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morgstreme:
➜I influenced my wife...

STorytime! 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
STorytime! 🥱🥱🥱

It's ALWAYS storytime for "juveniles" that have NOT yet been weened in basic things as dating..... talkless of marriage..

When you have atleast 21 years of marriage experience,I will notice your spews .

morgstreme:
➜It's ALWAYS storytime for "juveniles" that have NOT yet been weened in basic things as dating..... talkless of marriage..When you have atleast 21 years of marriage experience,I will notice your spews .

Like play, we are already deviating from the topic. 🥱🥱

What has staying in a marriage for 21 years to do with the issue here?🥱🥱

I used to know a man who was married to his one wife for over 35 years. He was a deadbeat dad, a womanizer, an abuser, and a drunk. For the majority of the marriage, the wife literally bankrolled the household. Does the fact that the man spent over 30 years in his marriage mean he is more experienced in marriage than you are? 🥱🥱

I am trying to understand why you felt that dropping a number meant you were better at this in some way. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Like play, we are already deviating from the topic. 🥱🥱

What has staying in a marriage for 21 years to do with the issue here?🥱🥱

I used to know a man who was married to his one wife for over 35 years. He was a deadbeat dad, a womanizer, an abuser, and a drunk. For the majority of the marriage, the wife literally bankrolled the household. Does the fact that the man spent over 30 years in his marriage mean he is more experienced in marriage than you are? 🥱🥱

I am trying to understand why you felt that dropping a number meant you were better at this in some way. 🥱🥱

EXACTLY my point..

You will keep trying to understand because of your INEXPERIENCE..

Lol.

I appreciate.

Wotowotoman:
Shouldn’t this have been on the poor man’s mind before marrying a fellow poor woman wey jobless on top? 🤔

Emdi1914:
Forget that equality parade bro.There is how you treat a woman and they would worship you as if you are were some god.

Oga, let them worship God not me. The reality is that we need all hands to be on deck, the ship is sinking already brov

Kobojunkie:
Like play, we are already deviating from the topic. 🥱🥱

What has staying in a marriage for 21 years to do with the issue here?🥱🥱

I used to know a man who was married to his one wife for over 35 years. He was a deadbeat dad, a womanizer, an abuser, and a drunk. For the majority of the marriage, the wife literally bankrolled the household. Does the fact that the man spent over 30 years in his marriage mean he is more experienced in marriage than you are? 🥱🥱

I am trying to understand why you felt that dropping a number meant you were better at this in some way. 🥱🥱

You obviously aren't married..
MONEY is a factor in marriage...a strong one..

But it's just one of the many factors.... because you can't function even as a human in these days without money...and thrs just the issue .and then,how much is "Money"

Infact,it isn't the major factor even when folks that are emotionally unregulated make it so...

It will take someone with deep understanding and experience, unlike you,to get it ...

A lot of married folks don't even get it..

morgstreme:
✓ You obviously aren't married..
MONEY is a factor in marriage...a strong one..
But it's just one of the many factors.... because you can't function even as a human in these days without money...and thrs just the issue .and then,how much is "Money"
Infact,it isn't the major factor even when folks that are emotionally unregulated make it so...
It will take someone with deep understanding and experience, unlike you,to get it ...
A lot of married folks don't even get it..

This is hogwash at best for a response. I asked you a straight-forward enough question, and your response is to run all over the place yet never answering the question asked? Come on! How old are you? 🥱🥱😏

Kobojunkie:
This is hogwash at best for a response. I asked you a straight-forward enough question, and your response is to run all over the place yet never answering the question asked? Come on! How old are you? 🥱🥱😏

I am 53...will be 53 in I a couple of days...

Have I now answered your question?

Are you now fine and good?

Kobojunkie:
Like play, we are already deviating from the topic. 🥱🥱

What has staying in a marriage for 21 years to do with the issue here?🥱🥱

I used to know a man who was married to his one wife for over 35 years. He was a deadbeat dad, a womanizer, an abuser, and a drunk. For the majority of the marriage, the wife literally bankrolled the household. Does the fact that the man spent over 30 years in his marriage mean he is more experienced in marriage than you are? 🥱🥱

I am trying to understand why you felt that dropping a number meant you were better at this in some way. 🥱🥱

That a woman bankrolls her family even when she's married doesn't mean SHIT!

Unless you are NOT someone with Self Awareness..like almost all folks..

So will it be okay if a married man pays ALL his bills and yet keeps another lady outside his home?

What about if he is never around but pays his bills and even more?

Oga...

How old are you?

