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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by DLifeless1: 3:18pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

You are just naturally a wicked human being looking for any probable validation to your type of person. We also adopted a girl and she is the sweetest being ever to leave because of how she was trained, someone already told you that your aunty was careless and overpampered the boy that spoilt the Boy, it is because of the validation you want awwsh your wickedness with.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Leonardo4(m): 3:21pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

No one will allow you adopt a child with this kind of thinking so you wouldn't have had a chance if you wanted to. Cox before you adopt a child you should be ready to take that child as yours and can due for him the way you will die for your child. Only then you would have the true connection and affection. Somebody like you should not even be allowed to adopt.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Leonardo4(m): 3:24pm On Feb 12

loffyloffy:
Your President was practically adopted, he's the president today.

What you guys are describing is a situation where Nature (assuming there's something wrong with the kids) trumps Nurture (all the effort put into raising them).

If you show a child the right path, they won't stray from it, whether they're biological or adopted.

That's the fact. And always adopt at a child 2yrs or below. Not a child that has already grown

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by blackgold2018(m): 3:24pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
Even if he was pampered.
Isn't that more reason why he should thank her everyday for adopting and changing his life.

That is why each day I see more reason not to help people.

Remember when zlatan help one family and the same family almost lynch him in the streets.

It's better to mind your business.

You fit help accident victim go hospital
Na police go come arrest you and hold u responsible for the victim.

Like I said
I will never adopt another man child that has a totally different DNA behaviour and character from me

If my child wan misbehave
Atleast I know he got his behaviour and character from me or my wife DNA

That boy that was adopted
Do you know if his real mother is a mad woman.
When the boy grow up he will definitely show sign of madness from his mother. Blood is thicker than water

you evil minded bro. The woman clearly spoilt the child. Stop talking like a kid

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by mkpologwu(m): 3:25pm On Feb 12

Most of the ladies men marry are exactly like the child in the OP's narrative.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Leonardo4(m): 3:27pm On Feb 12

JackDaAlienz:
That makes a lot of sense now
No wonder Nigeria is in such horrible state

How does his adoption connects with state of Nigeria today.?
Moreover Nigeria has been destroyed b4 he took over so what are you saying

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Real2088: 3:27pm On Feb 12

Yeah, Good,but let's not just focus on Adoption, Upbringing too,if you no train your own biological child too e fit worse pass this one

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by DMCA: 3:28pm On Feb 12

Mariangeles:
What is stopping your aunt from disowning him?
Legitimate children get disowned when they cross boundaries, ma ya fokwa...

Abortion is not useless cool

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Banbanna(m): 3:29pm On Feb 12

favour32:
When adopting;
**Move to a new location
hence, neighborhood should not know about the adoption.
***Adopted child should not be more than 2 years.
***Never let the child know he or she was adopted even up to adulthood except inevitable.
***Treat as yours and never over pamper the child.

Good advice. But @ the bolded, family members and friends of the family could likely reveal the secret.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by miracleoscar(m): 3:32pm On Feb 12

Even your biological kids can do worst so don't gas light the adopted ones.
Nothing can seem the same as it was during your time so embrace a thick skin to accommodate any exigencies.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by KingOfAmebo(m): 3:36pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

Are you saying biological children don't turn out bad or they don't become wayward and become a torn in the flesh of their parents?...as long as the child is not adopted as an adult only the foster parent should be blamed for not bringing up the child well... period.

Forget biological connection, even picking wey mama born with her womb dey also show dem parents shege pro max.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by ubev01(m): 3:37pm On Feb 12

Adoption is the major problem here, bad parenting is

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Leonardo4(m): 3:41pm On Feb 12

HacheNoire:
Oh! Genetics plays a good role you said?

Majority of those blood thirsty cultist you find were raised by their parents. Most of those hook up girls were raised by their parents, and those fraudsters and drug abusers were raised by their parents.

From your statement, can we now conclude that the genetics of their parents included prostitution, cultism, drug use, fraud.

A kid will become what you want him to become if you invest the time.

Are you saying you have never seen biological children rude to their parents, cos you make it sound like it’s only adopted kids.

How about adopted kids that turned out well. Do we also praise the biological parents genetics or those who raised him?

Who do we attribute Steve Jobs successes to? His biological parents or the couples who nurtured him supported his dreams.

Please! That genetics excuse won’t fly!

There are some people you shouldn't other to reply or educate

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Pinklada: 3:46pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

What of if your aunty had birthed the boy himself?

What of adopted Chuldren that are fine

What of biological Children that killed their parents are they also adopted

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by RosyIsBlessed: 3:46pm On Feb 12

MarkNsukkaBread:
Your aunt probably over-pampered the boy and spoilt him

Nothing but the truth. But the op cannot see this as the truth. He's looking for who'll join him to castigate adopted children. I've seen adopted children who are doing better than the biological children of their adopted parents..

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by iamL(f): 3:56pm On Feb 12

Leonardo4:
That's the fact. And always adopt at a child 2yrs or below. Not a child that has already grown

Dey play!

My spiritual father adopted 6 different children from different parents at different times all teenagers. Today he is enjoying all of them. He is in his mid 60s himself and wives are just traveling abroad the way they like courtesy of all his adopted kid.

No matter how visa or anything is expensive they buy or send to them. You will never believe that those children are not theirs. Currently he has adopted another 22 years Edo girl who takes care of them like no other since the others have grown up and they are currently working her on nursing course.

I can count numerous people I know personally like this due to the of my previous job.

