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Traditional Christian Vow (Outdated)

Bride
I, (Bride's Name), take you, (Groom's Name), to be my lawful husband,
to love you, honour you, obey you, and submit to you,
in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer,
for better, for worse, till death do us part,
according to God's holy ordinance;
and this is my solemn vow.

Groom
I, (Groom's Name), take you, (Bride's Name), to be my lawful wife,
to love you, honour you, and be faithful to you,
in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer,
for better, for worse, till death do us part,
according to God's holy ordinance;
and this is my solemn vow.

Suggested Christian Vow

Bride
I, (Bride's Name), take you, (Groom's Name), to be my lawful husband.

I vow to make our home a sanctuary of laughter, trust, and understanding,
where love, calmness, and care guide every word and action.

I promise to love you faithfully, honour you, cherish you, respect you, support you, and give you peace abundantly.

May our love never be broken by violence or Infidelity,
for these are the boundaries that keep our forever sacred.

This is my solemn vow.

Groom
I, (Groom's Name), take you, (Bride's Name), to be my lawful wife.

I vow to make our home a sanctuary of laughter, trust, and understanding,
where love and care guide every word and action.

I promise to love you faithfully, honour you, cherish you, support you and protect you in every season of life.

May our love never be broken by violence or Infidelity,
for these are the boundaries that keep our forever sacred.

This is my solemn vow.

If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

My own is that marriage contract should have an expiry date which can be renewed if need be

MarkNsukkaBread:
My own is that marriage contract should have an expiry date which can be renewed if need be

Marriage does have an expiration date, typically referred to as the date of divorce. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Marriage does have an expiration date, typically referred to as the date of divorce. 🥱🥱🥱

You should be smart to know that what he refers to is a timeline that is pre stated abnitio, sometimes you just run to comment just to mess yourself up. Comprehension is key to critically asset yourself in public

MarkNsukkaBread:
My own is that marriage contract should have an expiry date which can be renewed if need be

Supported.
Marriage should be operated like Football contracts which can be renewed every 5 years

Kobojunkie:
If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

Prenups are legal agreements, not vows.

I'm actually a fan of prenups. They aren't just about protecting money; they also allow you to set clauses that must not be breached.

Merry100:
➜Prenups are legal agreements, not vows. I'm actually a fan of prenups.
➜They aren't just about protecting money; they let you set clauses that must not be breached.

1. Contracts are vows/promises, same as your marriage is. When you don't officially define a clear prenup for your marriage, the government sets up a default contract/vow for you, which, in most cases, denies the woman all rights in marriage. So, it is in your best interest to clearly define and have signed a prenup that states what should take place in the case of infidelity, dissolution, or even the death of one of the parties.🥱🥱

2. Breaches happen, so expect them to be breached as long as you are dating a human being. Prenuptuals/Postnuptuals are meant to protect you in the case of a breach, not keep a breach from taking place. A person who will cheat will cheat... There is nothing you can do to stop or prevent it from happening. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. Contracts are vows/promises, same as your marriage is. When you don't officially define a clear prenup for your marriage, the government sets up a default contract/vow for you, which, in most cases, denies the woman all rights in marriage. So, it is in your best interest to clearly define and have signed a prenup that states what should take place in the case of infidelity, dissolution, or even the death of one of the parties.🥱🥱

2. Breaches happen, so expect them to be breached as long as you are dating a human being. Prenuptuals/Postnuptuals are meant to protect you in the case of a breach, not keep a breach from taking place. A person who will cheat will cheat... There is nothing you can do to stop or prevent it from happening. 🥱🥱🥱

Prenups don't stop people from breaking obligations, but they set the rules for what happens when they do.

Merry100:
➜Prenups don't stop people from breaking obligations, but they set the rules for what happens when they do.

Another thing prenups do is help filter out the potential red flags even before marriage. Any person who refuses to sign a prenup should instinctively be a red flag to women out there. 🥱🥱

Women need all the protection they can get when it comes to relationships and marriage. And a prenup/postnup is the easiest way to get one. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

The modern world revolve around finances.
In the early period, it was about power.

Some of us only did civil and traditional marriage, we got no time to be stressing over some vows.

