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sacajawea:
Bad world that we living in

It's really a bad world, my brother.

Demigod22:
First of all, I am not her first boyfriend but I am the one that deflowered her. It seems you don't read the part that the man sending her those messages is her sister's fiance who is old enough to be her father.

u call a 50 year old an old man....if he doesn't like her sister and he is interested in marrying Ur girlfriend nothing wrong...if u love her u should have married her..if u can take care of her marry her next month before the old man marries her..life is a competition ..no room for slacking and there is room for overtaking..her sister loves another and the old man knows it hence he is fishing for Ur girlfriend and fortunately Ur girlfriend is giving him green light..she is just Ur friend and not Ur wife.move on..go and marry..and who told u u are young

osazsky:
I tire for nowadays children..the op may not even have a steady job...and u want the girl to remain...he should marry her if he is man enough...kids way never do introduction feel say to marry Na beans

First of all, the OP has a steady job. Secondly, this man is her sister's fiance, not just a random man. And if you can marry a girl who's loyalty is questionable, the OP can't.

Demigod22:
It's really a bad world, my brother.

Just read the Text now, so there's some seemingly bad part on the Girl's part it may be.

Is this person your serious Girlfriend?

Kobicove:
How is she an olosho?

Is this guy even married to her or has he given any strong indication that he plans to marry her?

These days only a foolish lady will block all avenues of discussion with other potential suitors because she's doing boyfrien/girlfriend with a guy who might drop her tomorrow

And in your own definition of foolish, the wise girls open discussion with a man who's engaged and about to marry her sister abi?

osazsky:
What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

The someone you think she shouldn't ignore is having wedding plans with her immediate elder sister. At least, you should read to understand.

I thought inwa even gonna read of how it's him being sent off.
1.. A 50+ man??
2.) A divorcee?
If you will entertain anyone or anything, is it from someone your sister wants to marry?

owiko:
She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

Exactly my thoughts. If the man is a random guy, it would have been better but her elder sister's fiance.

Demigod22:
First of all, the OP has a steady job. Secondly, this man is her sister's fiance, not just a random man. And if you can marry a girl who's loyalty is questionable, the OP can't.

if she is not married to her then she is everybody's friend...wat if ops intentions are not pure...do u know if op dey misbehave and it pises her off..most of us are too experienced to pick side until we hear from both side..does op spoil her or he wants her to suffer with him

22 year old? She is still in her exploratory stage jare. She will get serious when she cross that stage.

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

You're babe us gone start looking for another young one to nurture.

YourGFsnatcher:
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He will lash her eventually.

Yes, I already know this. Most girls will fall, she's not different.

ruggedtimi:
45yrs old men above no get game at all.."When last did you kiss" ..."Can i be your val or i kill myself".

Lolz! Wetin you mean nah, I dey dat age bracket o

ajalawole:
then the boyfriend should block her because that is a red flag itself..... Chief will later chop that girl one day even if she is married.

The fact that chief is getting married to her immediate elder sister is crazy.

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

That man go fuvk your girlfriend. Dey there Dey write epistle. Most 22 years old no get sense. Na style the man go use tear her.

The description alone na Stress

Kobicove:
Is it a 50 year old man that you're calling an old man?

Honestly the thing tire me. The way they throw words around.
AY Makun, Tuface, and co are 50 and above. Are they old men?

strangest:
She's looking for money to buy solar panel... Light no dey naija again, the ones wey need light are currently in UK to see the queen and probably catch the rat under her chair...

Where you see Queen for UK

addictiv:
If she's not scolding him or sternly asking him to stop then she likes the attention and might accept what he's offering.

The chances that she will definitely fall for what the man is offering is very high.

Pastoshizzy:
As usual.
FORGET!
Is the trouble even worth it? Naija girl are like flies to feaces when it comes to incoming persons from abroad.
Uncle go just chop out of your precious cake without you knowing it. If you get to get suspicious, then you're dubbed 'overreactive/insecure'.
The man sabi how to fish. Leave the pond for him o.

You have said it all. I asked this girl if she thinks her elder sister will be happy seeing her chats with her husband to be like this, she responded " I don't know"

Demigod22:
The someone you think she shouldn't ignore is having wedding plans with her immediate elder sister. At least, you should read to understand.

it is not in the position of a common boyfriend to delebrate on issues like this such issues should be handled by her parents and family members not a common boyfriend without bearing⁶..the boyfriend should face his family issues

Demigod22:
The fact that chief is getting married to her immediate elder sister is crazy.

nothingcrazy bro... Na loose girl you dey see like that. He will chop the younger sister join. E dey happen no be today. If the younger sis dey school, chief will get her apartment wey e all be gojng to collect standy. If the younger sister wasn't interested he would have report chief to her sister or block him.

Mattswaggz:
An average Naija banny block ATM.....just day play okay.

The man is her elder sister's fiance.

Emeskhalifa:
Ogar better start planning your exit and reduce your emotional investment on her else e go shock you and wound you wella

Yeah, the relationship has ended today. No need risking it.

What brings about such conversation between her sister’s fiancé & her, she must be a useless girl.
A wayward girl so to say.
Dákun fi sílè kó máa gbé sóòbù alágbèèká rè kiiri béyen….
I hates nonsense 😏

dominique:
As long as she's entertaining chats with the man and has not blocked him or outrighly told him off, there's a glimmer of interest.

Yes

ruggedtimi:
45yrs old men above no get game at all.."When last did you kiss" ..."Can i be your val or i kill myself".

It's really disgusting.

He said, show me your picture or I drink sniper and kill myself

Send me voice note or I take hypo and kill myself

Are you alone

You are not missing me I will kill myself.

Demigod22:
Yeah, the relationship has ended today. No need risking it.

Good you called it quits!
Also make sure to block her.
The girl is greedy and knows nothing about loyalty. She isn’t even loyal to her own blood, her sister. Who then are you?

Both the girl and the Old phul do not worth having a headache over.

ruggedtimi:
45yrs old men above no get game at all.."When last did you kiss" ..."Can i be your val or i kill myself".

they don't have time for games Thier own Na to fvck Ur serious girlfriend ..they call them side chick...

osazsky:
u call a 50 year old an old man....if he doesn't like her sister and he is interested in marrying Ur girlfriend nothing wrong...if u love her u should have married her..if u can take care of her marry her next month before the old man marries her..life is a competition ..no room for slacking and there is room for overtaking..her sister loves another and the old man knows it hence he is fishing for Ur girlfriend and fortunately Ur girlfriend is giving him green light..she is just Ur friend and not Ur wife.move on..go and marry..and who told u u are young

I don’t see a difference between you and the 50 plus years old fool. If you don’t know boundaries at this point in your life, i bet you may be worse than him at that age.

Disgusting!

dawnomike:
Well, only time will tell... But, if na me sha; I ho don dey plan my exit strategy except convinced otherwise!

Thank you boss, exit successfully planned.