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Hello my Nairaland Folks and Pals. Im writing this with so much hurt and pain in my heart. Another girl I just met says she prefers we just be friends because she has a guy in her life but she wouldn’t mind coming around still.

Even the ones that says they don’t have a man, still rejects my advances of a relationship, rather still come to give me the cookie jar.

If I was younger, would be fun. But, at this age, I want real connection. Im not rich, but Im trying. I have some good days and bad. But, I believe I can take care of a serious partner. Its sad always getting tossed aside when you feel you have what it takes to be the main boyfriend.

Is there anyone else going through this? Is there anyway to change my status? I need help and advice pls
Pansophist


help for wider opinion please

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Do you go for girls that kind of have advantages over u?

Like richer than u or lets just say u are not richer than them

Or in appearance, they are attractive than you or you dont look better than them

You know what I mean?

Then i will advise you to date lower than yourself


There is a reason why u will see a handsome man and a ugly wife...

illicit:
Do you go for girls that kind of have advantages over u?

Like richer than u

Then i will advise you to date lower than yoirself

If the richer girls are rejecting my advances cos they feel im “less”. Why are you advising me to settle for less then?

They want you as a plan z

Look at yourself and change your ways

Keepamsafe:
If the richer girls are rejecting my advances cos they feel im “less”. Why are you advising me to settle for less then?

That's a very wonderful advice

Go for low class and be happy

Continue marking registers. One woman will settle for you.

Keepamsafe:
Hello my Nairaland Folks and Pals. Im writing this with so much hurt and pain in my heart. Another girl I just met says she prefers we just be friends because she has a guy in her life but she wouldn’t mind coming around still.

Even the ones that says they don’t have a man, still rejects my advances of a relationship, rather still come to give me the cookie jar.

If I was younger, would be fun. But, at this age, I want real connection. Im not rich, but Im trying. I have some good days and bad. But, I believe I can take care of a serious partner. Its sad always getting tossed aside when you feel you have what it takes to be the main boyfriend.

Is there anyone else going through this? Is there anyway to change my status? I need help and advice pls

Ok
Be my main boyfriend.
Since Daddyck, isn't available.

Build yurself first and focus less on girls belief me they will be come like bees looking for where to rest

Keepamsafe:
If the richer girls are rejecting my advances cos they feel im “less”. Why are you advising me to settle for less then?

You done believe in female hypergamy, someone finally told you the truth you are struggling to accept it…

Most men that wants to marry tends to date down

My advice: focus on building yourself, your confidence, and your life. Be intentional about who you spend your energy on, and don’t settle for “just anyone. Real connections take time, and the right person will appreciate your sincerity and effort.
When it happens, it will just click.

Just go and make money and leave the rest...na u go dey make them ur sidechick

At 34, you're still talking about girls.

This is exactly what some guys need presently.

Some ladies prefer open relationships without the emotional 'love' attachment. No drama.
They probably need you the doctor to cure ovulation horney issues when necessary.

Some may even be married.

But them no force you. Opt out if you're not cool with it.

disrespect, or defame them.
21. Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.
22. Don't ask Nairaland members

illicit:
Do you go for girls that kind of have advantages over u?

Like richer than u

Then i will advise you to date lower than yoirself

The lower ones are even worse... They'd turn him to a meal ticket

That's because you're poor. Make money and even married women would leave their husbands to be with you.

This I have seen.

lol. Better go do deliverance, I was once like you until God saved me from Bachelorhood

Women just like men do have fvck partner, they saw you as a fvck boy someone who is not man enough to protect them . Here's my advice for you avoid see finish and level up and upgrade your biz portfolio even if it's a well packaged side hustle. Stop appearing cheap infact start raising the bar for your choice of female friend

Date lower and carry yourself well… if a girl see any traits of a playboy in you,you’ll be a side partner

Why are you complaining? rejoice you dont know the drama you are dodging

I feel for you bro, this is so wrong, it feels as though you're asking girls of 18-22 years old out

That gender is confused, they really don't know what they want; you better don't let them mess with your mind, just do what makes you happy and move on with your life.

Of all worries of life na woman be your problem

Work on yourself and date someone you are ready to settle down with

You will be fine

Are you very smallish in nature?

Keepamsafe:
Hello my Nairaland Folks and Pals. Im writing this with so much hurt and pain in my heart. Another girl I just met says she prefers we just be friends because she has a guy in her life but she wouldn’t mind coming around still.

Even the ones that says they don’t have a man, still rejects my advances of a relationship, rather still come to give me the cookie jar.

If I was younger, would be fun. But, at this age, I want real connection. Im not rich, but Im trying. I have some good days and bad. But, I believe I can take care of a serious partner. Its sad always getting tossed aside when you feel you have what it takes to be the main boyfriend.

Is there anyone else going through this? Is there anyway to change my status? I need help and advice pls
Pansophist


help for wider opinion please

Simp!

He sounds worse than a lady whining.
What do you want to do with connection?

In social media , especially this forum and even offline, it has been agreed that women are useless and are only for intimacy . You are getting the intimacy , so what's the complain?

Men say it's women who crave for connection, serious relationship, companionship and marriage..
But in reality, they also have same cravings and feel unhappy when it doesn't work out for them.

You are in a very dangerous situation
Things is going to get bad as you aged
The solution I will give you is to continue to fire every cylinder until you get your love for now stop attaching emotion

You're too nice that's why. Girls don't like guys that take them serious, ignore them or make them jealous and see them flock around you. Very confused people

Everybody with wetin dey do them

As e dey do woman e dey for man

What a Time be alive I no know say e dey pain men when them side boyfriend them or use them as option c

Suddenly una no fit have a taste your medicine

I like this generation of women. They sabi mirror men back so when una dey side chick or baby mama zone women e dey sweet una so a time will come when women will flip the script on you

Wonderful

I thought there are plenty fishes in the river so when it's now time to look for the Mrs right there are no longer plenty fishes

No naija man ought to ve complaining of being the side dude,abi the fishes for river don finish?

Toscarel:
Why are you complaining? rejoice you dont know the drama you are dodging

Too bad for a 34yrs guy he's never seen as man just a s*x toy or a cucumber 🥒 to satisfy fantasies. Anyways he still get some luck, there are some mumu at the lower end of the ecosystem their is to pay bills without even touching bress

Na just ashawos u dey meet.

U go still meet the real girl wey don ready for relationship.

Dnt go for GenZs