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SpencerForbes:
You brought this same matter here two years ago. I vividly remember the collective advice was to run, but you chose to stay. I remember one particular moniker even egging you on to keep "chopping" the girl (I’ll dig up that moniker later). You ignored simple counsel and now, 24 months later, you’re back at square one with the same person.

Just because you tasted the honey pot for the first time, you’ve labeled it "love." Common sense should have told you otherwise.

Any man who has even a 10% understanding of Redpill principles knows exactly how your story ends. It’s like a 30-year-old man being asked what 2 + 2 is—you don't need a calculator, you just know. But here you are, still counting your fingers like a primary school pupil.

If you keep going down this road, we’ll probably see your wedding invite next year, only for you to come back a few months later with one long 'my wife is cheating' or 'she doesn't love me' story.

Redpill isn't some rigid law; it’s just a guide. You need to actually sit down, study, and internalize these things. Reading alone won't save you this time—you need a real one-on-one talk with someone who can actually knock some sense into you. If not, you’re just going to fall into the same trap again.

fattprince:
Okay, I'll quote my reply under this post. Why I chose to do that is that, number 1 I can't fully type the context of the situation or relationship between me and this girl for full understanding.
2. I want to correct where you wrote that I brought an issue here about this same girl here 2 years ago. I was wondering what issue since I never had an issue with this girl especially with her(the only issue we had is with third parties because they feel I'm either too old for her or she's too young for me) but I remember now that the issue you were talking about is with another girl I just reverted to just acquittance with.
3. That being that, I'm looking at this issue from a situation where finding a girl with minimal emotional garbage, young, submissive and not entitled is very rare, it's about choosing the lesser evil. I just believe she's the least evil I've encountered when we talk about what I've listed here. Mind you I'm not talking about marriage at least not yet.
4. Though this might seem like the issue is about me getting pussy whipped but it's not, of course for the over 2 years that she was gone, I dated other girls and I observed their behaviors (even my brother's relationship) through the red pill lense and see all the manipulation of this gender and I can rightly conclude she's the least evil I can get now. I still follow the red pill tenet of choosing only the girls who chose me. In fact if you give be green light and even flirt with me and we start talking when I drive towards sex and you start putting up issue about not ready yet or sex isn't love yada yada, I cut the chase immediately. Because in my mind you can't love me without lusting after me, and more importantly I decide who I love, and I love who I feel from my judgement is worth it.
5. And finally for now, as I always say and even tell this particular girl, Que sera sera, what will be will be. Even if she's just playing me or if it's me trying to play her at the end of the day, What will be will be.

Just to add, her best quality for me is her age, she's still very young (not even 20 yet) though matured so I feel she's very malleable(I mean teachable). She just lost her mum last 2024, she and her siblings is all they got and she's the 2nd eldest so she's working over hard with her elder sister (who's 21) to take charge of their younger ones education and housing plus feeding. So that is also an issue too as she's leaning more into her masculinity and going into survival (fight or flight) mentality. I knew about this when she visited and while we were talking I asked her if she got a wish what will she wish for, she said plenty money and food then she added even if she have to work for the money she will as long as there's plenty money at the end.
Sorry for the long post. I'm not trying to excuse the babe, I'm just trying to capture the context as much as I can as as I will always say to her at the end of the day (life) Que sera, sera.

