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There is a funny hypocrisy in how people judge others .

You will see a man sponsoring his girlfriend through university. Paying school fees, sending monthly allowance, covering accommodation, books, everything. His friends will clap for him and say he is a serious man planning his future.

Then that same man will look at another guy staking ₦500 or ₦1,000 on SportyBet and start laughing.

But if we are being honest, both of them are taking a risk.

One risk is just socially respected. The other is socially mocked.

Let’s be real.

The guy betting on football knows exactly what he is doing. He understands it is gambling. Sometimes he wins small, sometimes he loses. It is a calculated risk with clear rules.

But the man sponsoring a woman through school hoping she will marry him is also gambling, only that his stake is much bigger. Years of financial support, emotional investment, and expectations.

And here is the uncomfortable truth.

There is no written contract that says she must marry him after graduation.

People have seen situations where a man sponsors a woman through university, NYSC, even professional training. The moment she becomes financially independent, the relationship suddenly ends.

Not always. But it happens.

So when people mock the guy placing a bet, they forget something important.

Life itself is full of bets.

Starting a business is a bet. Investing money is a bet. Choosing a partner is a bet. Even marriage itself is a bet on another human being’s character.

The real issue is not the risk. The real issue is how aware you are of the risk you are taking.

If you decide to support someone you love through school, do it because you genuinely want to help and you believe in the relationship, not because you think you are buying loyalty.

And if someone wants to stake ₦500 on football, that is also their personal choice.

Just remember one simple thing.

Before you laugh at another man’s gamble, make sure you understand the gamble you are currently playing.

Sometimes the quietest bets in life are the most expensive ones.

What do you think?

Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique

It happens always , everytime

Even training or sponsoring your wife is a big bet without guarantee.

Pilot don drop motivational speech👏👏👏

At least you are reducing future liabilities from the planet earth. I'd argue they're not the same.

A man training a woman (who is not his wife or relation) in school is worse than a gambler.

While a gambler may win on lucky days, you are guaranteed to lose.

Don't train another man's child through school, let her parents do that. Even if you must do that ( due to how stupid you are in love with her) always put something you can afford to lose.
Even if you must do too, wife her up first before pouring your money.
Training someone you are not married to in school is an investment of absolute no return.
Have always frown at the stand of hearing "make I train am for school, later I go marry her", my brother premium tears loading.

GehGeh say instead of training girl for school buy keke for the father make em use train am for school

marlow1962:
Don't train another man's child through school, let her parents do that. Even if you must do that ( due to how stupid you are in love with her) always put something you can afford to lose.
Even if you must do too, wife her up first before pouring your money.
Training someone you are not married to in school is an investment of absolute no return.
Have always frown at the stand of hearing "make I train am for school, later I go marry her", my brother premium tears loading.

Fools will always cry. Most guys who do this are uneducated themselves and that's where the stupidity lies. These people don't understand the level of exposure alone one gets from being in the university walls for four years plus.

Only a useful for nothing human will do such. Una no train yourself or your siblings...dey train woman.

You won't understand until you experience it

You're training a girlfriend in sch, while your kid sister doesn't have an SSCE result. And you think God will not punish you?

I have a friend who would cook, eat and reserve same food for his girlfriend who's only coming for sex and going back same day. I was broke and jobless, had nothing, was hungry, but he wouldn't give me that food cos of his girlfriend.
All his money went to that girl. Finally, the girl left his house, and the next week, my guy started seeing pre-wedding photos of his girlfriend on the social media 🤣🤣.
I will never forgive that guy. One day, I'll remind him. So many things he did against me because of some random girls

marlow1962:
Don't train another man's child through school, let her parents do that. Even if you must do that ( due to how stupid you are in love with her) always put something you can afford to lose.
Even if you must do too, wife her up first before pouring your money.
Training someone you are not married to in school is an investment of absolute no return.
Have always frown at the stand of hearing "make I train am for school, later I go marry her", my brother premium tears loading.

Even if you wife her, it's still a risk. She go leave u Las Las

I can't even train her on how to sell MOI moi


If she wants sponsorship so much, she can stand on the road in the night and get paid.

