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tunjijones:
Go and mark it today, your nephew or your niece will slap you too back.

if you don't ask for forgiveness.

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

Calm down, na reflex. I would have probably done same under that condition. You're angry already and same person thats making you boil slapped you. See, let police come and arrest everybody.

U are sooo wrong, what if he had died after the slap omo u future done end o. U for just lash am with tongue leave dey go ur way.

chatinent:
What if he wasn't talking to you? What if it was intoxication?


What if he was talking to you? Did the shoe fits so badly you wanted to hit him before you did?


If it didn't matter to you, you wouldn't have raised your hand. A better option was leaving. It works for me...since I'm hot-tempered.

The same man that's making him angry SLAPPED HIM. Are you listening to yourself?

SpencerForbes:
Guy make I leave English use pidgin follow you cap because I believe say you be my age group. Mid 20s-30s wey believe say because we don hit money nobody be our mate. E don tey wey subject touch me like this for nairaland.

—How much you get?

—Where you Dey for Forbes list?

—How many people you want make dem help you to attain success?

—You know whether your uncle fit feed himself before you Dey expect am to help you?

—You don attain generational wealth?



Honestly, I’ve seen people lose everything so fast that it actually makes me respect wealth—and fear how quickly it can vanish. You’re just being arrogant, plain and simple. I’m 100% sure that if you’d told your mom or the people around you, they would’ve checked you immediately.

In this life, not everyone is going to play a part in your success. You can’t go around hating or feeling superior to billions of people just because they didn't hand you a shortcut. Wealth can disappear in an instant. Why walk around with your nose in the air? Based on your logic, you’d probably hit your own father for correcting you just because he didn't "help" your career.

You need a reality check. Not everyone is meant to be a pillar in your success story. Some people contribute through prayers and well-wishes—I have people I haven’t seen in years who I still plan to look out for because I know they’ve been rooting for me. Forget about people validating you for a second: you were wrong.

If you tried this in my family, we would’ve shown you very quickly that money isn't everything. And if that were my father you disrespected? You better have enough wealth to last generations, because I’d make it my mission to come for you.

Stop creating enemies for the next generation just because of your ego. The more you achieve, the humbler you should get. The bigger I get, the more cautious I become because I know how much is at stake. Keep in mind, that online gig could dry up or get saturated tomorrow, and you’ll be right back at square one. Stay humble.

This is gold.
GOD bless you bro.

Lexzeey:
How person like am wan see chance near me again, failure beget failure, and I can't put myself in a position where a niece will slap me simply because I'm not a drunk failure at family gatherings forcing people to respect him, respect he never earned, what if I had died growing up, will my corpse respect him? He didn't know how I survived to adulthood so why is he claiming uncle, uncle na by mouth?

Rest , you've slapped him and you still see nothing wrong with that, but i put it clearly to you that karma always has it sneakers on ready to catch up even with the fastest sprinter. This has nothing to do with whether he was there in your life or knows how you survived till adulthood so far you lay your hand on someone far older than you, that alone is a curse. A pay back day is coming just go and prepare and this pay back may not be inform of a slap from a nephew, it can just come in many form. That chicken change money you claimed to have will soon finish, that's if you have any at all or just bragging. Go away from you here you bitter sore loser.

Don’t worry, you did very well.

It will soon be your turn to reap the disrespect you’ve sown.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Slapping your uncle is a Taboo you are in the wrong

Annoying relatives are a norm everywhwre

The fact that he hit you is also wrong but you shouldn't have slapped him

You need to apologize

Forget any GenZ advise anyone here will Tell you

You don't slap your parents
Whether they gave a penny to raise you or not

Blakjewelry:
Yeah but I don't think the uncle must have gave him have serious slap, maybe that you know say I be your uncle. The guys response is not from the slap the uncle gave rather held grudges.

exactly. You don talk am finish

Make we talk true u no suppose to slap who old pass you and you too remember say you sef fit slap person wey you old pass even no be case for family matter at all but you slap him back you be werey

Lexzeey:
Of course I no send the man, you contributed nothing to my upbringing, schooling, even water you haven't sent me money for till I grew up and suddenly I owe you something, no, I'll remain arrogant, as far as I'm concerned I don't know him, let him respect it.

Guy, with this your mindset, I won't be surprised if u get stucked later in life.
You are ill-mannered and uncultured.
Your nephew will do same to you someday

Imagine if it was your father that his son slapped?, what would you have done?.
Irrespective of the man's drunken behavior you should simply expressed your displeasure at his behavior and walked away, possibly reporting him to another of your uncle who will caution him.
If the man is a jazz man he may do you something bad.
Village people are to kept at arms length and avoided were necessary

DemightyPrince:
I like those questions...he doesn't understand those questions until he answered "YES" 😂😂

. Maternal uncle, u have done worse!. No matter what u a true blood of the family.

In this era, an uncle with conscience wouldn't try such a thing like slapping you. He doesn't have respect for human and so doesn't deserve respect. Hit him again if he tries such. But never be the first to go

tunjijones:
Go and mark it today, your nephew or your niece will slap you too back.

Lol......u guys are bunch of funny pple ....Thats not how karma works....

The uncle is well deserving of the slap. Respect/Disrespect is reciprocal. You get back what you give.. Simple!
The uncle gave him a slap and in return, he go a slap back! How is that wrong?

