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Odingo1:
As far as I know, there is no underlying issues, the argument started when he first told about the new house and I gave her reasons to retain the the place we are living, only for her to go ahead with agents and make arrangements for the new one and I refuse to pay and argument degenerated into physical combat. Although while begging she have said she have anger issues that can destroy things, i dated her for 4 months before marriage I didn’t notice it.

4 months is very Short sha but you are the one living with her so you are least understand her.
You guys just talk to someone you both have Respect for.
Also communicate with her that her behavior wasn't proper and she shouldn't do that again, you guys are young couple and having your own properties and building your life is the goal, no matter how much you rent an house, the house will never become yours and one year will just finish in a blink of an eye.

Make she try manage with you so you guys will enjoy in the future.
Try talk it out sha, if she doesn't listen or does this violence again then you might start thinking of other plans

Sandralight:
4 months is very Short sha but you are the one living with her so you are least understand her.
You guys just talk to someone you both have Respect for.
Also communicate with her that her behavior wasn't proper and she shouldn't do that again, you guys are young couple and having your own properties and building your life is the goal, no matter how much you rent an house, the house will never become yours and one year will just finish in a blink of an eye.

Make she try manage with you so you guys will enjoy in the future.
Try talk it out sha, if she doesn't listen or does this violence again then you might start thinking of other plans

Ok thanks for your kind advice, my fear now is that since it is an inbuilt something, what if I offend her in the future and she will just lit 🔥 me up and start regretting. That is the question I am asking her now, what if she have killed me out of anger, will she see me to start apologising.

Odingo1:
Ok thanks for your kind advice, my fear now is that since it is an inbuilt something, what if I offend her in the future and she will just lit 🔥 me up and start regretting. That is the question I am asking her now, what if she have killed me out of anger, will she see me to start apologising.

That is the main fear but we are not living with you.
If you think you will keep having anxiety of her hurting you then just quit now before it's too late

Odingo1:
To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house. She bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house.

1. she is the man of the house and shes the one paying all the bills.

2. her boyfriend is staying in or around that other house.

3. No need advising you. You have already accepted to continue the marriage if not you wouldn't be here asking faceless people questions if you value your peace and respect as a man.

4. Even if na my wife dey pay all the bills, she dare not try such crap with me. Throw my bags out? Plus knife and all the embarrassing noise she must have ben making for everyone to hear. HELL NO.

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house. She bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

what tribe is your wife?

Sandralight:
That is the main fear but we are not living with you.
If you think you will keep having anxiety of her hurting you then just quit now before it's too late

Ok let me see if I can recover after 1 week

Odingo1:
Ok let me see if I can recover after 1 week

Okay wishing you the best

AllBlack:
1. she is the man of the house and shes the one paying all the bills.

2. her boyfriend is staying in or around that other house.

3. No need advising you. You have already accepted to continue the marriage if not you wouldn't be here asking faceless people questions if you value your peace and respect as a man.

4. Even if na my wife dey pay all the bills, she dare not try such crap with me. Throw my bags out? Plus knife and all the embarrassing noise she must have ben making for everyone to hear. HELL NO.

No I am the one that is paying all bills not her, I don’t think she have a boyfriend there, she got the house through agents guys.

Airlord2030:
what tribe is your wife?

Igbo

Odingo1:
No I am the one that is paying all bills not her, I don’t think she have a boyfriend there, she got the house through agents guys.

and both of you will remain married and this smear will linger (if not develop) for as long as this union lasts. what a mess.

seems this story is specially designed to spike me. abeg do what is on your mind..... God forbid.

I won't sugar coat this. I must tell you the truth; you're in a big trouble if this marriage is for eternity.

It is either she kill you or she set another man's house ablaze and burn you alive.

I want to ask; didn't you see these red flags during your relationship/courtship with her?

Marriage of 10 months. Expect more of this. We've been warning men to flee from toxic and disrespectful women.

Odingo1:
Nothing like that, no cheating so far in our union, her anger is that she wasted time and alot 5k to agents to make arrangement for the new house and I turn it down. She has been begging and said she have anger issues that can lead her in brandishing weapons including destroying properties.

Chaiii...... I can imagine...

For give her and asked her to work on herself
She will change
I heard husband and wife matter end up in bedroom

Forgive her

Kozino:
And yet they say men are narcissist. If people actually understand what this sentence mean... a happy wife, a happy home. It's just a home full of discomfort for the man.

It is only an unenlightened man goes with that nonsense he wrote up there, the man must be unhappy in order for the marriage to work while the wife must be happy for the marriage to work only foolish men think less of themselves. Happiness isn't given by the opposite spouse, it is an inmate quality in one. No one else can make you happy to except you.

Odingo1:
Being close to better services is the reason I prefer paying 1m to already good place we are staying. There is nothing apart from POP that is driving her, she just want to stay in a designer house that she sees on social media, not that the place we are staying now is not fine, it has fine tiles, 1 master bath and visitor bath. The new place is smaller and one have drop at a junction and use Okada to reach home, so commuting will be quite difficult. I can’t do POP because it not my house whereas the house have fine designer ceiling although not POP and house was a modern house built 4 years ago.

. Don't take that advice. Doing POP in another man's house omo people dey talk sha.

Odingo1:
She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house.

Guy I only read of knife, you are bringing in another dimension to this story.. it's getting even more scarier

Diamond098454:
What did you do? Your wife can't do that if you didn't do something that hurts her so bad.

You married men don't stay one place

You better go an apologize to your wife

Who knows, maybe you are giving your third leg to every girl out there.

Let me assume you are been sarcastic so I can forgive your thought process if otherwise then you need a comprehension class.

