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Mrexcell:
✓ I don't even think it's the age factor most men who are struggling financially don't find sex all that appealing because of of too much worries in their minds.

Yet no one can outbreed a poor man? 🥱🥱🥱

Mikocake:
I’m having the feeling that Op feels the husband deprived her of her youthful life by marrying her off @22, but my sister let me tell you the truth, nothing dey street oo. I don’t know who might be advising or influencing you to feel inadequate in your marriage but there are no perfect marriage anywhere. I’ve seen cases like this and the women always turn bitter after leaving their husbands because they realize there’s no love in the street. Don’t leave your home to turn sidechick to someone’s else husband oo. All the problems you listed about your husband can be worked on. I think his inability in bed can be attributed to his habit of drinking alcohol which when cut out or reduced, will get better. If his father is still alive, talk to him about the situation or a male figure that he respects. And remember, please don’t cheat on him cuz once you do, kiss your marriage goodbye. Men who don’t cheat hardly forgive cheating oo

A man that's struggling financially will definitely find something to console himself that's probably why he is drinking. If she even decides to leave her marriage because of the lack of adequate sex the probability of her meeting guys who will just be taking advantage of her is very high most of her age mates these days are even majorly into yahoo money rituals so you are actually very right there's nothing much in the streets for her.

Kobojunkie:
Yet no one can outbreed a poor man? 🥱🥱🥱

Am talking reasonable men here.

Mrexcell:
✓ Am talking reasonable men here.

Reasonable men are unicorns; you and i will probably only ever encounter one or two of those in our entire lives.

So, stop speculating about what is yet to be known or studied and focus instead on what is already known. ,🥱🥱🥱

pocohantas:
When we tell them these things they think we are jealous, but for the first time in my life I have become genuinely concerned at the number of YOUNG single mothers. Many didn't have these kids out of wedlock, they married, had kids and came out. Anyone that visits FB and TikTok knows what I am talking about. I saw one yesterday, 21yo SM of 2. Her username is "Peace Real Time". How are you a mother of 2 toddlers at 21, let alone a SM of 2?

Without being too academic, there are many factors/reasons for the rise, depending on the region these single moms are situated in. In some regions, continuous butchering of able-bodied young men results in single moms. A place like Owerri will always have single moms because of Tiger Base that targets young men in the state.

Another category is young girls who dated reigning yahoo yahoo boys and old takers. For this category, it is a clear case of play stoopid games, win stoopid prizes.

If you have to marry a small girl half your age, ensure you remain at your A-game physically, sexually and financially. There is so much aesthetic marriages online for them to watch and feel you are not treating them well. Some will have friends marry later to younger, finer and maybe richer men. She will start wondering where she was rushing to with you. It is even worse if she has never experienced comfort herself.

Agreed. Come correct or don't come at all. The era of controlling a young married woman's access to the outside world is rapidly ending. Two-income households are common, and if she has to engage in a small business, she needs to access the public, and no better arena than social media.

Cherryediva:
Hello everyone, sorry for the long post
I got married at 22, my husband was 40 at the time. We have been married for 5 years and we have a child together.

My concern is that my husband is not able to satisfy me sexually at all, which is frustrating, I have talked to him about it nothing seems to change. Financially, he is struggling, partly because he gambles a lot. He also drinks alcohol heavily.

I work too but he doesn't want me to have my own money he is always collecting money from me.
He doesn’t have clear goals, ambition, or a vision for the future, and this makes me feel stagnant in the marriage.

He is a good man in terms of character. He doesn’t cheat, he doesn’t abuse me at all, and he treats me well overall.

I’m confused because while he is good to me, I feel stuck and unfulfilled. I would really appreciate advice from y'all who have been in similar situations or who can offer honest guidance.
Thank you

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You no see 25, 30, 35, you run go 40. Possibly, you thought he has money. All his savings are gone now and you just discover he is struggling. Gold digging no dey pay

Originalsly:
At 45 a man has already passed his natural sexual prime. What is nonsensical about that? It is nonsensical for you to interpret that to mean a man can no longer have sex after 45 ..he becomes impotent. A man can become impotent even in his 20's ... age is not the only factor that affects one's sexual performance and can lead to impotence. So if he the husband ...this particular man is not performing.... we know he's 45 .... for sure ...age is a factor ...not the factor ...but a factor. ...lower testosterone level. Alcohol is likely another factor ...not necessarily. His mindset can be major...even in a young healthy man. If the fear factor pops up mentally.... it can shut down his ability to perform. She already told him he's not moving the needle ... even if he ha something in store for her...the thought of not moving the needle will shut it down. Bottom line .... at 45 ...a man has passed his peak period .

