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She's free to come. We can snap picture if she likes of course in non romantic posture. But, she will get same treatment as everyone else and no special treatment just because we dated. After that day, I will ensure we don't see for a long time probably till my wife delivers a baby

Wetin she dey find? Make devil no do us on our joyous day o.

That's her business

twf1:
What kind of ungodly post is this? Its topics like this that gradually rationalise some of the nonsense and immorality the society suffers from today. Its either Its good or bad. No grey areas.

Calm down awe yi, why going overboard

immortality can never end on earth, even if controversial topics aren't made about it

LabStores:
Absolutely not.
It's very disrespectful to your partner, especially past intimate exes...
It's not about "so because we are no longer dating, are we now enemies", and those nonsense some people say or use to justify it...

It's Very very disrespectful.

my ex does it a lot. She refuses to cut me off totally from her new bf with exactly this phrase and also didn't totally cut her ex from me while using that same phrase and I just discovered it was because of two main reasons. 1. She is highly emotionally insecure and filled with insecurity of being lonely and alone , so she rather keep around men who loved her but she abandoned and moved on, so that whenever her current boyfriend seems to be drifting away, she can get emotional support from those exes who loved her but she abandoned for one reason or the other. Second reason is incase she needs financial help at any point in her life, she can fall back on the ex. I don't know if she's aware opening door for financial support from an ex, opens the door to have sex with him as a reward for financially supporting you. And if she's in a relationship while getting that help, she exposes herself to cheat.

just have it at the back of your mind say one of your wife ex go dey your wedding… she go invite one of them .. make peace with it and you won’t get hurt when you find out… I attended my ex girlfriend’s wedding.. we ended any sort of sexual relationship between us years before the wedding.. i attended the wedding as a friend, wished her good luck and was happy throughout the event…

But as a man if you believe say your wife no go invite any of her ex to your wedding.. you dey jonz

Infact if you born boy … any name wae she present as th name of the child.. investigate am well one of her ex get that name … live with this and have peace

kpankpangolo:
1. No.

2. If it’s a woman claiming it should not happen, know she’s setting the rule for men and not herself.

3. Most men will allow it because we are cordial with exes. Not my case. Anyone I had a thing with before is off my wishlist.

4. Many Nigerian women will allow it and call the man they’re with “overly emotional” if he reacts. She’s leaving her options open. Attention to them is currency.

totally from her new bf with exactly this phrase and also didn't totally cut her ex from me while using that same outrageously gaslightful phrase "we are not enemies" and I just discovered it was because of two main reasons. 1. She is highly emotionally insecure and filled with insecurity of being lonely and alone , so she rather keep around men who loved her but she abandoned and moved on, so that whenever her current boyfriend seems to be drifting away, she can get emotional support from those exes who loved her but she abandoned for one reason or the other. Second reason is incase she needs financial help at any point in her life, she can fall back on the ex. I don't know if she's aware opening door for financial support from an ex, opens the door to have sex with him as a reward for financially supporting you. And if she's in a relationship while getting that help, she exposes herself to cheat.

kevotek1000:
Everybody is welcome ... including my enermies

.. enemies that will come and destroy the wedding ceremony

There is no need for that, make she face her life too

No... that means you are still having a secret communication and relationship with your ex... even when you have a partner you want to marry

The question here should be, is it all relationship that ended with quarrel and bitterness? I can confidently attend any of my ex's wedding without any bitterness and with joy and happiness for their occasion why bcus, I parted ways cordially and without rancour with 95% of them.
You can't attend or won't invite an ex is bcus you guys broke up in a bad and bitter way.
An ex has once linked me to a big contract that brought good pay for me, so you want to tell me I can't attend her wedding or she can't invite me.
This thing varies, going to your ex wedding or inviting her to yours depends on how you guys broke up, shikena

Make she pure salt inside rice?

Kalulu44:
The question here should be, is it all relationship that ended with quarrel and bitterness? I can confidently attend any of my ex's wedding without any bitterness and with joy and happiness for their occasion why bcus, I parted ways cordially and without rancour with 95% of them.
You can't attend or won't invite an ex is bcus you guys broke up in a bad and bitter way.
An ex has once linked me to a big contract that brought good pay for me, so you want to tell me I can't attend her wedding or she can't invite me.
This thing varies, going to your ex wedding or inviting her to yours depends on how you guys broke up, shikena

Keep it up oooo, make sure you are the one settling dispute between ur ex and her husband as well, and be paying her regular visits in her husband house and her working place, please once in awhile, you and her can go to occasions, wedding, burial, naming or whatevers. After all, she is still your friend and confidant!

