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Facts about men who don't womanize

They usually have cash to spare and focus on themselves, but they’re also the first to crash because of "oneitis." As soon as they find one woman who fits their fantasy, they flip the switch and start simping.

The problem is they often end up with women who get bored quickly. If a woman feels like she has you completely figured out, the spark dies—a lot of women actually need that bit of healthy competition or mystery to stay invested. When you’re already "conquered" and fully available, there’s nothing left for her to fight for, and the relationship usually fizzles out.

It’s good to stay focused and not be a womanizer, but you should always have options—or at least the aura of having them—to keep your edge. Never let her think she’s your only path; let her keep guessing and let her own mind play tricks on her.

At the end of the day, there are two types of men who don’t chase women: those who are locked in on their goals and purpose, and those struggling with low self-esteem who don’t know how to approach a lady. For the second group, they’ll settle for anyone who gives them the green light because they don't think they can do better.

The only men that are not womanizer are the ones with conditions preventing them from womanizing.

- The condition(s) could be being faithful to God

- it could be health issue or low telesterion

- it could be being faithful to spouse

- Some of us are scared of diseases

- Some of us are scared of the cost of having multiple women and maybe spiritual implications

.... If you remove these conditions, we are all dogs, including your pastor.

A man who can control his urge for women has mastered himself.

A man who can control urge for women has mastered himself... says a man who married numerous wives and standby concubines.

SpencerForbes:
They usually have cash to spare and focus on themselves, but they’re also the first to crash because of "oneitis." As soon as they find one woman who fits their fantasy, they flip the switch and start simping.

The problem is they often end up with women who get bored quickly. If a woman feels like she has you completely figured out, the spark dies—a lot of women actually need that bit of healthy competition or mystery to stay invested. When you’re already "conquered" and fully available, there’s nothing left for her to fight for, and the relationship usually fizzles out.

It’s good to stay focused and not be a womanizer, but you should always have options—or at least the aura of having them—to keep your edge. Never let her think she’s your only path; let her keep guessing and let her own mind play tricks on her.

At the end of the day, there are two types of men who don’t chase women: those who are locked in on their goals and purpose, and those struggling with low self-esteem who don’t know how to approach a lady. For the second group, they’ll settle for anyone who gives them the green light because they don't think they can do better.

You said it very well. A woman needs to know that her man is wanted by others. Recently I received DMS and calls I did not pick from my past hoes, all three of them and they are so pretty. They were offering and promising me wild fun time in my DM but I was acting oblivious. My girl saw the chats and have been acting right even bought me gifts since one of them promised to gift me this month. There is no virtue, dignity or honour in being a man who is not wanted by other women. Your current babe will even despise you if no one else wants you.

okrikaboi:
You said it very well. A woman needs to know that her man is wanted by others. Recently I received DMS and calls I did not pick from my past hoes, all three of them and they are so pretty. They were offering and promising me wild fun time in my DM but I was acting oblivious. My girl saw the chats and have been acting right even bought me gifts since one of them promised to gift me this month. There is no virtue, dignity or honour in being a man who is not wanted by other women. Your current babe will even despise you if no one else wants you.

You're right, ladies like it when their men are fantasized by other ladies .
But the real deal for them is, don't cross the boundaries. .
Tales of moonlight.!! 🤣

chatinent:
A man who can control urge for women has mastered himself... says a man who married numerous wives and standby concubines.

don't judge a book by it cover

SpencerForbes:
They usually have cash to spare and focus on themselves, but they’re also the first to crash because of "oneitis." As soon as they find one woman who fits their fantasy, they flip the switch and start simping.

The problem is they often end up with women who get bored quickly. If a woman feels like she has you completely figured out, the spark dies—a lot of women actually need that bit of healthy competition or mystery to stay invested. When you’re already "conquered" and fully available, there’s nothing left for her to fight for, and the relationship usually fizzles out.

It’s good to stay focused and not be a womanizer, but you should always have options—or at least the aura of having them—to keep your edge. Never let her think she’s your only path; let her keep guessing and let her own mind play tricks on her.

At the end of the day, there are two types of men who don’t chase women: those who are locked in on their goals and purpose, and those struggling with low self-esteem who don’t know how to approach a lady. For the second group, they’ll settle for anyone who gives them the green light because they don't think they can do better.

Spencer

You are a good writer

How do you know all this?

There are some that comes from personal decisions. Like Daniel who propose in his heart, not to eat the King's meat.

Happy to be one of those. 99 problems; women ain't one.✌️

everythingtall3:
The only men that are not womanizer are the ones with conditions preventing them from womanizing.

- The condition(s) could be being faith to God

- it could be health issue or low telesterion

- it could be being faithful to spouse

- Some of us are scared of diseases

- Some of us are scared of the cost of having multiple women and maybe spiritual implications

.... If you remove these conditions, we are all dogs, including your pastor.

