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QuinQQ:
I don't know what the heck you're talking about.
Women get lots of attention when younger and as they get old the attention goes away.
What's your obsession about marriage in that??

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
II like that word "Trap"

QuinQQ:
You people are not taking into account the social disadvantages of being a single old woman. An old woman whose husband has neither abandoned nor beating, you're advising her to leave her marriage! Leave it into what exactly?

Sexyrosey:
Instead of trying to step on someone who is down, why not try empathy? some words of encouragement or simply look away

advanceDNA:
If I ask you now...when was the last time you were all over your spouse? Initiate a surprise outing,? When was the last time you seduced your partner....?? Make your spouse feel desired...?? When was the last time u got home first and sent ur spouse a message that made him rush home to be with you...

The thing is y'all like one sided effort.....y'all expect the other person to keep the spark alive.....it's always the responsibility of the other person.....not me....

If u ask them too....they probably have the same complain as you......

Life happens....pple have to go to work and get tired when the day is over....if y'all are not deliberatelyx intentional with investing in your relationship.....the spark will just fizzle out.....

Ibkay32:
I’m a single guy, and there are days the loneliness hits me deeper than I expect. Sometimes it feels heavy, like something is missing. There are moments I just wish I had someone to talk to someone who would listen, understand, and remind me that I’m not alone but 🥲

kiddaz:
I just tire for them. Anyways I'm not surprised at all as k0b0-wtv has always been against happiness in marriage. I only meant for her to shift focus from seeking validation from her loveless marriage and partner who is emotionally absent to herself. Her own emotional, mental and physical well-being. She never said her man was abusive but negligent and emotionally absent and from her comments he doesn't seem to want to be fixed. So she should nurture her own emotions, pursue her passion without any inhibition or fears and also accept she's not responsible for fixing what's broken if the other person isn't willing to work things out for good. Of she has kids all the better. Extend that love towards them and let them inspire her. This is real self love and when she treats herself this good who knows, it might rub off on him and create a reset or not. Anyways it's a win for her. There's nothing outside but more pains, regret and rejections but a lot of today's women are just too ignorant of the truth only to find out when it's already too late. Then they blame all but themselves for making and taking wrong permanent decisions over a temporary situation.

Dtruthspeaker:
Marriage is the end product of all that attention. Now if she is married and she lost that attention, then married people know to ask her what did she do? And we already know all the things she did.

Then, for the op, every fair married person will tell you that the op is not married but wants to marry and is looking for one seempul man that will fall for her trap

QuinQQ:
You keep saying she's not married. How do you know? See below

Dtruthspeaker:
Your screenshot has proven me right. No married woman ever says that

Kobojunkie:
Just so you know, loving yourself means being honest with yourself. This honesty may lead to you leaving that marriage, which you think you need. Are you ready to begin now, loving yourself —centering yourself —above all else? 🥱🥱

QuinQQ:
Something is wrong with you. Check out her profile and her responses on this thread.
That's her very first post on Nairaland since registering her account in April 2024

Love800:
Don't you have hobbies!

Decentralise your woman's love and spread it to other things you enjoy doing. I can never be lonely when books are around me.

kiddaz:
I just tire for them. Anyways I'm not surprised at all as k0b0-wtv has always been against happiness in marriage. I only meant for her to shift focus from seeking validation from her loveless marriage and partner who is emotionally absent to herself. Her own emotional, mental and physical well-being. She never said her man was abusive but negligent and emotionally absent and from her comments he doesn't seem to want to be fixed. So she should nurture her own emotions, pursue her passion without any inhibition or fears and also accept she's not responsible for fixing what's broken if the other person isn't willing to work things out for good. Of she has kids all the better. Extend that love towards them and let them inspire her. This is real self love and when she treats herself this good who knows, it might rub off on him and create a reset or not. Anyways it's a win for her. There's nothing outside but more pains, regret and rejections but a lot of today's women are just too ignorant of the truth only to find out when it's already too late. Then they blame all but themselves for making and taking wrong permanent decisions over a temporary situation.

Sexyrosey:
I really appreciate this post, my husband is not abusive towards me, he provides and to a large extent I can say he is a good person and a good father, but a terrible husband( emotionally unavailable and a “traditional man” ) who believes that the only thing is owes his wife is food and shelter.

My marriage is 8 years, and I must say, and my children are still small so I'm stuck with them most of my free time. And to make the whole matter worse we relocated to a new state, away from all my friends and family.

I just needed to vent, in hope that I will feel better afterwards

kiddaz:
I do understand what you are going through and trust me there is nothing wrong with you expressing it out. It's a million times better than holding it all in. And I know kids who are still little can be a handful to manage with all the emotional stress you are getting too. I wish I could show you how to be at ease with it all but.... Being traditional doesn't mean neglect of spouse though but I do get you. You will feel better afterwards. You know what? Make it a point to feel better. You owe that to yourself and your kids. Be intentional about feeling great, it works and try to focus on the good even when it's hard cos some things are missing. There are ways about these things though. I wish you all the happiness you can and cannot handle

Dtruthspeaker:
Do you not know women Lie a lot?

She's been here since 2024 and it is now, 2yrs after that she is claiming married. And yet, any sharp person will see that she is not.

Even the name tells you.
The signs are all there.

But, if you want to go and comfort her and play knight in shining armour while she sings your praise, telling you how wonderful you are and how she would have died if you did not come along as she throws herself dangerously (seemingly) into your eager waiting happy arms and body and soul. As she makes you feel that you are the bestest man in the whole universe; in fact she would make you feel that you are better than God as she worships and adores you.

So, please go ahead and enjoy all these pleasures you can see waiting for you, Mr lover. In your great hunger to love a woman, you have become desperate that at this slightest invitation of love, you have gone skipping into a very terrible world called ', love is blind"

Whereas, Love is not blind but love uses its eyes and ears and thinks and searches to uncover secrets , secrets which have been disclosed by elders and others who have been in such situations.

However, you ou are free not to listen to my warning that it is a set up a very old one for that matter. But it always works and it is only now that men are real eyesing that it is a set up.

But, who shall stop a young man from falling into "love"?

Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment," Mark Twain

So, i guess you have to experience, i pray that it is not the most horrible one you get turning to another story we would read and another young man will still not listen to, and the circle continues.
Well, i love reading what happens to people

QuinQQ:
Something is seriously wrong with you. Someone who never comments on NL was finally pushed to comment due to an issue that touched her heart, then she created a thread about same issue. And u say it's all fake. R u ok sir?

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

Felimax:
I only relate it from the angle that she is married. That is my crux in what she posted.

Dtruthspeaker:
No problem

Sexyrosey:
Are you sure you are not the OP? Because you seem very invested in refreshing the post 😂.

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

Sexyrosey:
✓ Yes, I understand. Even though it’s not easy to put yourself first in an “African marriage” settings, a marriage where the success and failure of a marriage rest solely on the woman especially when children are involved. But I will try.

Dtruthspeaker:
Lover boy, go, answer her vall and give her your love. You will see whether it is me who shall cry in regret. And you will remember me

Hmmm! It looks like you and the op are the same person. We'll see anyway

Sexyrosey:
Are you sure you are not the OP? Because you seem very invested in refreshing the post 😂.