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This is a big question trending on social media, and many people have offered different perspectives on it. Some see nothing wrong with the idea, while others would not even dare to try it.

Most times, it depends on the nature or personality of the ex-lover involved, as well as the level of seriousness of the relationship.

In some cases, a couple may simply be friends with benefits. There are no feelings involved. Both parties are mature enough to know they are just good for the moment and not for the future. They come together to escape loneliness and cold nights. When one party decides to get married, the other easily moves on and hardly cares. Yes, he or she might miss the old times, but it is no big deal, as the person getting married is replaceable.

I have lived long enough to see cases where sugar daddies sponsor the weddings of their women and are tagged as “helpers.” The only challenge is that these men sometimes end up sharing the woman with her husband. Sometimes, the sharing formula might be 70/30 in favour of the husband. This may be because the sugar daddy is wealthy enough to keep other options.

On the contrary, there are some exes who have not fully moved on. They feel bad that their former partner is getting married, but they expertly hide their feelings. They are hurt inside but act like all is well. Such people could even ruin the day.

Imagine a dramatic scene where the officiating minister asks at the altar if anyone has an objection to the marriage, and your ex steps forward — you would have only yourself to blame.

Additionally, staying in close proximity to your ex often means you are still interested in maintaining some emotional stake in their life. This information could make your spouse uncomfortable, affect trust, and eventually harm your marriage.

From a personal point of view, I believe it is better for any ex to stay away from one’s wedding party. It is more appropriate for them to follow the celebration on social media after it has happened.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2u1ONVgDsU

To me, it's a big NO.

I'd consider such a guest as a party crasher.

Why should you still be in communication with an ex in the first place?

Absolutely not.
It's very disrespectful to your partner, especially past intimate exes...
It's not about "so because we are no longer dating, are we now enemies", and those nonsense some people say or use to justify it...
It's Very very disrespectful.

Many times, people who won't cut their exes off when you're dating them will cut you off when you breakup with them, especially if they know that you're very smart and you have little or nothing to continue giving them.

It's just a manipulative strategy to continue getting "favours" from those exes...

Everybody is welcome ... including my enermies

Sheuns:
Why should you still be in communication with an ex in the first place?

Some female ex are the one inviting ex boyfriends.

Some women are dumb and careless, doesn't know where and wen to draw boundaries.

As what na Let bygones be bygone abeg!!! I no need stress for life!!!

If so, some ladies would have no male guests at their wedding.

What kind of ungodly post is this? Its topics like this that gradually rationalise some of the nonsense and immorality the society suffers from today. Its either Its good or bad. No grey areas.

1. No.

2. If it’s a woman claiming it should not happen, know she’s setting the rule for men and not herself.

3. Most men will allow it because we are cordial with exes. Not my case. Anyone I had a thing with before is off my wishlist.

4. Many Nigerian women will allow it and call the man they’re with “overly emotional” if he reacts. She’s leaving her options open. Attention to them is currency.

Sheuns:
Why should you still be in communication with an ex in the first place?

Exactly. They will come here soon with funny English to explain why

It depends on the circumstances that led to her becoming your ex. It's not every relationship that ended with a quarrel. Sometimes, people choose to go their separate ways peacefully. Under this circumstances, you might still find your ex want to be there when you have something to celebrate.

Validated:
If so, some ladies would have no male guests at their wedding.

Lol na community project be that

If your ex is as good as you say, you should marry them.

The greatest mistake a man or woman can make is carrying over baggages from a previous relationship into a potential marriage. The effects are hard to imagine.

Discard your ex after exiting a relationship.

Only insecure people hold on to their ex after marriage.

Your ex is your past. A dog does not go back to it's vomit.

You are an ex. Kamapademon mode activated

An ex-lover can attend a person's wedding: but if a bride or groom insists on no ex-lover attending, please respect it.

