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Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.

I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.

Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.

I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.

So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

You want to go spiritual because the girls you like don’t like you back? What is the “spiritual”supposed to do? Force the girls to like you or make you ice cream to all ladies?

You are either still dependent on someone else for survival or you must be very loaded because you seem not to be facing any actual real life challenges.

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

There is nothing spiritual about your issue. Na handsome you expect say these girls wan chop from you abi wetin? I suggest you begin by looking for girls whose standards are low enough that all they want is a man around them. The young girls you keep chasing after until now seem to see you offering them nothing but mere looks, and that is likely why they would rather just consider you a part-time indulgence than a full-time commitment. 🥱🥱

Bro is a Homeboy for life.
Hit the gym or something else and find your purpose my bro, let your true personality attract ladies not your kindness and politeness, that’s when you gonna find the one who finds you unique.
Stay happily ever after, you gonna be a great Dad, do not fall in single mothers trap, it doesn’t always end well.

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

60kg @ almost 5’11, you’re technically a walking dry wood.

up your weight to at least 70kg, invest in your style, build confidence and approach multiple girls you’re gonna get some pumpum

Manner, attitude, behavior

If you think it's about your body look, then you are yet to know where the problem lies

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

It may be Spiritual problem.
Spirit of rejection / hatred.
I am a servant of God, currently dealing with similar issue..
Kindly, join our prayer requests platform on Whatzap called The Lions Club and another group called New Nation.

Whatzap: 07057905174.

You're next in line to testify.

Prophet Olaide Mudasiru,
Founder, New Nation Gospel Ministries International

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me)
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

You're the highest spiritual self and you don't need an outsider to deceive you. Embrace your destiny and go with what you attract. Go deeper, there's something you need to learn from there first, so you can use it to navigate through life. Don't learn the hard way.

It happens to all guys not just you but they don't talk about it much nothing spiritual about it. when they tell you that gender in complicated you think it's a joke abi?
what you don't know is that by default when you ask a girl out her normal reaction is to start playing hard to get, she will want to prove to you she is not cheap so she will test the hell out of you this is where most guys quit.
I will advice you not to be desperate she is testing your confidence to see if you are man enough to handle pressure, let women play their mind games, keep toasting her for at least 2weeks then pull out if she is not reciprocating,If she has fallen for you she will come back for you.

bigpriik:
It happens to all guys not just you but they don't talk about it much nothing spiritual about it. when they tell you that gender in complicated you think it's a joke abi?
what you don't know is that by default when you ask a girl out her normal reaction is to start playing hard to get, she will want to prove to you she is not cheap so she will test the hell out of you this is where most guys quit.
I will advice you not to be desperate she is testing your confidence to see if you are man enough to handle pressure, let women play their mind games, keep toasting her for at least 2weeks then pull out if she is not reciprocating,If she has fallen for you she will come back for you.

Beats me how he doesn't know the pulling back is just a game to make you chase them and his they assess your worth ..


Be like who say this op na teenager dey right ..

Why not look at it from another angle?

Have you tried to ask these “girls” the exact reason?
Cos to me, it feels like you don’t know the actual reason these people are pulling away.

I think you should do a self-evaluation.
There’s nothing spiritual about this. If you keep acting the same way to 100 people, you’ll keep getting the same feedback.

Besides, as a lady, I’ll treat all guys the same until a particular person stand out to me.

Do you have money??

Op reinvent yourself. I for say make you hit gym everyday, forget about women for like 4 months , smoke weed and eat like a thief, by the time you start de robust and muscular na every lady go Dey nice to you and you easily select your target. While at it avoid masturbation oh, if not you will have the opposite effect of weed.

*EDIT*
Op forget about confidence, I’m sure by the time you squat 40-50kg 10 * 5 sets like twice, your brain will tell you how to be confident. And the best advice na the one wey only you give yourself. Embrace personal growth, its value is unquantifiable.

So, you expect girls to be toasting you?

Normally Nigerian type of dating is different. Most girls stick to guys they benefit financially.

Do you think guys dropping comments for you here have good relationship with women either?

kiddaz:
You're the highest spiritual self and you don't need an outsider to deceive you. Embrace your destiny and go with what you attract. Go deeper, there's something you need to learn from there first, so you can use it to navigate through life. Don't learn the hard way.

either that way or he just change the pattern...we are co-creators with our maker.


