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From my own perspective women/girls only chat with you when you add something valuable or impactful to them..

If she doesn't benefit from you one way or the other, she won't even take her time to text you. This her girls that will even view your status and pass, but once they saw you uploading a status where you are celebrating or better still you just bought a new car or a new home..

She will even be the one to flood your DM with text..

My brother's the truth is just make money they will be the one trying to make the conversation work

brain54:
Nice observation...


I didn't think of that before. But I don't think communication is reverting to being physical as it used to be previously.


I think communication generally is reducing. More people are withdrawing into their shells and don't waste their communication anyhow. People now only communicate when is absolutely necessary.

So I don't think it's only online but physically too!

Nope! There is a lot of online distractions, sometimes, it even affects business conversations before you get back to client.

People, most especially ladies get carried away easily with online stuff; the so called content, drama, comedy skit, fashion shopping, movies etc....a lot to contend with online before you can fully secure the attention of your audience at the other end.

Not that they are being wicked or ridiculous,nthey get engrossed and carried away by too many activities online

Tenrack:
I swear. Most of my friends think I'm snubbing. I don't mean to but I don't have time for WhatsApp calls and texts that do not bring ideas or money

The Op made mention of "wooing women" (not one) on WhatsApp. I'm surpised he has that time hence, I said Time is money. Many people can perceive if your conversations would be a waste of time so they don't bother at all to engage in them.

Well, I don't believe in snubbing my loved ones/friends, it's good to make out time for people who are important in your lives.

Overall, it is dicey but a balance can be achieved.

PS: I might not respond to someone immediately due to work or busy schedules, but I do make out time to respond eventually and apologize for the late response. 24hrs isn't enough these days.

SpencerForbes:
Everyone is focused on the grind now. Ladies are heavily into online marketing, trading, and various side hustles. Do you really expect them to drop all that just to start a 'talking stage'?

Time is money. Even as a guy, if I spend too much time chatting, I start feeling like I’m wasting my life. But the downside is this: once you reach the apex and the success starts showing, they start trooping in. At that point, you can't even love properly anymore because you’ll always feel they’re only there for the results of your hustle. This exact mentality is why Asake said it’s "Lonely at the Top."

I hope you are currently the richest man in the world now. Since you dint even have time for anything else, it would pain me if those who can still spare 1hour daily to chat their loved ones are still richer than you


I hope you make hundreds of dollars every second and thats why you do not have time to related with anyone

Una go dey talk like say others no dey hustle. Guy, if you work 24/7, then a whole lot is wrong

ReacherSaidNoth:
They're dull beyond belief, as if that's not bad enough they have the disgusting trait of shameless begging.

One new app deh called chatta app. E never reach 2 days, d almajiris don dey beg me for coins. I tire.

JoeEeL:
One new app deh called chatta app. E never reach 2 days, d almajiris don dey beg me for coins. I tire.

Very big Almajiris…Na so dem disgrace Naija for Ishowspeed stream..

EvilMerodack:
I hope you are currently the richest man in the world now. Since you dint even have time for anything else, it would pain me if those who can still spare 1hour daily to chat their loved ones are still richer than you


I hope you make hundreds of dollars every second and thats why you do not have time to related with anyone

Una go dey talk like say others no dey hustle. Guy, if you work 24/7, then a whole lot is wrong

Lmao 🤣 Why the concern about my earnings or how I spend my time? As long as there’s progress (no matter the pace), that’s what matters. Everyone’s path isn’t the same, and I simply don't have the luxury of wasting time chitchatting with people who aren't adding value to my life.

Not everyone is born with a silver spoon or loves carrying it about. You can’t compare my background to Davido’s; he has the safety net to 'flex' and still be fine. For those of us building from zero without looking or seeking inheritance, time is the only capital we have. All fingers are not equal—what comes easy to some takes others years of grind. Right now, I have to be protective of my time and stay focused on the goal. When I’ve finally 'arrived,' there’ll be plenty of time for social talk, but for now, it’s strictly about the future.

Goodmarlian:
I mean come to think of it, it seems ladies have totally lost interest in online communication in this generation people are all over social media but they are not really communicating or communicating very little, they may jump on trends, make comments but never communicate directly with each other, I remember in the days of 2go people are so eager to chat like crazy, it seems the steam has died down now.

These days I can bet you that if you collect the number of 10 ladies only 2 or 3 will reply you the way you want to be replied , I use to think the women do not chat a guy because they are not interested but I later realised it's not really so because even my girlfriend does the same thing she is so lazy to chat online.

Maybe the world is drifting back to the days of physical communication as online communication is getting boring and emotionless.

Too much of everything is not good. Whatsapp is ubiquitous so no big deal. One lady can have up to 10 men chatting her at the same time

SpencerForbes:
Lmao 🤣 Why the concern about my earnings or how I spend my time? As long as there’s progress (no matter the pace), that’s what matters. Everyone’s path isn’t the same, and I simply don't have the luxury of wasting time chitchatting with people who aren't adding value to my life.

