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I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

We order them from Jumia. I think Black Friday is next week, maybe they might be cheap if we wait till then

Drifter02:
I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

See paragraph 4&5
Na where ur wahala deyne that!
It's as tho the women you want don't want you and the ones that may accept you ; you berate them.


You want a 10/10 but cannot afford them or compete for them,but the 5&6/10 are beneath you?


Hmmmmmmm

Drifter02:
I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

Yoruba calls it Oja Okunkun, meanwhile dark market, Na you go take touch light go the market , and keep searching until you get what you want. Meanwhile that doesn't mean what you get will be 100% perfect, Na manage you go manage am.

Also take note that ladies are typically hypergamous and For GEN Z they are woke, even Deeper Life girls don tear eyes

Na you go up your game

Drifter02:
I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

Tell your pastor that you need a wife. He will arrange sister Mercy for you sharply. You might regret it if you go along this line.

By the way why are you looking for a wife when you can not even build a simple relationship. I think you should work on yourself first.

Build a relationship with someone you want and wants you in return, do not use your material things as baits to get a girl, as you have seen, there is always another man that has more material things than you have and can out compete you in that department.

You have to choose from the available women. Choose the bad aspects that you can live with and pick one girl from that lot.

I'm sure if you check northern Nigeria or neighboring countries you go find wetin you want.

Drifter02:
I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

Go bank or people that do same thing you to or try hospital to meet nurse just fake sick.

SpencerForbes:
We order them from Jumia. I think Black Friday is next week, maybe they might be cheap if we wait till then

😂😂😂😂😂

stanvesco:
See paragraph 4&5
Na where ur wahala deyne that!
It's as tho the women you want don't want you and the ones that may accept you ; you berate them.


You want a 10/10 but cannot afford them or compete for them,but the 5&6/10 are beneath you?


Hmmmmmmm

Gbam! Spot on

Like one person suggested, go to banks ( a lady that is already at her workplace) than someone you just meet on the road.

SpencerForbes:
We order them from Jumia. I think Black Friday is next week, maybe they might be cheap if we wait till then

Temu has better deals.

KhalifaJay:
I'm sure if you check northern Nigeria or neighboring countries you go find wetin you want.

What do you mean, Northern girls that's loose and cheap, kaduna, nasarawa, plateU, jos,,, omo those ones bad, infections everywhere don't advice any man from east to marry from northern states, biko

first thing u need to realize and acknowledge is women are hypergamous in nature. women at the same status as yourself will desire a man above your level. women above your status - financial or career or accomplishment wise will not want u bocs u are beneath them.
women below your status will naturally gravitate towards u by default. That how the dating game works.

Now, do u have the time, resources and energy to prove yourself to women above your economic and social status that u will make a good husband and they wont regret picking u?
do u have the what it takes to compete with other men for women at the same level as your socio-economic status and make them look your direction or u just go for the easy pick- ones below u?

what u need to ask yourself is what do I want in a woman I want to marry? do u want a well domesticated lady or a beautifully endowed woman or goal/career oriented woman or u looking for a woman that will give u peace of mind. what about personality- whats your preference? Lively, feminine or quiet type or u want a serious lady as wife/ do u want a socialite as a wife or more of family oriented wife.
are u looking into 50-50 wife or u prefer absolute submission and loyalty.

Look here, at the end of it all, what count is the kind of woman u will be compatible with. forget all these high flying babes, what matter is if I marry her, will I enjoy my marriage? No need marrying a woman that will end up causing u troubles and all u do is fight all day. such negative energy drains u.

There's nothing as beautiful as an enjoyable marriage. The stability and happiness it brings is unmatched. A woman that will give u that should be your preference.

Ikennaford:
What do you mean, Northern girls that's loose and cheap, kaduna, nasarawa, plateU, jos,,, omo those ones bad, infections everywhere don't advice any man from east to marry from northern states, biko

Hahahaha, baba don collect 🤣😂😅

Ikennaford:
What do you mean, Northern girls that's loose and cheap, kaduna, nasarawa, plateU, jos,,, omo those ones bad, infections everywhere don't advice any man from east to marry from northern states, biko

It seems the knot in your cranium is loose, so you mean there aren't ladies from your side having infections. It's wrong of you generalizing

A time will come when you realise that women can never cure your loneliness.

Well. They just start by impregnating girls. And then marry the girls. After making them their wives the society and worship centres begin to count the men among the responsible people in the society worthy for singles to emulate.

Ikennaford:
What do you mean, Northern girls that's loose and cheap, kaduna, nasarawa, plateU, jos,,, omo those ones bad, infections everywhere don't advice any man from east to marry from northern states, biko

They have sex recklessly without protection.

What do you intend to use dem for! This should be the opening for you.
Girls like it when you come out clean, when the atmosphere surrounding you is obvious that this what you pledge to be with dem. Not just because she helped gave direction to a street you are searching for, then you seem that she is the one for you without investigating whether she truly needs you.

Some men are blown by the wind. Disheartening i must say. Men that are babies.

Meanwhile keep getting on your job, hustling and updating your career profile, including your being loneliness(not a bad thing), and meet and have casual talks with women, The right woman will open up with you once she observed that your traits is what she has been searching for in a man.

The same thing with men. Don't make it look as if women are the only ones in that category

You never really ready to date gen.z

I tire ooooooo he don't want a competitor and still can't settle for less.

stanvesco:
See paragraph 4&5
Na where ur wahala deyne that!
It's as tho the women you want don't want you and the ones that may accept you ; you berate them.


You want a 10/10 but cannot afford them or compete for them,but the 5&6/10 are beneath you?


