question above? Let me ask another question: if it was a renowned cultist or bandit that slapped you, would you retaliate?
➜ You clearly admitted that he was intoxicated, so your reaction was very wrong. Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine been hit by someone young enough to be your son, regardless of the circumstances.
➜ I think you were triggered by his criticisms due to guilty conscience. I should encourage you to go apologise, but of what use is that? He may never forgive you, and I am down with him on that. Next time, you will learn how to control your temper and not flex muscles with someone physically weaker just because you bear a grudge against him.

1. If a cultist, he may not seek direct assault but report him to the police. Still, the law would be on his side even then.

2. Wait a second... are you insinuating that if this uncle had maybe sexually assaulted you while drunk, you would do nothing about it? 🥱🥱

3. You would apologize to someone who assaulted you because he was drunk and didn't know better, or because he is older than you and didn't know better? 🥱🥱

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

What OP did is in fact legal! 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. If a cultist, he may not seek direct assault but report him to the police. Still, the law would be on his side even then.

So, what stopped him from reporting his uncle to the police instead of going physical? That would have been the best thing to do since he claims they have no relationship.

2. Wait a second... are you insinuating that if this uncle had maybe sexually assaulted you while drunk, you would do nothing about it? 🥱🥱

You just answered the question yourself. Slapping someone is a common assault and regarded as a misdemeanor. Sexual assault on the other hand is a felony that can attract a long jail term or even a death sentence. So, why should one react the same way to both actions?

3. You would apologize to someone who assaulted you because he was drunk and didn't know better, or because he is older than you and didn't know better? 🥱🥱

I would apologise to him because I over reacted, and not everything should be taken seriously; especially if the other party is much older. The uncle meant no harm at all, but the OP overreacted because he was holding a grudge.

I hope you get it?

We4all:
@Lexzeey..can you honestly answer the question above? Let me ask another question: if it was a renowned cultist or bandit that slapped you, would you retaliate?

You clearly admitted that he was intoxicated, so your reaction was very wrong.

Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine been hit by someone young enough to be your son, regardless of the circumstances.

I think you were triggered by his criticisms due to guilty conscience. I should encourage you to go apologise, but of what use is that? He may never forgive you, and I am down with him on that.

Next time, you will learn how to control your temper and not flex muscles with someone physically weaker just because you bear a grudge against him.

if dangote stoop so low to slap me for no apparent reason of course I'll retaliate, na me suppose teach am sense? If you're too stupid to wise up let's both be stupid together, it takes two to tango and two can very well play the game, of course I'd retaliate with every fiber in my being.

Kobojunkie:
1. If a cultist, he may not seek direct assault but report him to the police. Still, the law would be on his side even then.

2. Wait a second... are you insinuating that if this uncle had maybe sexually assaulted you while drunk, you would do nothing about it? 🥱🥱

3. You would apologize to someone who assaulted you because he was drunk and didn't know better, or because he is older than you and didn't know better? 🥱🥱

No mind the dodoyo, he neva jam, you dey your dey person come dey oppress you in the name of elder you go whimper and cower until he pities you and leave you alone, what sort of violation is that.?

Lexzeey:
if dangote stoop so low to slap me for no apparent reason of course I'll retaliate, na me suppose teach am sense? If you're too stupid to wise up let's both be stupid together, it takes two to tango and two can very well play the game, of course I'd retaliate with every fiber in my being.

You know you won't retaliate, so stop capping.

We4all:
1. So, what stopped him from reporting his uncle to the police instead of going physical? That would have been the best thing to do since he claims they have no relationship.
2. You just answered the question yourself. Slapping someone is a common assault and regarded as a misdemeanor. Sexual assault on the other hand is a felony that can attract a long jail term or even a death sentence. So, why should one react the same way to both actions?
I hope you get it?
3. I would apologise to him because I over reacted, and not everything should be taken seriously; especially if the other party is much older. The uncle meant no harm at all, but the OP overreacted because he was holding a grudge.

1. He was able to reasonably defend himself from his assaulter... that is what stopped him, and according to the law, that is also the best thing to do when one can.

2. Oh, I see! So, if the man had slapped you on the butt, for instance, that would also have been a "common excusable assault" and not sexual assault? WOW...

Anyways, back to the issue! So, though you admit that his uncle committed what you refer to as a misdemeanor against the OP, somehow you insist that OP had no reason to defend or return the favor? 🥱🥱

3. Your response to a misdemeanor committed by him against you is an overreaction, but his misdemeanor is not? 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. He was able to reasonably defend himself from his assaulter... that is what stopped him, and according to the law, that is also the best thing to do when one can.

2. Oh, I see! So, if the man had slapped you on the butt, for instance, that would also have been a "common excusable assault" and not sexual assault? WOW...

Slapping on the butt is sexual battery. So, you don't expect someone that gets slapped on the butt and another that gets slapped on the back to react the same way.