Whatsoever the reason is that made them become an ex, it should stay that way.

coming to do what. infact nothing should join you guys again

Why attend an ex wedding
Funny enough this same thing happened to me last week my ex sese baby!!! Got married last Sunday was told and even invited by one of her co worker who knows I was banging her that time !!! The babe self too dey reserve I hate people who don't and hardly speak up!!! I know she was dating me because of the way I preeq her and she is dating another guy one pastor guy like that
Na the guy he later marry!!! I know anywhere she dey now
She go always remember my preeq
And no mercy banging stuff
Anyway to cut the long story short no point attending an ex marriage
An ex is an ex for a reason >:
It's past life move on except you want okafor first and second law to resurface
Stay bless God bless Peter obi and atiku

This is a big no and to talk of it that my ex reached out to me ina blue moon to invite me to his wedding lately is very funny.

It was an outright no answer.
Why should I be the source of another woman's sadness?

For wetin nau not possible 🤣

God forgive me,.make I no talk!

No way,I can't attend her wedding and she won't be allowed to attend mine.

Sheuns:
Why should you still be in communication with an ex in the first place?

Depends on how una take break up sha.

tolufase:
It depends on the circumstances that led to her becoming your ex. It's not every relationship that ended with a quarrel. Sometimes, people choose to go their separate ways peacefully. Under this circumstances, you might still find your ex want to be there when you have something to celebrate.

Under no circumstances you invite ex, if indeed you respect your current partner.

Small small old flame will reignite again and now consume every consumables.

Learn wen and where to draw boundaries!

To come and do what exactly? So you want her to come and pour sand into your garri or drop jazz or pour jazz on your body or go to social media and ruin your marriage ba?

Marry a virgin and save yasef all these unnecessary issues with intimate exes

uche87:
This is a big question trending on social media, and many people have offered different perspectives on it. Some see nothing wrong with the idea, while others would not even dare to try it.

Most times, it depends on the nature or personality of the ex-lover involved, as well as the level of seriousness of the relationship.

In some cases, a couple may simply be friends with benefits. There are no feelings involved. Both parties are mature enough to know they are just good for the moment and not for the future. They come together to escape loneliness and cold nights. When one party decides to get married, the other easily moves on and hardly cares. Yes, he or she might miss the old times, but it is no big deal, as the person getting married is replaceable.

I have lived long enough to see cases where sugar daddies sponsor the weddings of their women and are tagged as “helpers.” The only challenge is that these men sometimes end up sharing the woman with her husband. Sometimes, the sharing formula might be 70/30 in favour of the husband. This may be because the sugar daddy is wealthy enough to keep other options.

On the contrary, there are some exes who have not fully moved on. They feel bad that their former partner is getting married, but they expertly hide their feelings. They are hurt inside but act like all is well. Such people could even ruin the day.

Imagine a dramatic scene where the officiating minister asks at the altar if anyone has an objection to the marriage, and your ex steps forward — you would have only yourself to blame.

Additionally, staying in close proximity to your ex often means you are still interested in maintaining some emotional stake in their life. This information could make your spouse uncomfortable, affect trust, and eventually harm your marriage.

From a personal point of view, I believe it is better for any ex to stay away from one’s wedding party. It is more appropriate for them to follow the celebration on social media after it has happened.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2u1ONVgDsU

Only if we broke up on genotype grounds or culture.

tolufase:
It depends on the circumstances that led to her becoming your ex. It's not every relationship that ended with a quarrel. Sometimes, people choose to go their separate ways peacefully. Under this circumstances, you might still find your ex want to be there when you have something to celebrate.

It is best, everyone moves on.

What value do the Ex bring, attending the wedding?

u have no business attending ur exes wedding.
even if u parted amicably.
abi u wan go cause insecurity for the ex spouse mind?
nonsense and ingredients

An ex should remain an ex!

We are not enemies, and we are not friends either.

My ex sent me an invite. She even went further asking me for support.


She get mind sha...