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In response to this post. https://www.nairaland.com/8622686/why-many-30-40-something

Ladies may not like this truth

Women empowerment was sold as the ultimate path to freedom, fulfillment, and control over their lives.

Education. Career. Money. Independence.

It sounded perfect.

But nobody warned women about the trade-off.

Biology never changed.

Women still prefer men they respect.
And respect, whether people like it or not, is heavily tied to competence, stability, and economic strength.

Now here is the paradox modern society created:

As women climb higher economically, the number of men they consider equal or acceptable becomes smaller.

Not because men disappeared.

But because hypergamy never disappeared.

It simply collided with equality.

This is why you now see:

– More single, successful women than ever before
– More men opting out of relationships completely
– Marriage ages rising rapidly
– Fertility rates collapsing globally

I’m not saying education is not good for women, it is of course.. but a woman at her prime at 23 to 27, should focus on finding a biological mate instead of chasing PhD, that would take 4 to 5 years to complete.
They give women more scholarships and empowerment programs…
Now you as a woman start PhD at 25, finish at age 30..
Or chasing career vigorously, there’s no way you can have time to start raising a family…
Of course there are exceptions who will find someone for themselves but the reality is that the pool will reduce drastically and not everyone would be lucky.

https://ourworldindata.org/fertility-rate#fertility-rate-and-female-education

Now a woman has built a successful career at 30, and now thinking of marriage..
She is obviously looking to marry a man older and much more successful, the question is how many men are single at that age and much more successful? Of course they are available but the pool obviously reduces for her…
lol
But the reverse is the case for men, a man as he grows older and higher economically have more pool of women to choose from …

And if you think I’m lying , check out the reason for declining birth rate in developed countries in the world…

https://ourworldindata.org/fertility-rate#fertility-rate-and-female-education

Omoawoke:
I’m not saying education is not good for women, it is of course.. but a woman at her prime at 23 to 27....

A woman is at her prime at 23 to 27, according to whom? Your mama abi na your papa?

Even imbe-iles know not to spew such nonsense in the open in the year 2026. Kai! 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
A woman is at her prime at 23 to 27, according to whom? Your mama abi na your papa?

Even imbe-iles know not to spew such nonsense in the open in the year 2026. Kai! 🥱🥱

I know this will pain you , lmao…

Feminists won’t like the truth..

Madam, you can never ever fight biology.. you ca cry as much as you wish, banter , argue to death but you can never ever fight the reality

In fact, once a woman crosses some certain age, it becomes very hard for them to find a successful biological mate.
Imagine toasting a woman of 35+… just too stressful, their minds have become iron mind 😂
Too much grammar and overwork…
When I can find a young sweet girl of 25+ that won’t stress me…

Omoawoke:
✓ I know this will pain you , lmao…Feminists won’t like the truth..
Madam, you can never ever fight biology.. you ca cry as much as you wish, banter , argue to death but you can never ever fight the reality In fact, once a woman crosses some certain age, it becomes very hard for them to find a successful biological mate.
Imagine toasting a woman of 35+… just too stressful, their minds have become iron mind 😂
Too much grammar and overwork…
When I can find a young sweet girl of 25+ that won’t stress me…

Again, A woman is at her prime at 23 to 27, according to whom? Your mama abi na your papa?

Even imbe-iles know not to spew such nonsense in the open in the year 2026. Kai! 🥱🥱

Omoawoke:
In response to this post. https://www.nairaland.com/8622686/why-many-30-40-something

Ladies may not like this truth

Women empowerment was sold as the ultimate path to freedom, fulfillment, and control over their lives.

Education. Career. Money. Independence.

It sounded perfect.

But nobody warned women about the trade-off.

Biology never changed.

Women still prefer men they respect.
And respect, whether people like it or not, is heavily tied to competence, stability, and economic strength.

Now here is the paradox modern society created:

As women climb higher economically, the number of men they consider equal or acceptable becomes smaller.

Not because men disappeared.

But because hypergamy never disappeared.

It simply collided with equality.

This is why you now see:

– More single, successful women than ever before
– More men opting out of relationships completely
– Marriage ages rising rapidly
– Fertility rates collapsing globally

You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?

Age doesn't determine respect; maturity does. A twenty-four year old man can date a thirty year old woman without any issues.

Being successful gives women even more options. Some women prefer younger men, some others prefer men at the peak of their success. There are also women who actively support their partners in achieving success.

What you need to understand is that when a man and a woman start dating, even if the woman is older, the age factor tends to fade. Over time, they rarely even notice the age gap.

Men, whether younger or older, have some level of ego, a healthy ego is normal. Many men who marry older women; especially those who are not more than seven years older; are very mature. They rarely tolerate or permit disrespect.

