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This Thread ie about Child Support, DNA Tests, and the Truth Nobody Wants to Say

A woman files for child support.
The man responds with a simple request: a paternity test.
Suddenly, she wants to settle “amicably” because the test might affect the child psychologically.

Pause.

Let’s remove emotion and look at this clearly.

If a man is being asked to take legal and financial responsibility for a child, he has every right to confirm paternity. That is not hatred. That is not wickedness. That is due diligence.

We DNA test products.
We verify contracts.
We audit finances.

But when it comes to fatherhood, some people expect blind trust.

That makes no sense.

Now, the argument that a paternity test will “damage the child psychologically” sounds noble on the surface. But let’s ask a harder question.

What damages a child more?
A discreet DNA test handled privately by adults?
Or years of tension, suspicion, and possible resentment if the man is unsure?

Truth does not damage children. Adult drama does.

If the man is truly the father, the test protects him and silences doubt permanently. If he is not, then the truth protects him from a lifetime of responsibility for a child that is not biologically his.

Both outcomes serve clarity.

This is not about attacking women. It is about fairness.

Men have lost jobs, homes, and freedom over child support obligations. In many countries, once paternity is legally assigned, reversing it is nearly impossible, even if later evidence proves otherwise.

So why should a request for proof be treated like betrayal?

If a woman is 100 percent certain of paternity, a test should not be threatening. It should be a formality.

Wanting to “settle amicably” only after a DNA request raises questions. Because if there is nothing to hide, what is the fear?

The deeper issue here is trust.

In an ideal world, partners would never doubt each other. But we do not live in an ideal world. We live in a world where mistakes happen, secrets happen, and systems require evidence.

Fatherhood is not a small matter. It is emotional, legal, financial, and lifelong.

A DNA test is not an insult. It is protection.

And if we truly care about children, then clarity from the start is better than confusion later.

Truth might feel uncomfortable for adults.
But it is always cleaner than uncertainty.

I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

No man, I repeat NO MAN should fall for an emotional blackmail.


If a woman doesn't have skeletons in her cupboard she wouldn't feel reluctant to conduct a DNA test.

It's fuuulishness to trust a woman who doesn't even trust herself, my ancestors won't forgive me if I make that mistake.

This is encouraging for men, more awareness is needed for DNA test.

Any woman that feels threatened about it is a potential suspect and can't be trusted.

DNA testing must come to reality and there men never allow any fake woman tell you about trust.


No DNA

No Name.
It's all about due diligence

God bless you @Dpsychologist.

budaatum:
I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

This lack of trust is just a blackmailing garbage….
Is there no other reason a man would want his child tested??

If i tell u i want to be sure hospital ddnt swap my baby, u are the one with trust issues if u are thinking any other reason

advanceDNA:
This lack of trust is just a blackmailing garbage….
Is there no other reason a man would want his child tested??

If i tell u i want to be sure hospital ddnt swap my baby, u are the one with trust issues if u are thinking any other reason

Do you even need to tell her. DNA can be done with a strand of hair from the child or saliva or anything belonging to the child. Just take whatever you need from the child and do it secretly without her knowledge. If the child is yours you would lock up. If the child isn't yours you can confront her with the results. Telling your wife you want a DNA test is childish and dramatic, because 99% of women would play the victim card with that request.

Gbadugbakun:
Do you even need to tell her. DNA can be done with a strand of hair from the child or saliva or anything belonging to the child. Just take whatever you need from the child and do it secretly without her knowledge. If the child is yours you would lock up. If the child isn't yours you can confront her with the results. Telling your wife you want a DNA test is childish and dramatic, because 99% of women would play the victim card with that request.

U can do that when the child is grown a bit and u can easily go buy pie and ice cream and branch DNA lab.. lol

But when u need to do the DNA quickly when the baby is still in infant stage they are not separated from their mother easily…. U will need to tell her naa

I will have to do it codedly if I am to go run it, demanding that from your wife is not really wise and will easily bring about distrust in your relationship/marriage for the unforseen able future.

advanceDNA:
U can do that when the child is grown a bit and u can easily go buy pie and ice cream and branch DNA lab.. lol

But when u need to do the DNA quickly when the baby is still in infant stage they are not separated from their mother easily…. U will need to tell her naa

You can cut the nails of the baby and still use it for DNA. As long as the baby is living under your roof, it's equally easy. The mother doesn't need to know until the test results is out. The problem with today's men is that they talk too much. You don't tell a woman you went to do DNA test on your kids knowing how they behave and how they can easily play the victim. You just do it codedly.

