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Just finished having another truth to truth talk with wife and now i can see where many things go wrong in marriage.

The first thing being that marriage itself is full of painful surprises you will hate as a man and the bad thing is that those who married earlier than you do not really say this. All of them are just trying to endure and bear them. Me, i hate pain and endurance and the bad thing about marriage endurance is that it is forever compared to the regular endurances we bear eg enduring till salary is paid or enduring shi* from your boss until your work plans work out. So you always know that all these endurances have expiry dates and after that you are free.

But, this is not the same for marriage, you have to endure until death.

As i said earlier, i just finished having an heart to heart talk and now, i say that if you have a toy less than 5inches, don't bother marrying, because when kids come, you aint gonna satisfy your wife no more.

The pulolo gets deeper and where before, your virgin wife used to say that she did not like long things and was satisfied with your small thing, now she needs the loong . And She needs it like agbero needs igboh.

And every day she does not have it, it gets worse and worse. And it gets so bad that if she hear the word loong thing, her head don scatter be dat.

And that is one of the reasons why married woman are very very easy to sleep with.

And let us not forget the truth which is that she is very very tired of your egusi to the point that when you are touching and doing her, the truth is that you yourself know that you are boring and it is not working and that your power over her has expired.

So she is just lying there playing the obedient wife, enduring and praying that you finish quick and leave her alone, to continue her struggle and endurance of how she can live with the hunger of long things or at least if she could have a fresh ogbonno soup, life would be good for her.

Now, i understand why some wives cheat and yet their marriages continue . It all comes down to understanding.

Wish the elders had said these truths, then I would not have married for satisfaction is koko of marriage. And any party not satisfied in the marriage, has a right to get satisfaction elsewhere hence why husbands have side chicks to satisfy their egos and expiration and why wives must cheat.

Men, those who married before us una no try at all.

I cannot relate. You mean you took your time to write this? So what are you insinuating? Make we nor marry? Abi make we go do surgery make the gbola big? Find your own priorities and stop this nonsense

Wealthyonos:
I cannot relate. You mean you took your time to write this? So what are you insinuating? Make we nor marry? Abi make we go do surgery make the gbola big? Find your own priorities and stop this nonsense

At least you now know what to expect in marriage

If i had known all these, at least one or two plans would have been made before i marry but now, am in pains looking at how and why my wife has to go get satisfaction

Citroen19digit:
At least you now know what to expect in marriage

If i had known all these, at least one or two plans would have been made before i marry but now, am in pains looking at how and why my wife has to go get satisfaction

If she is not satisfied, insert your full hand.

So your wife is cheating?

YoungBlackRico:
So your wife is cheating?

Not yet. But i see her dissatisfaction and struggle

To wealthyonos.

I don't know why they are banning my replies

Even if i put leg, she cannot be satisfied by me. We can not feel it, she needs 2 things,

1) a different man with his different thing and spirit.

And

2) a long thing.

Now, for number 1) i now see what happens to married women and why we men really love to have meet them.

Now, i know that it is because they are very very hungry for any man. Every man that is not their husband is very sweet and exciting whether he has a small thing or not.

And so they must enjoy him and he too must enjoy her because the whole package and experience is very new and electrifying.

And that is why there is always a strong attraction for married women.

And if the guy has a long one, then number 1 and 2 is automatically fulfilled .

Then, say bye bye to your wife because she must fall in love with him for he is her true first. She cannot help it, she just must.

That is why you see girls did not really answer in the thread https://www.nairaland.com/8592186/girl-ever-truly-forget-guy whether they never forget the guy who disvirgined them on the thread

Now, i know as i have been suspecting all along, It is not about who disvirgined her but about who gbenshed her till she scattered in love for him. That is the true first boyfriend they can never forget

So, here is a bad side for marrying a virgin, for there is no rest until she goes through all these experiences.

So, brother, i have to face it, i have expired in her hand like a battery. I can no longer start her engine again.

As, i told her, now I understand why husbands cheat. I believe this is what happens to them.

If only married men had spoken, i would have preferred not to marry or at least marry with a plan

Citroen19digit:
To wealthyonos.

I don't know why they are banning my replies

Even if i put leg, she cannot be satisfied by me. We can not feel it, she needs 2 things,

1) a different man with his different thing and spirit.

And

2) a long thing.

Now, for number 1) i now see what happens to married women and why we men really love to have meet them.

Now, i know that it is because they are very very hungry for any man. Every man that is not their husband is very sweet and exciting whether he has a small thing or not.

And so they must enjoy him and he too must enjoy her because the whole package and experience is very new and electrifying.

And that is why there is always a strong attraction for married women.

And if the guy has a long one, then number 1 and 2 is automatically fulfilled .