Merry100:
You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?

Age doesn't determine respect; maturity does. A twenty-four year old man can date a thirty year old woman without any issues.

Being successful gives women even more options. Some women prefer younger men, some others prefer men at the peak of their success. There are also women who actively support their partners in achieving success.

What you need to understand is that when a man and a woman start dating, even if the woman is older, the age factor tends to fade. Over time, they rarely even notice the age gap.

Men, whether younger or older, have some level of ego, a healthy ego is normal. Many men who marry older women; especially those who are not more than seven years older; are very mature. They rarely tolerate or permit disrespect.

This is sweet to say that young men prefer older women..

But face reality, this is not Bollywood , how many women have you ever seen marry downwards?

lol, are you dating a younger man you are richer than?

Don’t complicate things, how many of your friends or sisters or female cousins go to date a younger man that is even below them in education and career ? Tell me!

A man can complete his PhD and go and marry a girl doing nysc
Can you finish your PhD as a woman and go marry a man doing nysc?

Merry100:
You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?

Age doesn't determine respect; maturity does. A twenty-four year old man can date a thirty year old woman without any issues.

Being successful gives women even more options. Some women prefer younger men, some others prefer men at the peak of their success. There are also women who actively support their partners in achieving success.

What you need to understand is that when a man and a woman start dating, even if the woman is older, the age factor tends to fade. Over time, they rarely even notice the age gap.

Men, whether younger or older, have some level of ego, a healthy ego is normal. Many men who marry older women; especially those who are not more than seven years older; are very mature. They rarely tolerate or permit disrespect.

Get the bitter truth, any man going for an older lady has selfish intentions or simply gold-digging.

No right thinking man who's doing well will opt for an older ki*ty(5yrs older above)

In my 30s, single and unmarried. Economy is blurry. I might accept an older lady with the funds,(with selfish reasons). Not coz I'm genuinely intentional but just to clamp down on my financial stress.

But personally I'm not even fascinated about the concept of marriage anymore, financial stress has ruined my mental health resulting in low interest, so if it comes fine,if it doesn't, life goes on but no man is ready to get married with low funds coz it's tantamount to settling with poverty

She might be a good lady,nice character,loving and sweet but that age factor will always linger on my mind coz marriage in this part of the continent was structured in a way that a man is suppose to be older than his spouse and not the other way around.

PerfectStranger:
Get the bitter truth, any man going for an older lady has selfish intentions or simply gold-digging.

No right thinking man who's doing well will opt for an older ki*ty(5yrs older above)

In my 30s, single and unmarried. Economy is blurry. I might accept an older lady with the funds,(with selfish reasons). Not coz I'm genuinely intentional but just to clamp down on my financial stress.

But personally I'm not even fascinated about the concept of marriage anymore, financial stress has ruined my mental health resulting in low interest, so if it comes fine,if it doesn't, life goes on but no man is ready to get married with low funds coz it's tantamount to settling with poverty

She might be a good lady,nice character,loving and sweet but that age factor will always linger on my mind coz marriage in this part of the continent was structured in a way that a man is suppose to be older than his spouse and not the other way around.

Guy, speaking from my own personal experience I totally disagree with you. Age has never been a barrier for me. The "age factor" is just one of those internet myths and lies. I get approached a lot by younger guys.

In fact, recently, a 25 year old boyfriend of someone I know (she is 24) has been persistently persisting me. He even broke up his relationship with her. And even after I explained to him that "ladies' code" doesn't permit such, he came to my shop and dropped £200 because I refused to give him my account number.

A lot of guys don't care about age. Once they like a lady, they will use every means to pursue her.

Omoawoke:
This is sweet to say that young men prefer older women..

But face reality, this is not Bollywood , how many women have you ever seen marry downwards?

lol, are you dating a younger man you are richer than?

Don’t complicate things, how many of your friends or sisters or female cousins go to date a younger man that is even below them in education and career ? Tell me!

A man can complete his PhD and go and marry a girl doing nysc
Can you finish your PhD as a woman and go marry a man doing nysc?

I know many relationships where the wife is older, but you would never know unless someone told you because they don't act like it. The wife being older than the husband is not common but it is not just often exposed to the public.

Though, my guy is more successful and wealthier than I am, I am actually more skeptical about dating a wealthy man than an average man. I only agree to date someone more successful after careful scrutiny. I even prefer to build with my partner.

Merry100:
I know many relationships where the wife is older, but you would never know unless someone told you because they don't act like it. The wife being older than the husband is not common but it is not just often exposed to the public.

