₦airaland Forum

Sonnobax15:

Both relationship and marriage na scam

In fact,both of them were designed by only God knows who to lure majority of innocent men into embracing their death before their time

Ibrahim1985:
Some say it is the economy that is preventing them to even settle down. Somebody wey never get his place cannot think of getting marry in the first place except he has a family compound. Some cannot marry Igbo or Hausa or Yoruba woman due to personal perference. Some say i cannot marry a Christian or Muslim. Some say he is AS and I am AS so i cannot marry him or her because I do not want to have SS as children. Some say too many girl are into hookup. Some say men only want sex or women only want money. Some are used to be single and do not see marriage as a big deal anymore. Some do not want to be 2nd wife, 3rd wife or wife number 7 to Alhaji. Some have seen their parents divorce and vowed to never get marriage ever. Some have seen their dad or mum have an affair and vowed to just become babymama or babydaddy.

Whatever the case is, marriage is not for everyone. Live your life, those want to marry must be willing to be open and give love a chance.

LARRYOBRAIN:
Marriage is an achievement, when you reach age, you go understand.

tolufase:
Our economy is not favorable to ordinary Nigerians. Imagine 35 old men who are still earning below 100k. Such men won't plan to marry except they want to settle for poverty.

davidtemi:
Stop saying marriage is not an achievement.
It is an achievement for me and I love my family 100%

Ebenezer2021:
says a single mother from kwara

Kenobsky:
Oga na economic hardships but for the ladies na spiritual husband's plus say they are choosing men this days but ended up looking for a mechanic or radio repairer to marry.

davidtemi:
Stop saying marriage is not an achievement.
It is an achievement for me and I love my family 100%

nedekid:
No need to be in hurry, wait another 10 years before considering marriage, if by 45 you still feel as you do today, wait till you are 55 jare, nothing do you. Atleast you can do father of the day to kids of your peers when they are all getting married.

DrAkpa:
You will eat your wiseness in old age when loneliness becomes your bed mate.

gracias124:
Na sporty dey cause am

SixSeven:
Men in your 30s are different from the past.

Banhammy717:
Who died?

HowDareU:
Please stop this nonsense of stereotyping people (both male and female alike) as failures even if you the OP will not admit it. Marriage as not an achievement.

Now, as a married man, if you can't

1. Instill moral values on your kids, you are a failure
2. Pay rent, school fees, etc, you are a failure
3. F**k for at least five minutes (bedmatic-wise), you are a failure
4. Have peace of mind as a married man, you have failed.

What am I trying to emphasize? Marriage is not for everyone. You can be a failure even as a married man or woman.

Stop stereotyping single people as failure all because they are happy being singles.

Marriage is not an achievement OK, whether for people in their 30s, 40s, 50s or 60s?

Acidosis:
But most people in Nigeria don't get to experience old age, do they?

It takes a great deal of grace and 'connection' to see 70–80-year-old couples still together these days. Either they're separated, both die at some point, or one dies and leaves the other behind. Somehow, the one left behind always survives one way or another, which makes your theory invalid.

You don't have to look too far. Look at your family, your inlaws, and your church. Do you know any 70–80-year-old couples still vibing together as one family?

Ebenezer2021:
says a single mother from kwara

Ibrahim1985:
Some say it is the economy that is preventing them to even settle down. Somebody wey never get his place cannot think of getting marry in the first place except he has a family compound. Some cannot marry Igbo or Hausa or Yoruba woman due to personal perference. Some say i cannot marry a Christian or Muslim. Some say he is AS and I am AS so i cannot marry him or her because I do not want to have SS as children. Some say too many girl are into hookup. Some say men only want sex or women only want money. Some are used to be single and do not see marriage as a big deal anymore. Some do not want to be 2nd wife, 3rd wife or wife number 7 to Alhaji. Some have seen their parents divorce and vowed to never get marriage ever. Some have seen their dad or mum have an affair and vowed to just become babymama or babydaddy.

Whatever the case is, marriage is not for everyone. Live your life, those want to marry must be willing to be open and give love a chance.

bluefilm:
The real question should be why should someone want to marry nowadays?

Can you Give any two or three good reasons...?

SixSeven:
Men in your 30s are different from the past.

TheStoriesOfMan:
I'm a 90 year old Biafran man living in Abakaliki, unmarried but successful.

If you see me outside, I'm fitter and fresher than 99% of all married men in Africa. Someone once asked if I am in my 40's. I just laugh.

I take serum to look younger and do human rishuals every month for Goodluck and Fortune.

Marriage is not a responsibility for 21st century men.

If you want to live long, don't marry.

delpee:
People married with low incomes in the past and worked hard together to build their homes successfully over the years. The problem may be that most people want perfection before committing to marriage now. Sadly, it means more people will stay single longer or never marry.

Love800:
You better na.

People are earning 40k with location to their workplace so far from home.
Depression each day !

Fisiryorh:
but
Children born without marriage are bastards

Acidosis:
But most people in Nigeria don't get to experience old age, do they?...

gracias124:
Na sporty dey cause am

Kemetian:
YES THEY DO. You're talking rubbish.

And please don't mention the life expectancy figures of fifty whatever because that's from measuring infant/maternal mortality rates mostly in the north.

Doesn't mean that actual adults are dropping dead at 50-something.

Guestmale:
Marriage is a necessity because it's ordained by God. Children out of wedlock is not acceptable by God. Sex outside marriage is a sin.