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So I was scrolling through one of the dating apps today looking out for a spec that is understanding when I came across this profile. So I'm curious,
as a single young man can you date this Lady?

Yes. Unfortunately, I'm not single, nor young nor a guy.

You'd be dating only because something about her must have attracted you to approach her in the first place, and the fact she's laying it out up front is kind of desirably honest and sincere which many of you single young dating guys tell me is so rare in the girls you meet that you must dna.

You haven't asked about marrying her but let me.
Hopefully she is as desirable as presenting and her two young boys are as wonderful too, and she is still young enough to have more kids since it must be expected a single young guy would want kids. A boy first I'd hope, then a daughter so she'll have 4 while you have 2. So yes. I might marry her, if I were single, young and a guy.

You'd need to meet up to what are likely to be her very high standards of course, since you'd be being monitored by those two wonderful boys of hers, which makes me wonder that a better title for your thread would have been Single young guys, do you think you are sufficiently qualified to date this lady?

"Two amazing boys" keh? 🏃🏽‍♂️

King Solomon Go ahead as na you wise pass her previous man.

Hell no !!!

With the description about her, it's very obvious her entire life deals on building materials that sells only red flags . So it'd be the most f00lish decision I'd ever make as a god-fearing young man to even woo this kind of a lady let alone going into any relationship with her

What a selfish human being if I am permitted to say so...

Even one is a red flag, not to talk of two. A woman can't be leading me 2-0 in marriage na. God forbid bad thing.

Run so far and never look back

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Simple question: What's wrong with her?

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Simple question: What's wrong with her?

Everything is wrong with her.

No matter how you want to claim to love a single mother of 2 boys, never you marry her because those boys would beat you up when they grow.

I know a man in my former street who marry a woman with two boys, by the time those boys hit their late teens and early 20s they started beating the man. Sometimes they would injured him, you will see him bleeding.

Just date her and go. Don't marry her for your own good.

When they are on the shelves, they will cause no problems until you take them home, then you became a problem.

You can't satisfy a woman' and peace is almost a mirage when you put a ring on the finger.

papiSNEH:
"Two amazing boys" keh? 🏃🏽‍♂️

King Solomon Go ahead as na you wise pass her previous man.

Men not man

Two boys 👦

Gbadugbakun:
Everything is wrong with her.

No matter how you want to claim to love a single mother of 2 boys, never you marry her because those boys would beat you up when they grow.

I know a man in my former street who marry a woman with two boys, by the time those boys hit their late teens and early 20s they started beating the man. Sometimes they would injured him, you will see him bleeding.

Just date her and go. Don't marry her for your own good.

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The example you gave is vague; what did the man do? Those children will beat me up just because I got married to their mother. How does that even sound to you. I know I'm not going to take care of kids that are not mine, because they have their father as well, and that'll be something we would have discussed before getting married. I'll tell you this for free, " Beating me up" will be the last thing they would do.

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The example you gave is vague; what did the man do? Those children will beat me up just because I got married to their mother. How does that even sound to you. I know I'm not going to take care of kids that are not mine, because they have their father as well, and that'll be something we would have discussed before getting married. I'll tell you this for free, " Beating me up" will be the last thing they would do.

ITK...no worry,you go still learn the hard way.

This single mother still thinks she has a choice 🤣🤣🤣🤣. What happened to the father or fathers of the two amazing boys?🤣. Unfortunately, some simps will still blindly dive into such women and at the end will be blaming village people that will see them and won't even recognize such people exist😏

Personally I think it's foolish for a guy who knows he is fully capable of fathering kids to go ahead and marry a woman who already has 2 kids while he still has none

If the man is a widower or divorcee with his own kids already then that's a different thing altogether

…until you tell her that u are a single Dad with 5 children.

🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️💨

I have absolutely nothing against single mothers, but a single man contemplating a relationship with one such as this should as certain pertinent questions before going ahead:

1. What is the current nature and frequency of communication between her and her children's father, and what specific role, if any, does he play in their daily lives and decision-making?

2. Has she been fully transparent about the legal and custody arrangements regarding her two boys, and is she willing to provide documentation if the relationship progresses?

3. How does she envision integrating a new partner into her established family unit, and what specific timeline does she have in mind for introducing him to her children?

4. What are her explicit expectations regarding your future role in parenting, disciplining, and financially supporting her two boys?

5. Has she completed a thorough self-reflection on her past relationship that led to her being a single mother, and what concrete lessons has she learned to ensure past patterns are not repeated?

6. What is her current financial situation, including debts, child support arrangements, and monthly expenses, and how does she envision finances being managed if you were to cohabitate?

7. Is the children's father aware that she is actively dating with the intention of finding a serious partner, and what is his attitude towards another man being involved in his sons' lives?

8. How much of her available time and emotional energy is currently consumed by her responsibilities as a mother, and how much of that is realistically left to cultivate a new, deep romantic connection?

