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I have always wondered why girls refused to date their mates (especially those yellow ones from that area where their girls are plenty in yellowness).

Now they may start to date you but something her "friends" said made her completely stop. And no, it is not because your head is too big or that you are from a certain place. Those are lies she just said so that you would be unhappy with yourself but not with her so that in case you are become something she can come back. So you are in her man pulling hands.

Meanwhile when you both started, it was genuine until her friends saw and spoke with her then she says she is not doing again or out rightly quarrels and kicks your ass out.

Only to see her fall mummuishly with one older guy and her friends approve of the relationship.

Infact all of them fall in with the guy and it looks like they are even sharing him until she finally finds out that her friend truly fornicked with the guy.

And yes the guy is always richer and older than you but the question is still why did she dump a good thing to go to that other guy.

And the funny thing is that you could have done what the guy did in giving her trips just that.. you thought she was a good girl, so the question is why?

Now i see why.

It is because her friends who themselves are oloshos put it in her that she is supposed to be an olosho like them else they will hate her and deal with her.

So they told her "what can he give you? Is it meat pie that is shacking you? You are a foo, he is jus using you and when he has finished he would dump you. I hope you have not fornicked him? (And she must say no oo) Then they would say thank God you have small sense. Do you see what nnika got from her guy? See this watch is 250k, he took all of us to federal palace see her clothes na, nothing less than 300k. So how can a girl like you who is even finer than nnika be wasting herself on that useress boy who cannot give you anything? I will give you somebody who will even do more than that. You know chibim, (the older guy) is interested in you, i will connect you with him.

And finish, she immediately dumps you.

And why did she dump you. that magic word "you can't take care of me" tells you everything.

See, you went befriending a girl thinking that as your mates, you have the same likes concerns so things should naturally go well between the 2 of you. And it did until those girls spoke then her attitude towards you changed. And after that she went on, changed and became a girl that you no longer recognise.

Why all these?

It is because her friends have activated and opened the fact that she truly wants everything in this world now now now.

Not later like you but now now now.

And where her friends have only gone to Lagos, she needs a man to take her to both Lagos and Abuja elsewhere. Where her friends have a watch she wants watches and phones. Now, now now.

Therefore she dumped you because you cannot satisfy her unreasonable needs of reaching up to her friends and even being better than her classmates is why.

Which is why those of your classmates in secondary school who have already entered into the olosho business are the ones who were clear in their minds that they can never date their classmates no matter what. And it is them who if you made the mistake of trying to toast, you would get the insult of your life.
And they are the ones who always laid the conditions of dating all other women started carrying on their heads eg like a girl in JS 2 saying that she only dates guys in the university and up which does not stop her from entering her father's mates Benz.

Not all girls. Don't generalized it

Many girls are into young guys but few are into old men

It's because you're immature.

Creating this thread proves it.

Diamond098454:
Not all girls. Don't generalized it

Many girls are into young guys but few are into old men

It is not me you would tell this Lie.

I nearly never saw a girl who never subscribed to the older guys situ. I have seen only 3 in almost 50yrs.

erad:
It's because you're immature.

Creating this thread proves it.

Like you are mature when you find out that your wife/gf is an olosho

gutss:
Dating Feels Different After Turning 30

This is after burn out has occurred and when life shows them that they can still be miseryful even after having everything

3 ? How? This is an insult on young girls

3 ? Can you imagine? Just 3 in 50years ?please stop it already.

Dtruthspeaker:
It is not me you would tell this Lie.

I nearly never saw a girl who never subscribed to the older guys situ. I have seen only 3 in almost 50yrs.

Diamond098454:
3 ? How? This is an insult on young girls

3 ? Can you imagine? Just 3 in 50years ?please stop it already.

