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Lexzeey:
Bla bla bla bla like a bleating sheep and you said nothing, Africa this and that, I should become his slave because we're in Africa, same way he doesn't owe me anything pertaining my growth as an uncle I don't owe him anything as well, he doesn't know how I survived, so don't give me that crap abeg.

Look, I’ll keep it casual, but the truth is you just disgraced your entire lineage. Instead of being the shield for your family, you’re the one slapping your own uncle. You’ve basically signaled to the world that anyone can treat your family like a punching bag. If escaping poverty makes you think you’re above advice, it just proves your family tree is average at best.

Honestly, you’re a hazard to the future. If you have kids, family meetings are going to look like a bar fight with "slaps being served like dry gin," because you’ll just raise them to be as classless as you are.

You think you’re big, but you just proved you’re on the same low level as the man you’re disrespecting. You’re a "Person of Particular Concern." If nobody in your circle is telling you how wrong this is, then your upbringing is a total write-off.

I’m looking for the name of your village because no sane person would marry into a family where the youth have zero respect for their elders. You’re lucky he’s old; if he were your age, he would’ve beaten the city life right out of you. Even someone as big as Davido would be forced to apologize if he crossed his uncle. You guys are mid, and if you don't watch it, a seed from that man’s house is going to come back to settle the score.

You’re out here acting like a self-made king, but all you’ve actually made is a family legacy where the only thing being passed down is a lack of shame and a handful of slaps.

The funny thing is this, nobody ever gets to hear from the uncle whether it was actually a "slap in back" or just a "tap in the back"; you know how most of this our uncle's in the village does things.

I'm not justifying wrongdoings, but the fact still remains that everyone on this forum is justifying your actions base on you being the first "narrator".

Your uncle could have being wrong though but you see Africans especially Nigerians will always judge things based on culture, ideology, traditions, norms, environmental experiences etc.

martinskelly:
I'm not justifying wrongdoings, but the fact still remains that everyone on this forum is justifying your actions base on you being the first "narrator".

You clearly don't know the meaning of justify. Go through the post again, and tell me the number of people that supported his actions against those that did not.

Lexzeey:
Goto court and tell them this is Africa, abuse someone unjustly like the drunkard did to me and goto court to plead your case because we're in Africa and see if you won't be in chains before you know it, he assaulted me, and I defended myself, it has nothing to do with this is Africa bla bla bla, na why Una leaders dey use una like rag una dey okay with am, Nigeria is so backwards.

They say if the gods want to destroy a man, he makes him mad. I like your pride. But be sure to use it efficiently when it backfires.

We4all:
You clearly don't know the meaning of justify. Go through the post again, and tell me the number of people that supported his actions against those that did not.

Bros you must not understand everything na. Comprehend to understand by asking what i meant by my post

Who says I'm supporting the op!
Majority will blame him base on is narratives except otherwise his supposedly uncle refute the claim but as it stands, people will blame him.

It might necessary not be a slap in back but just a slight tap in the back who knows, maybe the op wanted to justify his own reasons for slapping him back hence " the way he illustrated the slap"

As long as it happened in Africa and Nigeria to be precise, no home will like it.

We4all:
They say if the gods want to destroy a man, he makes him mad. I like your pride. But be sure to use it efficiently when it backfires.

Good advice, considering you're a wimp, now scurry off.

Lexzeey:
Goto court and tell them this is Africa, abuse someone unjustly like the drunkard did to me and goto court to plead your case because we're in Africa and see if you won't be in chains before you know it, he assaulted me, and I defended myself, it has nothing to do with this is Africa bla bla bla, na why Una leaders dey use una like rag una dey okay with am, Nigeria is so backwards.

Ok 👍

We4all:
They say if the gods want to destroy a man, he makes him mad. I like your pride. But be sure to use it efficiently when it backfires.

Leave am. I don talk my own and he is free to think whatever he wants. No be now e eye go clear, but clear, it definitely will.

martinskelly:
✓ The funny thing is this, nobody ever gets to hear from the uncle whether it was actually a "slap in back" or just a "tap in the back"; you know how most of this our uncle's in the village does things.
I'm not justifying wrongdoings, but the fact still remains that everyone on this forum is justifying your actions base on you being the first "narrator".
Your uncle could have being wrong though but you see Africans especially Nigerians will always judge things based on culture, ideology, traditions, norms, environmental experiences etc.

Wrong! No one is providing him justification; what someone like me Instead did is assert that based on his story that he merely returned the favor, and what the law says, he is not in the wrong. 🥱🥱

If the uncle hadn't hit him -- and yes, there is a culture of hitting if younger individuals among the elderly in Nigeria -- the law would have been squarely against OP. 🥱🥱

The fact that the man may have been drunk at the time does not change anything of what the law says of this issue. Neither does his age matter for anything where the law for all adults is concerned. Both the elder and young are held equal where the law is concerned and hence expected to adhere to the letter of the law no matter what. Anyone of advanced age ought to understand and know this. 🥱🥱

We can just guess where you are from.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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You should have just ignored him 😒

Do you know how many of such "waaam at my back" you're still going to recieve yet you will still need to pick your battles wisely. Your uncle is your father's brother so give him the same respect due to your family for as long as he is not asking you to do crime or offend God.

He is not going to be around or in great shape for so long with that kind of lifestyle so why bother. Besides, go out and work too.

You can open a small business or office and go there and work daily to build a regimen outside house for now.

You need both psychological and emotional intelligence to survive in such a culture and family you were born into

Guy, you didn't slap him because he slapped you first.

His earlier indirect remarks about Yahoo-Yahoo Boys really got your dander up.

You therefore lost your cool for having the temerity to slap you in addition to his previous provocative remarks.

But, remember, a clear conscience fears no accusations.

