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My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

She wants the cruise with the man...so rest oga,fuel na 1500 for my area

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

Well, only time will tell... But, if na me sha; I ho don dey plan my exit strategy except convinced otherwise!

The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

So what do you want to do and what do you want Nairaland to do?

If she isn't putting a stop to it, then she's enabling him. This is also an emotional affair (aka. cheating), which is bad on its own, as she's supposedly in a relationship with you and she's not doing right by her sister either by having these chats with this man, but it could also turn physical sooner or later. It seems you're not concerned about these.

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

She's not your girl
She's of the most dangerous kind. They feign ignorance so as to justify their intentions in the end.


RUN! Or remain and swallow more nonsense from her

Go and kee him na, next news please .


Omorr, your babe na coded Olosho

She should block him.. End of the story.

She's well aware of his intentions and that's the kind of thing most Naija bannies want......rich man to give them soft life....it will shock you to realize that what you're seeing as a big deal is nothing to her.

Chop her well and find a replacement asap she's for the streets

45yrs old men above no get game at all.."When last did you kiss" ..."Can i be your val or i kill myself".

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

She should hit him back asap

As long as she's entertaining chats with the man and has not blocked him or outrighly told him off, there's a glimmer of interest.

Ogar better start planning your exit and reduce your emotional investment on her else e go shock you and wound you wella

ajalawole:
She should block him.. End of the story.

An average Naija banny block ATM.....just day play okay.

As usual.
FORGET!
Is the trouble even worth it? Naija girl are like flies to feaces when it comes to incoming persons from abroad.
Uncle go just chop out of your precious cake without you knowing it. If you get to get suspicious, then you're dubbed 'overreactive/insecure'.
The man sabi how to fish. Leave the pond for him o.

If she's not scolding him or sternly asking him to stop then she likes the attention and might accept what he's offering.

You went too far abeg. Why invading her privacy. You never cee to to before?

Mattswaggz:
An average Naija banny block ATM.....just day play okay.

then the boyfriend should block her because that is a red flag itself..... Chief will later chop that girl one day even if she is married.

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Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

He will lash her eventually.

Father4all:
You went too far abeg. Why invading her privacy. You never cee to to before?

Is this sarcasm?? Or satire??

I pray for who soever that is reading this.
By this time tomorrow , millions will hit your account.

She's looking for money to buy solar panel... Light no dey naija again, the ones wey need light are currently in UK to see the queen and probably catch the rat under her chair...

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

SixSeven:
The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

So what do you want to do and what do you want Nairaland to do?

Is it a 50 year old man that you're calling an old man?

What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

Gotocourt:
Go and kee him na, next news please .


Omorr, your babe na coded Olosho

How is she an olosho?

Is this guy even married to her or has he given any strong indication that he plans to marry her?

These days only a foolish lady will block all avenues of discussion with other potential suitors because she's doing boyfrien/girlfriend with a guy who might drop her tomorrow

Sirchiboy:
I pray for who soever that is reading this.
By this time tomorrow , millions will hit your account.

Na person millions you go later thief las las. 🤣

Kobicove:
How is she an olosho?

Is this guy even married to her or has he given any strong indication that he plans to marry her?

I tire for nowadays children..the op may not even have a steady job...and u want the girl to remain...he should marry her if he is man enough...kids way never do introduction feel say to marry Na beans

osazsky:
What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

First of all, I am not her first boyfriend but I am the one that deflowered her. It seems you don't read the part that the man sending her those messages is her sister's fiance who is old enough to be her father.

owiko:
She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

I agree. I tried to have a conversation with her about this, the moment she said she doesn't know where that chats is leading, within me the relationship is gone.

Bad world that we living in