Diamond098454:
Spencer

You are a good writer

How do you know all this?

LOL 😂

Prince...............LOL


🤣🤣🤣

P1PrinceKT:
LOL 😂

Diamond098454:
Spencer

You are a good writer

How do you know all this?

Thanks a lot big lady 😊 I've been in my fair share of relationships, but I try to take a lesson away from every one of them. It's basically my way of making sure I don't repeat the same mistakes down the road or when I eventually get married.

if you remove the personal decisions nko ? what do you get DOG !

EarthKing:
There are some that comes from personal decisions. Like Daniel who propose in his heart, not to eat the King's meat.

Happy to be one of those. 99 problems; women ain't one.✌️

men wey no dey womanize, get discipline ....thats all.... ..No be say e no dey him mind to do...

...Na why dem dey always advice/force men of God to marry before dem become pastors for church cos sexual biology go kick except u no be human being.

Esp.. for men...as long as you dey chop food....your urge for sex dey very much alive!...and you are always ready.....na biology....

na why i no fit trust anybody when it comes to sex and money...whether u know God or not....you are human before anything!

chatinent:
A man who can control urge for women has mastered himself... says a man who married numerous wives and standby concubines.

A honorable polygamist is better than a serial cheat hiding under the cover of monogamy.

We agree only on one principle, whether you have one or more, a cheat is a cheat. By the way, in history, most kings had concubines. They still do today. I am not saying it's right or wrong but...

1. You’re applying modern morality to ancient culture. Concubinage was institutional, not 🍆driven.

2. In the past, kings and influential men had multiple wives or concubines because culture allowed it.

3. Concubinage wasn’t immoral in societies where it was culturally structured, but it doesn’t align with modern ethical values that have evolved over time. Judging historical practices without context is intellectually lazy.

4. It sounds contradictory only if we judge the past by today’s standards. Kings had concubines as part of political and cultural systems, not necessarily uncontrolled desire.

5. Your analysis is rhetorically clever, but logically weak. Your claim assumes a contradiction that may not exist. In societies where polygamy or concubinage was structured and culturally accepted, having multiple wives did not automatically signal lack of self-control. Discipline is measured by acting within one’s moral framework, which is why in all of the above, I have put it in context.

SpencerForbes:
Thanks a lot big lady 😊 I've been in my fair share of relationships, but I try to take a lesson away from every one of them. It's basically my way of making sure I don't repeat the same mistakes down the road or when I eventually get married.

Smile smile smile smile smile

SpencerForbes:
They usually have cash to spare and focus on themselves, but they’re also the first to crash because of "oneitis." As soon as they find one woman who fits their fantasy, they flip the switch and start simping.

The problem is they often end up with women who get bored quickly. If a woman feels like she has you completely figured out, the spark dies—a lot of women actually need that bit of healthy competition or mystery to stay invested. When you’re already "conquered" and fully available, there’s nothing left for her to fight for, and the relationship usually fizzles out.

It’s good to stay focused and not be a womanizer, but you should always have options—or at least the aura of having them—to keep your edge. Never let her think she’s your only path; let her keep guessing and let her own mind play tricks on her.

At the end of the day, there are two types of men who don’t chase women: those who are locked in on their goals and purpose, and those struggling with low self-esteem who don’t know how to approach a lady. For the second group, they’ll settle for anyone who gives them the green light because they don't think they can do better.

Very apt

SixSeven:
A man who can control his urge for women has mastered himself.

Today is wisdom day

chatinent:
A man who can control urge for women has mastered himself... says a man who married numerous wives and standby concubines.

Most wisdom are born only after men have failed

Una still dey here dey discuss about irrelevant matters lol. E dey clear say una never start to dey deal with life complexities. See that one up there carry epitsle write like textbook😂

Well, i use to be like this too discussing about what doesn't really matters in the grand scheme of things😂

Una eyes go later clear😂

okrikaboi:
You said it very well. A woman needs to know that her man is wanted by others. Recently I received DMS and calls I did not pick from my past hoes, all three of them and they are so pretty. They were offering and promising me wild fun time in my DM but I was acting oblivious. My girl saw the chats and have been acting right even bought me gifts since one of them promised to gift me this month. There is no virtue, dignity or honour in being a man who is not wanted by other women. Your current babe will even despise you if no one else wants you.

You’re right!

SpencerForbes:
They usually have cash to spare and focus on themselves, but they’re also the first to crash because of "oneitis." As soon as they find one woman who fits their fantasy, they flip the switch and start simping.

The problem is they often end up with women who get bored quickly. If a woman feels like she has you completely figured out, the spark dies—a lot of women actually need that bit of healthy competition or mystery to stay invested. When you’re already "conquered" and fully available, there’s nothing left for her to fight for, and the relationship usually fizzles out.

