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marlow1962:
Be graceful that you're alive, and alive to be with your parents till this moment. As long as man liveth, everything will be okay one day.

Alusiizizi:
You know, platitude always rolls off well on paper. Unfortunately, platitude doesn't work anywhere else but on paper. It takes years of hard work, angst, toil and repeated trials/failures to get the wisdom that is supposed to come with age. At the age of 48 it is already too late.

Let me give you an example:

Academic:
Your goal is to obtain a Ph.D. You spent 10 years failing classes of a first certificate, somehow, managing to obtain such. Your masters degree was even more challenging and you eventually are not able to complete it. At this point, you are about 36 years. You lie fallow for another 12 years or so and one beautiful morning you wake up and decide that you are going to complete that Ph.D that you so longed for. Your platitude will have you believing that this is a rational pursuit(i.e. "nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it", "it is never too late to succeed, grow wisdom, whatever, whatever". While such words of encouragement might sound good to the ear, the decision to pursue a Ph.D at 48 with no fortification that you should have developed in your younger and more able years is nothing more than a foolishness.

Business:
You start a business at say, 21 years of age. Business is going well and you are determined to be a billionaire by the time you hit 40. The secrets to success is really quite accessible but most guys lack the discipline to do what is necessary. You should be saving up your money and building more businesses but instead you burn any money that you make on beer and ashawo, investing ridiculous sums of money on used evening newspapers while your destiny slowly disappears in front of you. Come to 27 years later, you are now 48, the business that you started when you were 21 is not doing so well anymore, and because you were tending to ashawo and beer instead of building new businesses and connections that will help you along the line, you find yourself trapped. One beautiful morning you wake up, and decide that you want to achieve that old dream of becoming a billionaire. Your platitude will have you believing that this is a rational pursuit(i.e. "nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it", "it is never too late to succeed, grow wisdom, whatever, whatever". While such words of encouragement might sound good to the ear, the only thing that is real is the trap that you find yourself in. The time that you should have used to build the foundations that will help you to achieve your billionaire dreams has passed and (save for winning naija-bet or some such) you will never touch 1 billion Naira in the remainder of your life.

Summary:
Platitude, like tales by the moon-light is always comforting to listen to, but believe them at your own risk.

Obiedun:
Nairalanders, over to you. Please assist him. But for the spiritual matter, if you are a Christian, look for a true delivance minister and if you are a Muslim a true alfa. But the truth of the matter is that it's not easy to see a true minister of God. That doesn't mean we don't have.

Pootle:
you ask am question like say you go help am, chai nl ppl urna no well o

Obiedun:
I never said I would help. What I meant was that people will help. I have heard of people who has breakthrough as a result of what they heard or learnt from nairaland. I am also struggling and praying to God. I have not got there yet but I don't lose hope. Give him advice if you have any.

Obiedun:
To some extent you are right but to say it's too late is what I will not buy. He may actually not get to where he would have gone to if he has started earlier but at least he can still achieve something if he begins now. If you are saying this, he will just get discouraged and get white beard in his father's house and eventually finish everything. It's late but not too late. Let him start from somewhere after all it will be said he makes some attempts.

Ibtxxo:
No hope or road in front.
Just living for living sake

Kobojunkie:
What made you have to move back in with your parents? 🥱🥱

grandstar:
Are you sure your parents aren't the problem?

Your parents may like you at home and may not be doing enough to push you out.

They may seem caring, or worried but may still not be doing enough to get you out.

There was a story in the Bible. It was a king who was asked to shoot many arrows. Each shot arrow meant a defeat of an any nation. The king shot only 3 arrows. This annoyed the prophet with who said he should have shot like 6 arrows to ensure the complete very over the enemy nation.

Your parents may shoot 3 arrows and not 6. Enough arrows to seem that are doing something but not enough to ensure victory for you.

Have you brought a lady home before? Do you currently have a fiance? Do they know anything about your romance life?

Or do they urge you to wait until you're financially secure? You don't have to be financially secure before you have someone at your age.