Zanzibar1:
➜The modern world revolve around finances. In the early period, it was about power.

Your ancestors bid on the women and never failed to remind those women of how much they had to pay to own their lives. And when your ancestors were done using said women, they did not forget to demand their money back right after sending those women packing(many a times with the children those women had for those men) with literally nothing but shame and humiliation as their reward. 🥱🥱

Even the old world you pine for was always about finances, the power your ancestors had during their days. That reality is what remains to this day.🥱🥱

There is nothing with marriage. Is those expired oloshos and gigolos that are the problem

I am waiting for the grand emperor himself... NAMASTER

Kobojunkie:
If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

You don dey get sense small small? Interesting.

Kobojunkie:
If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

I couldn't agree more.
In today's world especially if you have money getting a prenuptial agreement is the only way to live happily ever after. With a prenuptial agreement when the thing goes south the man will be happy half of his wealth is not getting taken away.

If I was a woman married to a billionaire at divorce time I will ask for just 5 percent of his wealth. The guy will be shocked and the entire world will hear about it. My name will enter all media in the world. And all men will respect me. I trust western media they will turn me into a celebrity and I will be invited to Oscars, Grammy, WHO, World Bank to attend functions and give talks.

Women need to understand to gain respect they have to go against the grain.

The other day Jamie Carriger made a blopper on television " that the AFCON was not a major tournament " he came under pressure by the African community and he apologized and explained himself. Now since the African community were not demanding for his resignation like how whites would have, he knows he messed up but would be grateful for the African Linient spirit.

He will forever be indepted to Africans.

Alot of the time to gain respect you don't take people to the cleaners. You show them you can and then you don't.

Punishment with Mercy is the only way to change people forever.

KobolanderSegun:
I couldn't agree more.
In today's world especially if you have money getting a prenuptial agreement is the only way to live happily ever after. With a prenuptial agreement when the thing goes south the man will be happy half of his wealth is not getting taken away.

If I was a woman married to a billionaire at divorce time I will ask for just 5 percent of his wealth. The guy will be shocked and the entire world will hear about it. My name will enter all media in the world. And all men will respect me. I trust western media they will turn me into a celebrity and I will be invited to Oscars, Grammy, WHO, World Bank to attend functions and give talks.

Women need to understand to gain respect they have to go against the grain.

The other day Jamie Carriger made a blopper on television " that the AFCON was not a major tournament " he came under pressure by the African community and he apologized and explained himself. Now since the African community were not demanding for his resignation like how whites would have, he knows he messed up but would be grateful for the African Linient spirit.

He will forever be indepted to Africans.

Alot of the time to gain respect you don't take people to the cleaners. You show them you can and then you don't.

Punishment with Mercy is the only way to change people forever.

Structural advantages often favour men in marriage; so why should a woman be expected to ask for less in divorce? Fairness matters far more than optics.

Expecting women to "ask for less" only reinforces the very imbalance we claim to oppose. Even when both parents share responsibility for their children, women often carry the emotional and logistical weight of raising them after a divorce.

Prenups are a personal choice, not a measure of virtue. Respect shouldn't depend on how much a woman is willing to give up, nor should it be earned through self-denial or symbolic gestures.

Divorce is a serious life event, not an opportunity for branding, showcasing, or making history. These matters should be handled quietly and responsibly, especially when children are involved.

What "shameless award"? It is better not to attract unnecessary attention. Protecting your image; and that of your husband or the father of your children; is also protecting your children's image.

What most women want is stability and fairness; not unsolicited admiration for taking less.

‎Listen to me bro, immediately the relationship ends, properties should go back to the rightful owner.

How do I mean?