Then, say bye bye to your wife because she must fall in love with him for he is her true first. She cannot help it, she just must.

That is why you see girls did not really answer in the thread https://www.nairaland.com/8592186/girl-ever-truly-forget-guy whether they never forget the guy who disvirgined them on the thread

Now, i know as i have been suspecting all along, It is not about who disvirgined her but about who gbenshed her till she scattered in love for him. That is the true first boyfriend they can never forget

So, here is a bad side for marrying a virgin, for there is no rest until she goes through all these experiences.

So, brother, i have to face it, i have expired in her hand like a battery. I can no longer start her engine again.

As, i told her, now I understand why husbands cheat. I believe this is what happens to them.

If only married men had spoken, i would have preferred not to marry or at least marry with a plan

Guy, you dey observe oo, are you an astronomer?

There is a saying when you have a taste of sin, u want more of it

Cheating can never be the solution to that marriage, the day any of you kukere outside, that marriage is over, because you will crave for more, more and more and yet still feel empty

Try and cure your spouse conji, no other way

Wealthyonos:
I cannot relate.

If you cannot relate then leave the thread naa. You don't need to type nonsense just to comment.

This is a fallacy of hasty generalisation.🥱

I knew I was lucky with that my ex wey no like too much sex.

I go dull, another man don carry the treasure.

Atleast, one won't be having infidelity issues to battle with.
And no pressure to outperform yourself.

A lot of WRONG assumptions in this article.

Your d1ck could be the size of Burj Khalifa and it WON'T stop your wife/gf from cheating on you with a man with 5 inches.

WEALTH is also NOT enough to guarantee the faithfulness of ANY woman.
We have heard COUNTLESS stories of the wives of rich men FORKING the driver or gateman.

Also, you do NOT need to endure pain forever.
IF you feel UNHAPPY in your marriage, get a DIVORCE.

You do NOT have to wait until your wife brings home a BARSTHERD for you to raise.

Lastly, you need to understand that there is NO WAY to be sure of the fidelity of ANY woman.

You CANNOT control what she does with her vagina.

The ONLY thing you can control is YOUR actions after she does something you do NOT like with it.

Citroen19digit:
To wealthyonos.

I don't know why they are banning my replies

Even if i put leg, she cannot be satisfied by me. We can not feel it, she needs 2 things,

1) a different man with his different thing and spirit.

And

2) a long thing.

Now, for number 1) i now see what happens to married women and why we men really love to have meet them.



And so they must enjoy him and he too must enjoy her because the whole package and experience is very new and electrifying.

And that is why there is always a strong attraction for married women.

And if the guy has a long one, then number 1 and 2 is automatically fulfilled .

Then, say bye bye to your wife because she must fall in love with him for he is her true first. She cannot help it, she just must.


If only married men had spoken, i would have preferred not to marry or at least marry with a plan

Nawa ooo. The woman in this article is gone for good. I can't please her, I won't even bother to try.

Bro I learnt so much from your write up. Now I understand why so many confession site are flooded with married women cheating.

Wealthyonos:
Nawa ooo. The woman in this article is gone for good. I can't please her, I won't even bother to try.

My feelings precisely.

Dtruthspeaker:
Guy, you dey observe oo, are you an astronomer?

When i saw the way I was attracted to married women and they were attracted to me, i knew there was a problem for i knew that my thing is small yet these married women with their xray eyes were still trying to magnet me. So, I never wanted to marry till the wife came with her virginity and I thought my virginity plan was problem proof...

Until after the kids were born and then all the signs i saw in those married women started coming out on her. And now, the thing i feared and hated the most has finally started coming out

JapaToDNext:
There is a saying when you have a taste of sin, u want more of it

Cheating can never be the solution to that marriage, the day any of you kukere outside, that marriage is over, because you will crave for more, more and more and yet still feel empty

Try and cure your spouse conji, no other way

This is where the lies in marriage start for those married earlier make it seem like once you are married you are immune to cheating and that everyone who cheats, is just an irresponsible person

My wife thought so, but I was sceptical about it as i have watched many responsible persons both males and females conduct themselves faithfully in their marriage till it happened.

But they never tell us how or why it happened. I can see that even the cheatee does not know how it happened. Nevertheless, one or two signs were there.

And somehow, those marriages continue.

In all truth, if she goes satisfying herself i think it is justified cheating for in truth as we men have said, if it was us who was unsatisfied nothing will stop us from going outside. And we expect to come back and our marriage continue

So, i feel that in truth she should go have her fill and that the marriage should not break because of it.

