₦airaland Forum

Kewtt:
My dear you can't. You simply cannot. Lesotho...those women are something else

pocohantas:
At some point it was SA women taking them.
Then they fell out with SA.


Now it is Zimbabwe.

Give it time...

DMCA:
We will soon shift d trend

Samantha125:
The only biggest obstacle here is your colonial beliefs and nothing more... If you could put those colonial beliefs aside, you'll see that you have a lot more in common than you'd think.

Mariangeles:
The men determine how their women become.

searchng4love:
9ja men to the world.... Finnish women on mind...

Nnamdipapa:
I honestly do not know any Igbo married to an Hausa except an igbo individual was born and raised in the north. In the end, religion becomes the biggest deciding factor. I once interacted with a Zimbabwean dude and he sounded like someone from igbo or cross river state. He even spoke Nigerian pidgin English with an Igbo accent. I was shocked when he identified as a Zimbabwean.

Emdi1914:
Ok,now I see why marriages don't last if love is just an emotion.How mediocre is the level of your thinking to define love as An Emotion.
Love is a deliberate act that requires maturity,emotional and spiritual maturity.Marriage is for mature minds, mature minds are people that understands that love is not just an emotion.

GUNITGuy:
Thank you. ....but have been with Kenyan, Zimbabwe, Carribean women, even some white women, Indians lol ...You would feel like you're in heaven ....Just

Omoluabi16:
Admit it that it is paining you that Nigerian mehn are the choicest black men home or abroad!! We are the prize!! Zimbabwe's gain, Naija women's loss. #proudly Nigerian man. #We are kings 👑

Samantha125:
None of the above mentioned...😃😃😃... It brings me joy knowing that my tribe is unknown beyond the borders of SA, we shall continue moving within the shadows...

Tinyemeka:
What exact culture shock are you talking about? Care to elaborate please?

Would you the same question arise between an Igbo and Hausa relationship?

When I first saw this video early this year, I asked a Zim lady what she thought and her response was that Zim women still maintain traditional values regarding the role of women in a relationship in respecting the views and catering to the needs of a man in a relationship.

A Nigerian guy is looking for peace of mind which the UK ones seem to have found in the Zim ladies (who mostly are reserved/quiet compared to Nigerian ladies), while most of the Zim guys are rough/randy, prowling for white ladies to hook up with.

Honestly, it will be EXTREMELY difficult for a single Naija guy coming to the UK and seeing the options available, to finally settle down with a Nigerian lady. Just God's grace to be honest.

A British girl does not do billings. Instead she'll be the one spending on the guy or at least sharing expenses.

A Zim/Kenyan/Ugandan lady is naturally packed front and back and does not see sex as a transactional business like most Nigerian ladies do. Will cook and host the guy proper. All she needs is his love and attention.

Romanians (including some Polish girls) are hunting black guys to sample their bedmatic skills for free, based on stories that they've heard.

And you want a Naija guy to come and be listening to Naija girls with their sense of entitlements and loud talk?

Na wa o.

Natbrowny:
Dont sweat it.

The Nigerian guys u underrate and complain about is appreciated by Zimbabwean babes.

Balance the equation.
E fit be say the Zimb babes do not appreciate their men too. So there's an opening for you.

In that same UK. Look for Zimb guys, click and connect.

pocohantas:
Them go soon return una.
No be you and your brothers again.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how do you guys cope with the culture shocks that come with transnational marriages?

Samantha125:
I'm also in an intercultural or should I say transnational marriage of some sort, because my husband is originally from Lesotho, but grew up here in SA... My tribe and his tribe are somehow closely related, so it wasn't a big deal for me.

But I'm not gonna lie, I somehow tend to feel threatened by those ladies from Lesotho... ... I don't even care about SA Sotho ladies, it's always those ones from Lesotho that are giving me sleepless nights whenever I think about them... Those ladies are beautiful...🤦🤦🤦... We recently moved to a predominantly Basotho territory and now I can't even differentiate between who's a South African Sotho and who's from Lesotho, only they can differentiate each other...😭😭😭

Gerrard59:
It's not colonial beliefs but cultural similarities. An Igbo person has more in common with someone from Western Cameroon and even Equatorial Guinea than with a Hausa person. Hausas have a lot in common with Nigeriens.

The colonialist should be blamed for lumping divergent groups, not the colonised for insisting on associating with people who share cultural similarities.

omooba969:
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I get your drift chief, some Nigerian women are just so TERRIBLE. 😒

jasontrigga:
Go into the marriage with honesty
There’s really no difference
Almost every human is same

I’m married to an America , I was curious from the beginning
But later realize , it’s same human behaviors nothing really strange or new

Gerrard59:
Your post is quite an eye opener.

Why e be say British universities no get plenty of scholarships ni?

I don't know to be honest, but I was going to say that they don't have the funds for that.

Tertiary education was initially free up till as recently as 1998 and has only changed by little since then. The government as a matter of fact froze any tuition hikes by universities since 2013 and only recently allowed the schools to increase the tuition fees marginally.

The universities had therefore had to rely heavily on international students to meet their funding gaps, so any scholarships would be seen as a reduction on their assumed tight budget. I don't think they receive the same level of endowments that US unis get from their alumni.

Maybe because they don't view sex in a prudish and sanctimonious manner as we do. Sexually liberal Nigerian ladies are categorised as "ashawo".

In my books, Nigerian men and women fit themselves. They are made for each other (preferably of the same ethnic group).

🙂
I don't know what to say about that.

folake4u:
@ the bolded. But your Nigerian brothers keep killing the British women when the ladies end the relationship. Talmabout not handling rejection the right way.

Mariangeles:
You know what I love about Nigerian ladies? All these kind talks don't move them.
Them stand where them stand, agaracha must come back.
Unu fegharichaa, unu efebata.
And come back, y'all must. It is inevitable.

GUNITGuy:
Like could just be a pain somehow
I never thought women could be just normal like beautiful women to you as a man whether you're spec or not ...
Until I traveled out to see others honestly they re just humans and see you as human who deserves dignity unlike the one who sees you as a means to an end ....
Many Nigerian Men have never tasted a woman's love apart from their mother before they've had to pay or earn it all their life time

Tinyemeka:
Can you share some examples?