fattprince:
Okay, I'll quote my reply under this post. Why I chose to do that is that, number 1 I can't fully type the context of the situation or relationship between me and this girl for full understanding.
2. I want to correct where you wrote that I brought an issue here about this same girl here 2 years ago. I was wondering what issue since I never had an issue with this girl especially with her(the only issue we had is with third parties because they feel I'm either too old for her or she's too young for me) but I remember now that the issue you were talking about is with another girl I just reverted to just acquittance with.
3. That being that, I'm looking at this issue from a situation where finding a girl with minimal emotional garbage, young, submissive and not entitled is very rare, it's about choosing the lesser evil. I just believe she's the least evil I've encountered when we talk about what I've listed here. Mind you I'm not talking about marriage at least not yet.
4. Though this might seem like the issue is about me getting pussy whipped but it's not, of course for the over 2 years that she was gone, I dated other girls and I observed their behaviors (even my brother's relationship) through the red pill lense and see all the manipulation of this gender and I can rightly conclude she's the least evil I can get now. I still follow the red pill tenet of choosing only the girls who chose me. In fact if you give be green light and even flirt with me and we start talking when I drive towards sex and you start putting up issue about not ready yet or sex isn't love yada yada, I cut the chase immediately. Because in my mind you can't love me without lusting after me, and more importantly I decide who I love, and I love who I feel from my judgement is worth it.
5. And finally for now, as I always say and even tell this particular girl, Que sera sera, what will be will be. Even if she's just playing me or if it's me trying to play her at the end of the day, What will be will be.

Just to add, her best quality for me is her age, she's still very young (not even 20 yet) though matured so I feel she's very malleable(I mean teachable). She just lost her mum last 2024, she and her siblings is all they got and she's the 2nd eldest so she's working over hard with her elder sister (who's 21) to take charge of their younger ones education and housing plus feeding. So that is also an issue too as she's leaning more into her masculinity and going into survival (fight or flight) mentality. I knew about this when she visited and while we were talking I asked her if she got a wish what will she wish for, she said plenty money and food then she added even if she have to work for the money she will as long as there's plenty money at the end.
Sorry for the long post. I'm not trying to excuse the babe, I'm just trying to capture the context as much as I can as as I will always say to her at the end of the day (life) Que sera, sera.

VERTEX1:
Let me ask you my OGs in the house so that it won't seem as if I'm wicked.
Firstly I can be attracted to 30 girls in a day and decide not to love any and actually forget them.
I started dating my babe from 2024, she was the one that ask me out after vetting her on my standards which is : purity, humbleness and contented. So i accepted. Even though there are other girls that i turned down, either their greenlight or direct approach because I don't care much about sex, I'm more of workaholic though not excuse. I'm not that cute or just slightly above average in height. What they like in me is their concern because I'm not financially stable too.
I just recently notice that she's not a virgin like she said intially, out of fear of rejection from me according to her.
I started dating her at 18 and she will be 21 this Oct.
Her love for me is just too much, infact she's passionate about me. She used her money for tf to come and see me from her school, and will always call me with her airtime and have never for once ask me for anything, I'm the one that force some gifts to her. I discovered myself that she's not a virgin even though I always turn her down whenever she wants sex, because I was thinking I don't want to break her yet. She later confide in me that a neighbour - a young boy in their apartment deflowered her when they were still in secondary school playing all this dramas, the reason for their quarrel till date, because I notice she always block him whenever he calls even using different lines.

The issue is that I'm very extreme with girl's gimmicks, I don't give room at all for their manipulation and shenanigans. I don't know what to believe at the moment, but I'm doubting if it's only that boy according to her. She is very tight, because it's only my little finger that can slightly pass her V. But I still have my way of knowing she is not a V.
She was so much buried in shame, and felt really bad because she asked me what if I leave. But I maintain frame as if all is well. But unfortunately she has broken my first standard even though she's still chaste. Do you think I'm taking it too far for her not telling me initially. But I'm very sure she is not seeing anyone. But as a redpiller my mind is open. It will be hard for her to handle this if I leave her. I'm just a friend to both their mum and dad and like a protection for her. WHAT SHOULD I DO AT THIS MOMENT?

SpencerForbes:
I’m beginning to see the full picture now. If you feel she’s the one for you, then so be it. But as an OG yourself, my only advice is: Be careful.

Usually, people don't like to advise someone who is already 'in love,' but before you take the next step, I have one recommendation for you. Look for Ubunja’s Miseducation: 'Chosen'. It’s a very short read but it will go a long way.

