₦airaland Forum

folake4u:
@ the bolded. But your Nigerian brothers keep killing the British women when the ladies end the relationship. Talmabout not handling rejection the right way.

nedekid:
Are they yellow with clean light skin, shapely too, I am asking for a brother that likes them that way. He says for the right one he will Eg if he were president, he will dash Edo state to the lady as marriage gift.

Samantha125:
Well, I'm not every man's woman.

JoeEeL:
Then they will come around to gaslight us that if we dont marry them, we will be lonely in old age.

But they carefully avoid how over 60% of married nigerian men die before age 65.

And why do they die so early? Ur guess is as good as mine. Also take note that many of them miserably endure easily treatable ailments that eventually kill them before that 65.

But because d man has bn turned into a workhorse and scapegoat, money he could have saved when his health would go bad, he has used to woo and satisfy his woman.

Now see d man dying on his deathbed for diseases he could have easily prevented. So much for avoiding loneliness 😂

Gerrard59:
It's not colonial beliefs but cultural similarities. An Igbo person has more in common with someone from Western Cameroon and even Equatorial Guinea than with a Hausa person. Hausas have a lot in common with Nigeriens.

The colonialist should be blamed for lumping divergent groups, not the colonised for insisting on associating with people who share cultural similarities.

Kewtt:
Haibooo you can't compete with Lesotho ladies....forget it....

Gerrard59:
Maybe has an Igbo mother

There are Igbos who marry northerners, whether Hausa or not, as the north has many ethnic minority groups. And yes, the majority are Christians. So religion makes it permissible and cultural assimilation for the Igbo person who grew up or has stayed for a long time in the north.

Emdi1914:
Guy I'm not talking about your "romantic love here". Romantic love is just passion.Passion fades, love doesn't fade.
Love is rooted in deep respect and commitment and not feelings of romance or emotional excitement.Love is less of feelings and more of maturity.
Love is for mature minds

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how do you guys cope with the culture shocks that come with transnational marriages?

ariesbull:
I am Igbo , it is rare to have Igbo marry Northerner in short in my whole village not clan, I haven't seen any

ariesbull:
When you want to marry...LOVE is the last thing you consider! You have lots of things to consider like
Culture
His orientation
Religion
Genotype
Future ideologies


Then and then LOVE

omooba969:
Seun , please try and rein in your MODs who feel they can just delete comments at will simply because they don't like it.

Everyone here should be able to express themselves without the other being oversensitive.

ariesbull:
Exactly the best thing... If it's Zimbabwe woman is the best for you ... Especially southern women of Igbo and Yoruba and Niger Delta 0pwomen......their Billings eghh...Northern girls are better

Gerrard59:
They're in Northern Nigeria; especially Plateau, Adamawa, Taraba, and southern Kaduna.

Skepticus:
Ubunja - Matebele and Mashona girls giving the vibes.

Zimbabwe to the world!

Samantha125:
If Igbos can marry from other cultures outside of Africa, they surely can also marry from the Hausa tribe.

To me it seems like the main deciding factor here is religion.

Wotowotoman:
Madam, what do you know about Nigeria to be making such statements? Why don’t you just stick to making comments about your country? 🤔

pocohantas:
At some point it was SA women taking them.
Then they fell out with SA.


Now it is Zimbabwe.

Give it time...

ubunja:
Shona girls give the most vibes. very sensual and open minded.

Emdi1914:
A person who is mature is selfless and seeks the absolute best for the other person without expecting anything in return.This is Love.
And maturity is not by age...,an 18 year old might be mature than a 50 year old

SixSeven:
Before colonial rule and modern legal systems, most African societies did not have professional divorce lawyers. Marriage was usually considered a union between two families or clans rather than just two individuals, so conflicts and divorces were handled by the families themselves. When problems arose, elders from both sides, such as parents, uncles, or respected community leaders would meet to mediate. Their goal was usually reconciliation first, but if separation was necessary they would negotiate matters like the return of bridewealth, the care of children, and the division of household property.

In many traditional communities, these decisions were often overseen by village elders or chiefs rather than legal professionals. Because marriage linked extended families, divorce was treated as a community matter, and the authority to settle disputes rested with family councils and customary leaders instead of specialized lawyers.

Today, mediation is what ADRs will do. Dissolution is what the court will do. These were all before love came in and it emphasizes the point I made on another thread which I will quote below. The main reason mediation came first was to preserve social stability and family alliances. Marriage often involved exchanges such as bridewealth, shared labor, and cooperation between families, so a divorce could disrupt these arrangements and create tension between kin groups. Attempting reconciliation also reflected the broader cultural value placed on community harmony and collective responsibility, where problems were expected to be solved through dialogue and consensus before taking the more serious step of dissolving the marriage.

I submit before the panel of judges that Africa lost its own style by copying the Western values when it had its own inexpensive and connected way of marriage and dissolution of marriage.