Hmmmmmmm

Wow😲😲😲😲😲😲
Best adviser of the year 👏👏👏👏👏👏

Earthstorms:
Tell your pastor that you need a wife. He will arrange sister Mercy for you sharply. You might regret it if you go along this line.

By the way why are you looking for a wife when you can not even build a simple relationship. I think you should work on yourself first.

Build a relationship with someone you want and wants you in return, do not use your material things as baits to get a girl, as you have seen, there is always another man that has more material things than you have and can out compete you in that department.

You have to choose from the available women. Choose the bad aspects that you can live with and pick one girl from that lot.

Your problem is that you look down on the types of girls that would have accepted you and call them immature gen z.

See bros, you see all those so called working class or whatever ladies? They'll give you alot of headaches because they usually live under the illusion that they are the best and most desired. They have too many expectations from men and this makes it difficult for them to decipher between serious suitors and unserious ones.

So, if you don't want to waste your time further, pick from those girls you see as immature and build her up to your taste. There are still good girls out there from the so called gen zs. Leave the so called working class, their wahala is usually too much!

Hmmm hmmm smiles smiles smiles

SIRTee15:
first thing u need to realize and acknowledge is women are hypergamous in nature. women at the same status as yourself will desire a man above your level. women above your status - financial or career or accomplishment wise will not want u bocs u are beneath them.
women below your status will naturally gravitate towards u by default. That how the dating game works.

Now, do u have the time, resources and energy to prove yourself to women above your economic and social status that u will make a good husband and they wont regret picking u?
do u have the what it takes to compete with other men for women at the same level as your socio-economic status and make them look your direction or u just go for the easy pick- ones below u?

what u need to ask yourself is what do I want in a woman I want to marry? do u want a well domesticated lady or a beautifully endowed woman or goal/career oriented woman or u looking for a woman that will give u peace of mind. what about personality- whats your preference? Lively, feminine or quiet type or u want a serious lady as wife/ do u want a socialite as a wife or more of family oriented wife.
are u looking into 50-50 wife or u prefer absolute submission and loyalty.

Look here, at the end of it all, what count is the kind of woman u will be compatible with. forget all these high flying babes, what matter is if I marry her, will I enjoy my marriage? No need marrying a woman that will end up causing u troubles and all u do is fight all day. such negative energy drains u.

There's nothing as beautiful as an enjoyable marriage. The stability and happiness it brings is unmatched. A woman that will give u that should be your preference.

Ikennaford:
What do you mean, Northern girls that's loose and cheap, kaduna, nasarawa, plateU, jos,,, omo those ones bad, infections everywhere don't advice any man from east to marry from northern states, biko

There are more good girls in the north than your east

Drifter02:
I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

You are looking at the wrong things. Which is why you may be single for a long time. Financial strength isn't part of what a man serious for marriage should look out for. It encompass all shades of gbas gbos.

Look out for core values. Does the person have sense? Is the person remorseful? Can she help you grow wealth by not billing you on unnecessary things?

My 2 cents.

If money is part of what you look out for, then restrict your search to work colleagues or work referrals. However, anything you see, embrace it with less shock.

Drifter02:
I have a job. Earning a decent salary and my own place.

Yet all the women I keep talking to don't seem to want something to do with me.

I'm not being pathetic. That's how it is actually. There's always some other guy that outspends and competes for their attention.

The other ones I see are soo downright immature. Just babies masquerading as women, girls that have never faced adversity, girls that have no sense of responsibility. Attention-sucking leeches. Girls that can't even make up their own minds. Girls that keep running to their mothers for any single thing.

Other ones fancy themselves as hustlers and are always so difficult. Those ones are always competing with you for dominance. Soo crazy man.

And there are the brokies. Liabilities. No job. Nothing.

Omo I'm always so alone staying in my room, particularly at night. I feel soo alone.

I don't want a woman because of sex. Sex is sooo trivial. I honestly don't even care. Next time I have sex, it'd be to make a child.

I just don't know how single men honestly cope. It's so crazy out here

If u have a job, go for a nurse or a teacher. They will align to what u need in a wife. But if u go for a too much ambitious lady, u fit cry tire

SIRTee15:
first thing u need to realize and acknowledge is women are hypergamous in nature. women at the same status as yourself will desire a man above your level. women above your status - financial or career or accomplishment wise will not want u bocs u are beneath them.
women below your status will naturally gravitate towards u by default. That how the dating game works.

Now, do u have the time, resources and energy to prove yourself to women above your economic and social status that u will make a good husband and they wont regret picking u?
do u have the what it takes to compete with other men for women at the same level as your socio-economic status and make them look your direction or u just go for the easy pick- ones below u?

what u need to ask yourself is what do I want in a woman I want to marry? do u want a well domesticated lady or a beautifully endowed woman or goal/career oriented woman or u looking for a woman that will give u peace of mind. what about personality- whats your preference? Lively, feminine or quiet type or u want a serious lady as wife/ do u want a socialite as a wife or more of family oriented wife.
are u looking into 50-50 wife or u prefer absolute submission and loyalty.

Look here, at the end of it all, what count is the kind of woman u will be compatible with. forget all these high flying babes, what matter is if I marry her, will I enjoy my marriage? No need marrying a woman that will end up causing u troubles and all u do is fight all day. such negative energy drains u.

There's nothing as beautiful as an enjoyable marriage. The stability and happiness it brings is unmatched. A woman that will give u that should be your preference.

Well said

God has been protecting you for a reason...
When the time comes... You will know

Like the person above me said, but my own na 'no marry cus of desperation o" you go regret.
True loves comes easy, when you meet your wife, you go know.

In your quest for a wife, never allow desperation make you
-settle for a lady from 30+ age
-settle for a single mother
-settle for a lady with the "only me" mentality

Finding a wife nowadays is hard, but finding a mother is harder.