There's no hard and fast rule in life.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by iamL(f): 3:57pm On Feb 12

Useless thread and stupid topics that shouldn't even be approved but NL is nothing much these days.

Try improve your life and frustration won't make you to be pain because your Aunt choose to spend on someone else not you..

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by YorubaPrince: 4:06pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
She should have left the baby to be eating beans in orphanage.

That is why I don't like helping people

Now she don go buy market.

I heard the boy hits her sometimes

Her crime was to raise and take care of the boy.
The boy know that he is adopted

All I see is there is no motherly connection
Because she didn't give birth to him. Simple

See the bolded. The typical Igbo in you. grin

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Breaker001: 4:18pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This has nothing to do with the adoption. The woman in question is very poor at parenting. Even if she had her biological children, they would still treat her the same way. 😎

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by favour32(m): 4:19pm On Feb 12

Banbanna:
Good advice. But @ the bolded, family members and friends of the family could likely reveal the secret.

Keep adopted child info from family and friends.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by COEMMA(m): 4:19pm On Feb 12

Train up a child in the way he should go, that when he grows, he will not depart from it
You wey born, go DNA go confirm am nah

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by InvestSmart(f): 4:31pm On Feb 12

So, what could be the connetion between the adoption and what the child turns out to be at the end?

Hhh4444:
Even your own pikin fit do worse,e come be pikin when you adopt. Anybody can turn against you in this life, always have that at the back of your mind.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by georgeakins: 4:36pm On Feb 12

Racheal45:
Nairaland people are funny but real
I was having a plan to adopt a child with what you said I don change plans
Do they actually know if the mother is mad
That is very correct
Mad people children na orphanage dem mostly Dey end up waiting for adoption

But the boy is not mad, just that the woman didn't train him well.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by COEMMA(m): 4:36pm On Feb 12

D play

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by Didi2d(m): 4:44pm On Feb 12

loffyloffy:
Your President was practically adopted, he's the president today.

What you guys are describing is a situation where Nature (assuming there's something wrong with the kids) trumps Nurture (all the effort put into raising them).

If you show a child the right path, they won't stray from it, whether they're biological or adopted.

Yes sir, you're right

My advice for those that want to adopt is, whatever you're buying for your biological child, get same quality and quantity for your adopted child.
If you normally buy 2 biscuits for your biological child and and buy 1 for your adopted child, such person is only looking for trouble.

Presently a young boy is staying with me, I make sure I give him same thing I give my children, cos I don't want him to feel unwanted

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by georgeakins: 4:44pm On Feb 12

JackDaAlienz:
That makes a lot of sense now
No wonder Nigeria is in such horrible state

You go tire!
Just prepare yourself for intense wailing come Feb., 2027.
You go wail in perpetuity

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by omoharry(f): 4:51pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

pls do not use your own personal experience to generalized all adopted children. I was adopted , I loved my adopted mum mother than my biological mum who only turned she turn up when I was 23yrs old . Both of them are late now but I am more emotionally attached to my adopted mum more. When my adopted mum became ill, I took some time from work to care for her till her death. I was the daughter she never had.
Both of them are late now but it was my adopted mum that I deeply mourned and not my biological mum. Pls don't generalize. I still misses her till this day.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by yemmit90: 5:03pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
She should have left the baby to be eating beans in orphanage.

That is why I don't like helping people

Now she don go buy market.

I heard the boy hits her sometimes

Her crime was to raise and take care of the boy.
The boy know that he is adopted

All I see is there is no motherly connection
Because she didn't give birth to him. Simple

I could clearly see the root of the problem your aunty is facing with the boy from your reply here. You don't tell a child that he/she is adopted, except he has traceable known parents. She created a serious problem in the boy life the moment she revealed everything to him.

Now the boy is questioning his existence and how your aunty discover him without the knowledge of his parents. In his subconscious mind, your aunty is evil and obstacle who stand between him and his real parents.

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Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by GboyegaD(m): 5:06pm On Feb 12

descarado:
Thank you so much. I was looking for this statement.

That is exactly what has happened in all those cases.

They will tell them that they would have been in an orphanage if not for them so they owe them.

They practically destroyed those kids with our naija mouth and expect good results. We do not spare our biological kids from our caustic mouths and do not think that what we say to kids have ways to who they become as adults.

Look around you, we have low self esteem adults.
Money is never enough, we keep on looking for more. The problem is that gap or hole which billions of money can never fill. And since we do not know what it is, we train our kids the same way we were trained and the circle continues.
People who fakes happiness and busy pursuing it through material things.

The government never talk or promote social care in Nigeria. That will solve 85% or more of our problems.

I decided not to elaborate because many might not be able to process it. The OP's position in my understanding shows how the average Nigerian react to such children believing the children owe them gratitude as though they were forced to be adopted. The only children I knew were adopted growing up was after we left High School (we did not go to same High School though) and the parents had to open up to them. Till tomorrow, if you are not told, you would never know because everyone sees them as a family member right from their grandparents to the least of cousins. I want to presume it was because the family was well exposed and they know there shouldn't be any difference between an adopted and a biological child since it is one's intention to adopt.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by CaptainFM1: 5:12pm On Feb 12

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

You already answered it "because there's no connection.

Even own children can do same or even worst if you don't build connection.

Re: Why You Should NEVER Adopt Kids by ejieddy: 5:14pm On Feb 12

In all these comments and the posts, you will see the absence of men. When men are absent in raising children, the result is mannerless children 95% of the time

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