Though, my guy is more successful and wealthier than I am, I am actually more skeptical about dating a wealthy man than an average man. I only agree to date someone more successful after careful scrutiny. I even prefer to build with my partner.

I know there are relationships where women are older

My point is this, they are generally fewer than men being older

And not just about age. I’m talking about career, money and status… how many people do you see going to marry a man younger, and lower in status…?
A man can be younger yet higher in status

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7553103102446931231

Omoawoke:
I know there are relationships where women are older

My point is this, they are generally fewer than men being older

And not just about age. I’m talking about career, money and status… how many people do you see going to marry a man younger, and lower in status…?
A man can be younger yet higher in status

When a man and a woman reach a stage of comfort, they won't want to jeopardize that comfort for anything. Some might even decide not to get married.

Money does not have a face or character. Those you see pursuing men with money or status are often average women looking for elevation, or women who are used to being sponsored by a man and want an even more successful man to take over that role.

Many successful women simply need a good man who will treat them right, regardless of their status; not a man who will turn their peaceful, queen-like life into a problematic one.

Many of them can easily date average men who are doing reasonably well on their own. It is men who are still struggling for survival that they mostly avoid, because many of those men are very insecure and create unnecessary problems.

Younger men, just like divorced men and older men (more than 20 years older), tend to be more predictable. They are often very good at caring for a woman. It is not just about money; they give women the respect they deserve.

Young men who date women not more than seven years older than themselves tend to be very caring because they are genuinely interested in the woman. Similarly, divorced men tend to be overly caring because they do not want what happened in their previous relationship to repeat itself, and older men (more than 20 years older) tend to be naturally generous and caring.

Life is not black and white. If a woman finds peace of mind and happiness with a man, regardless of his status, she will prefer him.

Who does not like peace of mind? And who, in their right senses, would choose problems when there is a choice? Many Nigerian women married problematic men because they felt they had no choice; some did it for survival.

Money can always be earned, and it moves from hand to hand. With great potential and good business ideas, two people can work together to reach even the greatest heights.
Many couples fail to achieve greatness together because they see each other as rivals. I have seen many foolish couples who, instead of building together and competing against the world, compete against themselves.

And the worst part, instead of facing reality, they are blaming men, saying men are intimidated by their success.

How can you be successful and still want to marry a "more successful" man?

What then is the point of your success?

A man wants to be successful so he can be a provider for his spouse and family. And so when he's successful, he can marry a poor lady, a rich lady or any lady his heart desires because he now has the money.

A woman will become successful and want to marry a more successful man, what then is the point of the success?

If you're earning millions and looking for who will still pay your bills, provide for you, then you're not different from the average broke girls.

Even worst, you want more things and then wants to be respected without being submissive because you now have your own money.

So a man who wants to marry you needs to do everything he does for a regular girl at a higher price because you have "tastes and standards" while getting a "louder and less submissive" partner, who's probably older and less pretty.

Don't you see the man is gaining nothing? Why would any sane rich man go for a successful lady when he has better options?

The only way these women can win is to either give up on marriage totally and become baby mamas or go out there and pick an okada man to marry.

Marry one of those Okada men or labourer, put them at home as your "house husband" and provide for them.

Successful men do this. They marry cute, young and lovely pos operators, sales girls, fuel pump attendants or nail technicians all the time.

So why do successful women not do the same thing?

Instead they still want wealthy men who will chase after them.

Successful women are a joke

Omoawoke:
In response to this post. https://www.nairaland.com/8622686/why-many-30-40-something

Ladies may not like this truth

Women empowerment was sold as the ultimate path to freedom, fulfillment, and control over their lives.

Education. Career. Money. Independence.

It sounded perfect.

But nobody warned women about the trade-off.

Biology never changed.

Women still prefer men they respect.
And respect, whether people like it or not, is heavily tied to competence, stability, and economic strength.

Now here is the paradox modern society created:

As women climb higher economically, the number of men they consider equal or acceptable becomes smaller.

Not because men disappeared.

But because hypergamy never disappeared.

It simply collided with equality.

This is why you now see:

– More single, successful women than ever before
– More men opting out of relationships completely
– Marriage ages rising rapidly
– Fertility rates collapsing globally

Merry100:
You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?

you said this and then went ahead to tell him what men want.

Well I'm not a woman, so I'm not going to tell you what women want.

But as a man I can tell you this confidently:

Never since the history of this world has any man ever listed "successful, money and wealth" as a criteria when looking for the woman of his dream.

Let that sink in slowly.

No man has ever looked at a woman's collection of cars, her bank accounts or the position she occupied in her place of work and say that's the woman for me.

It has never come up any man's group discussion.