Every woman today was once young and that is how they disgraced themselves. Which is why women are not respected which is actually my course of study

And then i overhead one little girl probably in js 1 or 2 telling the girls with her which reminded me of secondary school

Not all girls

Dtruthspeaker:
Every woman today was once young and that is how they disgraced themselves. Which is why women are not respected which is actually my course of study

And then i overhead one little girl probably in js 1 or 2 telling the girls with her which reminded me of secondary school

Diamond098454:
Not all girls

Probably only 1 in 16 million was able to completely resist until she married. If someone says its all girls, no one can say he is wrong as you won't even be able to point out one

Hmm mmm hmm mmm you sounds so convincing I know millions of girls including me that are not into old men stuffs

Dtruthspeaker:
Probably only 1 in 16 million was able to completely resist until she married. If someone says its all girls, no one can say he is wrong as you won't even be able to point out one

Diamond098454:
Hmm mmm hmm mmm you sounds so convincing I know millions of girls including me that are not into old men stuffs

You don't need to lie for it were so, men won't be running from women and marriage

There are a lot of good girls out there.

Dtruthspeaker:
You don't need to lie for it were so, men won't be running from women and marriage

That is how nature made it!
Those girls date/marry older men because those are the men that'll easily provide for them and their offsprings without questions. It is very easy for me to want to provide for a younger girl than for my age mate.
My age mate may be at par with me mentally, academically and financially, so I'll feel like I'm being shortchanged if I'm to provide for her, but if I'm dating/marrying a younger girl, everything flows naturally.

So op, it is hypergamy at work and there's nothing you can do about it other than to wait until you get to that level where you become a spec for younger girls.

Women grow up faster than men but men age gradually. That's why at a young age a young woman won't go for her peers. She needs more of the daddy figures in her life. This is how older men exploit them because they know so women will cry and cry because the men are wiser than them and the young men are throwing tantrums so they cannot handle that.

Women palaver is not something you want to stress yourself over. It's biology, accept it like that. Women have biological clock so their time is limited to be with men who are not made. It is also a gamble for them to choose a man who is not sure where he is headed, that's why they are not really attracted to their peers and want ready made men but when life shows some of them shege, they know what they need in life. Part of the security women need is financial stability, emotional stability (to handle their tantrums) and physical stability (to help her when she Don born and give her good kids). This is why the female child is one that you see families putting a lot of work on because most families don't usually want a returnee or single mom so they want to make sure the family they transfer you to is forever till death do you part 😉

Dtruthspeaker:
Now i see why.

It is because her friends who themselves are oloshos put it in her that she is supposed to be an olosho like them else they will hate her and deal with her.

So they told her "what can he give you? Is it meat pie that is shacking you? You are a foo, he is jus using you and when he has finished he would dump you. I hope you have not fornicked him? (And she must say no oo) Then they would say thank God you have small sense. Do you see what nnika got from her guy? See this watch is 250k, he took all of us to federal palace see her clothes na, nothing less than 300k. So how can a girl like you who is even finer than nnika be wasting herself on that useress boy who cannot give you anything? I will give you somebody who will even do more than that. You know chibim, (the older guy) is interested in you, i will connect you with him.

And finish, she immediately dumps you.

Olatunji, when you grow up, you will understand these things better. What you described has nothing to do with tribe, it's nature at work, it's Biology at work. Women date and marry up, they don't date down. If you want to date your mates as a guy, then you must come from a rich family or you must pray and work harder to become financially buoyant at a younger age, that's the only way your mates can find you appealing to date.


Folake, Sukurat, Funke, Monsurat and Laide also do the same thing. So it's not just your Nneka that does it.



And your thread also proves that you are a very immature boy with the reasoning of a very childish boy, which will make it even more difficult for your mates to consider you attractive or appealing to date.


The solution?

Focus on your academics, or your handwork if you are learning work at Baba Dimeji workshop, so that you can have a financial life and be prepared to handle women and their several responsibilities.


You can use Google or chatgpt or grok or Gemini to ask:


"What is hypergamy?" and read more about it to broaden your narrow mindset

Diamond098454:
There are a lot of good girls out there.

