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Good morning NL,hope you guys are enjoying your week.i was supposed to post this some days ago but due to some personal engagement I couldn't.
Am writing this piece of note here as an opportunity of searching for love and also advice so you won't be in my shoe after school.
I had a very focused and rigid lifestyle while at the textiary institution during my days of studying, although I didn't intentionally programmed myself like this but the course I was studying made me that way.
I never had time for social activities that much neither did I engage in relationships as it was from class to house ,house to class.but their was this girl i fell in love with a day i accompany a friend to his lodge and we began dating.we dated till I left school and we stayed in communication till after my service.she ask me to come see her parent and I refused.i did not refused because I didn't love her,I refused because I wanted to focused on myself so as I can achieve something tangible for myself before settling down.Its been five years now, she has moved on and she is about getting married soon.
Am still stuck with literally nothing much to show for the years I have focused on myself and am now considering settling down since time seems not to wait for no one.
Here comes my challenge,the only girl I had something serious with while in school is getting married soon and am stuck with no options of getting someone to married too.

So my brothers try as much as possible to have series of options in your love life because you wouldn't love to be in mys shoe...

Alaefulu:
Good morning NL,hope you guys are enjoying your week.i was supposed to post this some days ago but due to some personal engagement I couldn't.
Am writing this piece of note here as an opportunity of searching for love and also advice so you won't be in my shoe after school.
I had a very focused and rigid lifestyle while at the textiary institution during my days of studying, although I didn't intentionally programmed myself like this but the course I was studying made me that way.
I never had time for social activities that much neither did I engage in relationships as it was from class to house ,house to class.but their was this girl i fell in love with a day i accompany a friend to his lodge and we began dating.we dated till I left school and we stayed in communication till after my service.she ask me to come see her parent and I refused.i did not refused because I didn't love her,I refused because I wanted to focused on myself so as I can achieve something tangible for myself before settling down.Its been five years now, she has moved on and she is about getting married soon.
Am still stuck with literally nothing much to show for the years I have focused on myself and am now considering settling down since time seems not to wait for no one.
Here comes my challenge,the only girl I had something serious with while in school is getting married soon and am stuck with no options of getting someone to married too.

So my brothers try as much as possible to have series of options in your love life because you wouldn't love to be in mys shoe...

How old are you now this year

Am 35 now,sorry fir the late response

Sirchiboy:
How old are you now this year

I was exactly like you growing up, especially while in the university. At some point had a girl for 3+ years till it didn't materialize like yours, I connected with another and it didn't last more than 6 months on the discovery she had unfinished business with her ex. But what makes me different from you is that I approach girls easily and seek recommendations from the people I trust. So keep searching and don't be scared of talking to girls. In fact make it a point of duty to talk to as much girls as possible everyday till you find the one that you will go see her parents.

..am this kind of person that is reserved .thanks and I appreciate your input

Auxtan:
I was exactly like you growing up, especially while in the university. At some point had a girl for 3+ years till it didn't materialize like yours, I connected with another and it didn't last more than 6 months on the discovery she had unfinished business with her ex. But what makes me different from you is that I approach girls easily and seek recommendations from the people I trust. So keep searching and don't be scared of talking to girls. In fact make it a point of duty to talk to as much girls as possible everyday till you find the one that you will go see her parents.

Come and marry Diamond

Diamond like good things a lot remember

Marriage marriage marriage one can't hear something like make money, money, money and money in this forum

Auxtan:
I was exactly like you growing up, especially while in the university. At some point had a girl for 3+ years till it didn't materialize like yours, I connected with another and it didn't last more than 6 months on the discovery she had unfinished business with her ex. But what makes me different from you is that I approach girls easily and seek recommendations from the people I trust. So keep searching and don't be scared of talking to girls. In fact make it a point of duty to talk to as much girls as possible everyday till you find the one that you will go see her parents.

Hmmmm hmmmm hmmmm

Diamond098454:
Come and marry Diamond

Diamond like good things a lot remember

Marriage marriage marriage one can't hear something like make money, money, money and money in this forum

Until you get to the point marriage becomes a priority you won't understand. Marriage will someday become a priority for you while money will be just there. And to add, there's no time you would say you have made enough money to do whatever in life especially marriage. When you're ready just go for it and do it within your means.

Alaefulu:
Am 35 now,sorry fir the late response

Join facebook dating group in your state.
Intoduce yourself.
That you need a serious and hard working lady that will lead to marriage from 24 and above.
Please students should keep off.
Many girls will start adding u.
Hope you are working

Diamond098454:
Come and marry Diamond

Diamond like good things a lot remember

Marriage marriage marriage one can't hear something like make money, money, money and money in this forum

Dey deceive yourself.

Auxtan:
Until you get to the point marriage becomes a priority you won't understand. Marriage will someday become a priority for you while money will be just there. And to add, there's no time you would say you have made enough money to do whatever in life especially marriage, when you're ready just go for it and do it within your means.

Auxtan....................