Diamond098454:
What did you do? Your wife can't do that if you didn't do something that hurts her so bad.

You married men don't stay one place

You better go an apologize to your wife

Who knows, maybe you are giving your third leg to every girl out there.

I believe you didn't write this with clear eyes. Please don't tell me you just took 1 shot of ogogoro.

Odingo1:
Nothing like that, no cheating so far in our union, her anger is that she wasted time and alot 5k to agents to make arrangement for the new house and I turn it down. She has been begging and said she have anger issues that can lead her in brandishing weapons including destroying properties.

She has even confessed to this harmful quality of hers. Don't tell me you didn't know this side of her before marrying her or you rushed to marry her without proper dating?

Brother, you're in serious trouble I must tell you. This is someone you hope to live with till old age confessing to having anger issue that can cause her to carry weapons. I sense danger in the future. It's just a matter of time.

Remember this is part of her qualities. She even confessed to having anger issues. People do have anger issue but not the one that will make them to carry weapons.

Just dey hide all the knifes 🗡️🔪 in your house after cooking. This is a time bomb waiting to explode trust me.

Odingo1:
As far as I know, there is no underlying issues, the argument started when he first told me about the new house and I gave her reasons to retain the the place we are living, only for her to go ahead with agents and make arrangements for the new one and I refuse to pay and argument degenerated into her pushing me in a physical combat. Looking for kitchen knife and eventually took up a lighter and threatened to pour fuel from the Gen and light up the house, before then she have lock the the house, had she pour the fuel and light up the house the only option I have is to jump from the two storey building. Although while begging she have said she have anger issues that can destroy things, i dated her for 4 months before marriage I didn’t notice it.

Read the bolded part carefully, especially that last part of the bolded where she locked the house.

I am already scare for you in person. This woman go kill you one day. I have very sharp instinct and right now I am sensing some trouble around you in the future.

I don't know how you will resolve this. The worst is that this is her inbuilt character. A kind of a possessed spirit. It's when she has done it her eyes will clear.

Brother, I am so scared for you.

Dey there dey ask wetin you go do. E happened to my friend, his wife threaten am with kitchen knife na so my guy go incident the matter for police station, even police sef shock dey my guy wether e marry legally. Last last she leave the marriage sha.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Let me assume you are been sarcastic so I can forgive your thought process if otherwise then you need a comprehension class.

I know you guys will come for my head

Since non of you remember to wish me happy new year

Now the controversial comments have made NL guys remember Diamond💎💎

Mcslize:
I believe you didn't write this with clear eyes. Please don't tell me you just took 1 shot of ogogoro.

So you remember Diamond💎💎 because of my controversial comments
But forgot to wish me happy new year

Mcslize

Mcslize:
I won't sugar coat this. I must tell you the truth; you're in a big trouble if this marriage is for eternity.

It is either she kill you or she set another man's house ablaze and burn you alive.

I want to ask; didn't you see these red flags during your relationship/courtship with her?

Marriage of 10 months. Expect more of this. We've been warning men to flee from toxic and disrespectful women.

I dated her for 4 months, didn’t notice this extreme anger issues, she was even assisting pastors in the church, I only noticed minor anger issues with no major explosions

Mcslize:
Read the bolded part carefully, especially that last part of the bolded where she locked the house.

I am already scare for you in person. This woman go kill you one day. I have very sharp instinct and right now I am sensing some trouble around you in the future.

I don't know how you will resolve this. The worst is that this is her inbuilt character. A kind of a possessed spirit. It's when she has done it her eyes will clear.

Brother, I am so scared for you.

Thanks noted, that is it, it is an inbuilt and a developed character

Odingo1:
I dated her for 4 months, didn’t notice this extreme anger issues, she was even assisting pastors in the church, I only noticed minor anger issues with no major explosions

she was pretending all those times

Diamond098454:
I know you guys will come for my head

Since non of you remember to wish me happy new year

Now the controversial comments have made NL guys remember Diamond💎💎

Are you sending diamonds to people? Let me know so I send my address to you.

BalticGold:
Dey there dey ask wetin you go do. E happened to my friend, his wife threaten am with kitchen knife na so my guy go incident the matter for police station, even police sef shock dey my guy wether e marry legally. Last last she leave the marriage sha.

Still recovering from the shock, imagine someone locking the door and holding lighter in her hand and threatening to pour fuel from the Gen and lit 🔥 the house and this is two storey building, stay inside na die, jump na die

ExudeLoveToAll:
Guy I only read of knife, you are bringing in another dimension to this story.. it's getting even more scarier

Yea I only cut the story short, the most scary part is hold a lighter and threatening to go for fuel.

My brother leave that marriage for a woman to try and get a knife to stab or hurt you na so e dey start also please involve your families the earlier the better.
Marriage no be do or die affair.That your wife has violence tendencies in her already the day wey e go explode it might take life away ooo.

So everyone thanks for all your opinion and your advice, after due deliberation without involving families. Although she has been begging for now. I have decided to quit the marriage because of the fact that she hold a lighter, lock door and threaten to set the house ablaze. I foot every bill in the house, she contribute nothing and I pay her monthly upkeep of 120k every month for the past 10 months.

joceey:
My brother leave that marriage for a woman to try and get a knife to stab or hurt you na so e dey start also please involve your families the earlier the better.
Marriage no be do or die affair.That your wife has violence tendencies in her already the day wey e go explode it might take life away ooo.

Na so, after thinking about it I have decided to quit because she did not only go for the knife but also went for a lighter and threatening to lit 🔥 the house. One can’t even jump out because it is a two storey building. I will only inform my people and hers that the marriage has ended and tell them what happened.