I hope he hasn’t taken the link down yet. Read it, and from there you can truly determine if this lady suits your life or not. If she does, no problem. Just remember that relationship is a gamble; it won’t work all the time. Never try to force it, otherwise, you'll just end up simping.

fattprince:
I will, even this girl I'm always vetting her by allowing her talk while I listen. And sometimes we may be talking about one thing that it will lead to her telling me what she has told me before and it usually checks out. And naturally I'm a calm guy so apart from this girl even my family anything people say to me I'm always analysing in my mind. I love with my head not with my heart and I can cut anybody off at anytime (except my siblings and some of my relatives) so I don't invest too much in a relationship that can lead to sinking cost fallacy.

BTW I still thank everyone because after the comments, I went back to analyse the relationship well and look at where I'm lacking. And to be totally honest thinking about what could be her goal if she's manipulating financially is nil because over the period we were together past and recently that we are in contact again she has never asked me for money. And the only thing she has asked me was the job and I only have her the agent number and she's always be grateful. Infact she is always saying it that if not for me she can't be here though I don't see it as a big deal she still insist that she's always grateful.

Wotowotoman:
Ogbeni Fat Prince, leave these smello epistles and go hustle. Hunger and begging no dey tire you?

gracias124:
majority of redpillers are wankerers and bambiala miscreants

fattprince:
I watched a reel today where a guy was like it's a fact that girls are attracted to material things and status, that if they see anyone better than you they will jump ship and the guy was so sure and sincere and said it's a fact that everyone knows.

I now remember all the comments in here on the post I made and understood why you guys commented like that. And I see why, especially where I said she loves me too. Yeah, I said she loves me doesn't mean I am sure she's not going to leave me someday, or can't try to harm or break my heart (though I'm not sure she can, not because she can't but because I'm not going to give room for that). Why I brought this matter here was basically because she slept with the guy before coming to Lagos, and we spoke after that day. I said though I'm not doing all this so she can come back to me but I'm doing this because I still wanted her back, difference there is that if she doesn't want to come back I will still help by informing her if I see a better job for her. She said she knows that she understands, I now told her you know but you still slept with the guy she now said she knows that's where she bleeped up and she's very sorry. My mind wanted to tell me she's only sorry because she got caught but I reasoned it again that she didn't get caught, she told me herself when I asked. So like I said earlier that day, believe me when I say I've analysed over 20 relationship (this number includes my siblings' and relatives') and I'm 80% sure she's least evil I can get not with the hook up culture rampart about now.

SpencerForbes:
Since your mind is already made up, nobody here will try to put "asunder." Go for what you want; after all, that’s what being a man is about. Just be 100% sure she isn't seeing the ex or any "boyfriend" on the side, because that can be dangerous. You’ve been with her for two years—you should have studied her well enough by now. You definitely know the situation better than any of us here.

Kaymicheal852:
I'm also a legend on this thread lol ,I come across it in 2021 and I'm very active for 3 years before I only come here once in awhile

Although I have come across Gonzalo lira ( redpil coach) on YouTube and I have assimilate redpil very well, but coming across it here also help

I'm now married to a women I met after redpil and I have a 7 months old boy ,I would say I don't always get things right but redpil have been one of the best thing ever happened to me

Before redpil I'm obviously not a simp but I don't understand women and interact with them in a wrong way and I badly got burnt by one particular community pussy 🤣 and I learnt my lesson


Redpil is golden my guys , whether you're new here or you have been here before, you have to embrace redpil, learn assimilate and understand, overcome the rage stage and you will start seeing women for who they are, there are not worth your slightest headache at all

Women shouldn't be one of your problem in life , just focus on your life , you're all that's important, a women who wants you will always be with you,no matter your situation and don't ever made the mistake of falling in love , because women are never in love but in business, most of them are just trying to survive, don't become a ladder they will use to climb up