It's just that I am just seeing and learning why it must break because there is no way that she can come back after meeting a guy Bryon. And she loves big, tall guys like him. I actually told her that I noticed that she shakes when big fine guys come near her when she was a virgin but she dismissed it. So, its quite painful to see that i was right after all now that obviously she can now take big things

Omo , I need to follow this topic. 😁

This is actually pretty interesting; I’m definitely picking up a lot from your experience. So, what’s the move now? Are you just going to let her get away with cheating and try to justify it, or are you planning to level up your game to see if you can reignite that spark?

I don get new spec now. If the babe like sex pass everything, na red flag be that o. 😂

LIVINGICONREBOR:
This is a fallacy of hasty generalisation.🥱

How?
For you to say this it means you too knew of these things.

Citroen19digit:
Just finished having another truth to truth talk with wife and now i can see where many things go wrong in marriage.

The first thing being that marriage itself is full of painful surprises you will hate as a man and the bad thing is that those who married earlier than you do not really say this. All of them are just trying to endure and bear them. Me, i hate pain and endurance and the bad thing about marriage endurance is that it is forever compared to the regular endurances we bear eg enduring till salary is paid or enduring shi* from your boss until your work plans work out. So you always know that all these endurances have expiry dates and after that you are free.

But, this is not the same for marriage, you have to endure until death.

As i said earlier, i just finished having an heart to heart talk and now, i say that if you have a toy less than 5inches, don't bother marrying, because when kids come, you aint gonna satisfy your wife no more.

The pulolo gets deeper and where before, your virgin wife used to say that she did not like long things and was satisfied with your small thing, now she needs the loong . And She needs it like agbero needs igboh.

And every day she does not have it, it gets worse and worse. And it gets so bad that if she hear the word loong thing, her head don scatter be dat.

And that is one of the reasons why married woman are very very easy to sleep with.

And let us not forget the truth which is that she is very very tired of your egusi to the point that when you are touching and doing her, the truth is that you yourself know that you are boring and it is not working and that your power over her has expired.

So she is just lying there playing the obedient wife, enduring and praying that you finish quick and leave her alone, to continue her struggle and endurance of how she can live with the hunger of long things or at least if she could have a fresh ogbonno soup, life would be good for her.

Now, i understand why some wives cheat and yet their marriages continue . It all comes down to understanding.

Wish the elders had said these truths, then I would not have married for satisfaction is koko of marriage. And any party not satisfied in the marriage, has a right to get satisfaction elsewhere hence why husbands have side chicks to satisfy their egos and expiration and why wives must cheat.

Men, those who married before us una no try at all.

You are the first man to say the truth about this stuff. I've spend almost twenty years on the internet reading all marital problems and no one has ever confessed to how big their wife gets after childbirth. So kudos to you.

But like all things, there's actually a solution. You can advice your wife to do kegel. It's a simple exercise where she squeeze her hole repeatedly. Maybe two hundred reps and above. It tightens women up very well.

Namaster:
A lot of WRONG assumptions in this article.

Your d1ck could be the size of Burj Khalifa and it WON'T stop your wife/gf from cheating on you with a man with 5 inches.

WEALTH is also NOT enough to guarantee the faithfulness of ANY woman.
We have heard COUNTLESS stories of the wives of rich men FORKING the driver or gateman.

Also, you do NOT need to endure pain forever.
IF you feel UNHAPPY in your marriage, get a DIVORCE.

You do NOT have to wait until your wife brings home a BARSTHERD for you to raise.

Lastly, you need to understand that there is NO WAY to be sure of the fidelity of ANY woman.

You CANNOT control what she does with her vagina.

The ONLY thing you can control is YOUR actions after she does something you do NOT like with it.

I agree but if you watched how the thing rolled out and you can see that she truly was innocent in them all it feels like divorcing her would be wrong exactly how we men go out and return and the marriage still continues

Cum4me:
Bro I learnt so much from your write up. Now I understand why so many confession site are flooded with married women cheating.

Yeah! That shii bothered me since the first time i read it in ebony, hints and better lover magazines only for me to see it happen in my neighbourhood and that even i was going to be one of the guys who was going to lay with a married woman. So, i already decided I was not going to marry only to meet a virgin and I thought the outcome would be different. And now, she is heading to be like the women i ran from.

No one reported how the changes occurs they just say and he/she changed.

SpencerForbes:
This is actually pretty interesting; I’m definitely picking up a lot from your experience. So, what’s the move now? Are you just going to let her get away with cheating and try to justify it, or are you planning to level up your game to see if you can reignite that spark?

I don get new spec now. If the babe like sex pass everything, na red flag be that o. 😂

You know, men always feel that they have a situation where cheating is justified and looking at all the scenarios of a woman's own it appears she had none.