Find a way to reconcile with him in your own interest.

Just a candid advice!



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FreeStuffsNG:
✓ You should have just ignored him 😒

Ignore him because he is a special kind of arsehole that should remain untouchable? 🥱🥱🥱

You slapped your uncle (thumbs up)
You don't physically go to work (Abeg who asked you,and did ur uncle know)
He was talking to the air,you felt he was talking to you,..did he mention your name(No)
Shey naw only you dey there (No)

Guy what you did is wrong, the deed has been done,(thumbs up) just go back and apologise to him,village boiz Neva fine you before baw,dem Neva waylaid u or find you come house, unto one abomination or Umu ada dem never reason you..,Guy once u dey in midst of those uncles for villa,cntrl your anger,There're some things we in d city don't know,but dey know wella,some our parents might not be ready to tell us,but based on closed ties with ur uncles, you go know everything

illicit:
Na lie, u no fit beat ur papa back...

Dont try that here no matter what u smoke

We go join hands beat u like fufu ni and if u dare go to station

The DPO will beat u join

Lol better beating. Even many black American kids will tell you how they are handled by their mom not to talk of we core Africans. Try am for some area the kind beating wey you go collect it will definitely reformat your brain say you hit your dad or mom.

StillDtruth:
I think you are a very bad person but you just hide it by staying away from people, hence why you are an introvert.

You feel because you have gone through sh.... , then you have a right to behave as you like.

So, your bad nature showed because in spite of your withdrawal, your uncle still came into your personal zone. And so like a cobra in its hole, you just had to spring and bite.

Anyway, just know that another child is going to do it to you

what if he dies early?

tunjijones:
Go and mark it today, your nephew or your niece will slap you too back.

what if he no see old age? You be God?

Kobojunkie:
Stop making up lies! Your rich men in the village assault una old men and women regularly. Even their children repeat the same crimes against your uncles, including their grandchildren. 🥱🥱🥱

All of your traditional mumbo jumbo is usually fashioned against those whom you believe are on the same level as you, and never those who are of a higher status. Ever wondered why? Traditional ideas are weapons fashioned against the poor and gullible, and never the rich and educated in status. 🥱🥱

for once in my life, regrettably , 😔I have to agree with this phuuuuul

Kobojunkie:
Stop making up lies! Your rich men in the village assault una old men and women regularly. Even their children repeat the same crimes against your uncles, including their grandchildren. 🥱🥱🥱

All of your traditional mumbo jumbo is usually fashioned against those whom you believe are on the same level as you, and never those who are of a higher status. Ever wondered why? Traditional ideas are weapons fashioned against the poor and gullible, and never the rich and educated in status. 🥱🥱

So the rich and wealthy don't grow old and weak too?

Honestly one slap is not enough if what you narrated is what happened.

Anguldi:
Guy, I lost inheritance Worth 2B naira. It was late when my eyes cleared, I blasted my late uncle. Omorr, if na now, he will be at the orthopedics.
Mine was using Jesus stories, leave matters oOoOO

your late uncle be won leave property for you? And how did you find out? Give us a backstory

U deserve d slap

Blakjewelry:
So the rich and wealthy don't grow old and weak too?

what if he dies early?

Kobojunkie:
Ignore him because he is a special kind of arsehole that should remain untouchable? 🥱🥱🥱

Yes ma.
You pick your battles wisely. He is a low hanging one and win or lose does nothing to you.

I am sure if he had slapped him and he died in the process, you will not come and support him in court when he is prosecuted for manslaughter. Smh.

He is physically weaker and poor, the family will judge you harshly. On top what?

Not worth it in my opinion o. He doesn't even deserve my slap sef. The way such people are described in Yoruba is alakoba and what do you do to alakoba? Steer clear of them.

10th law of Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power insist that you avoid them.

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

Make Una rest with all these "legal means"

My wife is a barrister and I work work for the feds if you know what I mean.

This issue right here don't even require police let alone court.

According to the statement, the supposed uncle acted like the young man should be licking his feet. With that correcting slap, he will definitely avoid the young man and let him be. Why would he hit the young man in the first place? Na him son?

Elders should learn to respect themselves. I'm an elder too and I know my boundaries.

FreeStuffsNG:
✓ Yes ma. You pick your battles wisely. He is a low hanging one and win or lose does nothing to you.
He is physically weaker and poor, the family will judge you harshly. On top what? Not worth it in my opinion o

An assumed low hanging fruit committed a misdemeanor against someone and you determined all by yourself that he is not worth dealing with in accordance to the law because? Police wey dey slap una everyday for Nigeria, dem be low hanging fruits too? 🥱🥱

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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You actually dressed or acted like a yahoo boy. I work online too and nobody has ever called me yahoo girl. Secondly whether he contributed to your upbringing or not, you owe him respect. Do you know his financial condition when u were coming up.

You for just warm am and leave him alone there

slapping back is a no - no, no matter what he did

Tell the family what you just wrote up there and apologize to him afterwards, no one will blame you again

Lexzeey:
So I should have fled like a wimp after he hit me first, wow, too bad I'm hot tempered and no one would trample upon me, maybe he should look for you and practice the whole uncle thing on you next time.

guilty conscience made it seem as if he was talking about you. He didn't mention your name and you felt guilty. You now took the anger and slapped him.

Your uncle it is not your cousin. Forget about his attitude of reminding you of his relationship with you, actually you were disrespectful for slapping him back. Karma is a bitch though.

Kobojunkie:
An assumed low hanging fruit committed a misdemeanor against someone and you determined all by yourself that he is not worth dealing with in accordance to the law because? Police wey dey slap una everyday for Nigeria, dem be low hanging fruits too? 🥱🥱

You think that I meant do no slap him back is same as tolerate the nuisance?
Smh.

I don't do cheap talk o