Everyone is saying, this is Africa and its not our culture to disrespect elders! So far, see where respecting elders has gotten us to as a country!
Elders in power keep disrespecting us and we keep enduring it in the name of "respect for elders".

Just recently, Tinubu and his band of elders are gonna govern/tax us with illegally gazetted tax laws and we are already enduring it because we have totally failed to hold our elders accountable for fear of disrespecting them.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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. I can relate to your situation, I was supposed to beat up two of my uncle's this Christmas period but I avoided them and ended my stay in village for the holiday for peace to reign for now. But I fit still beat them tomorrow if them continue there nonsense behavior. So guy you could have stay away from him and avoid all this village talk.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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You want to justify your slap. He tapped you at the back and you slapped him in return. Why didn't you 'slap' him at where he 'slapped' you

Sha be calming down

Elders hardly respect themselves too. They always feel they’re right. But you made a wrong move sha

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

That was self-defense at its finest. I was ferociously slapped three times by a pregnant woman many years ago. I still bear the emotional scar until today.

I don't believe he slapped you at the back. He may have probably tapped you at the back, coupled with the fact that you were already angry, that was an opportunity for you to land him a slap.

My instincts told me he didn't slap you but tapped you. The tap may have been a bit more than normal. You were already angry before due to all that he said, you used that opportunity to get back at him.

Don't ask how I knew.

ottersberger:
That was self-defense at its finest. I was ferociously slapped three times by a pregnant woman many years ago. I still bear the emotional scar until today.

Hmmmm...I understand you though. I just dislike violence

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing…



Just like you don’t know your family background enough that gave rise to the seed that birthed you.
You lack wisdom in its most basic form: humility.
Don’t get yourself into battles that even God won’t have your back.

Now let me let you guys get something right.
Respect isn’t always earned. Saul did not worth it, but David gave it to him.
Noah at a point did not earn it, Ham deprived him of it on this basis and got a lifetime curse up to his offsprings.
In fact a lot of people who are spiritually potent and higher than you may not tick the “deserving respect “ boxes you think.
Go and apologize to that man and ask God to help you number your days so that you may apply your heart unto wisdom.
This is the wisdom that begets longevity for any young person.

Lexzeey:
So I should have fled like a wimp after he hit me first, wow, too bad I'm hot tempered and no one would trample upon me, maybe he should look for you and practice the whole uncle thing on you next time.

He didn't hit you. He tapped you. There is difference between hitting someone outrightly for no reason and someone tapping you from behind.

The tap may have felt like a slap. But it was not. You were already angry with him. That was an opportunity to get at him using slap as an excuse. Say the truth.

Let me advise you. Better go and apologize to that man. Don't bring unnecessary curses to your life.

If you like don't take this advice. Buy a wine and go and apologize and ask him to pray for you after accepting your apology.

The consequences of things like these are always brutal in the future. But you can overlook this advice and act woke. But don't forget we are in Africa.

When your problems will start you won't remember that it's an elder you slapped long time ago. That's how nature works.

That your uncle got what he wanted .

Its not right but I think he deserves it. Though I do not support hitting elders.

Your uncle was rage baiting you and he knew if he surprises you, you will enter the trap.

Women are good at it, but your uncle knew your weakness is surprises lol he just walked calmly behind you and hit you to let all the rage he has been farming to grow exponentially

Dtruthspeaker:
If you read closely you would see he makes statements that reveal a complex. You see him keep referencing. "he takes care of himself. No one cared for him". That shows us he has many issues

That is his truth and experience, and no one can take that away from him. Unfortunately, it is all the dysfunction in the system. Both parties are feeling entitled which is not right but as a culture, we keep promoting the same.

martinskelly:
The funny thing is this, nobody ever gets to hear from the uncle whether it was actually a "slap in back" or just a "tap in the back"; you know how most of this our uncle's in the village does things.

I'm not justifying wrongdoings, but the fact still remains that everyone on this forum is justifying your actions base on you being the first "narrator".

Your uncle could have being wrong though but you see Africans especially Nigerians will always judge things based on culture, ideology, traditions, norms, environmental experiences etc.

Don't mind the young man. It's a tap. The moment I started reading his post, I knew it was a tap and not a slap as he claimed.

Mo na leave the young man. Life go humble am. Life has a way of humbling arrogant brats like that. He is a spoiled brat and life will teach him a great lesson in the future that is if he will be alive to tell the story.

Everybody dey advice am but he is still forming capon. He will surely learn the hard way trust karma and nature for this. He is not wiser than those that had walked across the surface of the earth and beyond.

Life always has a way of teaching people like that a big lesson. Mo na leave am.

SpencerForbes:
What are you typing and who talked about pride? I’m talking about reality you’re talking about pride. Did I ever mention I’m proud of it? I’m talking about things that happens. Which development has corruption brought but are we not talking about it? Or there’s pride in that one.

You don't have to use the word pride before you are proud about what you say.

I for tear you slap , one day under that circumstances you sef go chop slap by one of your littles, you should have avoid him in the first place very far from him or use scope try laugh small or buy am one alcohol , but you choose to slap someone and you think everybody should praise you . If it were your Dad insulting you or let say A teacher will you get him slap , you be cultist bhadt belle .

He was wrong and you also got it wrong as well .