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Stephen0mozzy:
This right here is what i fear the most.


I mean, there's no harm entertaining yourself with social media - but you're not learning anything, youre not earning anything from it, just giggling and being entertained into obsolescence 🤧.



This is one thing I've not almost given up on. Apparently, no matter how good intentioned you are, you can't force someone to have a vision for themselves and pursue something that can better their own lives and improve the family.

But I think you knew even during dating thay she's a RELAXED person, did you promise her housewife life? Did you always know she was one to not pursue personal development?

I'm very big on partnership and mutual growth; the truth is, if one partner is growing and the other one is just marinating, it eventually leads to disgust.

Sending you my prayers Sir... May you find peace

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

WriteerNg:
Go out one day and never return. She will work by force. You married an enemy not a wife.

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

wonder233:
Foolt

Usmanovic95:
If the man wanted a supportive woman, I'm sure he would not have settled for the woman. The woman didn't become a lazy ass woman overnight, the man must have seen the red flag at the early stage of the relationship that she is mentally lazy but love blinded him and he ignored the red flag. Now ,he has to pay the price for the red flag he ignored. God will give him the strength and muscle to keep providing for his family.

WriteerNg:

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Go out one day and never return.

She will work by force.

You married an enemy not a wife.

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

Kobojunkie:
A woman like that would likely dump those children with OP's parents and go live her life too. This is 2026, not 1980/90. 🥱🥱🥱