You don't need to defend anything here. What the immature op described is pure biology at work, which is not a crime. Women didn't create themselves, just as men didn't create themselves. Women have a clock that run faster than that of men, so biologically they are attracted to mature men.


A girl dating her mate is a huge risk, unless her mate comes from a rich family that will help him become stabilized on time.


So you don't need to defend anything here because it is how nature wired most women, only few women date down or date and marry their mates, and if you check those their mates they dated and married, they act mature than their male mates.


The boy just need to calm down and wait for his time. The older a man grows, the more appealing he is to women, especially if he is financially successful as he ages. This is not same with women whose sex appeal reduces as they grow older. These things are natural phenomenon that we all must learn to understand and respect to have a fulfilled life here on earth.

You are a genius
Thank you🌹🌹

franchasofficia:
You don't need to defend anything here. What the immature op described is pure biology at work, which is not a crime. Women didn't create themselves, just as men didn't create themselves. Women have a clock that run faster than that of men, so biologically they are attracted to mature men.


A girl dating her mate is a huge risk, unless her mate comes from a rich family that will help him become stabilized on time.


So you don't need to defend anything here because it is how nature wired most women, only few women date down or date and marry their mates, and if you check those their mates they dated and married, they act mature than their male mates.


The boy just need to calm down and wait for his time. The older a man grows, the more appealing he is to women, especially if he is financially successful as he ages. This is not same with women whose sex appeal reduces as they grow older. These things are natural phenomenon that we all must learn to understand and respect to have a fulfilled life here on earth.

Wow😲😲😲😲😲
So we still have people like you in this forum wow........
Good morning and how was your night my wonderful friend?

franchasofficia:
You don't need to defend anything here. What the immature op described is pure biology at work, which is not a crime. Women didn't create themselves, just as men didn't create themselves. Women have a clock that run faster than that of men, so biologically they are attracted to mature men.


A girl dating her mate is a huge risk, unless her mate comes from a rich family that will help him become stabilized on time.


So you don't need to defend anything here because it is how nature wired most women, only few women date down or date and marry their mates, and if you check those their mates they dated and married, they act mature than their male mates.


The boy just need to calm down and wait for his time. The older a man grows, the more appealing he is to women, especially if he is financially successful as he ages. This is not same with women whose sex appeal reduces as they grow older. These things are natural phenomenon that we all must learn to understand and respect to have a fulfilled life here on earth.

Diamond098454:
Wow😲😲😲😲😲
So we still have people like you in this forum wow........
Good morning and how was your night my wonderful friend?

Good morning, I only speak truth at all times, I don't care who gets angry or upset with my truths, be it on romance, relationship, family, politics, religion or business topics. I don't sugarcoat words to make people like me because I care less about how anybody feels so long as I am saying what I know is the truth

Damn

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Weldon

franchasofficia:
Good morning, I only speak truth at all times, I don't care who gets angry or upset with my truths, be it on romance, relationship, family, politics, religion or business topics. I don't sugarcoat words to make people like me because I care less about how anybody feels so long as I am saying what I know is the truth

What is Dtruthspeaker even writing this morning

It is completely devoid of logic; I genuinely had a headache trying to make sense of your article. You have officially won the award for the most confusing post of the day 🏅🎖️🏅

You truly have a long way to go.

SpencerForbes:
What is Dtruthspeaker even writing this morning

It is completely devoid of logic; I genuinely had a headache trying to make sense of your article. You have officially won the award for the most confusing post of the day 🏅🎖️🏅

You truly have a long way to go.

hehehehe jus say that I have made you remember that very painful day of that decent quiet girl in secondary school whom you felt was a good girl and you went for her and she was already falling and falling for you.

Only for those jealous wiked girls wey no send am before to go and talk to her and after that everything scatter and the girl changed and became a bad spoilt girl.

I know you got it.

It is now i just understood how and why she changed her mind as I could not believe that she could change so easily. Plus, I was wondering what those girls told her. So now, i know so now I know how guide my daughter

franchasofficia:
You don't need to defend anything here. What the immature op described is pure biology at work, which is not a crime. Women didn't create themselves, just as men didn't create themselves. Women have a clock that run faster than that of men, so biologically they are attracted to mature men.