I didn't give my wife anything of high value till I eventually marry her last year after she have been waiting for 4 years, I even cheat ,dump her but I never abuse or maltreated her , and she always stays , her mother died in 2023 and I never visited her family and her father is not happy with me about that but I don't care because she is always with me

If you're the type that can't live with a woman or is aggressive and lacks empathy pls don't marry a women, it's not for everyone, all my girlfriend have always stays at my place for most of the time, so my wife have lived with me 70% of the time since we met ( for those who might think it's not that long since we get married so I might be wrong)

A guy like me doesn't demand much , just loyalty, honesty, transparency and accountability, and sex here and there, I detest promiscuous women, hungry women turns me off , I can detect bad women from 1000 miles away now , and I hate lousy women

My women is cultured, conservative, always cooks ,clean and not broke, hardly go anywhere, I have full access to her phone and works for me now, that's why I eventually marry her

Of course she is not perfect, and I'm obviously not in love, and I do most of anything I like most of the time because she can't influence me , but like I said it's not for everyone and I'll advise you never to try marriage if you're not cut out for it


Always remember redpil is golden and it will save your life, save you lot of headache, time money and regret

Shoutout to guys like Martinez and great ubunja

I have ubunja miseducation saved in my drive for my son , with the red truth as well

Shoutout to (dipscicology) as well, I'm not so sure about the moniker name anymore

Shoutout to everyone of you preaching redpil

And to the new people here , embrace redpil, you will always need it for the rest of your life because women nature will never change

fattprince:
That's what you want to believe just so you can simp in peace, nobody here is asking you not to cause in the grand scheme of things you are just like a speck of dust.

Kaymicheal852:
I'm also a legend on this thread lol ,I come across it in 2021 and I'm very active for 3 years before I only come here once in awhile

Although I have come across Gonzalo lira ( redpil coach) on YouTube and I have assimilate redpil very well, but coming across it here also help

I'm now married to a women I met after redpil and I have a 7 months old boy ,I would say I don't always get things right but redpil have been one of the best thing ever happened to me

Before redpil I'm obviously not a simp but I don't understand women and interact with them in a wrong way and I badly got burnt by one particular community pussy 🤣 and I learnt my lesson


Redpil is golden my guys , whether you're new here or you have been here before, you have to embrace redpil, learn assimilate and understand, overcome the rage stage and you will start seeing women for who they are, there are not worth your slightest headache at all

Women shouldn't be one of your problem in life , just focus on your life , you're all that's important, a women who wants you will always be with you,no matter your situation and don't ever made the mistake of falling in love , because women are never in love but in business, most of them are just trying to survive, don't become a ladder they will use to climb up


I didn't give my wife anything of high value till I eventually marry her last year after she have been waiting for 4 years, I even cheat ,dump her but I never abuse or maltreated her , and she always stays , her mother died in 2023 and I never visited her family and her father is not happy with me about that but I don't care because she is always with me

If you're the type that can't live with a woman or is aggressive and lacks empathy pls don't marry a women, it's not for everyone, all my girlfriend have always stays at my place for most of the time, so my wife have lived with me 70% of the time since we met ( for those who might think it's not that long since we get married so I might be wrong)

A guy like me doesn't demand much , just loyalty, honesty, transparency and accountability, and sex here and there, I detest promiscuous women, hungry women turns me off , I can detect bad women from 1000 miles away now , and I hate lousy women

My women is cultured, conservative, always cooks ,clean and not broke, hardly go anywhere, I have full access to her phone and works for me now, that's why I eventually marry her

Of course she is not perfect, and I'm obviously not in love, and I do most of anything I like most of the time because she can't influence me , but like I said it's not for everyone and I'll advise you never to try marriage if you're not cut out for it


Always remember redpil is golden and it will save your life, save you lot of headache, time money and regret

Shoutout to guys like Martinez and great ubunja

I have ubunja miseducation saved in my drive for my son , with the red truth as well

Shoutout to (dipscicology) as well, I'm not so sure about the moniker name anymore

Shoutout to everyone of you preaching redpil

And to the new people here , embrace redpil, you will always need it for the rest of your life because women nature will never change

SpencerForbes:
The craziest part is that you’re actually a senior member of this thread. You’re supposed to be the one educating the young ones, yet look at the Bluepill trash you’re typing here. It’s a total disgrace to the brotherhood.