Anyways, back to the issue! So, though you admit that his uncle committed what you refer to as a misdemeanor against the OP, somehow you insist that OP had no reason to defend or return the favor? 🥱🥱

Come on! OP had no reason to defend himself since he wasn't in danger of any kind. According to the law, self defense is used to protect oneself or loved one from imminent attack or harm. So, what was OP trying to defend since the man didn't hit him twice or wield an object against him?

3. Your response to a misdemeanor committed by him against you is an overreaction, but his misdemeanor is not?

In law, even a judge can dismiss a misdemeanor charge. So, I still insist that the OP overreacted.🥱🥱

OP brought guns to a stick fight.

We4all:
You know you won't retaliate, so stop capping.

ok

We4all:
✓ OP brought guns to a stick fight.

Wow...you really are putting so much effort into minimizing the assault that OP reported there, for reasons beyond me. 🥱🥱

Judges can only dismiss under special circumstances. 🥱🥱

Yes, a judge can dismiss a misdemeanor case at various stages for reasons like insufficient evidence, constitutional violations (speedy trial, illegal search), procedural errors, or to allow for rehabilitation through diversion programs, often with defense attorney requests or prosecutorial agreement, though prosecutors also have the power to drop charges.

Again, the law is on OP's side. Yet you continue to make it seem instead that the law is on the uncle's side in this. How come? 🥱🥱🥱

Dtruthspeaker:
You are wasting your time telling an atheist to be good. It is only evil and pains that is in their souls which they cover up by avoiding people so that when they enter, they will do their evil

The uncle was just the silly person to fall for his trap. He thought because he is an uncle atheist will respect him. He did not know that atheists and disrespect go together

You hit the nail on the head. I’ve been dwelling on this all morning. It’s wild how a man could actually be proud of slapping his uncle. You just know that if that uncle were someone like Adeleke or Otedola, he would’ve been prostrating without being asked.

In this life, even if you aren't "rich-rich," you’ve got to make sure you aren't at the very bottom. You need to reach a level where people can’t just disrespect you—otherwise, the "see finish" becomes real.

SpencerForbes:
You hit the nail on the head. I’ve been dwelling on this all morning. It’s wild how a man could actually be proud of slapping his uncle. You just know that if that uncle were someone like Adeleke or Otedola, he would’ve been prostrating without being asked.

In this life, even if you aren't "rich-rich," you’ve got to make sure you aren't at the very bottom. You need to reach a level where people can’t just disrespect you—otherwise, the "see finish" becomes real.

Clearly tells you that in addition to all the other things, he also suffers inferiority complex which he is trying to turn into superiority complex

Lexzeey:
ok

Guy make I leave English use pidgin follow you cap because I believe say you be my age group. Mid 20s-30s wey believe say because we don hit money nobody be our mate. E don tey wey subject touch me like this for nairaland.

—How much you get?

—Where you Dey for Forbes list?

—How many people you want make dem help you to attain success?

—You know whether your uncle fit feed himself before you Dey expect am to help you?

—You don attain generational wealth?



Honestly, I’ve seen people lose everything so fast that it actually makes me respect wealth—and fear how quickly it can vanish. You’re just being arrogant, plain and simple. I’m 100% sure that if you’d told your mom or the people around you, they would’ve checked you immediately.

In this life, not everyone is going to play a part in your success. You can’t go around hating or feeling superior to billions of people just because they didn't hand you a shortcut. Wealth can disappear in an instant. Why walk around with your nose in the air? Based on your logic, you’d probably hit your own father for correcting you just because he didn't "help" your career.

You need a reality check. Not everyone is meant to be a pillar in your success story. Some people contribute through prayers and well-wishes—I have people I haven’t seen in years who I still plan to look out for because I know they’ve been rooting for me. Forget about people validating you for a second: you were wrong.

If you tried this in my family, we would’ve shown you very quickly that money isn't everything. And if that were my father you disrespected? You better have enough wealth to last generations, because I’d make it my mission to come for you.

Stop creating enemies for the next generation just because of your ego. The more you achieve, the humbler you should get. The bigger I get, the more cautious I become because I know how much is at stake. Keep in mind, that online gig could dry up or get saturated tomorrow, and you’ll be right back at square one. Stay humble.

SpencerForbes:
Guy make I leave English use pidgin follow you cap because I believe say you be my age group. Mid 20s-30s wey believe say because we don hit money nobody be our mate. E don tey wey subject touch me like this for nairaland.

—How much you get?

—Where you Dey for Forbes list?

—How many people you want make dem help you to attain success?

—You know whether your uncle fit feed himself before you Dey expect am to help you?

—You don attain generational wealth?



Honestly, I’ve seen people lose everything so fast that it actually makes me respect wealth—and fear how quickly it can vanish. You’re just being arrogant, plain and simple. I’m 100% sure that if you’d told your mom or the people around you, they would’ve checked you immediately.

In this life, not everyone is going to play a part in your success. You can’t go around hating or feeling superior to billions of people just because they didn't hand you a shortcut. Wealth can disappear in an instant. Why walk around with your nose in the air? Based on your logic, you’d probably hit your own father for correcting you just because he didn't "help" your career.