Not everyone is born with a silver spoon or loves carrying it about. You can’t compare my background to Davido’s; he has the safety net to 'flex' and still be fine. For those of us building from zero without looking or seeking inheritance, time is the only capital we have. All fingers are not equal—what comes easy to some takes others years of grind. Right now, I have to be protective of my time and stay focused on the goal. When I’ve finally 'arrived,' there’ll be plenty of time for social talk, but for now, it’s strictly about the future.

Thats not the point. You started by talking about 'grind' and 'working online'. Apparently, its so obvious you are trying to let the OP know that people are busy with making money, but then you should have known that the OP is prolly a working class too and he would only chat this people up at his leisure, so somehow, your talks about grind is invalid.


I wouldnt want to be with anyone who cant spare one hour out of 24 to talk to me all because they are 'grinding' and thats why I'm asking if those grinding 24/7 are currently the richest, cause if not...

EvilMerodack:
Thats not the point. You started by talking about 'grind' and 'working online'. Apparently, its so obvious you are trying to let the OP know that people are busy with making money, but then you should have known that the OP is prolly a working class too and he would only chat this people up at his leisure, so somehow, your talks about grind is invalid.


I wouldnt want to be with anyone who cant spare one hour out of 24 to talk to me all because they are 'grinding' and thats why I'm asking if those grinding 24/7 are currently the richest, cause if not...

I clearly stated “chatting too much,” which means I can spare a little time, but it is limited.

Secondly, your leisure time might be another person’s peak working hour. Just because you’re free doesn’t mean everyone you’re chatting with is also free. For example, look at a teacher vs. a business owner in Alaba. The teacher might be free from 4 PM, but that’s when the businessman is at his busiest—you can't expect him to have one hour to spare.

The world is getting busier; if people can’t spend an hour with you online, it should be understandable. If you chat me when I’m free, I’ll reply, but don’t expect a 1-hour marathon session. As long as you aren't feeding anyone, you shouldn't feel entitled to their time. If they respond, fine. If not, let it slide or go and watch TikTok. The hustle in Nigeria is too much to expect instant replies just because you have free data and time. Even with those I'm closest to, I dey ghost for days, but we flow whenever we are both free but if they decide to take it personal, their choice.

People are cultivating their tym on making money ..
No two ways

Goodmarlian:
I mean come to think of it, it seems ladies have totally lost interest in online communication in this generation people are all over social media but they are not really communicating or communicating very little, they may jump on trends, make comments but never communicate directly with each other, I remember in the days of 2go people are so eager to chat like crazy, it seems the steam has died down now.

These days I can bet you that if you collect the number of 10 ladies only 2 or 3 will reply you the way you want to be replied , I use to think the women do not chat a guy because they are not interested but I later realised it's not really so because even my girlfriend does the same thing she is so lazy to chat online.

Maybe the world is drifting back to the days of physical communication as online communication is getting boring and emotionless.

Kinda think it's because we've grown, 15-22year olds with not much responsibilities still chat all day.

Now you've got life to think about, work to stress you, bills to worry you etc.

There's only so much the body and mind can fully commit to per time

folake4u:
The Op made mention of "wooing women" (not one) on WhatsApp. I'm surpised he has that time hence, I said Time is money. Many people can perceive if your conversations would be a waste of time so they don't bother at all to engage in them.

Well, I don't believe in snubbing my loved ones/friends, it's good to make out time for people who are important in your lives.

Overall, it is dicey but a balance can be achieved.

PS: I might not respond to someone immediately due to work or busy schedules, but I do make out time to respond eventually and apologize for the late response. 24hrs isn't enough these days.

I swear you spoke my mind with the bolded. Pressure too much everywhere. I can't even think straight. Who has time to be doing lovey dovey with a female on WhatsApp sef? I neither have the strength nor resources for that. God help man.

I'm just looking for money and sustainability.

All dese empty head begger una de peddle...once they conversate with you na to beg you money is that what you want ? Let dem keep peddling their olosho career ...on social media ....

If you check any gal fone you will be shock with the kind message they relay with people

This is interesting and funny , reminds me of clips that I see on Amakom tv on YouTube 🥳🎉🥳😜

EvilMerodack:
I hope you are currently the richest man in the world now. Since you dint even have time for anything else, it would pain me if those who can still spare 1hour daily to chat their loved ones are still richer than you


I hope you make hundreds of dollars every second and thats why you do not have time to related with anyone

Una go dey talk like say others no dey hustle. Guy, if you work 24/7, then a whole lot is wrong

that kind of his comments can make me feel like I'm not hustling enough, no matter the hustle before you go to bed you can answer all the chat. someone like me, my phone is always with me during the day. I'm working but I'm always with my phone

Ubanz:
Reason is, when you go to the lady's inbox you will find tens of people like you,all sending the same boring msg- "how was your night, happy Sunday, hope you slept well bla bla bla"

same women, when you start an intellectual conversation, she go vanish. to me the just have some kind persons the are responsible to, no matter how boring it is. maybe who they love or who dey press money

SpencerForbes:
I clearly stated “chatting too much,” which means I can spare a little time, but it is limited.

