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Wyrax:
I am really not to happy about this
But I don’t really know how to get a woman
I really desire to have romantic relationship that will lead to marriage but unfortunately

The closest I have been was a 2 months old relationship that I ended due to the fact that the lady asked for data from me know she has a job.

I am not broke tho
But it is very difficult for me to talk to girls all my talking stage no dey pass 2 days
Also I don’t know how to treat woman
I sent too much of long text to woman after I get angered or disappointed or rejected by them


I unusually end up regretting this

Wyrax:
➜I am really not to happy about this But I don’t really know how to get a woman I really desire to have romantic relationship that will lead to marriage but unfortunately
The closest I have been was a 2 months old relationship that I ended due to the fact that the lady asked for data from me know she has a job.
I am not broke tho But it is very difficult for me to talk to girls all my talking stage no dey pass 2 days Also I don’t know how to treat woman
I sent too much of long text to woman after I get angered or disappointed or rejected by them I unusually end up regretting this

Wyrax:
I am really not to happy about this
But I don’t really know how to get a woman
I really desire to have romantic relationship that will lead to marriage but unfortunately

The closest I have been was a 2 months old relationship that I ended due to the fact that the lady asked for data from me know she has a job.

I am not broke tho
But it is very difficult for me to talk to girls all my talking stage no dey pass 2 days
Also I don’t know how to treat woman
I sent too much of long text to woman after I get angered or disappointed or rejected by them


I unusually end up regretting this

HacheNoire:
Hello Bro,

Put more effort and try to win a girl at the stage you are. The money you hit it it big, everything will say yes to you, and you problem will now become “confusion”

Exploit the moment you find yourself. I know it might be difficult, but try to exploit the present.

You are not at the stage of your life by mistake, it has a purpose.

QuinQ:
He's saying he CAN'T get a girl and you're yarning exploit. Exploit with what?😅

HacheNoire:
Exploit with the situation.

He is at a stage where he can only find one who loves him for who he is. The moment he leaves that bracket, everything will always have interest in him.

QuinQ:
He said he CAN'T! Not that he doesn't wanna!
And how are you so sure he'd ever leave that bracket? Don't you know that most men never get to a level where women run after them?

QuinQ:
He's saying he CAN'T get a girl and you're yarning exploit. Exploit with what?😅

SpencerForbes:
The truth is that for you to stay in a romantic relationship these days, you have to be easy on yourself. You can’t be dumping every lady just because she asked for data—especially if you actually have the money. It’s all about creating boundaries. Personally, I always tell my girl: "No unexpected bills." If you need anything, tell me beforehand and I’ll decide if I can do it, but there’s no guarantee she’ll get it. Once that boundary is there, your mind will be at rest.

Besides, giving out data shouldn’t even scare you. 2.5GB is very cheap now, not even up to N700. It’s only when she starts demanding more and showing entitlement that you should dump her. As a natural giver, I can even send her small change for Suya randomly, but even after a breakup, I’ve never felt "invested" or pained. Why? Because I only give what I can comfortably give to a street beggar or my nephew. No strings attached to the money.

You just need to find a girl that really likes you, and she’ll be the one working to keep the relationship. Just don’t push her to the wall or she’ll leave because of your behavior, not because she hates you. You also have to realize there are stages to this thing. The first and second month always feel like "Heaven at last," but after the third month, your eyes go clear. That’s when you start seeing everything you were blinded to initially. Just relax and watch it roll; before the sixth month, you’ll be used to her character.

For you to survive a relationship, you have to "simp" a bit—but do it with your head. The moment entitlement enters, leave it. A relationship is a training ground, not a place for stubbornness. Always talk to girls in your circle but place yourself like a hook in the river and watch the fishes. Just dress well, look nice, and stay active; a girl will notice you. No need for chasing. You’ll be surprised how fast you both click, and before you know it, you’ve crossed the one-year mark without even noticing.

ReacherSaidNoth:
You have misunderstood him. He is rightly irritated by the beggarly nature of the average Nigerian woman. Their major reason for getting into relationships is to use men for financial gain, and only a man with no dignity will allow himself to be host to such parasites all in the name of relationship.

Namaster:
OP, get your hands on this books:

1. Penetrating the secret society of Pickup Artists by NEIL STRAUSS.
2. No more Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover.
3. Rational Male Positive Masculinity and Rational Male Preventive Medicine by Rollo Tomassi.

READ THEM ALL.


Meantime, you NEED to get rid of that air of desperation to get into a relationship.

HacheNoire:
Everyone who broke that bracket never envisaged they were going to. No one was certain or sure, but learnt and still took advantage of those moments.

Do you know poverty drills investing into your brains without coaching or lessons. It’s because you felt it when poor and any opportunity to break, you automatically programmed to save and invest for rainy days. That’s what’s it’s like.

I still insist, the best times to find a companion is when you REALLY REAL. Not when Haliburton is paying those checks and you now attractive to all. Like I said again, No one was 100% certain yo be successful as a youngin from average background.

Verbtips:
Iwhen he watches exploit comedy he will understand,
Girls are just bunch of Luna**c especially genz gurls
The relationship I have with my family and friends is enough 😄

SpencerForbes:
You don’t start a relationship by reading books. I’ve read all those books and could list a dozen more, but they just fill your head with unnecessary terminology and jargon. If you want a relationship, you need to be out there in the field. Books are only good if you’re looking for reasons to quit or over-analyze everything.

