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ayoncox:
Go register in a gym and also join an organisation into charitable activities it will sort out your issues

lebete3000:
You no be better pesin aje

JooEeL:
That idiom "experience is the best teacher" slaps so hard when a woman hands u that experience.

Ur mumu with love go end finally. Seeing simps in love to annoy u

Solofresh2:
The issue with you women is that when the finally does these things, you will take it for granted and in the process pushing him away

grandstar:
If a man is cheating, he can forget his wife.

Some men take the wife for granted because she is his. The same can also happen to the woman.

She might put on a lot of weight. She might even have a potbelly. She dresses sloppily, tying wrapper most days. She doesn't go the extra mile to cook him something special. The spark could go out.

It is same for the man. Her loneliness may truly be real.

Merry100:
This kind of thinking is narcissistic. It is like saying, "You can't have a headache because I don't," or "That is the same bank I use, so your experience can't be true." Different people can experience the same situation differently; and both can be valid.

Some people would rather protect a familiar narrative than listen to uncomfortable truths. As a result, a lot of pain goes unheard and unacknowledged. It is troubling how easily people dismiss others' experiences. Invalidating someone's feelings simply because they don't align with your beliefs is not logic; it is a lack of empathy. Pain does not need permission to exist.

Marriage does not guarantee affection, presence, or emotional fulfillment. Many people are married and deeply lonely. Some couples are not deeply connected; they are merely coexisting. Walk into the streets and ask married women the last time their husbands said "I love you," showed affection, or made intentional romantic effort. You would understand that many carry unspoken feelings.

There are times in relationships when a partner is physically present but emotionally unavailable. Some people stop investing once the relationship feels secure. This is why time matters, long-term relationships often reveal the true quality of connection.

UnknownQueen:
You're right Kobo, and it's the reason why I've decided to go this route...

I'm ready to bear whatever consequences come with it....

After all I'm presently eating and drinking this consequence, nothing scares me again.

Sexyrosey:
. You’re right, and that’s the painful truth most people don’t want to admit.
It’s easier to complain than to reflect.
Easier to feel entitled to love than to actively give it. But that’s not always the case, some of us are just unfortunate to end up with spouses whose emotional side is non existent no matter what you do.

Tenrack:
swear down bro. There was a time I thought I could find a girl that would love and cherish me the way I do her. Omo the kind pipe dream wey e be ehn. Lmao. Na only fools dey expect that kind of love from a woman that's not your mother.


Only jokers would expect women to "love" dem unconditionally. Today's females have PHD in self and their family first. No woman is ready to ride or die with you without conditions attached. I don't even blame them anymore it's their second nature. 😂😂 These days na laugh I dey laugh simps when I see dem dey do lovey dovey.

UnknownQueen:
I'm trying to explore but with caution....

justloo:
@Sammiewrite you decided to miss the point completely. Marriage is companionship FIRST. You complement each other.

Providing and procreation are secondary considerations (Reason why women fall out of love with their rich husbands despite all the trappings and provisions)

Perhaps you may want to read what she wrote again, this time with more emotional intelligence to interrogate why and how someone can be in a marriage and yet feel lonely.

A little bit of empathy helps

Sexyrosey:
I do have hobbies, and my job is quite demanding as well, and I've long decentered my husband focusing on building myself but truth be told, I still long for my partners love and attention and I still wish things turned out differently

Felimax:
I can relate! I know the depths of what you are saying.
Trust me, you can work it out and still awesomely desirable.

You can still get all the spice you want you only may not need to increase your body count any longer.

Break free from those shackles and redefine what love may be to you in marriage. You can unlearn and relearn.

Uchesis:
Or maybe he should get a little puppy dog. Man's best friend

aswani:
Kobojunkie is never right, please don't let her catching you at a low ebb influence you.

She is one of those that gives advice, based on her own warped experience of life. Nothing she says will work out well because it is very different from the battle you are fighting and she hasn't taken that into account for her own (perverse) reasons.

JoeEeL:
Then why waste money on a wedding? Why keep funding d home when ure just a mere appendage?

So a man will spend so much to raise a family only to be neglected and now becomena bookworm. Mtcheew. If u even said find a 2nd wife, I for talk say u make sense

opeldavid:
What are you actually trying to say?

JooEeL:
E dey pain me say love no deh o. E deh really pain me cos na something weh be say I wish e deh but if e nor deh, e nor deh be that

UnknownQueen:
I'm trying to explore but with caution....

Tenrack:
my dear. Explore as much as possible jare. When you get the repercussions please don't forget to update us. Thank you deer.

Ishilove:
Be exploring rubbish. You didn't see something positive to explore. It is sexual depravity that you want to explore.

Doh o.

Tenrack:
my dear. Explore as much as possible jare. When you get the repercussions please don't forget to update us. Thank you deer.

Sexyrosey:
Yeah, typical.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work the way it sounds in your head, no matter how good it feels in theory.

QuinQQ:
Well said, but you missed this part of what she said:
(I'm) Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

advanceDNA:
Lol….. show me what exactly she did from what she wrote…..baba… thats how pple that do next to nothing sound.. Vague!!!
She ddnt say anything specific about how she poured love into the relationship and thats why i was specific with those question…and her response to me was still vague..

If there’s only one thing ive come to know about that gender is that they overestimate their worth in your life.… ordinary to visit you Is seen as huge favour for many of them as they expect you repay by paying their transport to and fro..

They will say they suffered with you & made you who u are when the real picture is she ddnt really have any planB and all the while during ur struggling days you were using your small salary to take care of them and pay all the bills & rent alone….buy land alone, build house alone..etc..

Is it not the same gender that will visit you and be giving you green light with, “i will soon be going oooo”


Baba.. many of them are used to expecting men to keep the spark alive from dating stage…because they already believe they are doing you greater favour by agreeing to date you or have consensual sex…

if u want to find out just how little women do to keep the romantic spark alive...do a survey here and you will hear what most men will say… only few guys will tell you their wives or babe make the first romantic, nice gestures regularly…..they believe sex is ultimate, which they never see as mutual and thats why you will hear them talk about sex as something they “give” you

Caaz:
Ogbeni Allow the woman to be...na she dey wear the shoes.

UnknownQueen:
Nobody updates their repercussions online....
(Pure common sense)..
But I already told u I'll bear whatever consequences comes with it....

Tenrack:
No oh. You have to update us here. Because you informed us about the decision. So it is only fair. You see? 👀

UnknownQueen:
Rest my child, for I will not update you with it, what can you do?

QuinQQ:
Yes I'm Sexyrosey. I confess. Didn't know it'd be so easy to detect it despite all my coverup.
Everybody, we have a real genius here. Clap for him!