You need a reality check. Not everyone is meant to be a pillar in your success story. Some people contribute through prayers and well-wishes—I have people I haven’t seen in years who I still plan to look out for because I know they’ve been rooting for me. Forget about people validating you for a second: you were wrong.

If you tried this in my family, we would’ve shown you very quickly that money isn't everything. And if that were my father you disrespected? You better have enough wealth to last generations, because I’d make it my mission to come for you.

Stop creating enemies for the next generation just because of your ego. The more you achieve, the humbler you should get. The bigger I get, the more cautious I become because I know how much is at stake. Keep in mind, that online gig could dry up or get saturated tomorrow, and you’ll be right back at square one. Stay humble.

Words on marble. God bless you for this.

Lexzeey:
No mind the dodoyo, he neva jam, you dey your dey person come dey oppress you in the name of elder you go whimper and cower until he pities you and leave you alone, what sort of violation is that.?

Hot blood hot blood...

You'll cool down as you get older and wiser. Aging does that to you, you know. It makes you view things from a different perspective, but for now your blood is still hot and you think you have everything figured out.

Your uncle might be an entitled jerk acting under the influence of alcohol to misbehave, but does that justify slapping him? You call what he did "oppression". Do you even know the meaning of oppression? Look guy, you handled it very wrongly whether or not you choose to admit it. He hit you on the back and demanded respect, but the mature thing to do would have been to walk away no matter how hard it may have seemed. There's a way you would have handled his drunken behaviour that would have made everyone would turn against him and start cautioning him to behave himself. He was clearly acting under the influence of alcohol and handling him like the drunk he is would have made him a fool before everybody's eyes, but now that you have behaved like the fool, you have now become the fool and this will come back to haunt you, you best believe that.

This is Africa, guy. Culturally, you goofed.

SpencerForbes:
Guy make I leave English use pidgin follow you cap because I believe say you be my age group. Mid 20s-30s wey believe say because we don hit money nobody be our mate. E don tey wey subject touch me like this for nairaland.

—How much you get?

—Where you Dey for Forbes list?

—How many people you want make dem help you to attain success?

—You know whether your uncle fit feed himself before you Dey expect am to help you?

—You don attain generational wealth?



Honestly, I’ve seen people lose everything so fast that it actually makes me respect wealth—and fear how quickly it can vanish. You’re just being arrogant, plain and simple. I’m 100% sure that if you’d told your mom or the people around you, they would’ve checked you immediately.

In this life, not everyone is going to play a part in your success. You can’t go around hating or feeling superior to billions of people just because they didn't hand you a shortcut. Wealth can disappear in an instant. Why walk around with your nose in the air? Based on your logic, you’d probably hit your own father for correcting you just because he didn't "help" your career.

You need a reality check. Not everyone is meant to be a pillar in your success story. Some people contribute through prayers and well-wishes—I have people I haven’t seen in years who I still plan to look out for because I know they’ve been rooting for me. Forget about people validating you for a second: you were wrong.

If you tried this in my family, we would’ve shown you very quickly that money isn't everything. And if that were my father you disrespected? You better have enough wealth to last generations, because I’d make it my mission to come for you.

Stop creating enemies for the next generation just because of your ego. The more you achieve, the humbler you should get. The bigger I get, the more cautious I become because I know how much is at stake. Keep in mind, that online gig could dry up or get saturated tomorrow, and you’ll be right back at square one. Stay humble.

Bla bla bla bla like a bleating sheep and you said nothing, Africa this and that, I should become his slave because we're in Africa, same way he doesn't owe me anything pertaining my growth as an uncle I don't owe him anything as well, he doesn't know how I survived, so don't give me that crap abeg.

Ishilove:
Hot blood hot blood...

You'll cool down as you get older and wiser. Aging does that to you, you know. It makes you view things from a different perspective, but for now your blood is still hot and you think you have everything figured out.

Your uncle might be an entitled jerk acting under the influence of alcohol to misbehave, but does that justify slapping him? You call what he did "oppression". Do you even know the meaning of oppression? Look guy, you handled it very wrongly whether or not you choose to admit it. He hit you on the back and demanded respect, but the mature thing to do would have been to walk away no matter how hard it may have seemed. There's a way you would have handled his drunken behaviour that would have made everyone would turn against him and start cautioning him to behave himself. He was clearly acting under the influence of alcohol and handling him like the drunk he is would have made him a fool before everybody's eyes, but now that you have behaved like the fool, you have now become the fool and this will come back to haunt you, you best believe that.

This is Africa, guy. Culturally, you goofed.

Goto court and tell them this is Africa, abuse someone unjustly like the drunkard did to me and goto court to plead your case because we're in Africa and see if you won't be in chains before you know it, he assaulted me, and I defended myself, it has nothing to do with this is Africa bla bla bla, na why Una leaders dey use una like rag una dey okay with am, Nigeria is so backwards.