₦airaland Forum

debbydams:
Hummm...marriage?
It doesn't worth it

says a single mother from kwara

Ibrahim1985:
Some say it is the economy that is preventing them to even settle down. Somebody wey never get his place cannot think of getting marry in the first place except he has a family compound. Some cannot marry Igbo or Hausa or Yoruba woman due to personal perference. Some say i cannot marry a Christian or Muslim. Some say he is AS and I am AS so i cannot marry him or her because I do not want to have SS as children. Some say too many girl are into hookup. Some say men only want sex or women only want money. Some are used to be single and do not see marriage as a big deal anymore. Some do not want to be 2nd wife, 3rd wife or wife number 7 to Alhaji. Some have seen their parents divorce and vowed to never get marriage ever. Some have seen their dad or mum have an affair and vowed to just become babymama or babydaddy.

Whatever the case is, marriage is not for everyone. Live your life, those want to marry must be willing to be open and give love a chance.

The economy is not smiling

The real question should be why should someone want to marry nowadays?

Can you Give any two or three good reasons...?

A quite number of men have not found ladies who would take them for who they are.Mutual understanding is vital in marriage,no marriage lasts a lifetime without it.

Matriage is an achievement no matter what. Whether it comes easy or not, it is an achievement.

Fisiryorh:
Alaye, marriage no be achievement....

A life can be lived well without marriage...

Children can be born without marriage...

Purpose can be achieved without marriage...

No be by force...

1MILLIONLiGHTS:
My problem is not the women. IF ONLY HER AND MY FAMILY,FRIENDS, NEIGHBOURS, CHURCH, WORK PLACE, RELATIVES AND COUSINS CAN LEAVE US ALONE, MARRIAGE WOULD HAVE BEEN SWEET TO ENTER. EVERY BODY WANTS TO CONTROL AND PILOT. NA WOMAN I MARRY ABI NA PEOPLE? MCHEW! AFRICA? HMM! EXTERNAL DISTURBANCES ARE THE GREATEST DISCOURAGEMENT TO MARRIAGE FOR ME. I PREFER TO MARRY IN OYINBO LAND SHA!

my brother,thanks for bringing up this point... ordinary relationship with a Nigerian gal;mama,friends, siblings,pastor,neighbours go want influence the relationship...you go come dey wonder wether na full community you dey do relationship with. Come imagine say you marry that kind person,na outsiders go dey control your marriage for you.

You better na.

People are earning 40k with location to their workplace so far from home.
Depression each day!

kushme:
I earn 50k as teacher.

TallNigerian:
Can you shed more light bro?

most of the broken home fault is from both side, because many people go into marriage because of what they will gain from it, but after the marriage it will now be reversed is the case.

This supportive you guys are saying is for old ladies. Except you want to marry an advanced aged woman, that is when supportive will come into play, because these particular set of ladies are already earning from a skill or have a good salary job.

This does not apply to young females.

livinbygrace:
Young men pls don’t ever marry any lady that’s not working and not supportive .
When responsibility comes you will forget love and the greatest mistake a man can make is to marry a woman that’s not supporting .
Even in developed world with better economy ,responsibility is 50/50 not to talk of this Nigerian economy .
The easiest fall of any man no matter how gifted or talented you are is to marry a woman that’s not supportive or working .
You will regret it

judewrites:
Unemployment
Underemployment
Purposeless life
Poverty
Spiritual spouses 💍
Household enemies 🏠

Very true words

Nice2023:
Poverty
Unemployment.
Lack of ambition .
No clear goals.
Lack of finance.
Gambling and seriousness.

Chale U finish talk with gambling U include for that list

Fisiryorh:
Alaye, marriage no be achievement....

A life can be lived well without marriage...

Children can be born without marriage...

Purpose can be achieved without marriage...

No be by force...

Marriage is a necessity because it's ordained by God. Children out of wedlock is not acceptable by God. Sex outside marriage is a sin.

Women are 60% of Nigeria . Polygamy is the way

adamkkk:
People still dey marry ?

People inside are regretting it like 2015 election

So you are knacking outside regularly
God go vex for you o
Make you no go knack witch sha

Please stop this nonsense of stereotyping people (both male and female alike) as failures even if you the OP will not admit it. Marriage as not an achievement.