Men don't just rate women for money.

What a man ever want and I'll type this in order of importance:

1. Physical beauty
2. Youthfulness
3. Respectfulness and virginity

A man will fall in love with a woman's physical appearance first and approach her. Some men won't care about the virginity provided she's not the type that sleeps around but the respect is very important.

Take this to any man you know and they will agree with this. I mean ANY MAN YOU KNOW IN THIS WORLD.

You see anything about success and wealth there? Men don't care about that.

Host78:
And the worst part, instead of facing reality, they are blaming men, saying men are intimidated by their success.

How can you be successful and still want to marry a "more successful" man?

What then is the point of your success?

A man wants to be successful so he can be a provider for his spouse and family. And so when he's successful, he can marry a poor lady, a rich lady or any lady his heart desires because he now has the money.

A woman will become successful and want to marry a more successful man, what then is the point of the success?

If you're earning millions and looking for who will still pay your bills, provide for you, then you're not different from the average broke girls.

Even worst, you want more things and then wants to be respected without being submissive because you now have your own money.

So a man who wants to marry you needs to do everything he does for a regular girl at a higher price because you have "tastes and standards" while getting a "louder and less submissive" partner, who's probably older and less pretty.

Don't you see the man is gaining nothing? Why would any sane rich man go for a successful lady when he has better options?

The only way these women can win is to either give up on marriage totally and become baby mamas or go out there and pick an okada man to marry.

Marry one of those Okada men or labourer, put them at home as your "house husband" and provide for them.

Successful men do this. They marry cute, young and lovely pos operators, sales girls, fuel pump attendants or nail technicians all the time.

So why do successful women not do the same thing?

Instead they still want wealthy men who will chase after them.

Successful women are a joke

Try to avoid forming your perspective based on nollywood movies; many of them are fictional. Instead, listen to real-life experiences from people. Successful men don't necessarily prioritize poor women or avoid successful women; those are just nollywood tales. Many men choose women they are genuinely interested in, regardless of their status. Subscribe to Mrs. Ibukun Awosika's YouTube channel to learn more life lessons.

Merry100:
When a man and a woman reach a stage of comfort, they won't want to jeopardize that comfort for anything. Some might even decide not to get married.

this reeks of Facebook reels feminist lifestyle where they come into an empty house, light up a candle, grab a glass of wine or whatever with their cats and talk about how they don't want to jeopardize their comfort

Again I won't speak for women but any man in this world seeks to be with a woman who only sleeps with him.

He wants a family more than anything. In fact, from the day a man reaches puberty, he starts fantazin about making money, marrying the girl of his dream and living together forever.

It's his basic biology. Of course, circumstances make men avoid this today but to say, he doesn't want to jeopardise his "comfort" is a big lie.

He just can't find the love. Jeff bezos has all the comfort and never cared sending his wife away.

But he risked it all again to get married. Forget those social media reels and face real life. Loneliness is not comfort.

Money does not have a face or character. Those you see pursuing men with money or status are often average women looking for elevation, or women who are used to being sponsored by a man and want an even more successful man to take over that role.

Many successful women simply need a good man who will treat them right, regardless of their status; not a man who will turn their peaceful, queen-like life into a problematic one.

This is another fat lie. A woman no matter how successful still want a man who is more successful than herself.

You hear them saying she can't settle for less. A millionaire woman is out here looking for a billionaire husband who she can submit to. Anything less than that and she's "settling"

And so, the average broke girl is no different from the successful woman, both are running after richer men.

These richer men (depending on the level of the woman) have various options. A man like Davido doesn't care if Chioma is a millionaire or a broke student from Nsukka.

All he cares about is whether she's beautiful, intelligent and respectful. Her wealth is not important to Davido.

And so, the "successful women" after climbing all the ladder to get to the top where they are realize that when it comes to dating they still need to compete with the average girl who has achieved nothing in life.

Why? Because the men don't just care about her wealth. Her wealth is not giving her any upper hands.

And so, she's up there with her "high standards and tastes for luxury" and no man is pricing her market because 1. There are prettier and younger girls for these men 2. These average broke girls are more respectful and submissive.

So, she's rich and successful with high standards but no man is desiring her.

Many of them can easily date average men who are doing reasonably well on their own. It is men who are still struggling for survival that they mostly avoid, because many of those men are very insecure and create unnecessary problems.

like I said above, a successful woman still wants a more successful man.

A millionaire woman wants a billionaire man. But to that billionaire man, she's just a woman like every other woman. So why would pick her instead of the young and beautiful broke girl from Nsukka village?

A billionaire man has no problem marrying a salesgirl or a pos operator girl because all women are the same.