For instance, if you happened to buy her a phone when you both are in relationship, and she decided to break up with you. Take the phone you bought back with other valuables without looking back.
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‎There is always a reason you fund a w00man. Purpose. Loyalty. Growth. Peace. Respect — The moment that reason dies, your funding must die with it.
‎If the mission is over, pull your resources back. Not emotionally but practically.
‎
‎Too many w00men are running soft scams in the name of love. Dating as a business model. Affection as a subscription. S€x as a bait. Bills as a lifestyle.
‎
‎They don’t respect m0ney because they didn’t sweat for it. They didn’t grind for it.
‎They didn’t bleed for it. So they spend it like it grows back on your body.
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‎Hear this clearly bro; 👇
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‎Your hustle is not charity. Your provision is not entitlement. Your generosity is not a lifetime contract.
‎If she stops adding value, you stop adding funds. If she stops respecting you, you stop sponsoring her comfort. If she walks away, she walks away empty handed with only what legally belongs to her.
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‎Anything you paid for that is yours, is yours. Anything you funded for a purpose that no longer exists, is done.
‎
‎Stop confusing love with foolishness.
‎Stop financing disrespect. Stop rewarding manipulation.
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‎A w00man who truly loves you won’t milk you. A w00man who respects you won’t drain you. A w00man who understands hustle won’t treat your m0ney like free m0ney.
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‎Protect your resources. Protect your legacy. Protect your sweat. Because broke men are made by emotional spending.
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‎Most importantly, hold your m0ney to your chest. Because without your m0ney — you are nobody to her.
‎
‎Learn and apply.
‎
‎Class dismissed.
‎Till I come your way again.
‎Keep following for more.

Hahaha you are right

Kobojunkie:
If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

essentialone:
‎Listen to me bro, immediately the relationship ends, properties should go back to the rightful owner.

How do I mean?

For instance, if you happened to buy her a phone when you both are in relationship, and she decided to break up with you. Take the phone you bought back with other valuables without looking back.
‎
‎There is always a reason you fund a w00man. Purpose. Loyalty. Growth. Peace. Respect — The moment that reason dies, your funding must die with it.
‎If the mission is over, pull your resources back. Not emotionally but practically.
‎
‎Too many w00men are running soft scams in the name of love. Dating as a business model. Affection as a subscription. S€x as a bait. Bills as a lifestyle.
‎
‎They don’t respect m0ney because they didn’t sweat for it. They didn’t grind for it.
‎They didn’t bleed for it. So they spend it like it grows back on your body.
‎
‎Hear this clearly bro; 👇
‎
‎Your hustle is not charity. Your provision is not entitlement. Your generosity is not a lifetime contract.
‎If she stops adding value, you stop adding funds. If she stops respecting you, you stop sponsoring her comfort. If she walks away, she walks away empty handed with only what legally belongs to her.
‎
‎Anything you paid for that is yours, is yours. Anything you funded for a purpose that no longer exists, is done.
‎
‎Stop confusing love with foolishness.
‎Stop financing disrespect. Stop rewarding manipulation.
‎
‎A w00man who truly loves you won’t milk you. A w00man who respects you won’t drain you. A w00man who understands hustle won’t treat your m0ney like free m0ney.
‎
‎Protect your resources. Protect your legacy. Protect your sweat. Because broke men are made by emotional spending.
‎
‎Most importantly, hold your m0ney to your chest. Because without your m0ney — you are nobody to her.
‎
‎Learn and apply.
‎
‎Class dismissed.
‎Till I come your way again.
‎Keep following for more.

Can you show me one real man who cries over gifts after a breakup? Only little boys think this way. When a relationship doesn't work out, secure men simply move on, because relationships are about connection, not transactions. That is why they walk away peacefully when the connection doesn't click or grow.

My brother, women are not dogs that you can cage with gifts. You better just get yourself a female bingo; with just treats, she would be following you up and down.

Even those real men offering to take women on several trips overseas, don't cage women. But you; just for a mere phone; you are already acting like means of survival. Personally, I just don't even allow guys to fund my trips when we travel together. I do this just to avoid any sense of sexual entitlement coming up.

There are 365 days in a year, some guys would go on two days dating in a year to an eatery with her lady and you would start feeling like means of survival.

Merry100:
Can you show me one real man who cries over gifts after a breakup? Only little boys think this way. When a relationship doesn't work out, secure men simply move on, because relationships are about connection, not transactions. That is why they walk away peacefully when the connection doesn't click or grow.

My brother, women are not dogs that you can cage with gifts. You better just get yourself a female bingo; with just treats, she would be following you up and down.