But I always had a feeling that she too has one and i think i once saw a woman get it, (i saw one case here years ago were one or two guys were arguing that she was justified but i was still thinking on it)

So, now it is a new area for me and do I do not have any plan on it

And you know, as men too have confessed that they are tired of eating only egusi, clearly, i am seeing that she too is tired of me. And one of my pains is that i have been suspecting this since i read about women cheating. I kept saying in my mind that they do this because they too are tired of their men. But the stories always point it to the other areas.

And not even one wife has said it.

So, there is no move i can make to spark her plugs again. I am dead and expired.

Now every other man is better than me. If any guy goes near her, sparks start flying, and you we all have experienced it too, but I have always wondered what caused it. Now i know that it is the same i don't want to eat only egusi

SenecaTheYonger:
You are the first man to say the truth about this stuff. I've spend almost twenty years on the internet reading all marital problems and no one has ever confessed to how big their wife gets after childbirth. So kudos to you.

But like all things, there's actually a solution. You can advice your wife to do kegel. It's a simple exercise where she squeeze her hole repeatedly. Maybe two hundred reps and above. It tightens women up very well.

Most prostitutes do this every day, it's why they're able to land a husband quickly, even after their insane body count. That's why you cannot convince some men that their wives used to do hookup.

That is why I am speaking for i was suspecting it . For check it, most cheating starts after child birth, but they always bend it to one issue or the other and so, i could not investigate the issue.

Now my wife wife was nicely put back together, (the male doctor who birthed my first child happily told me so himself and of course i must drop) it was so. But i noticed the first change, which is now she began enjoying sex where before I was slightly wondering if truly she was. So, now after child birth, i saw that she was now really loving sex and even initiated it where before, it was always me who started it.

It was the birth of my second child that i noticed that she became deeper and looser.

So she Kegeled and it was ok for me for i expected changes after child birth but i suspected that the kegel was covering up a deeper issue.

Now, i know that kegel cannot solve the deep issue. It only solves the wide issue and so, while I am satisfied, there is no way that she can be satisfied. Hence the long thing issue.

Then on top of the long thingness we now have the expiration issue/egusi issue.

And, now, i know that this is another reason why men cheat for i felt it when she got wider. That was the first time i understood why men cheat. I could see this issue was coming so i felt like running away to another woman knowing that it could make things better, even though I did not what things.

But now, i know that it is to avoid expiration, that is why we feel cheating is right.

However, we have all seen the hell that cheating brings so, i did not take it and now it has brought to this junction.

Now, i understand that we cheat first to prevent the wife from cheating, for we instinctively know that she must go out to have her satisfaction.

And it is because of this child birth.

Now, i suspect that this is the reason why some say that they don't want children and yet they are the same ones who are ready to adopt or do surrogacy. I have always wondered why they said this but now I am 80% sure that it is because they know that all i am going through is what must happen

Citroen19digit:
You know, men always feel that they have a situation where cheating is justified and looking at all the scenarios of a woman's own it appears she had none. But I always had a feeling that she too has one just i have seen a woman get it, (although i think I did see one case here years ago were one or two guys were arguing that she was justified but i was still thinking on it)

So, now it is a new area for me and do I do not have any plan on it

And you know, as men too have confessed that they are tired of eating only egusi, clearly, i am seeing that she too is tired of me. And one of my pains is that i have been suspecting this since i read about women cheating. I kept saying in my mind that they do this because they too are tired of their men. But the stories always point it to the other areas.

And not even one wife has said it.

So, there is no move spark her plugs again. I am dead and expired.

Now every other man is better than me. If any guy goes near her, sparks start flying, and you we all have experienced it too, but I have always wondered what caused it. Now i know that it is the same i don't want to eat only egusi

It’s clear from what you're saying that you really love your wife. Have you sat her down to talk about how you can satisfy her better? Maybe try doing the things she loved before kids—reigniting those old memories to spark that connection. You could even suggest incorporating toys during sex instead of her thinking of someone else. I’ve heard there are options out there with some serious size that you guys could look into together.

I'm guessing you're still relatively young, since the older generation didn't usually stress these things. Just make sure you aren't the type of guy who just jumps in, gets his, and then falls asleep. She’s putting in the work with Kegels and everything, so what’s your contribution? Are you working on your stamina or trying to level up your skills?

I think she just needs to be surprised. Switch up your routine, take her out, and get her things—at the end of the day, she’s the mother of your kids and she deserves to be happy. In my experience, a happy woman is much more likely to be passionate. Of course, if she’s just set on cheating regardless, then there isn't much you can do, but it's worth the effort.

Wealthyonos:
If she is not satisfied, insert your full hand.

He should buy a intimacy gadget. Money cannot buy satisfaction.