So, again these women are rich and looking to date richer men who don't want to date them.

Younger men, just like divorced men and older men (more than 20 years older), tend to be more predictable. They are often very good at caring for a woman. It is not just about money; they give women the respect they deserve.

the only option for rich successful women are Okada men, labourers and farmers.

If a rich man can pick a nail tech or salesgirl to be his wife and change her life, why can't these rich women marry these men and put them at home as "house husbands?"

The point is, a successful woman who goes after a more successful man, essentially zeros her wealth out.

Women's success is an illusion when it comes to dating and men know this. Na una wey be girls no understand the matter.

It's not Nollywood. It's reality.

Ronaldo married a salesgirl.

Messi married who we don't know. Check out any rich well known man and then try to see the girl beside him if she's anything successful.

Any know male celebrity in Nigeria married some obscure woman you only got to know because he married her.

This is a bankable fact. Men marry for beauty. Your money is nothing

Merry100:
Try to avoid forming your perspective based on nollywood movies; many of them are fictional. Instead, listen to real-life experiences from people. Successful men don't necessarily prioritize poor women or avoid successful women; those are just nollywood tales. Many men choose women they are genuinely interested in, regardless of their status. Subscribe to Mrs. Ibukun Awosika's YouTube channel to learn more life lessons.

Again you prove my point saying this:

"Successful men don't necessarily prioritize poor women or avoid successful women; those are just nollywood tales. Many men choose women they are genuinely interested in, regardless of their status."

You see, men don't prioritize wealth or poverty in women.

They marry who they desire and what evokes desires in men?

1. Physical beauty 2. Purity and innocence 3. Respect and submissiveness

Now, a woman who's 30+ with money and high standards or whatever lacks all these qualities.

Now put her in the dating pool with all the other jobless women who possess the above qualities, why should a man pick her over the others?

Host78:
you said this and then went ahead to tell him what men want.

Well I'm not a woman, so I'm not going to tell you what women want.

But as a man I can tell you this confidently:

Never since the history of this world has any man ever listed "successful, money and wealth" as a criteria when looking for the woman of his dream.

Let that sink in slowly.

No man has ever looked at a woman's collection of cars, her bank accounts or the position she occupied in her place of work and say that's the woman for me.

It has never come up any man's group discussion.

Men don't just rate women for money.

What a man ever want and I'll type this in order of importance:

1. Physical beauty
2. Youthfulness
3. Respectfulness and virginity

A man will fall in love with a woman's physical appearance first and approach her. Some men won't care about the virginity provided she's not the type that sleeps around but the respect is very important.

Take this to any man you know and they will agree with this. I mean ANY MAN YOU KNOW IN THIS WORLD.

You see anything about success and wealth there? Men don't care about that.

😂😂😂 This is cracking me up. Many nairaland guys often act like they are the standard for every man in Nigeria and the world. I know men who would never date a woman who is a liability, and only want women who are already doing well on their own.

You know such men just like every woman knows men who would give her a million dollars but she's never dating such men.

My dear, the men you know is more or less a single grain at the seashore.

Myself, I know men who are billionaires, doesn't mean I go about feeling like all men are billionaires or that majority of men are billionaires.

The men you know are less than 0.00000000000001 percent of most men.

Merry100:
😂😂😂 This is cracking me up. Many nairaland guys often act like they are the standard for every man in Nigeria and the world. I know men who would never date a woman who is a liability, and only want women who are already doing well on their own.

what I'm telling you here is what almost any man you meet today will agree with regardless of whether you know them or not.

And yes, any man here can be the standard for men everywhere in this world.

See, men's requirements for dating and marriage is so simple, it's almost predictable.

As a man, I know every man wants a beautiful woman, a virgin (or at most a woman who doesn't sleep around), a woman who respects him, knows how to keep a conversation going and ontop of that, loves to do things for him.

Take this and give to any man and he'll gladly marry such a girl. Of course there's a few variations like "what does a man consider beautiful?"

It's almost predictable. This is why a father can easily marry a wife for his son. All he needs is to know what his son considers as beautiful.

The rest is something that is universal. It's very very simple. Na una wey be girls just dey form akara.

Host78:
It's not Nollywood. It's reality.

Ronaldo married a salesgirl.

Messi married who we don't know. Check out any rich well known man and then try to see the girl beside him if she's anything successful.

Any know male celebrity in Nigeria married some obscure woman you only got to know because he married her.

This is a bankable fact. Men marry for beauty. Your money is nothing

Again you prove my point saying this:

"Successful men don't necessarily prioritize poor women or avoid successful women; those are just nollywood tales. Many men choose women they are genuinely interested in, regardless of their status."