9. What is her definition of "something serious" in terms of commitment, and does that include expectations of eventual marriage, cohabitation, or blending of assets?

10. What boundaries has she already established with her children and their father to protect the privacy and integrity of a new romantic relationship during its early, formative stages?

Abee79:
I have absolutely nothing against single mothers, but a single man contemplating a relationship with one such as this should as certain pertinent questions before going ahead:

1. What is the current nature and frequency of communication between her and her children's father, and what specific role, if any, does he play in their daily lives and decision-making?

2. Has she been fully transparent about the legal and custody arrangements regarding her two boys, and is she willing to provide documentation if the relationship progresses?

3. How does she envision integrating a new partner into her established family unit, and what specific timeline does she have in mind for introducing him to her children?

4. What are her explicit expectations regarding your future role in parenting, disciplining, and financially supporting her two boys?

5. Has she completed a thorough self-reflection on her past relationship that led to her being a single mother, and what concrete lessons has she learned to ensure past patterns are not repeated?

6. What is her current financial situation, including debts, child support arrangements, and monthly expenses, and how does she envision finances being managed if you were to cohabitate?

7. Is the children's father aware that she is actively dating with the intention of finding a serious partner, and what is his attitude towards another man being involved in his sons' lives?

8. How much of her available time and emotional energy is currently consumed by her responsibilities as a mother, and how much of that is realistically left to cultivate a new, deep romantic connection?

9. What is her definition of "something serious" in terms of commitment, and does that include expectations of eventual marriage, cohabitation, or blending of assets?

10. What boundaries has she already established with her children and their father to protect the privacy and integrity of a new romantic relationship during its early, formative stages?

Instead of asking all these questions for which you may not even get truthful and objective answers it's better for a young guy to just go and look for a single lady without any baggages to marry

MarkNsukkaBread:
Instead of asking all these questions for which you may not even get truthful and objective answers it's better for a young guy to just go and look for a single lady without any baggages to marry

Single parenthood is excess baggages.
Some years back,I was in a talking stage with a guy and found out he already had a 10 year old son.
I just ghosted him.
We met again by chance at an event about 2 years later and he asked why I ghosted him.
I replied "Choice" and faced front.
No need for explanation.

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The example you gave is vague; what did the man do? Those children will beat me up just because I got married to their mother. How does that even sound to you. I know I'm not going to take care of kids that are not mine, because they have their father as well, and that'll be something we would have discussed before getting married. I'll tell you this for free, " Beating me up" will be the last thing they would do.

You really don't know anything about children. Have you lived with a pre teen to see how rebellious they are, do you think you would find it easy controlling their rebellious attitude once they hit 19 to 21. Following bad gangs coming home late even smoking and drinking. You are not talking from a realistic view. Bring any of your nephews or nieces who's like 15 to live with you for a week and body go tell you.

Why did the father(s) of the two amazing boys run away?

jimmyolasun:
So I was scrolling through one of the dating apps today looking out for a spec that is understanding when I came across this profile. So I'm curious,
as a single young man can you date this Lady?

A fairly used woman having the nerve to utter "a man that deserves me"

Only SIMP will accept her

I will love her till she feels like she is in a disney movie where there is always mild sunshine, rainbows and butterflies and the air smells like soft vanilla.

How does she intend to pay?
Credit card or Cash?

😂🤣😁

Capital NO.
Nothing beats having your own cherry from your own tree. Will she marry a man that has 2 kids already? No na the answer.

marlow1962:
Capital NO.
Nothing beats having your own cherry from your own tree. Will she marry a man that has 2 kids already? No na the answer.

Her demands self...

jimmyolasun:
Her demands self...

It's laughable

mecuries:
Why did the father(s) of the two amazing boys run away?

That's the wisest question here

She's still very much delusional

budaatum:
Yes. Unfortunately, I'm not single, nor young nor a guy.

You'd be dating only because something about her must have attracted you to approach her in the first place, and the fact she's laying it out up front is kind of desirably honest and sincere which many of you single young dating guys tell me is so rare in the girls you meet that you must dna.

You haven't asked about marrying her but let me.
Hopefully she is as desirable as presenting and her two young boys are as wonderful too, and she is still young enough to have more kids since it must be expected a single young guy would want kids. A boy first I'd hope, then a daughter so she'll have 4 while you have 2. So yes. I might marry her, if I were single, young and a guy.

You'd need to meet up to what are likely to be her very high standards of course, since you'd be being monitored by those two wonderful boys of hers, which makes me wonder that a better title for your thread would have been Single young guys, do you think you are sufficiently qualified to date this lady?

Are you from Lai Mohammed family 🤔

jimmyolasun:
So I was scrolling through one of the dating apps today looking out for a spec that is understanding when I came across this profile. So I'm curious,
as a single young man can you date this Lady?

Number 1.She is a single mom

Number 2.She still have this "Deserve me"mentality which means she has a high level of entitlement.She beliefs she is the price despite her circumstances.

If you hate yourself, you can go for her as a young man
Ire oo