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My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

Imagine picking a child and taking responsibility to raise the child.

Only for the child to grow up and torment you every day.

Because his genetics and behavior are not from you. His parents might be mad people who abandon him as a baby.

Now you suffer and raise kid
Only for the kid to be a thorn in your life

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

Your aunt probably over-pampered the boy and spoilt him

MarkNsukkaBread:
Your aunt probably over-pampered the boy and spoilt him

She should have left the baby to be eating beans in orphanage.

That is why I don't like helping people

Now she don go buy market.

I heard the boy hits her sometimes

Her crime was to raise and take care of the boy.
The boy know that he is adopted

All I see is there is no motherly connection
Because she didn't give birth to him. Simple

MarkNsukkaBread:
Your aunt probably over-pampered the boy and spoilt him

Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

Nairaland people are funny but real
I was having a plan to adopt a child with what you said I don change plans
Do they actually know if the mother is mad
That is very correct
Mad people children na orphanage dem mostly Dey end up waiting for adoption

There was one rich man in my church
He was head of Rotary club and I remember vividly that he started a programme that encourage parents to adopt kids.

This was Obasanjo era. Economy was good

My neighbor a nurse adopted 2 kids boys
One popular woman in church adopt 1 boy
Madam Rosita adopted a boy and girl

Now I have been going to that church since I was a kid so I remember when they adopted those kids and did baptism for them.

Now fast forward 2025
My neighbor 2 boys turn out to be cultist
They smoke ibo like nothing
Tattoo everywhere. A huge contrast to her 3 real children she had before adopting 2 boys

The popular woman the boy she adopted dey insult and disgrace am like mad
Dem go dey quarrel like women for public
Only God knows wetin dey happen for private

Madam Rosita the girl she adopted showed her shege pro max at her teenage years
Carry belle very early. The boy run go Libya haven't heard from him since 2021.

So this are the 3 people that lived around my area and same church for 20 years
I remember vididly how they adopted those kids in church and how they all turned out now today. .
I think the problem is that these kids soon realize that they are biological kids.
And I think that realization alone at an early stage in life can throw them off.

Somebody said something about the child having hereditary madness

But I disagree because even the woman you marry that will bear your child.
Do you know if her family has genetic madness??

Your wife family might have one mad mentally unstable person and it transfer to her child via genetics and they start displaying agbero tendencies

That is why our FORE FATHERS gave birth to UpTo 7 kids

Because they know genetics us a gamble of genes from your father side and mother side

So you spread your genes in 7 kids
So that st least 5 will get the good genes
And the 2 can get the werey genes from both family.

On conclusion Adoption and Reproduction
All na RISK

Your pikin fit get your stubborn uncle genetics
If you spread your genes to 2 kids
If 1 go astray you know say na ur uncle gene be that and you are stuck with it

Na why our ancestors born UpTo 7 kids
They understand genetic lottery pass us

Life in itself is a GAMBLE

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

Your President was practically adopted, he's the president today.

What you guys are describing is a situation where Nature (assuming there's something wrong with the kids) trumps Nurture (all the effort put into raising them).

If you show a child the right path, they won't stray from it, whether they're biological or adopted.

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

How old was the boy when he was adopted and is he aware that he was adopted

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

Sorry about your aunt's experience, but adoption is a positive way to build a family. A few negative experiences don't mean it is 'bad.'

Forget biology for a moment; imagine it is her own flesh and blood misbehaving. What would she do? Children, whether adopted or biological, can act out.

It is a common misconception that adopted children behave differently or lack attachment. Biological children misbehave too; it is just that misbehaviour in adopted children is often more noticeable because there is no biological connection.

Many adopted children grow up deeply loving and loyal to their families. Blaming adoption for misbehaviour overlooks the real factors that shape character, such as environment, parental guidance, and lessons taught from an early age.

A child's behaviour is shaped far more by upbringing, environment, and the values instilled than by where they came from.

Some parents also fail to nurture their children properly: whether adopted or biological; and do not offer the care and support necessary for a child to develop properly.

Respect isn't guaranteed by genetics; it is cultivated through consistent teaching, modelling, and reinforcement of values.

Biological children also do the same thing to their parents, are you now going to tell people altogether to stop conceiving children?

I remember when I was still young, one of our neighbours fired gun shots at his father and grandmother... That night the old lady even developed strength to jump their family boundary wall...🤣🤣🤣... Fortunately for them, they managed to escape unharmed.