You see, men don't prioritize wealth or poverty in women.

They marry who they desire and what evokes desires in men?

1. Physical beauty 2. Purity and innocence 3. Respect and submissiveness

Now, a woman who's 30+ with money and high standards or whatever lacks all these qualities.

Now put her in the dating pool with all the other jobless women who possess the above qualities, why should a man pick her over the others?

Successful men even often prefer women who are high achievers in their own right; not obscure women.

Michelle Obama was a Harvard educated lawyer and professional before marrying Barack Obama.

Melinda Gates was a Microsoft executive and philanthropist before marrying Bill Gates.

Priscilla Chan was a pediatrician and medical researcher before marrying Mark Zuckerberg.

Grimes was an acclaimed musician and producer before she dated Elon Musk.

Serena Williams was a tennis legend with multiple Grand Slam titles before marrying Alexis Ohanian.

Angelina Jolie was an Academy Award-winning actress and humanitarian before marrying Brad Pitt.

Gwyneth Paltrow was an Oscar-winning actress before marrying Chris Martin.

Victoria Beckham was a Spice Girl, successful fashion designer, and entrepreneur before marrying David Beckham.

Priyanka Chopra was a Bollywood and Hollywood superstar before marrying Nick Jonas.

Salma Hayek was an Academy Award-nominated actress and producer before marrying François-Henri Pinault.

Amal Clooney was a top international human rights lawyer before marrying George Clooney.

Host78:
You know such men just like every woman knows men who would give her a million dollars but she's never dating such men.

My dear, the men you know is more or less a single grain at the seashore.

Myself, I know men who are billionaires, doesn't mean I go about feeling like all men are billionaires or that majority of men are billionaires.

The men you know are less than 0.00000000000001 percent of most men. what I'm telling you here is what almost any man you meet today will agree with regardless of whether you know them or not.

And yes, any man here can be the standard for men everywhere in this world.

See, men's requirements for dating and marriage is so simple, it's almost predictable.

As a man, I know every man wants a beautiful woman, a virgin (or at most a woman who doesn't sleep around), a woman who respects him, knows how to keep a conversation going and ontop of that, loves to do things for him.

Take this and give to any man and he'll gladly marry such a girl. Of course there's a few variations like "what does a man consider beautiful?"

It's almost predictable. This is why a father can easily marry a wife for his son. All he needs is to know what his son considers as beautiful.

The rest is something that is universal. It's very very simple. Na una wey be girls just dey form akara.

If all men think alike, as you claim, then logically, it is possible that you are a hermaphrodite, not just a man. The funniest part is that you even mentioned virgins. Can you name just ten highly respected successful men who married a virgin

No. Men are not hermaphrodite because a hermaphrodite is someone with both male and female reproductive parts

Secondly, there's something called a baseline for everyone.

I don't need to be a prophet to know all humans must like good food. The kind of food they like might be different but the baseline is "all humans like good food"

The same with men. All men like beautiful women before anything else a woman might offer.

All men like women other men cannot touch after this (most men won't care if such a woman is a virgin or not but once they commit to her, they want to know that she is no longer offering herself to other men anymore) .

And after this, they want a respectful woman who is submissive, listens to them and want to do things for them.

Take this woman and give to any man and promise him that she'll never change and he'll marry her today even if he's just meeting her.

We don't think alike, this is why our idea of beauty is very different. I consider a woman beautiful if she has a fine face, light skin with tiny bóóbs and big backside.

This is my idea of beauty. Other men dont consider this as beauty.

Merry100:
If all men think alike, as you claim, then logically, it is possible that you are a hermaphrodite, not just a man. The funniest part is that you even mentioned virgins. Can you name just ten highly respected successful men who married a virgin

Virginity is not a funny part. All things being equal, any man would rather choose a virgin than a second hand woman.

But if a man can't get a virgin and he meets a girl that's beautiful, respectful and submissive, he'll still marry her.

Now, did you see any mention of success in the requirement?

Now when a woman is successful, she suddenly puff up her shoulders, raise her standards to high heaven thinking she has something.

Something no man ever desired or wants in a woman. It's like going to a blind town and selling mirrors. And because you're the only seller, you raise your price high thinking they have no option apart from buying from you.

Yes, you can raise your prices higher than anything else as a sole seller and yes, mirrors are good but it's not useful or of no use to the blinds.

So, in the end, you have beautiful mirrors selling at high prices but no one is buying because no one will use it in a blind town.

The same with successful women. They get successful, raise their standards based on that and then go to places where "richer" men are and want those men to chase after them.

These richer men just are not interested in what they are selling.