Stop accepting responsibility that is not yours.
It is the duty of a family to train their daughter not yours. If anyone tries to put it on you, they are nothing but exploiters and you are the exploit.
It is only when she becomes legally your wife and bears your children that it is your responsibility, that's if you want to.

Train woman in school as how, she no get papa ni

E be like lotto baaa

Very risky investment with no certain future

Those of u mocking Tinubu and supporting Saint Peter Gregory Obi Na the same thing then those of u supporting Tinubu and mocking Obi Na the samething it will only get worst...obj was better than Yar'Adua..Yar'Adua was better than Jonathan..Jonathan was better than Buhari..Buhari was better than Tinubu and Tinubu will be better than Saint Peter Gregory Obi if he wins and nothing can be worse than Saint Peter Gregory obi

Why will any right thinking man train any woman who is not his daughter or sibling in school? Our brothers in the South East popularised this nonsense.

Investing in a human that’s not your child or parents is a wasteful venture.

All gambling na gambling.

Kalatium:
There is a funny hypocrisy in how people judge others .

You will see a man sponsoring his girlfriend through university. Paying school fees, sending monthly allowance, covering accommodation, books, everything. His friends will clap for him and say he is a serious man planning his future.

Then that same man will look at another guy staking ₦500 or ₦1,000 on SportyBet and start laughing.

But if we are being honest, both of them are taking a risk.

One risk is just socially respected. The other is socially mocked.

Let’s be real.

The guy betting on football knows exactly what he is doing. He understands it is gambling. Sometimes he wins small, sometimes he loses. It is a calculated risk with clear rules.

But the man sponsoring a woman through school hoping she will marry him is also gambling, only that his stake is much bigger. Years of financial support, emotional investment, and expectations.

And here is the uncomfortable truth.

There is no written contract that says she must marry him after graduation.

People have seen situations where a man sponsors a woman through university, NYSC, even professional training. The moment she becomes financially independent, the relationship suddenly ends.

Not always. But it happens.

So when people mock the guy placing a bet, they forget something important.

Life itself is full of bets.

Starting a business is a bet. Investing money is a bet. Choosing a partner is a bet. Even marriage itself is a bet on another human being’s character.

The real issue is not the risk. The real issue is how aware you are of the risk you are taking.

If you decide to support someone you love through school, do it because you genuinely want to help and you believe in the relationship, not because you think you are buying loyalty.

And if someone wants to stake ₦500 on football, that is also their personal choice.

Just remember one simple thing.

Before you laugh at another man’s gamble, make sure you understand the gamble you are currently playing.

Sometimes the quietest bets in life are the most expensive ones.

What do you think?

The perception may be vague, but they are not same, addiction is often likened to betting while the training in school of someone you like, love or have feelings for is on a different level.

I wonder why monetery benefits is compared with starting a family or a home.

Finally, most of the marriages you see or hear collapsed yakata especially those of celebreties, Pls how many of them you hear spent fortunes to train their wife in school?

U go see Igbo man way nor Sabi speak English they train girl for sch meanwhile all his siblings and cousins are illiterate who swear for this people self..no wonder Obi said education is not necessary and it's not for d poor

Dog One, Dog Two.

Dog dey run, money dey burn.

If you can train another person (non-relative) without strings attached, please do, and God will reward you greatly for it.

200000 odds
And ticket go come cut 90+5 mins

Honestly, those men deserve it.

God use women to punish Stupid men

It is the natural law of life
Don't blame women

Make una allow me chook mouth small
For both are risky one is still going to vring pisitive vibes to the man ... if i bet i will do that with extra cash and not my immediate money
If i want to train i will do that wkth left overs from my saving

But na man go understand which one go favour am

In all you do listen to your tomorrow so you wont cry

osazsky:
U go see Igbo man way nor Sabi speak English they train girl for sch meanwhile all his siblings and cousins are illiterate who swear for this people self..no wonder Obi said education is not necessary and it's not for d poor

I have lived and traveled in and out of every yoruba state. Yoruba men na expert for this matter.

lol. This one na uppercut . T.K.O

"People have seen situations where a man sponsors a woman through university, NYSC, even professional training. The moment she becomes financially independent, the relationship suddenly ends." She would say God sent her a helper.