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Why will any young man choose to start the match with a deficit?

Imagine a single mom telling me if my mom is still alive , and the funniest part is we are not even dating o , just this boyfriend and girlfriend play . So just imagine I get married to that one there’s 50/50 chance that She will lose her mom injn not mine .

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

What makes me angry about the part in bold is that most of you advise ladies to avoid premarital sex but you don't advice men to do the same. If women avoid sex when men need sex it is going to chaotic.

Eddodoh:
They are usually like that. They believe that the best way to tame a man is to spread their legs. So u will enjoy excess seggz when u date them and they are usually sweet.
They rush things and want to manipulate u into marrying them.

I have one currently. She's not bad. I toasted her some years ago she refused, last Xmas I shoot my shot again and it clicked. She told me about her baby & the baby daddy who is an Army. Though I didn't know that she's a single mom initially. She told me how she has being the one taking care of the kid bcuz the guy is married to another woman.

She was happy having me around her and always talk about marriage. She requested that I support her to learn Make-up Artistry so she can also support me when we eventually marry. I collect enough opueh and japa!!

Hahaha,


Last sentence got me,,,

My guy

The main reason is that a single mum wants you to make her your number one but her you will never ever be her number one.

If you make my child your number one, that's perfectly OK but I can't make you my number one when Im not even on your number one or two list.

Man, as in male, is solely to creat family - not to join one.

Mariangeles:
How are they so? Because they were impregnated, and chose to have the baby?

Na this kind of your comment dey make some young girls flush pikin wey them suffer born inside toilet, because of shame and fear.
Make una dey try do better.
After all, na men like una impregnate those ladies, come abandon them.

Allow your bro marry one fess, till then

Single mothers to single fathers......

Equation balanced......

But if these single mothers are really innocent, why do they go for single men. Why not date their counterparts.....

Mariangeles:
Naso!

So, you can put your baggage on others, but can't handle other's baggage, abi?

Are you a single mother? The way carry this matter for head I doubt if you not or you want cave your niche for activism? And out all na single mothers you want be their spokesperson. Good luck either ways anyways.

SeverusSnape:
No matter how perfect or well behaved a single mother is, The only condition that might make me marry her is if her baby daddy is deceased.

Even that is a red flag for me....Don't marry a single mother period. There are single girls to marry so why marry a leftover for a start?

A single mom should find a widower to marry.

I once did. If I correct the boy, aunty go say I too harsh on him. If I ignore, aunty go say I no dey try cos he no be mine..na so I throw 2 of them out. Peace of mind returns.

BigYash:
Dated one for two weeks last month. She was just over doing things. Any small thing,she will say she told her pastor about me ,this and that. I even lied to her at some point. She came back to tell me her pastor saw the thing coming,that I should be prayerful. I just know say the pastor sef dey use her head

She was constantly disturbing for the D ,like she is s*ex starved. But I sensed she wanted to take in for me by all means.

The way I cut her off en. I am sure she will still be wondering till now "which kind boy I jam"

Once a child is in the picture, the girl will never remain the same.
Sometimes I don't blame my ex who chose abortion when I was foot dragging. By now, our child would be 13.
But why would a girl who already has one child desire to take in for you again? The ones I met are usually overly cautious not to repeat the same mistake.

They are emotionally damaged!

MrSly:
Are you a single mother? The way carry this matter for head I doubt if you not or you want cave your niche for activism? And out all na single mothers you want be their spokesperson. Good luck either ways anyways.

If I am, so what?

You think you can shame me with your comment? Please! 🙄
That is cowardly of you.

I'd rather raise a child than keep a dog.

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

What of Divorced Mothers with children?

Eddodoh:
They are usually like that. They believe that the best way to tame a man is to spread their legs. So u will enjoy excess seggz when u date them and they are usually sweet.
They rush things and want to manipulate u into marrying them.

I have one currently. She's not bad. I toasted her some years ago she refused, last Xmas I shoot my shot again and it clicked. She told me about her baby & the baby daddy who is an Army. Though I didn't know that she's a single mom initially. She told me how she has being the one taking care of the kid bcuz the guy is married to another woman.

She was happy having me around her and always talk about marriage. She requested that I support her to learn Make-up Artistry so she can also support me when we eventually marry. I collect enough opueh and japa!!

You collected enough opueh and japa abi?for your mind U bi smart guy.you won.Wait in the near future see how miserable your life will be whether you are married to someone else or not.Karma for every action did or done is real and natural.it will definitely come after you when you least suspected in one way or another.Inscribe today's date in your hearth as reminder.

Maitunbi:
Once a child is in the picture, the girl will never remain the same.
Sometimes I don't blame my ex who chose abortion when I was foot dragging. By now, our child would be 13.
But why would a girl who already has one child desire to take in for you again? The ones I met are usually overly cautious not to repeat the same mistake.