Like I always say: successful women are a joke when it comes to dating.

Until they can go into the gutter and pick up a man, bath him, brush him up and put him in their house and provide for him, their success is a joke.

Merry100:
Successful men even often prefer women who are high achievers in their own right; not obscure women.

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This is your problem.

You say "you're not a woman, so you have no right to tell us what a woman want"

But at the same time, you tell us what men want even when a man says that's not what men want.

I can't agree less man. You nailed it bro. The GOSPEL TRUTH.

Host78:
you said this and then went ahead to tell him what men want.

Well I'm not a woman, so I'm not going to tell you what women want.

But as a man I can tell you this confidently:

Never since the history of this world has any man ever listed "successful, money and wealth" as a criteria when looking for the woman of his dream.

Let that sink in slowly.

No man has ever looked at a woman's collection of cars, her bank accounts or the position she occupied in her place of work and say that's the woman for me.

It has never come up any man's group discussion.

Men don't just rate women for money.

What a man ever want and I'll type this in order of importance:

1. Physical beauty
2. Youthfulness
3. Respectfulness and virginity

A man will fall in love with a woman's physical appearance first and approach her. Some men won't care about the virginity provided she's not the type that sleeps around but the respect is very important.

Take this to any man you know and they will agree with this. I mean ANY MAN YOU KNOW IN THIS WORLD.

You see anything about success and wealth there? Men don't care about that.

Host78:
This is your problem.

You say "you're not a woman, so you have no right to tell us what a woman want"

But at the same time, you tell us what men want even when a man says that's not what men want.

I see what you are pointing out, and I get it. My intention was just to correct the idea that all women prioritize dating men that are higher or more successful than them. I have learned not to generalize, because not every guy thinks, acts, or prefers the same things; and the same goes for women. I was just adding my perspective on guys to offer a bit more insight.

Host78:
No. Men are not hermaphrodite because a hermaphrodite is someone with both male and female reproductive parts

Secondly, there's something called a baseline for everyone.

I don't need to be a prophet to know all humans must like good food. The kind of food they like might be different but the baseline is "all humans like good food"

The same with men. All men like beautiful women before anything else a woman might offer.

All men like women other men cannot touch after this (most men won't care if such a woman is a virgin or not but once they commit to her, they want to know that she is no longer offering herself to other men anymore) .

And after this, they want a respectful woman who is submissive, listens to them and want to do things for them.

Take this woman and give to any man and promise him that she'll never change and he'll marry her today even if he's just meeting her.

We don't think alike, this is why our idea of beauty is very different. I consider a woman beautiful if she has a fine face, light skin with tiny bóóbs and big backside.

This is my idea of beauty. Other men dont consider this as beauty.

Virginity is not a funny part. All things being equal, any man would rather choose a virgin than a second hand woman.

But if a man can't get a virgin and he meets a girl that's beautiful, respectful and submissive, he'll still marry her.

Now, did you see any mention of success in the requirement?

Now when a woman is successful, she suddenly puff up her shoulders, raise her standards to high heaven thinking she has something.

Something no man ever desired or wants in a woman. It's like going to a blind town and selling mirrors. And because you're the only seller, you raise your price high thinking they have no option apart from buying from you.

Yes, you can raise your prices higher than anything else as a sole seller and yes, mirrors are good but it's not useful or of no use to the blinds.

So, in the end, you have beautiful mirrors selling at high prices but no one is buying because no one will use it in a blind town.

The same with successful women. They get successful, raise their standards based on that and then go to places where "richer" men are and want those men to chase after them.

These richer men just are not interested in what they are selling.

Like I always say: successful women are a joke when it comes to dating.

Until they can go into the gutter and pick up a man, bath him, brush him up and put him in their house and provide for him, their success is a joke.

Normally, humans with both male and female reproductive traits are not called hermaphrodites; I specifically used that inappropriate term for you. The correct term is intersex, and biologically, men or women can be intersex.

Can you explain this?
Michelle Obama was a Harvard educated lawyer and professional before marrying Barack Obama.

Melinda Gates was a Microsoft executive and philanthropist before marrying Bill Gates.

Priscilla Chan was a pediatrician and medical researcher before marrying Mark Zuckerberg.

Grimes was an acclaimed musician and producer before she dated Elon Musk.

Serena Williams was a tennis legend with multiple Grand Slam titles before marrying Alexis Ohanian.

Angelina Jolie was an Academy Award-winning actress and humanitarian before marrying Brad Pitt.

Gwyneth Paltrow was an Oscar-winning actress before marrying Chris Martin.

Victoria Beckham was a Spice Girl, successful fashion designer, and entrepreneur before marrying David Beckham.