It’s good to stay focused and not be a womanizer, but you should always have options—or at least the aura of having them—to keep your edge. Never let her think she’s your only path; let her keep guessing and let her own mind play tricks on her.

At the end of the day, there are two types of men who don’t chase women: those who are locked in on their goals and purpose, and those struggling with low self-esteem who don’t know how to approach a lady. For the second group, they’ll settle for anyone who gives them the green light because they don't think they can do better.

How does one flip this because I belong to this group

nnamdi640:
How does one flip this because I belong to this group

Which category are you referring to?

For the guys who are already 'locked in' on their goals: there’s no reason to lose focus unless you’ve already hit your targets. If you aren't there yet, stay the course. You can have a social life and get laid if you feel like it, but never make chasing women the mission. If you do bring a girl into your space, let her understand your purpose from day one. If she’s meant for you, she’ll align with your hustle.

For the group struggling with low self-esteem: you need to get active. Identify exactly where the leak is—is it your physique, your finances, or just a lack of game? Work on what you can change. For the things you can’t change—like height—stop overthinking them. Instead, simplify your weaknesses and amplify your strengths. Look at Wizkid; he’s an average-sized guy, but his talent and confidence are so loud that few can resist him. Whether you’re a great orator or you have a talent, lead with that pride.

Also, realize that even a 'perfect' man won't appeal to every woman. Shoot your shot with your specs; if she says yes, fine. If she rejects you, it’s just part of the game. Don't sweat it. Ask out the women you like, take the 'no' with grace, and keep upgrading yourself. Life goes on.

They are mostly introvert who enjoy their privacy and space. Money is not the issue for not womanizing, lots are running through their head, women na distraction

SpencerForbes:
They usually have cash to spare and focus on themselves, but they’re also the first to crash because of "oneitis." As soon as they find one woman who fits their fantasy, they flip the switch and start simping.

The problem is they often end up with women who get bored quickly. If a woman feels like she has you completely figured out, the spark dies—a lot of women actually need that bit of healthy competition or mystery to stay invested. When you’re already "conquered" and fully available, there’s nothing left for her to fight for, and the relationship usually fizzles out.

It’s good to stay focused and not be a womanizer, but you should always have options—or at least the aura of having them—to keep your edge. Never let her think she’s your only path; let her keep guessing and let her own mind play tricks on her.

At the end of the day, there are two types of men who don’t chase women: those who are locked in on their goals and purpose, and those struggling with low self-esteem who don’t know how to approach a lady. For the second group, they’ll settle for anyone who gives them the green light because they don't think they can do better.

Not being a womanizer is by choice. That they will become a simp after finding someone na lie.

They chose not to womanize because they got lots to take care . Those things won't disappear because you fall in love

helinues:
Not being a womanizer is by choice. That they will become a simp after finding someone na lie.

They chose not to womanize because they got lots to take care . Those things won't disappear because you fall in love

Take a closer look at my first two paragraphs and the point will be clearer. I never said it wasn't a choice; I’m simply pointing out how it can lead to 'oneitis.' That’s where a man starts thinking a woman is the best thing since sliced bread just because she accepted him. All those 'my woman, my world' lines are textbook simping.

In my last paragraph, I clearly categorized those who stay away from womanizing because they’re 'locked in' on their goals. There are men who are strictly 'locked in' on their purpose, and there are those who are held back by low self-esteem. You’re talking about the former, but the latter is a different reality entirely. It’s important not to confuse them with the group that’s just dealing with low self-confidence. They aren't the same.

SpencerForbes:
Take a closer look at my first two paragraphs and the point will be clearer. I never said it wasn't a choice; I’m simply pointing out how it can lead to 'oneitis.' That’s where a man starts thinking a woman is the best thing since sliced bread just because she accepted him. All those 'my woman, my world' lines are textbook simping.

In my last paragraph, I clearly categorized those who stay away from womanizing because they’re 'locked in' on their goals. There are men who are strictly 'locked in' on their purpose, and there are those who are held back by low self-esteem. You’re talking about the former, but the latter is a different reality entirely. It’s important not to confuse them with the group that’s just dealing with low self-confidence. They aren't the same.

I should have added those who are bounded by religion , culture or parents restrictions.

Those who are bounded above are mostly naive in relationships

You are absolutely right

Womanizing is really bad, it almost destroyed me. Thank God I am passed that life now focusing my energy on better things.

Maj196:
Womanizing is really bad, it almost destroyed me. Thank God I am passed that life now focusing my energy on better things

Right from growing up, womanizing was just something I didn't fancy.

Sometimes, I just imagining myself being a womanizer, hahaha, I go scatter ground oo, aje