We read millions of books, but how many do we actually act on? If it were all about reading, many of these Redpillers would be resting with 72 virgins by now. Instead, most of them are just stuck on forums and social media waiting for the next big "buzzword" to trend. In the real world, only a few of those "professors" can actually hold a conversation or stay with a lady. Theory is different from practical.

Namaster:
You clearly have ZERO idea what books are meant to do.

Your idea of books being about learning terminologies and buzzwords is horribly FLAWED.

You want him to go into the FIELD and do...what?
He doesn't know what he's SUPPOSED to do.

The books I recommend would help him learn WHAT to do and WHY to do it.

For instance, one of the CORE concepts he'll learn about in the books is HYPERGAMY.
Understanding what HYPERGAMY is all about would INSTANTLY put him ahead of the crowd.

Why?

If he understands HYPERGAMY, he'll automatically do the things you recommended in your first post—dress well (BETTER), look nice (EXERCISE) and stay active (have something going on for him and NOT be hung up on any single woman).

And he'll even DO MORE!

The ONLY difference is that he'll UNDERSTAND why he's doing the things he's doing.
And more importantly, why they seem to be WORKING!

Plus, the books will provide him a COMPREHENSIVE guide to being a SUPERIOR man.

Someone said relationship is a skill, the books are his TUTORS.

Making blanket statements DISREGARDING the usefulness of books is STRANGE.

Many people in relationship problems take it in COMPROMISED bits from Influencers who have TAINTED that knowledge with their own agenda and opinions.

The BOOKS are knowledge in its PUREST FORM.

QuinQ:
Just don't become another bitter incel (Involuntarily Celibate)

Wyrax:
I am really not to happy about this
But I don’t really know how to get a woman
I really desire to have romantic relationship that will lead to marriage but unfortunately

The closest I have been was a 2 months old relationship that I ended due to the fact that the lady asked for data from me know she has a job.

I am not broke tho
But it is very difficult for me to talk to girls all my talking stage no dey pass 2 days
Also I don’t know how to treat woman
I sent too much of long text to woman after I get angered or disappointed or rejected by them


I unusually end up regretting this

tanigororo:
All Wars are Won Through Deception
You might want to read this book: How to become an Alpha Male.
https://cdn.bookey.app/files/pdf/book/en/how-to-become-an-alpha-male.pdf

Tenrack:
na free

SpencerForbes:
If that’s the case, then opting out of relationships entirely is a very valid option because many guys are genuinely tired of the stress. Our Nigerian girls are not helping matters at all with the way they behave, and I don't see them changing that mentality in the nearest future. Sometimes it's just better to stay single and keep your peace.

spiceadole:
Let Nigerian men agree to "No sex, no spending"... Many relationships will work.

But men want to use relationship as an avenue to have sex without marital commitment.
It's only fair they meet the type of women who also use same avenue to exploit them.

Tit for Tat!

SpencerForbes:
You’ve got a point, but the real question is: do many girls actually have that patience? You might be able to wait, but others simply can’t.
Some women have a high libido and might only agree to these terms just to maintain that 'perfect wife' image. Eventually, they might end up going behind your back to cheat—just as some men do for financial or other reasons. In cases like this, I don’t see the union working; one party is almost guaranteed to break the agreement.

Secondly, let’s not ignore the issue of sexual compatibility. What if on the 'Judgment Day' (the wedding night), they find out they can’t satisfy each other? That marriage likely won't last. So, while your idea might work in theory, we shouldn't overlook these practical disadvantages.

spiceadole:
Let Nigerian men agree to "No sex, no spending"... Many relationships will work.

But men want to use relationship as an avenue to have sex without marital commitment.
It's only fair they meet the type of women who also use same avenue to exploit them.

Tit for Tat!

spiceadole:
Except a woman who is morally condemned such as the pros.titutes and runs girls that a lot of men like to patronise and even boast about it,many women can control their sexual urges.
It's not a big deal.

Secondly, sexual compatibility starts in marriage and not outside the confines of matrimony.
Sleeping around in the name of testing sexual compatibility is one lie that people tell themselves..

SpencerForbes:
The truth is that for you to stay in a romantic relationship these days, you have to be easy on yourself. You can’t be dumping every lady just because she asked for data—especially if you actually have the money. It’s all about creating boundaries. Personally, I always tell my girl: "No unexpected bills." If you need anything, tell me beforehand and I’ll decide if I can do it, but there’s no guarantee she’ll get it. Once that boundary is there, your mind will be at rest.

Besides, giving out data shouldn’t even scare you. 2.5GB is very cheap now, not even up to N700. It’s only when she starts demanding more and showing entitlement that you should dump her. As a natural giver, I can even send her small change for Suya randomly, but even after a breakup, I’ve never felt "invested" or pained. Why? Because I only give what I can comfortably give to a street beggar or my nephew. No strings attached to the money.

You just need to find a girl that really likes you, and she’ll be the one working to keep the relationship. Just don’t push her to the wall or she’ll leave because of your behavior, not because she hates you. You also have to realize there are stages to this thing. The first and second month always feel like "Heaven at last," but after the third month, your eyes go clear. That’s when you start seeing everything you were blinded to initially. Just relax and watch it roll; before the sixth month, you’ll be used to her character.

For you to survive a relationship, you have to "simp" a bit—but do it with your head. The moment entitlement enters, leave it. A relationship is a training ground, not a place for stubbornness. Always talk to girls in your circle but place yourself like a hook in the river and watch the fishes. Just dress well, look nice, and stay active; a girl will notice you. No need for chasing. You’ll be surprised how fast you both click, and before you know it, you’ve crossed the one-year mark without even noticing.