All the Redpills you’ve been swallowing since, it’s like you’ve been flushing them down the toilet. Or are you just cherry-picking the ones that favor your simping tendencies and leaving the rest? You’re moving like a total amateur.

CaveAdullam:
Successfully ended a very very useless relationship.


Thank you, Jesus for using me as a vessel to redeem a brother.

I'm happy.
Bro is smiling. He's happy.
Everyone is happy.

March will be good.

Happy New Month.

CaveAdullam:
Successfully ended a very very useless relationship.


Thank you, Jesus for using me as a vessel to redeem a brother.

I'm happy.
Bro is smiling. He's happy.
Everyone is happy.

March will be good.

Happy New Month.

Martinez39s:
It was inevitable. All redpillers won't be here forever. Despite the stubborn infestation of odious trolls and bad, anatogonist elements that somewhat deteriorated this thread, redpillers have left a lot of gems for those coming after the OGs of this thread. That's if they find this thread.

Shout out to Ubunja, CaveAdullam, NeroStealth01, Skepticus, HedgeFunds, BLOODYSPERM, GLYCOLYSISS (I have still not forgiven you for deactivating the way you did), SaviolaMemphix, Smartb0y, Jeshal007, luminouz, Emmynator, Junnior, Heartofcity12, RillyCool, Aaron12, LordAaron, COOL10, dontai, Emmaodet, sajmark, orchin, SOZINN, Ayoll, Zabiboy, TheGidRedpiller, CrystalTiger, dontai, ichidodo , Palazee, Dierich5, ProphetJeroboam, machote, iamphenomenal, Kalifate, posty56, SkyFlint, angelfallz, Regex, pansophist, MJBOLT, CAPSLOCKED, JONNYSPUTE, Epostive, Mgtowmonk, and many more (I still remember a lot who I can't mention because of time). I hope you all are doing well.

Finally, Seun Osewa, I know you've been taking the pills lowkey. More success to you. Thanks for giving us this amazing platform.

JESHAL007:
Big man
You are welcome
Had to take a break from social media

imustsaymymindo:
Some thoughts on Abundance mindset


Be agnostic. Agnosticism isn't indifference. Indifference is the opposite of love and a strategy to hate. Being agnostic is a strategy to love. Being agnostic is the best method towards always staying chosen. Because agonisticism comes out of options, while hate is borne out of scarcity.
Therefore: Be indifferent towards what doesn't choose you, but be agnostic towards what does.

SpencerForbes:
I think that’s what Robert Greene meant by “despise what you can’t have” in the 48 laws of power. Now I understand it wasn’t really hate but just being indifferent 💯

Martinez39s:
Ubunja was the first person I mentioned. Lol.

Anyway, it was inevitable. Regardless of whatever happened, we were all bound to move on. I remember saying so, a few years back, that this time would time. Even human beings don't last forever.

The WhatsApp group went silent after three years of hot activity , almost up to a year. When I had concluded that it was dead, it came back to life again and is now active like its peak.

May the souls of redpillers who passed away rest in peace. For those still kicking, more growth and success in your redpill journey and other areas of life.

Martinez39s:
Ubunja was the first person I mentioned. Lol.

Anyway, it was inevitable. Regardless of whatever happened, we were all bound to move on. I remember saying so, a few years back, that this time would time. Even human beings don't last forever.

The WhatsApp group went silent after three years of hot activity , almost up to a year. When I had concluded that it was dead, it came back to life again and is now active like its peak.

May the souls of redpillers who passed away rest in peace. For those still kicking, more growth and success in your redpill journey and other areas of life.

ubunja:
happy 2026 bro. The Redpill is Eternal.