Even those real men offering to take women on several trips overseas, don't cage women. But you; just for a mere phone; you are already acting like means of survival. Personally, I just don't even allow guys to fund my trips when we travel together. I do this just to avoid any sense of sexual entitlement coming up.

There are 365 days in a year, some guys would go on two days dating in a year to an eatery with her lady and you would start feeling like means of survival.

As a young lady, you don't make your love for a guy transactional and expect the relationship not to be transactional.

After breakup or divorce, every man should collect back whatever they wish to.

PerfectStranger:
As a young lady, you don't make your love for a guy transactional and expect the relationship not to be transactional.

After breakup or divorce, every man should collect back whatever they wish to.

Legally and lawfully, a gift is a gift. Once it is given, ownership transfers to the recipient. You cannot take back what you willingly gave simply because the relationship ended; that is not how civil law works. If a woman chooses to return something, that is her decision, not your entitlement. In fact, if she gives anything back to you, it is purely an act of generosity; she is being philanthropic, a good Samaritan; while you just a beneficiary of her goodwill.

Giving is a way of expressing love; even Biblically. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son." Love gives without issuing invoices. It is not transactional.

Logically, both people gave in the relationship. Your money, gifts, and gestures were your way of expressing love. Her time, loyalty, emotions, presence, and thoughtful gestures were hers. You were both giving freely. There was no refund policy attached.

A gift is not a loan. Refunds do not apply to love.

Why you even acting with bitterness? How exactly is it her fault that the relationship didn't work out? Just as you hoped it would succeed, she hoped so too. If someone demands reimbursement for moments that were shared willingly, perhaps it was never love to begin with.

Secure men don't keep receipts. They give because they choose to. When it ends, they walk away with dignity; not invoices; and love again without resentment.

Many financially secure men provide luxurious outings, thoughtful surprises, expensive gifts, even cars because they can comfortably afford them. In most cases, they would still enjoy fine dining, travel, and the lifestyle they are accustomed to regardless. They simply choose to share it with someone they care about.

Fine dinners, trips, beautiful gifts, cars, and special gestures are not investments waiting for returns. They are expressions of affection. For a secure man, generosity is not a burden; it is part of the joy. Seeing the woman he is with happy is part of the experience. Creating beautiful memories together is the reward.

That is not a transaction. That is love expressed in his own language.

Merry100:
Legally and lawfully, a gift is a gift. Once it is given, ownership transfers to the recipient. You cannot take back what you willingly gave simply because the relationship ended; that is not how civil law works. If a woman chooses to return something, that is her decision, not your entitlement. In fact, if she gives anything back to you, it is purely an act of generosity; she is being philanthropic, a good Samaritan; while you just a beneficiary of her goodwill.

Giving is a way of expressing love; even Biblically. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son." Love gives without issuing invoices. It is not transactional.

Logically, both people gave in the relationship. Your money, gifts, and gestures were your way of expressing love. Her time, loyalty, emotions, presence, and thoughtful gestures were hers. You were both giving freely. There was no refund policy attached.

A gift is not a loan. Refunds do not apply to love.

Why you even acting with bitterness? How exactly is it her fault that the relationship didn't work out? Just as you hoped it would succeed, she hoped so too. If someone demands reimbursement for moments that were shared willingly, perhaps it was never love to begin with.

Secure men don't keep receipts. They give because they choose to. When it ends, they walk away with dignity; not invoices; and love again without resentment.

Many financially secure men provide luxurious outings, thoughtful surprises, expensive gifts, even cars because they can comfortably afford them. In most cases, they would still enjoy fine dining, travel, and the lifestyle they are accustomed to regardless. They simply choose to share it with someone they care about.

Fine dinners, trips, beautiful gifts, cars, and special gestures are not investments waiting for returns. They are expressions of affection. For a secure man, generosity is not a burden; it is part of the joy. Seeing the woman he is with happy is part of the experience. Creating beautiful memories together is the reward.

That is not a transaction. That is love expressed in his own language.

Ok ma I've Heard you. Now where's my share of the £200? Should I dm my accnt?

PerfectStranger:
➜As a young lady, you don't make your love for a guy transactional and expect the relationship not to be transactional.
➜After breakup or divorce, every man should collect back whatever they wish to.