This one I met still wants to settle down. As in marriage o. The man she had that child for, was a married man. That's to tell you the kind of person she is.. So as she tell me all of these,and her constant pressure of nack and marriage,I needed to give her space

Single mothers never want their sons to marry single mothers why would you settle single mother?

Match has not started, you have 2 goals? Are you from Morocco?

Gotocourt:
Allow your bro marry one fess, till then

Lol…u dey look for her trouble be that oooo…. Na there women logic dey end.. once e reach time to apply the advice they are giving other women’s son to their own sons and brother ……

Baba…. The day i see single mother dey para, threaten fire and hail stone for her son wey bring her fellow single mother home to marry.. na that time i know women brain get two compartment wey nor dey mix…..
One compartment go activate when dem ready to fvck up other women’s son, but once he reach their own son.. the real brain go show..

hartson:
You collected enough opueh and japa abi?for your mind U bi smart guy.you won.Wait in the near future see how miserable your life will be whether you are married to someone else or not.Karma for every action did or done is real and natural.it will definitely come after you when you least suspected in one way or another.Inscribe today's date in your hearth as reminder.

I reject it IJN!!!
Even God will understand .

She rejected me earlier, went ahead to date other men including a married army guy who made her a single mom & japa. So, I should be the one to come and marry her abi? What if the army guy still wants to dock her? Abeg, free me jor!

One funny thing I noticed is that even the so called single mothers are not looking to marry single fathers for reasons best known to them, they are always looking for a single guy.
So if they are not looking to marry a single father, why would a single guy in his right senses marry them?

Nefort:
What makes me angry about the part in bold is that most of you advise ladies to avoid premarital sex but you don't advice men to do the same. If women avoid sex when men need sex it is going to chaotic.

As in…..Why will it be chaotic…?? even in marriage women deny their husband sex so why are they spreading legs everywhere pretending they dont have choice….. if u like dont avoid premarital sex, be expecting another person to take responsibility for your own sexual discipline

So hilarious,you lied to her an take her astray

BigYash:
Dated one for two weeks last month. She was just over doing things. Any small thing,she will say she told her pastor about me ,this and that. I even lied to her at some point. She came back to tell me her pastor saw the thing coming,that I should be prayerful. I just know say the pastor sef dey use her head

She was constantly disturbing for the D ,like she is s*ex starved. But I sensed she wanted to take in for me by all means.

The way I cut her off en. I am sure she will still be wondering till now "which kind boy I jam"

Mariangeles:
How are they so? Because they were impregnated, and chose to have the baby?

Na this kind of your comment dey make some young girls flush pikin wey them suffer born inside toilet, because of shame and fear.
Make una dey try do better.
After all, na men like una impregnate those ladies, come abandon them.

Your defence punch lines are weak,try harder.

There is no good single mom (widows excluded)

Mariangeles:
Why should you have sex with a lady you're not married to in the first place?
Why would you impregnate her and not take responsibility?
Isn't that reckless, irresponsible, and cowardly of you?

Was she raped?? U women always wanna make it seem like u are babies... getting pregnant is never the responsibility of a man...he isnt the one that has a womb...the one that has a womb should be the one that should close her legs if she doesn't wanna get pregnant.... men dont pregnate women ....women allow themselves to get pregnant...we are not in 1866... women are the gatekeeper of sex .... abi do men blame women and want women to be held accountable for getting broke after spending all his money on a woman... women aren't children....u want the benefits of adults but at the same time want the benefits of children... reason i said women wanna eat their cake and have it...but it isnt possible...the earlier u women accept ur mistakes and take responsibility and accountability for ur decisions...thats when una go start to de make adult decisions

advanceDNA:
As in…..Why will it be chaotic…?? even in marriage women deny their husband sex so why are they spreading legs everywhere pretending they dont have choice….. if u like dont avoid premarital sex, be expecting another person to take responsibility for your own sexual discipline

Imagine a world where every non married woman abstains from sex. Do you think men will cope with that? I hope your sisters wouldn't be rape victims.

Mariangeles:
What about the ones that raise sons?
What become of the sons [men]?

Single mothers don't only raise daughters, you know?

The son's ended up behaving like women.
Since all he see around him is his Mom

Eddodoh:
I reject it IJN!!!
Even God will understand .

She rejected me earlier, went ahead to date other men including a married army guy who made her a single mom & japa. So, I should be the one to come and marry her abi? What if the army guy still wants to dock her? Abeg, free me jor!

I no hold you ooo!Na Karma you go tell that one when it shows up.
Those other ones are not exonerated too.They too will tell Karma to free them when it starts hunting them down

osuofia2:
If you de follow gehgeh you no fit fall for any trap of single mother, single fathers can marry single mothers,

Even single fathers run away from single mothers.
They can kpai you with their usual accumulated bitterness and bad energy