So for five years you couldn't impregnate her once? Somebody when you for sentence to 9 months the moment you notice she's being bent on getting married. Anyway you still need to focus on yourself whether you like it or not because in all honesty even if you manage to pull of the wedding ceremony, you can't run family life on credit. I don't know what it is you do but wtv it is do it well. You might be putting in effort and getting little or no results, we have all been there. Change style, try another approach, especially that one that seems scary to you. Dive right in and do it. You will not kpai. Na your journey

As for the desperation to marry. Bro cut that 5hit and drop it sharpperly else you will regret whom you settle with. You're 35 and still young. Get yourself together first otherwise it will end in tears.

Of you're not where you want to be and get married to any available girl a lot of things will happen.

1. You will not fully appreciate your spouse or home.

2. When things hit roxk bottom you will be blaming everyone and everything around you but yourself who is the real problem.

3. You will most likely take out your frustration on the innocent girl

4. There's going to always be major chaos and if she's the nagging one omor kiss your health goodbye.

5. She, your wife will most likely cheat out of frustration or worse of she's a gullible woman without any real boundaries for herself. Those who tell everyone their problems even those who secretly want you destroyed and in pains.

6. You will be 40 looking like 105 and so much more i can't mention here.

Getting yourself together doesn't mean you become too wealthy. Just have a steady source of income enough to be able to live a decent life with a wife and kid and still be able to save some little and invest a little.

Okay I will do that..yes am working currently...thanks fir the advice

Sirchiboy:
Join facebook dating group in your state.
Intoduce yourself.
That you need a serious and hard working lady that will lead to marriage from 24 and above.
Please students should keep off.
Many girls will start adding u.
Hope you are working

Alaefulu:
Okay I will do that..yes am working currently...thanks fir the advice

Where do you based

Diamond098454:
Auxtan....................

You no go stay one one place now ooh. Dey hustle man. Until them wipe you wetin no good

Alaefulu:
Okay I will do that..yes am working currently...thanks fir the advice

Oga no try am. Facebook is filled with lose and desperate 304s. Of she's not hustling legit on social media but is always available there bro she's for the streets. Use your 6. There are good ladies close to you. Go out mingle enjoy life with purpose and the universe will make your paths cross. No try Facebook oooh lol I pity anyman that does that. I know what I'm saying. If you're a player and you just want easy game use Facebook but of you're serious with your life bro go out and mingle.

kiddaz:
You no go stay one one place now ooh. Dey hustle man. Until them wipe you wetin no good

Smile smile smile

What did i do this time around?

Diamond098454:
Smile smile smile

What did i do this time around?

I no want make them wipe you wetin no good na. It's too early in the year for that

Okay,will definitely apply wisdom thanks

kiddaz:
Oga no try am. Facebook is filled with lose and desperate 304s. Of she's not hustling legit on social media but is always available there bro she's for the streets. Use your 6. There are good ladies close to you. Go out mingle enjoy life with purpose and the universe will make your paths cross. No try Facebook oooh lol I pity anyman that does that. I know what I'm saying. If you're a player and you just want easy game use Facebook but of you're serious with your life bro go out and mingle.

Wow,you have Spike something up in me and I really appreciate this input..thanks man

kiddaz:
So for five years you couldn't impregnate her once? Somebody when you for sentence to 9 months the moment you notice she's being bent on getting married. Anyway you still need to focus on yourself whether you like it or not because in all honesty even if you manage to pull of the wedding ceremony, you can't run family life on credit. I don't know what it is you do but wtv it is do it well. You might be putting in effort and getting little or no results, we have all been there. Change style, try another approach, especially that one that seems scary to you. Dive right in and do it. You will not kpai. Na your journey

As for the desperation to marry. Bro cut that 5hit and drop it sharpperly else you will regret whom you settle with. You're 35 and still young. Get yourself together first otherwise it will end in tears.

Of you're not where you want to be and get married to any available girl a lot of things will happen.

1. You will not fully appreciate your spouse or home.

2. When things hit roxk bottom you will be blaming everyone and everything around you but yourself who is the real problem.

3. You will most likely take out your frustration on the innocent girl

4. There's going to always be major chaos and if she's the nagging one omor kiss your health goodbye.

5. She, your wife will most likely cheat out of frustration or worse of she's a gullible woman without any real boundaries for herself. Those who tell everyone their problems even those who secretly want you destroyed and in pains.

6. You will be 40 looking like 105 and so much more i can't mention here.

Getting yourself together doesn't mean you become too wealthy. Just have a steady source of income enough to be able to live a decent life with a wife and kid and still be able to save some little and invest a little.

Make I start with silver first

Diamond098454:
Come and marry Diamond

Diamond like good things a lot remember

Marriage marriage marriage one can't hear something like make money, money, money and money in this forum

Abuja

Sirchiboy:
Where do you based

Alaefulu:
Make I start with silver first

smile smile smile smile

You are funny.....

kiddaz:
I no want make them wipe you wetin no good na. It's too early in the year for that

Diamond098454:
You are funny.....

Okay na

Just Dey play ooo