Now, as a married man, if you can't

1. Instill moral values on your kids, you are a failure
2. Pay rent, school fees, etc, you are a failure
3. F**k for at least five minutes (bedmatic-wise), you are a failure
4. Have peace of mind as a married man, you have failed.

What am I trying to emphasize? Marriage is not for everyone. You can be a failure even as a married man or woman.

Stop stereotyping single people as failure all because they are happy being singles.

Marriage is not an achievement OK, whether for people in their 30s, 40s, 50s or 60s?

I'm a 90 year old Biafran man living in Abakaliki, unmarried but successful.

If you see me outside, I'm fitter and fresher than 99% of all married men in Africa. Someone once asked if I am in my 40's. I just laugh.

I take serum to look younger and do human rishuals every month for Goodluck and Fortune.

Marriage is not a responsibility for 21st century men.

If you want to live long, don't marry.

Konjiboii:
Do you know one you will die and your chapter will be shut forever , the things of this world wouldn’t matter to you anymore? There’s a life after this and I genuinely know only righteous people with virtue can only go. Riches and accomplishments won’t take you there or last forever, even Alexander the Great has been forgotten.

Since you just mentioned him, obviously not

You remember him

People are still marrying, its not the 7 years of tribulations yet. People are mallying.

Oshin56:
most of the broken home fault is from both side, because many people go into marriage because of what they will gain from it, but after the marriage it will now be reversed is the case.

You are not wrong though. I agree with you

yeah i noticed 🤔

Marry if you want to and if you are not ready, take your time. I love children that is what i love about marriage. This generation has a lot of stress, and apart from stress, the social media has changed how people see the world, their expectations and how they relate to each other.


Sometimes people want a perfect partner , or they want someone to be like a celeb, or they get so many attention and take it for granted.

Some want a person of a greater social status, some want to enjoy their freedom. Some want someone they can control. Some want someone in the same church.

People just over complicate things sometimes.

Konjiboii:
Do you know one you will die and your chapter will be shut forever , the things of this world wouldn’t matter to you anymore? There’s a life after this and I genuinely know only righteous people with virtue can only go. Riches and accomplishments won’t take you there or last forever, even Alexander the Great has been forgotten.

The Manipulated Man, and the Polygamous Sex comes to mind. She's an excellent writer. I read both books!

Sonnobax15:

Both relationship and marriage na scam

In fact,both of them were designed by only God knows who to lure majority of innocent men into embracing their death before their time

no bro relationship is better for men especially if you are good looking

stan4b:
Just don't see marriage as an achievement.
Everybody think because I'm doing okay, I have my own business, a car, and living comfortably at 35. Then, the next thing must be marriage.

Marriage is good, but, it feels like gambling to me, I may marry now, and not be as happy as I am now.

But, I'm still praying to God to give me someone I can be happy with, not all these runs girls that are everywhere.

a man is always happier when single, for a man to be happy in marriage is a rare phenomenon, from personal experience

You're right on point 👌

judewrites:
Unemployment
Underemployment
Purposeless life
Poverty
Spiritual spouses 💍
Household enemies 🏠

Please who is this wise man?

adamkkk:
People still dey marry ?

People inside are regretting it like 2015 election

The way things are going, very soon it will be awkward to hear or see someone gets married.

All these may be true but....
The MAIN reason is the fact that the Agbado sifu and the monumental dull.ard.inho before him have destroyed the economy totally
No need for long talk

If say I never marry by now I for done but house build for my family land or for South Africa, but since I married come back Nigeria it’s just down to earth,
As a man it’s good to marry at 40 45years
At least by then you would have make it Big

Fisiryorh:
Alaye, marriage no be achievement....

A life can be lived well without marriage...

Children can be born without marriage...

Purpose can be achieved without marriage...

No be by force...

How old are you PLS? A matured man of over 40 will never type this non. Sense you put down

A lot of negative comments are coming from married men. Be wise

Yolat129:
A lot of negative comments are coming from married men. Be wise

You will eat your wiseness in old age when loneliness becomes your bed mate.