Whatever happening to us, we agreed to it.if you no longer fancy it, change it

bigpriik:
It happens to all guys not just you but they don't talk about it much nothing spiritual about it. when they tell you that gender in complicated you think it's a joke abi?
what you don't know is that by default when you ask a girl out her normal reaction is to start playing hard to get, she will want to prove to you she is not cheap so she will test the hell out of you this is where most guys quit.
I will advice you not to be desperate she is testing your confidence to see if you are man enough to handle pressure, let women play their mind games, keep toasting her for at least 2weeks then pull out if she is not reciprocating,If she has fallen for you she will come back for you.

do you even need to tell her you like her? No need, vibes until you both find yourselves in a relationship and don't know how u got there

FitCorper:
Op reinvent yourself. I for say make you hit gym everyday, forget about women for like 4 months , smoke weed and eat like a thief, by the time you start de robust and muscular na every lady go Dey nice to you and you easily select your target. While at it avoid masturbation oh, if not you will have the opposite effect of weed.

may God help him, gyming gets me Hot AF

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

Life is like that, what faces one backs the other. Me I'm here always attracting girls I'm like 8-14 years older than but I prefer mine Sha. I attract very old women too, but I guess it's pure love because they don't go sexual on me, they just always want me to date there up to age daughters who happens to not see me in that way. The older women own is understandable though because I'm this cool, calm handsome guy but who doesn't have money so they feel I will treat their daughters well but I don't have what these girls want yet which is money.

I have never dated all my life...
I think it's stressful and less rewarding....

If they reject you, reject them back

Okra for okra

Adasun:
either that way or he just change the pattern...we are co-creators with our maker.


Whatever happening to us, we agreed to it.if you no longer fancy it, change it

this is deep. Please can you elaborate?

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

You are too skinny for your height so you look hungry.

Most ladies know if they start a relationship with you you will finish all the milk in their bwest

RhemaJet7:
It may be Spiritual problem.
Spirit of rejection / hatred.
I am a servant of God, currently dealing with similar issue..
Kindly, join our prayer requests platform on Whatzap called The Lions Club and another group called New Nation.

Whatzap: 07057905174.

You're next in line to testify.

Prophet Olaide Mudasiru,
Founder, New Nation Gospel Ministries International

okay I'll message you

kiddaz:
You're the highest spiritual self and you don't need an outsider to deceive you. Embrace your destiny and go with what you attract. Go deeper, there's something you need to learn from there first, so you can use it to navigate through life. Don't learn the hard way.

so you mean I should go on with single mothers somebody else's left over

bigpriik:
It happens to all guys not just you but they don't talk about it much nothing spiritual about it. when they tell you that gender in complicated you think it's a joke abi?
what you don't know is that by default when you ask a girl out her normal reaction is to start playing hard to get, she will want to prove to you she is not cheap so she will test the hell out of you this is where most guys quit.
I will advice you not to be desperate she is testing your confidence to see if you are man enough to handle pressure, let women play their mind games, keep toasting her for at least 2weeks then pull out if she is not reciprocating,If she has fallen for you she will come back for you.

bro I've done all these I'm tired of letting go every time none seems to click that's why I think it's something spiritual

Bendeco02:
So, you expect girls to be toasting you?

Normally Nigerian type of dating is different. Most girls stick to guys they benefit financially.

Do you think guys dropping comments for you here have good relationship with women either?

Bro I've spent money chasing different girls do their beddings taking them out, there was one I took out only for me to get home to discover she has blocked me, there was also one that I did transfer for and all the nice things a guy normally does for a girl only for her to end up insulting and blocking me this happened early January this year

Bendeco02:
So, you expect girls to be toasting you?

Normally Nigerian type of dating is different. Most girls stick to guys they benefit financially.

Do you think guys dropping comments for you here have good relationship with women either?

You dey mind am? When he finally gets the so called relationship, he will see that there's nothing in it. The idea is sweeter than the reality.

Adasun:
do you even need to tell her you like her? No need, vibes until you both find yourselves in a relationship and don't know how u got there

that normally works for me I've been with girls that we just flow naturally but once I tell them I like them they become distant

fattprince:
Life is like that, what faces one backs the other. Me I'm here always attracting girls I'm like 8-14 years older than but I prefer mine Sha. I attract very old women too, but I guess it's pure love because they don't go sexual on me, they just always want me to date there up to age daughters who happens to not see me in that way. The older women own is understandable though because I'm this cool, calm handsome guy but who doesn't have money so they feel I will treat their daughters well but I don't have what these girls want yet which is money.

Bro yours is okay at least younger girls like you, this. One they'll eat my money and still ghost me while single mothers will just be flocking around me.

TheBreastSucker:
You are too skinny for your height so you look hungry.

Most ladies know if they start a relationship with you you will finish all the milk in their bwest

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 funny you

Adasun:
either that way or he just change the pattern...we are co-creators with our maker.


Whatever happening to us, we agreed to it.if you no longer fancy it, change it

how do you mean bro