Secondly, your leisure time might be another person’s peak working hour. Just because you’re free doesn’t mean everyone you’re chatting with is also free. For example, look at a teacher vs. a business owner in Alaba. The teacher might be free from 4 PM, but that’s when the businessman is at his busiest—you can't expect him to have one hour to spare.

The world is getting busier; if people can’t spend an hour with you online, it should be understandable. If you chat me when I’m free, I’ll reply, but don’t expect a 1-hour marathon session. As long as you aren't feeding anyone, you shouldn't feel entitled to their time. If they respond, fine. If not, let it slide or go and watch TikTok. The hustle in Nigeria is too much to expect instant replies just because you have free data and time. Even with those I'm closest to, I dey ghost for days, but we flow whenever we are both free but if they decide to take it personal, their choice.

which business you dey do, i really want to something that would be taking My time

Edipet:
which business you dey do, i really want to something that would be taking My time

There are billions of things you can do. Learn AI or YouTube automation, digital marketing, coding, create faceless contents. Coupled with other things. If you remember your babe again, no call me Spencer

Tenrack:
I swear you spoke my mind with the bolded. Pressure too much everywhere. I can't even think straight. Who has time to be doing lovey dovey with a female on WhatsApp sef? I neither have the strength nor resources for that. God help man.

I'm just looking for money and sustainability.

Lol. Time really runs fast these days. Well, if the woman is worth your time and attention, well why not?

May God help us all.

Goodmarlian:
I mean come to think of it, it seems ladies have totally lost interest in online communication in this generation people are all over social media but they are not really communicating or communicating very little, they may jump on trends, make comments but never communicate directly with each other, I remember in the days of 2go people are so eager to chat like crazy, it seems the steam has died down now.

These days I can bet you that if you collect the number of 10 ladies only 2 or 3 will reply you the way you want to be replied , I use to think the women do not chat a guy because they are not interested but I later realised it's not really so because even my girlfriend does the same thing she is so lazy to chat online.

Maybe the world is drifting back to the days of physical communication as online communication is getting boring and emotionless.

My brother please 😭 women did not hold a meeting and decide to stop replying men. They just decided to stop replying you.

You’re writing thesis on “this generation” while she’s online typing paragraphs for someone else. Nobody is too busy for who they actually like. If she’s giving you dry replies, you’re the dry topic.

Stop blaming social media, stop blaming 2go nostalgia. Upgrade yourself. Make money. Add value. Be interesting. Because the truth is simple, when a woman wants you, you won’t be confused.

If she’s “lazy” with you, you’re just not motivating enough.

I think WhatsApp is cast... they're using another platform such as Snapchat, ticktok, thread and others.

Those kind of ladies have multiple partners.

The physical communication that is happening is to track each other to knacking

brain54:
Nice observation...


I didn't think of that before. But I don't think communication is reverting to being physical as it used to be previously.


I think communication generally is reducing. More people are withdrawing into their shells and don't waste their communication anyhow. People now only communicate when is absolutely necessary.

So I don't think it's only online but physically too!

Communicating when necessary is apt.

eyezik3:
From my own perspective women/girls only chat with you when you add something valuable or impactful to them..

If she doesn't benefit from you one way or the other, she won't even take her time to text you. This her girls that will even view your status and pass, but once they saw you uploading a status where you are celebrating or better still you just bought a new car or a new home..

She will even be the one to flood your DM with text..

My brother's the truth is just make money they will be the one trying to make the conversation work

It's mainly whores that will jump on you because of some change, unless you are a billionaire.

folake4u:
Lol. Time really runs fast these days. Well, if the woman is worth your time and attention, well why not?

May God help us all.

Lol. Women wey worth our time have all been taken. Amin. 🙏

Tenrack:
Lol. Women wey worth our time have all been taken. Amin. 🙏

Awwww. Nor worry, God go do am for you.

Amen.

ObaKlaz:
After exchanging a few dull chats with even duller Nigerian bannies, na you go even vess delete their number.

Haswear

These days I prefer to chat with ChatGPT abeg

SpencerForbes:
There are billions of things you can do. Learn AI or YouTube automation, digital marketing, coding, create faceless contents. Coupled with other things. If you remember your babe again, no call me Spencer

I'm interested in faceless content, can you teach me

Anonimoux:
These days I prefer to chat with ChatGPT abeg

same here...I learn a lot of new stuffs chatting with chatgpt than chatting with women.