You have it twisted. Relationships have been transactional for the longest. Your ancestors did not provide for their women without expecting something in return. They did it expecting the women to provide them with children, sex, cooking, a home, emotional care, etc., at the same time, the benefits that come with the married status in society. Women are only now catching on and taking the transactionality of the contract more seriously.

2. Wrong! For every transaction, you are meant to pay the market value or at least the agreed price for the goods and services received. Stating that a man should take back whatever he wishes in the case of a divorce or breakup is going against common sense. The woman's time and labor during the relationship need to be adequately compensated.

Merry100:
Traditional Christian Vow (Outdated)

Bride
I, (Bride's Name), take you, (Groom's Name), to be my lawful husband,
to love you, honour you, obey you, and submit to you,
in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer,
for better, for worse, till death do us part,
according to God's holy ordinance;
and this is my solemn vow.

Groom
I, (Groom's Name), take you, (Bride's Name), to be my lawful wife,
to love you, honour you, and be faithful to you,
in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer,
for better, for worse, till death do us part,
according to God's holy ordinance;
and this is my solemn vow.

Suggested Christian Vow

Bride
I, (Bride's Name), take you, (Groom's Name), to be my lawful husband.

I vow to make our home a sanctuary of laughter, trust, and understanding,
where love, calmness, and care guide every word and action.

I promise to love you faithfully, honour you, cherish you, respect you, support you, and give you peace abundantly.

May our love never be broken by violence or infertility,
for these are the boundaries that keep our forever sacred.

This is my solemn vow.

Groom
I, (Groom's Name), take you, (Bride's Name), to be my lawful wife.

I vow to make our home a sanctuary of laughter, trust, and understanding,
where love and care guide every word and action.

I promise to love you faithfully, honour you, cherish you, support you and protect you in every season of life.

May our love never be broken by violence or infertility,
for these are the boundaries that keep our forever sacred.

This is my solemn vow.

So what happens if the husband becomes paralysed due to a mishap?

What happens if he lost his job and couldn't find any good ones?

What if infertility was discovered in the husband. Zero sperm count!

What happens if hot oil poured on the once beautiful face of the wife?


Your vows didn't account for these!
Are they impossible in Christian marriages!?

I just noticed I wrote infertility rather than infidelity.

Kobojunkie:
You have it twisted. Relationships have been transactional for the longest. Your ancestors did not provide for their women without expecting something in return. They did it expecting the women to provide them with children, sex, cooking, a home, emotional care, etc., at the same time, the benefits that come with the married status in society. Women are only now catching on and taking the transactionality of the contract more seriously.

2. Wrong! For every transaction, you are meant to pay the market value or at least the agreed price for the goods and services received. Stating that a man should take back whatever he wishes in the case of a divorce or breakup is going against common sense. The woman's time and labor during the relationship need to be adequately compensated.

Please what labor are we talking about here? Expatiate!

PerfectStranger:
➜Please what labor are we talking about here? Expatiate!

You are not aware that your wife and mother do labor in marriage?

Merry100:
Can you show me one real man who cries over gifts after a breakup? Only little boys think this way. When a relationship doesn't work out, secure men simply move on, because relationships are about connection, not transactions. That is why they walk away peacefully when the connection doesn't click or grow.

My brother, women are not dogs that you can cage with gifts. You better just get yourself a female bingo; with just treats, she would be following you up and down.

Even those real men offering to take women on several trips overseas, don't cage women. But you; just for a mere phone; you are already acting like means of survival. Personally, I just don't even allow guys to fund my trips when we travel together. I do this just to avoid any sense of sexual entitlement coming up.

There are 365 days in a year, some guys would go on two days dating in a year to an eatery with her lady and you would start feeling like means of survival.

All these real men this, real men that no longer works anymore, this is unsubmissive modern women ways of CONTROLLING men.
Men knows what to do when they see a woman who truly loves, reverence and submits to them, you as a women do not tell a man what he ought to do, afterall he is a leader in the relationship and ought to know the direction to stir it in according to his vision, the woman is there to help him in it and do all she can to bring it to fruition.

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