Even though the boundary wall wasn't too high, till this day, we still wonder how the grandmother was able to jump it at her age... That family always had drama, my mother once received a punch to the face which was aimed at someone else and land on the floor while trying to separate a fight, a fight she shouldn't have involved herself in in the first place because there were people in the house... The guy is now married and took the drama to his matrimonial house.

Last time I heard, the community men gave him a good panel beating before calling the police on him after he assaulted his wife... And his parents warned the wife about him and his temperamental tendencies when they were still dating, but she still wouldn't listen.

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

and U think the adoption is d problem?
How about the place of train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it?
U didn't tell us how Ur aunty raised him
So nobody has adopted a child that turned up well?

loffyloffy:
Your President was practically adopted, he's the president today.

That makes a lot of sense now
No wonder Nigeria is in such horrible state

Samantha125:
Biological children also do the same thing to their parents, are you now going to tell people altogether to stop conceiving children?

I remember when I was still young, one of our neighbours fired gun shots at his father and grandmother... That night the old lady even developed strength to jump their family boundary wall...🤣🤣🤣... Fortunately for them, they managed to escape unharmed.

Even though the boundary wall wasn't too high, till this day, we still wonder how the grandmother was able to jump it at her age... That family always had drama, my mother once received a punch to the face which was aimed at someone else and land on the floor while trying to separate a fight, a fight she shouldn't have involved herself in in the first place because there were people in the house... The guy is now married and took the drama to his matrimonial house.

Last time I heard, the community men gave him a good panel beating before calling the police on him after he assaulted his wife... And his parents warned the wife about him and his temperamental tendencies when they were still dating, but she still wouldn't listen.

Adrenaline is a hell of a drug. It can do wonders..re granny

Child adoption is inherently a big risk. It is true that even having a biological child is risk but adopting a child is bigger risk. You are bringing into your life somebody with genetic content, spiritual background, family-line characteristics all different from yours.

Adopting a child is project that needs closer attention, patience and love in character moulding especially if you notices certain negative traits early.

God also adopted us as His children na. So if we hear of three children that maltreated their parents, we should open thread on dangers of having children?

This thread makes me laugh

So what about the large numbers of biological children that misbehave and do the same to their biological parents.

Nothing is certain in life. One can bring up a biological child properly and the child can grow into adult and say that all that upbringing na wash, I go do as I like. Same for adopted children

Abeggi, op, take a chill pill.

festacman:
Child adoption is a risk.

Having a child is also a risk.

Even your own pikin fit do worse,e come be pikin when you adopt. Anybody can turn against you in this life, always have that at the back of your mind.

Nothing wrong with adoption. The boy is just an ingrate

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

You done dey make sense until you type the last paragraph,
I come realise say Las Las u self Na olodo

Also advocate for people not give birth then...

This threat looking like it was written by under 20 kid

Stop generalizing please!! I have seen good adoption cases doing very well,one being my cousin ,your aunt just made a mess of raising the child.

Yorubastardz:
She should have left the baby to be eating beans in orphanage.

That is why I don't like helping people

Now she don go buy market.

I heard the boy hits her sometimes

Her crime was to raise and take care of the boy.
The boy know that he is adopted

All I see is there is no motherly connection
Because she didn't give birth to him. Simple

Some of these children were birthed by mad women on the streets or people with serious psychiatric issue. They will always show what’s in them. It’s genetic. Also abandonment from birth creates severe trauma once a child is separated from the mother too early. That’s why a lot of adoptees have issues outside of the genetic factor.

You aunt could also not be a good parent. Regardless of him being abusive, if you adopt, you have to make extra effort with the child especially if rude family members disclose they are adopted too early. They usually change and become difficult.

This thread seems deliberately targeted to plant a seed against adoption.

I wonder why.

Helpless kids need love, a home, and someone to help their original destinies manifest.

So many bad stories about adoption, it's a good to adopt but many never ended well,

As long as we do not share same DNA, I have no business calling you family member
Whether via adoption or paternity fraud

Adoption is not the problem. Let's interrogate how your aunt raised that boy!

I know of one here. His adoption by his dad allegedly led to the separation between him and his wife. Not that they didn't have children, he wanted a boy. The young man became wayward, a chronic smoker that made him mad

Who are the mods that push these low quality contents to FP?

Your moniker is enough to take you as unserious. I was going to say that you used your sample size of your aunt to discard out African culture and tradition. You are indeed the child who uses his left hand to show his father's house.