RickyJesus:
I will have to do it codedly if I am to go run it, demanding that from your wife is not really wise and will easily bring about distrust in your relationship/marriage for the unforseen able future.

Exactly what am saying. You shouldn't have to tell her as it can destroy your marriage most especially if the DNA reveals that the child is yours. Just do it codedly

A clean heart fears no evil. Women and gaslighting. If you love me, you will take care of me and the child.

No DNA test. Just pure, blind trust.

Gbadugbakun:
Exactly what am saying. You shouldn't have to tell her as it can destroy your marriage most especially if the DNA reveals that the child is yours. Just do it codedly

Exactly, we are all for DNA but let's be wise about it.
What do you stand to gain exactly if you insisted to your wife that you should run DNA test, it says alot about you then it did her.

Any man who doesn’t dna his kids na full

Is DNA cheap or it's just cheap talk

u will see pocohantas and mariangeles come here to be in defense of no DNA test.
oh no, they will avoid d topic like a plaque

Jagabanfromcali:
Any man who doesn’t dna his kids na full

It shouldn't be a must.
DNA is only necessary when a man has reasons to suspect his wife & that a child is not his biological child.

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Its not just that, the truth is that it should be automatically conducted at birth universally.

B always come before A in you people's book.

If you trust your wife, why would you want to conduct a DNA test!

advanceDNA:
U can do that when the child is grown a bit and u can easily go buy pie and ice cream and branch DNA lab.. lol

But when u need to do the DNA quickly when the baby is still in infant stage they are not separated from their mother easily…. U will need to tell her naa

This is not true.... There are cases of women going to the markets(even parties) and leaving their neonates with the dads or neighbors

After the released of that Russian files mandatory DNA test is a necessary, considering how easy and cheap it is to snatch this women panties this days.

pocohantas just worked out of the room

Jagabanfromcali:
Any man who doesn’t dna his kids na full

I think it is the other way round. How can a reasonable man do DNA for his kids. Any child born by a legally married wife/woman belongs to the husband. The man is looking for trouble and emotional trauma.

DNA test will create an atmosphere of insidious contemplation of inherent scaremongering which will result in the triangulation of ……

You’re still reading?

The thing is sometimes, babies are being exchanged at the time of birth by the so-call midwives, while some women have fun the night before they are married so they don't tend to be very certain that that child belongs to their husband that is why they have to be scared

If no be say women world over don make effeminate most men, in the name of equality, which kin liver dey get to even dey run this kin yeye blackmail when be say 'Nigeria is the world's #1 on paternity fraud'

That, 'it will affect the child's psychology' is so annoying to hear.
Which yeye psychology?

Gbadugbakun:
Do you even need to tell her. DNA can be done with a strand of hair from the child or saliva or anything belonging to the child. Just take whatever you need from the child and do it secretly without her knowledge. If the child is yours you would lock up. If the child isn't yours you can confront her with the results. Telling your wife you want a DNA test is childish and dramatic, because 99% of women would play the victim card with that request.

In many countries, it's illegal to do it without the mother's consent. Yep. They have totally emasculated men.

If you do it and it's negative and you get caught, the gist will now be about your crime, not the woman's fvckabout.
But only a capital MUMU will trust any woman when it comes to paternity matter.

The test is more important than elaborate wedding. It must be done. Unless the man is happy with his household being an orphanage home.

Shedrack777:
The thing is sometimes, babies are being exchanged at the time of birth by the so-call midwives, while some women have fun the night before they are married so they don't tend to be very certain that that child belongs to their husband that is why they have to be scared

Scared about what exactly?

givedemwotowoto:
DNA test will create an atmosphere of insidious contemplation of inherent scaremongering which will result in the triangulation of ……

You’re still reading?

Which kind Grammar and Grammartological Grammar be this ooooooooo mucheche Hahaha 😂


DNA is a must ooooooooo because of the level of distrust and infidelity happening globally ooooooooo

Sterope:
B always come before A in you people's book.

If you trust your wife, why would you want to conduct a DNA test!

What if you trust you wife, but you notice that one of your kids has strange traits & even strange physical looks?

Cases abound of people's trusts being betrayed.

Logics over emotion ..... Don't fall for the emotions of a woman. If u suspect her a little, DO DNA test.

Let's flip it .,.. Do u think if it were men that gives birth to children, women will hesitate to do DNA test?? Think about it.