Fiscus105:
Some female ex are the one inviting ex boyfriends.

Some women are dumb and careless, doesn't know where and wen to draw boundaries.

Very very dumb indeed

It depends on the situation and the maturity of everyone involved. If you and your ex ended on good terms, there are no lingering feelings, and your partner is comfortable with it, then it may not be a problem.

However, if their presence could cause tension, reopen old wounds, or make your spouse uncomfortable, it is better to avoid it. A wedding should be about peace, love, and celebrating your new beginning, not creating unnecessary drama.

What for

Fiscus105:
Keep it up oooo, make sure you are the one settling dispute between ur ex and her husband as well, and be paying her regular visits in her husband house and her working place, please once in awhile, you and her can go to occasions, wedding, burial, naming or whatevers. After all, she is still your friend and confidant!

All what you said here differs from what I said and mean. Did I in anyway say I am still cordial with any of my ex's. What concerns just attending their happy moments with all what you listed there

Kalulu44:
All what you said here differs from what I said and mean. Did I in anyway say I am still cordial with any of my ex's. What concerns just attending their happy moments with all what you listed there

If you don't see anything special being friendly with your ex, you think her current husband feels the same, if he dump, will all his friends and family feel the same way?


Food for taught, for the wise who can correctly interpret it.

A red flag of disrespect from day one.

Fiscus105:
If you don't see anything special being friendly with your ex, you think her current husband feels the same, if he dump, will all his friends and family feel the same way?


Food for taught, for the wise who can correctly interpret it.

What am I saying, what are you saying?

It's a big NO for me.
No decent, responsible lady invites her ex to the wedding, not to talk of even been on level of constant communication with him.
That's how they make the man raise children not biologically his.
No man should tolerate his woman still talking with her ex, because it never ends well.
When a lady invites her ex to her wedding, there's every tendency that she is going to collect the last lashing from him, either in the toilet, or hotel room.

Sonnobax15:

To me, it's a big NO.

I'd consider such a guest as a party crasher.

my 3 ex including current side chick attend my wedding. Life no suppose hard.

For what kwanu?

What if your ex attends your wedding without you inviting him/her??

Do

Leepeak:
Why attend an ex wedding
Funny enough this same thing happened to me last week my ex sese baby!!! Got married last Sunday was told and even invited by one of her co worker who knows I was banging her that time !!! The babe self too dey reserve I hate people who don't and hardly speak up!!! I know she was dating me because of the way I preeq her and she is dating another guy one pastor guy like that
Na the guy he later marry!!! I know anywhere she dey now
She go always remember my preeq
And no mercy banging stuff
Anyway to cut the long story short no point attending an ex marriage
An ex is an ex for a reason >:
It's past life move on except you want okafor first and second law to resurface
Stay bless God bless Peter obi and atiku

You talk too much !

Work on yourself.

Why invited an ex to your wedding? Na very shitty move 😒

TheStoriesOfMan:
A dog does not go back to it's vomit.

You know nothing about dogs.

tolufase:
It depends on the circumstances that led to her becoming your ex. It's not every relationship that ended with a quarrel. Sometimes, people choose to go their separate ways peacefully. Under this circumstances, you might still find your ex want to be there when you have something to celebrate.

So far you are the first person who has made a sensible comment on this topic, everyone else is just blowing their top.

The fact that a person is your ex does not necessarily make him or her your enemy

dheolexaone:
This is a big no and to talk of it that my ex reached out to me ina blue moon to invite me to his wedding lately is very funny.

It was an outright no answer.
Why should I be the source of another woman's sadness?

Is it written on your forehead that you are his ex?

You people like to make a mountain out of a molehill!

Jayhome24:
To come and do what exactly? So you want her to come and pour sand into your garri or drop jazz or pour jazz on your body or go to social media and ruin your marriage ba?

If this is the first thing that comes to your mind then it's a reflection of your own character as a person, you are capable of plotting evil against an ex to ruin their wedding but fortunately everyone is not like you

LOVEGINO:
my 3 ex including current side chick attend my wedding. Life no suppose hard.

I also do not see a big deal there

Fiscus105:
Keep it up oooo, make sure you are the one settling dispute between ur ex and her husband as well, and be paying her regular visits in her husband house and her working place, please once in awhile, you and her can go to occasions, wedding, burial, naming or whatevers. After all, she is still your friend and confidant!

Na immaturity dey worry you