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If a lady above thirty has in mind a dream wedding that is expensive and only a very rich guy to marry, then she may not be serious.
A lady above thirty, especially not in very early thirties should work out these.

(1) Inform parents before hand that your bride price should not be expensive but affordable to anyone that wants to marry you.

(2) Make up your mind for a cheap wedding if advanced wedding doesnt come forth.

(3) Marry a comfortable person if no very rich guy is coming.
If sugar daddies have made you to look at guys who earns 500k as broke, then you may be delayed finding a partner.

(4) Hasten the wedding process if you are sure you are with your God-given partner.

So only women less than 30 deserve expensive weddings??
U pple should go easy on women above 30 years old…… allow them demand what they want, there is a simp out there for every woman….. and if they dont get their dream… well……marriage isnt for everyone.. they can always pay their own bills till forever

ebubeson:
If a lady above thirty has in mind a dream wedding that is expensive and only a very rich guy to marry, then she may not be serious.
A lady above thirty, especially not in very early thirties should work out these.

(1) Inform parents before hand that your bride price should not be expensive but affordable to anyone that wants to marry you.

(2) Make up your mind for a cheap wedding if advanced wedding doesnt come forth.

(3) Marry a comfortable person if no very rich guy is coming.
If sugar daddies have made you to look at guys who earns 500k as broke, then you may be delayed finding a partner.

(4) Hasten the wedding process if you are sure you are with your God-given partner.

Most of them don't even want expensive wedding, all they need is a serious committed guy.
After securing a serious guy, they are eager to rush through the wedding process to secure the man.

When do women realize the truth

When it is 40 years old


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ebubeson:
If a lady above thirty has in mind a dream wedding that is expensive and only a very rich guy to marry, then she may not be serious.
A lady above thirty, especially not in very early thirties should work out these.

(1) Inform parents before hand that your bride price should not be expensive but affordable to anyone that wants to marry you.

(2) Make up your mind for a cheap wedding if advanced wedding doesnt come forth.

(3) Marry a comfortable person if no very rich guy is coming.
If sugar daddies have made you to look at guys who earns 500k as broke, then you may be delayed finding a partner.

(4) Hasten the wedding process if you are sure you are with your God-given partner.

So let me get this straight: after thirty, a woman's standards are irrelevant, her desires a luxury, and she must just rush to marry the man who shows up. Society, aren't you tired of these outdated philosophies? What is this, the 80s, when women were expected to settle without questioning?

What is so special about being a married woman? What is so special about being called a wife? What value does living with a man bring? If you are happy and fulfilled while single, and marriage threatens that stability, why choose it? If marriage offers no real benefit, why enter it at all?

Many marriages today are more like two people living together like roommates, sharing space and access to each other's personal lives and belongings. In some cases, one even bullies or suppresses the other. Marriage should give as much as it takes. If it only takes, only demands, only drains; then it is not marriage. It is a society-approved roommate arrangement pretending to be sacred.

Basic human needs for survival do not include the need for a partner. Our essential needs are food, water, clothing, shelter, safety, and the freedom to live authentically. Beyond survival, humans thrive on autonomy, self-respect, purpose, and meaningful connection; none of which require a spouse. We are not each other's oxygen. Men and women can survive, thrive, and find fulfillment independently. Aside from the natural process of procreation, we may not even need each other.

Marriage should not be about simply having someone or sharing space. It should enhance your life, complement your growth, and bring meaning. A true marriage is an exchange; give and take, strengthen and support. Anything less is a compromise of your life, energy, and identity.

This is not hatred toward men. This is about clarity, self-love, and recognizing that society is often wrong.

I have seen many responsible men; in fact, my bf is one. When we first met, I remember telling him I didn't want to ever get married. He said that with time, I would realize the benefits of marriage and be open to it. Now, I can comfortably refer to him as my husband to be because he embodies the qualities I admire, understands me deeply, and has the potential to be both a good husband and a devoted father.

Ask yourself: what is the benefit of my union with this person? Does he strengthen my life, bring peace, inspire my growth, or support my purpose? Or is he simply a label, a title, a societal expectation? If you cannot answer these questions; if you cannot see why he is necessary in your life; then don't marry him. The last thing you need is an empty presence; he would just become a burden that is hard to let go of.

Many marry for approval, not for alignment with their soul; and that is a trap. Marriage should be chosen consciously, not imposed by society, fear, or habit. It should be a space where life is shared, not surrendered. If it does not elevate you, challenge you, and complement your existence, it is not marriage; it is merely a society-approved lifelong contract to coexist.

Remember: survival, growth, and fulfillment do not depend on a spouse. Your happiness is yours to claim. Your life is yours to live fully. Marriage is an option, not a requirement. This is the liberating truth.

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