So what is the definition of sexual peak? What age is sexual peak? What studies have you carried out to prove it? What scientific evidence do you have to prove what you're saying? Fyi, when you dole out statements matter of factly, always back them up with scientific evidence/data or studies that were carried out to prove it's validity, or show you're an authority in that field. That's how intelligent people talk. Anything outside that is just pure market women talk. It's very easy for anyone from any planet to make a statement or assertion no matter how sensible or non sensical it might be. When someone who's into health talks-someone who daily sees patients of different ages and sexes with these particular problems that the OP highlighted, you should know that person is talking from a position of authority on that subject, not just market woman talk. Please it's not a crime to be enlightened.

occfx:
➜You no see 25, 30, 35, you run go 40. Possibly, you thought he has money. All his savings are gone now and you just discover he is struggling. Gold digging no dey pay

Baseless assumptions. A man takes his wife's money to go drink and gamble, yet you accuse the woman of being a gold digger? 🥱🥱🥱

drstranged:
So what is the definition of sexual peak? What age is sexual peak? What studies have you carried out to prove it? What scientific evidence do you have to prove what you're saying? Fyi, when you dole out statements matter of factly, always back them up with scientific evidence/data or studies that were carried out to prove it's validity, or show you're an authority in that field. That's how intelligent people talk. Anything outside that is just pure market women talk. It's very easy for anyone from any planet to make a statement or assertion no matter how sensible or non sensical it might be. When someone who's into health talks-someone who daily sees patients of different ages and sexes with these particular problems that the OP highlighted, you should know that person is talking from a position of authority on that subject, not just market woman talk. Please it's not a crime to be enlightened.

This is a public forum. People make statements...express and discuss opinions. If you disagree with someone's comments then challenge it ... show why you disagree and share what you believe to be correct or the facts on the matter. This is what reasonable people do ... constructive criticism. What you're doing is "market woman talk". ... chatter ...noise ... condemnation instead of enlightenment. What have you said to enlighten anyone reading? What of substance have you ... an authority in the field added to the conversation? Swallow your pride ..it will take a while ... and have your emotions under control before coming back to the table to discuss in a civilised manner.o

Kobojunkie:
Baseless assumptions. A man takes his wife's money to go drink and gamble, yet you accuse the woman of being a gold digger? 🥱🥱🥱

Why she go marry boy friend wey dey take money from her

occfx:
➜Why she go marry boy friend wey dey take money from her

Because she was probably socialized from a very young age to believe her worth is defined by her having a man in her life. Also, the man in question is old enough to be her father, so he obviously manipulated her into believing he was worth more than the loser he really is. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Because she was probably socialized from a very young age to believe her worth is defined by her having a man in her life. Also, the man in question is old enough to be her father, so he obviously manipulated her into believing he was worth more than the loser he really is. 🥱🥱🥱

So you were there? At 22, an average girl is a supposed to be a graduate. A graduate who has had more than 10 body counts will still allow herself be manipulated by a broke marafaker? I don't think so.

The only thing that deceives or manipulates women is either you are too good in bed... Like when you make her scream and reach orgasms multiple times that she forgets you are broke or you are "Ned" that she forget you are too old for her.

In this case, the girl says he is not good in bed, meaning he was probably a fake "Ned". That was how she was manipulated thinking that she got a "Ned" not knowing, it is a fake one.

Now her eyes don open, she Wan run. She go dig gold jam stone... Lol. Single mothers are not smiling, make she reason am well.

Even at 18, girls know what they want, you are either a big boy or you dey Nak waiting no good.

You saw the signs before you decided to marry your father. He is 18 years older. He can father you.

Cherryediva:
No one is an island of knowledge. I want advice from people who have more experience than me.

A man who has no dream or ambition of his own will drain you of all of your energy and vitality like a vampire in to prop himself up and make himself look better than he really is. You on the other hand will not come out without many regrets. Better take whatever regrets you may already have and leave now, not wait to rack up a whole load more before running. 🥱🥱

Cherryediva:
No one is an island of knowledge. I want advice from people who have more experience than me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bC8evnrEiDs?si=Mf9UBOuP160vN2LH

Kobojunkie:
He spent 40 whole years not praying for himself or getting himself to counseling before marrying OP. Now you want OP to abandon her own life and dreams, to do what? Pray and help a grown-arsed loser who is old enough to be her father get counseling?

If OP were your daughter or your sister, would you let her subject her life to that same nonsense? 🥱🥱🥱

This is obviously child talk