Please respond. I will know what to say from there

Ibtxxo:
HND.
I can drive.
They say my problem is spiritual.
I need to cleanse my self.
If not nothing will work

Educationalserv:
check the Uber topic on nairaland you can earn 500k


No car

Ibtxxo:
I was living alone.
No.job.
Rent house , I have to go back.
All the job i see is nothing.
Transport will eat.
Was doing 70k job before.
My tp to and from everday 1500.
I quit because it was not worth it

Ibtxxo:
No hope or road in front.
Just living for living sake

Ibtxxo:
✓ My parents especially the one called mother killed my confidence as a child.
When i was a kid , I had discoloured yellow teeth.
She mocked me with it.
She will tell me my mouth use to smell.
This made me not to mingle with people as a child for fear of being called smelling mouth.
I was like this growing up.
I mostly stay indoors .
They mess upy life

Ibtxxo:
My parents especially the one called mother killed my confidence as a child.
When i was a kid , I had discoloured yellow teeth.
She mocked me with it.
She will tell me my mouth use to smell.
This made me not to mingle with people as a child for fear of being called smelling mouth.
I was like this growing up.
I mostly stay indoors .
They mess upy life

RealityKings1:
It's here in Nigeria you think staying in your parents house is backwardness. Indians stay longer in their parents house mostly as a sense of mutual support and obligation.

Don't pressure yourself too much. If you want to move out, save towards it.

Ibtxxo:
No hope or road in front.
Just living for living sake

BigYash:
➜At that age you say staying in his parents hux is not backwardness? Guy be honest for once..
➜ What if the parents, accepted that their problem is spiritual,and relax in their parents hux,will op have a place to stay now?
➜ Have you asked him if he learnt a skill,looked for job and money started vanishing from his savings?
➜ Op if you dey drink and womanize it will be hard for you. It's a new year.. try use this year learn one good paying skill. Get jobs and things will start changing from there.
➜ Don't stay doing nothing, cux they said it's spiritual. That mindset is the problem you are having. Take that shit off your mind and launch

Sonnobax15:
this is where the problem lies......

Once a man begins to believe his problems and misfortunes are spiritual,I just shake my head....

That's how people used to tell me about two years ago......But today now,even tho I'm not where I ought to be but at least I'm doing far better than what I used to be,even without doing any so-called spiritual cleansing or whatsoever

Bro,your problem is simply comfort...... You're just too comfortable and you feel like going out there to sort your life ain't worth it,after all,you have got parents who're Willing to provide all your basic needs for you..

Nothing spiritual here,na just mental illness dey worry you.

Ibtxxo:
No hope or road in front.
Just living for living sake

Ibtxxo:
HND.
I can drive.
They say my problem is spiritual.
I need to cleanse my self.
If not nothing will work

mayhead:
➜As long as you have a mentality your problem is spiritual, you’d always have a problem, you’d always find why you look for and you can never find something when they say it’s spiritual, so therefore, you’d spend all the years finding something that never was the problem

Alusiizizi:
You know, platitude always rolls off well on paper. Unfortunately, platitude doesn't work anywhere else but on paper. It takes years of hard work, angst, toil and repeated trials/failures to get the wisdom that is supposed to come with age. At the age of 48 it is already too late.

Let me give you an example:

Academic:
Your goal is to obtain a Ph.D. You spent 10 years failing class after class of a first certificate, eventually, somehow, managing to obtain such. Your masters degree was even more challenging and you eventually are not able to complete it. At this point, you are about 36 years. You lie fallow for another 12 years or so and one beautiful morning you wake up and decide that you are going to complete that Ph.D that you so longed for. Your platitude will have you believing that this is a rational pursuit(i.e. "nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it", "it is never too late to succeed, grow wisdom, whatever, whatever". While such words of encouragement might sound good to the ear, the decision to pursue a Ph.D at 48 with no fortification that you should have developed in your younger and more able years is nothing more than a foolishness.

Business:
You start a business at say, 21 years of age. Business is going well and you are determined to be a billionaire by the time you hit 40. The secrets to success is really quite accessible but most guys lack the discipline to do what is necessary. You should be saving up your money and building more businesses but instead you burn any money that you make on beer and ashawo, investing ridiculous sums of money on used evening newspapers while your destiny slowly disappears in front of you. Come to 27 years later, you are now 48, the business that you started when you were 21 is not doing so well anymore, and because you were tending to ashawo and beer instead of building new businesses and connections that will help you along the line, you find yourself trapped. One beautiful morning you wake up, and decide that you want to achieve that old dream of becoming a billionaire. Your platitude will have you believing that this is a rational pursuit(i.e. "nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it", "it is never too late to succeed, grow wisdom, whatever, whatever". While such words of encouragement might sound good to the ear, the only thing that is real is the trap that you find yourself in. The time that you should have used to build the foundations that will help you to achieve your billionaire dreams has passed and (save for winning naija-bet or some such) you will never touch 1 billion Naira in the remainder of your life.

Summary:
Platitude, like tales by the moon-light is always comforting to listen to, but believe them at your own risk.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to him! There is nothing spiritual about a downturn. 🥱🥱🥱