Kobojunkie:
Like play, we are already deviating from the topic. 🥱🥱

What has staying in a marriage for 21 years to do with the issue here?🥱🥱

I used to know a man who was married to his one wife for over 35 years. He was a deadbeat dad, a womanizer, an abuser, and a drunk. For the majority of the marriage, the wife literally bankrolled the household. Does the fact that the man spent over 30 years in his marriage mean he is more experienced in marriage than you are? 🥱🥱

I am trying to understand why you felt that dropping a number meant you were better at this in some way. 🥱🥱

Yes!

A man that has spent 30years in marriage.. irrespective of paying bills or not bankrolling the family...has more experience than someone like you that doesn't even know what it means to keep a girlfriend talkless of marriage..

How old are you?

morgstreme:
✓ Yes!
A man that has spent 30years in marriage.. irrespective of paying bills or not bankrolling the family...has more experience than someone like you that doesn't even know what it means to keep a girlfriend talkless of marriage..
How old are you?

Now I see even clearly the intelligence of the person I am attempting to engage. I refuse to move forward with this at this point. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Now I see even clearly the intelligence of the person I am attempting to engage. I refuse to move forward with this at this point. 🥱🥱🥱

You are EMPTY.... INEXPERIENCED and VACUOUS upstairs.....

Hmm...so comments here no follow at all.

God forbid something happens to the OP what will the wife do?.. Continue to waste her time on social media?
Rather unfortunate.

SIRTee15:
First it's insulting to say your wife added no value to man's daughter and your kids.
whatever your wife brings in is just an adjuvant, u are not expected to rely on it.

I think it's high time we really need to change the orientation of our men in southern Nigeria, because I dont understand how u cant feed your family and the next thing that comes to your mind is to blame your wife....instead of u to DOUBLE YOUR HUSTLE AND KEEP GRINDING.

come to uk, south asian men dont even allow their wives to work, yet na dem get property pass even more than africans that both couple work.
Men better learn to work hard, disruptive AI is coming that will wipe out more than half of all jobs in labour market. At that time, a man will even be lucky to get job not to talk a house wife.

Just had to chip in...those South Asian women aren't at the forefront of feminism and gender equality. So, the arrangement works well for them. A group of people cannot advocate to participate equally in the labour market yet are angry when compelled to contribute equally to the household expenses.

bukatyne:
Sometimes, I am inclined to think that some men have traded their brains for fufu while they were younger.

You never hear richer men sprout this nonsense of a wife 'being a liability' because she doesn't earn. They are begging & threatening their wives to stay home so she can fully run the home.

It is always the poor, wretched ones.

How can a husband open his mouth to say his wife is not adding 'any value' to his life because she doesn't 'bring in money'?

I will bet that he absolutely does nothing around the house & childcare.

If he divorces his wife and she wisely leaves the kids with him, he will be hunting for a replacement wife to take over her duties.

Honestly, mental evaluation is required before marriage.

While the way OP berated his wife is condemnable, the way we write about poor people in Nigeria, one would think the country is a wealthy nation...sort of a Switzerland...

I always find it hilarious 😂

Gerrard59:
While the way OP berated his wife is condemnable, the way we write about poor people in Nigeria, one would think the country is a wealthy nation...sort of a Switzerland...

I always find it hilarious 😂

The fact most of the populace are poor doesn't mean we shouldn't call out poverty-induced shoko.

kenchop:
Bro, firstly things are generally very bad in the country, especially economically. So the issue of low savings monthly is actually something a bit general. As for your wife not adding any value to your life , especially economically, it's best you have a serious chat with her about it, if it persists, you can file for a divorce.

Time is too short to waste it in an unhealthy union.

While I agree with you that the economy is hard, I find it difficult to see how the union is unhealthy? You are going to the extent of telling him to divorce her?!!

Value must not always be quantified financially. We seem to underestimate the essential tasks she does in the house- cooking, cleaning, washing, school runs taking care of the children and attending to domestic issues. Even with machines, these tasks are not easy. Try paying for those services and see how a hole will be dug into your monthly income.

As long as a man married a good woman; chaste, loving and empathetic, his daily prayer for God to bless him with more-thsn-enough income to fully take care of the family regardless of the wife's work status, not sulking that she's not contributing to the home.

Emdi1914:
See, you have to understand something..,as a man,it is more pleasurable to give than to receive.
This marriage thing is not for everyone.If you see 'providing' as hard labor,it is better not to marry, because providing for someone is more of pleasure than pain,I swear it is a blessing believe me.

U go one day lose that source of income, even if na temporarily.

Then u go come back to read this ur mugu writeup again