The boy just need to calm down and wait for his time. The older a man grows, the more appealing he is to women, especially if he is financially successful as he ages. This is not same with women whose sex appeal reduces as they grow older. These things are natural phenomenon that we all must learn to understand and respect to have a fulfilled life here on earth.

What about older men (35+) who are struggling financially? We know that such men exist in today's society. What is their fate?

franchasofficia:
Olatunji, when you grow up, you will understand these things better. What you described has nothing to do with tribe, it's nature at work, it's Biology at work. Women date and marry up, they don't date down. If you want to date your mates as a guy, then you must come from a rich family or you must pray and work harder to become financially buoyant at a younger age, that's the only way your mates can find you appealing to date.

"What is hypergamy?" and read more about it to broaden your narrow mindset

It's interesting how most men realise women are hypergamous quickly in life. But women don't realise it on time, only for us to read hE iS a pReDaToR because a 30+ man pursues a lass in her early twenties.

Well, that's why one shouldn't take what most women say seriously.

franchasofficia:
Olatunji, when you grow up, you will understand these things better. What you described has nothing to do with tribe, it's nature at work, it's Biology at work. Women date and marry up, they don't date down. If you want to date your mates as a guy, then you must come from a rich family or you must pray and work harder to become financially buoyant at a younger age, that's the only way your mates can find you appealing to date.


Folake, Sukurat, Funke, Monsurat and Laide also do the same thing. So it's not just your Nneka that does it.

And your thread also proves that you are a very immature boy with the reasoning of a very childish boy, which will make it even more difficult for your mates to consider you attractive or appealing to date.

The solution?

Focus on your academics, or your handwork if you are learning work at Baba Dimeji workshop, so that you can have a financial life and be prepared to handle women and their several responsibilities.

You can use Google or chatgpt or grok or Gemini to ask:

"What is hypergamy?" and read more about it to broaden your narrow mindset

I agree that girls date up but before they did, remember that they ran from people who were older than them and it is with us that they did mummy and daddy with technically "dated" in primary school.

And some of us swore that we shall marry them as our "relationship" of mummy and daddiness feeling stlll continued with us to secondary school.

So we all knew the girls who liked us and who were going to date us if we went for them.

And that was confirmed when we truly went to the girl and truly dating had started and was going very well until .. those girls started grumbling and complaining about our togetherness and closeness (relationship).

And you know, another thing that proves that girls do date their mates is the fact that somehow, somehow those same girls came back to date and even fornicked with us later in ss2/year 1 or even after school and in nysc, after uncle older has already over finished using and dumping them..

So, now i do not agree that girls don't date their mates for I now know that they do, just that in their usual tell of lies, they are just keeping it as a secret weapon to man pullate men knowing that we would be surprised and happily accept them and that we would not remember nor care about their wayward living.

And this is not to even consider that they even date and marry younger men.

So, this is where you see that those who say 'you dey believe woman?" are very right for between 95% - 99% of everything women say are Lies!

Dtruthspeaker:
hehehehe jus say that I have made you remember that very painful day of that decent quiet girl in secondary school whom you felt was a good girl and you went for her and she was already falling and falling for you.

Only for those jealous wiked girls wey no send am before to go and talk to her and after that everything scatter and the girl changed and became a bad spoilt girl.

I know you got it.

It is now i just understood how and why she changed her mind as I could not believe that she could change so easily. Plus, I was wondering what those girls told her. So now, i know so now I know how guide my daughter

Damn... a million and one things I have to experience. I’m always the one who initiates the breakups. All these good girls keep falling for a broken boy like me, thinking they are my paracetamol—only to realize this boy is beyond redemption. I always fall for the good ones, yet I’m always the villain. Just like sugar: the doctor warned them, but they just couldn’t resist🤦‍♂️