Priyanka Chopra was a Bollywood and Hollywood superstar before marrying Nick Jonas.

Salma Hayek was an Academy Award-nominated actress and producer before marrying François-Henri Pinault.

Amal Clooney was a top international human rights lawyer before marrying George Clooney.

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Not until you guys realise, the biggest reason there are so many single ladies at 30s, is because many of you are not "man enough" to take responsibility of being husband and father.

Check around you, you will see many of you in your 35-45 who yet to know the year they will get marry, if you, and others in that category are bold enough to get married, just imagine, the number of ladies they will take out from singleness.

If woman gets more education and more income back home, I think it's a plus for intending husband, rather than be a disadvantages to such ladies.

From time immemorial woman would do small shakara or being selective, yet they still ended in husband house, but since man refused to be man again, they instead shifting entire blame on female gender.

Merry100:
When a man and a woman reach a stage of comfort, they won't want to jeopardize that comfort for anything. Some might even decide not to get married.

Money does not have a face or character. Those you see pursuing men with money or status are often average women looking for elevation, or women who are used to being sponsored by a man and want an even more successful man to take over that role.

Many successful women simply need a good man who will treat them right, regardless of their status; not a man who will turn their peaceful, queen-like life into a problematic one.

Many of them can easily date average men who are doing reasonably well on their own. It is men who are still struggling for survival that they mostly avoid, because many of those men are very insecure and create unnecessary problems.

Younger men, just like divorced men and older men (more than 20 years older), tend to be more predictable. They are often very good at caring for a woman. It is not just about money; they give women the respect they deserve.

Young men who date women not more than seven years older than themselves tend to be very caring because they are genuinely interested in the woman. Similarly, divorced men tend to be overly caring because they do not want what happened in their previous relationship to repeat itself, and older men (more than 20 years older) tend to be naturally generous and caring.

Life is not black and white. If a woman finds peace of mind and happiness with a man, regardless of his status, she will prefer him.

Who does not like peace of mind? And who, in their right senses, would choose problems when there is a choice? Many Nigerian women married problematic men because they felt they had no choice; some did it for survival.

Money can always be earned, and it moves from hand to hand. With great potential and good business ideas, two people can work together to reach even the greatest heights.
Many couples fail to achieve greatness together because they see each other as rivals. I have seen many foolish couples who, instead of building together and competing against the world, compete against themselves.

Don’t you think you are having an avoidant issue?

I asked a simple question of numbers …

We all know there are few exceptions but the question is how many occurrences of such do you see a woman marrying downward? Compared to the norm where women marry mostly upward.?

And let’s start wit you, your sisters and your friends, lol, which of you married/dated or currently dating someone younger and lower in status than you are?
This is a very simple question and let’s stop wasting each others time with unnecessary epistlesZ

Merry100:
Guy, speaking from my own personal experience I totally disagree with you. Age has never been a barrier for me. The "age factor" is just one of those internet myths and lies. I get approached a lot by younger guys.

In fact, recently, a 25 year old boyfriend of someone I know (she is 24) has been persistently persisting me. He even broke up his relationship with her. And even after I explained to him that "ladies' code" doesn't permit such, he came to my shop and dropped £200 because I refused to give him my account number.

A lot of guys don't care about age. Once they like a lady, they will use every means to pursue her.

Ok ok £200? Wow that a lot, ok let me drop my account for a piece of it

Omoawoke:
Don’t you think you are having an avoidant issue?

I asked a simple question of numbers …

We all know there are few exceptions but the question is how many occurrences of such do you see a woman marrying downward? Compared to the norm where women marry mostly upward.?

And let’s start wit you, your sisters and your friends, lol, which of you married/dated or currently dating someone younger and lower in status than you are?
This is a very simple question and let’s stop wasting each others time with unnecessary epistlesZ

Although I enjoy sharing experiences, there are certain limits to what I share about my family. I value the privacy of the people around me, and I don't believe giving too many personal details is necessary to make a broader point.

That said, I do know women who are higher in rank or status than their husbands. For example, I have an aunt in the force who outranks her husband; they even met through work. Situations like that exist more than people assume; they are just not always loud or stereotypical, especially when the relationship is healthy and balanced.

As for me, my choices are based on personality and compatibility, not status or age. I have dated men who were not at the same level as I was at the time. I have even supported a guy I was dating financially when he needed my assistance.

I have younger male friends and have dated younger men. It is just that I don't enter relationships casually so I avoid dating a lot. I tend to even maintain more friendships than relationships because I'm not good at breaking up. If I don't see genuine long-term potential, I prefer to keep things at the level of friendship rather than venture into dating.