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A Nigerian cleric, Stellamaris Ajetomobi, has stirred widespread reactions online following a viral video in which she shared controversial views about marriage and intimacy.

The video, currently making rounds on social media, captures the pastor’s wife speaking candidly about her beliefs regarding the role of sex in marriage. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

In the trending clip, Ajetomobi described sexual intimacy as a central element of marriage, making statements that many viewers have found surprising and thought-provoking.

During her speech, she emphasized that marital union is largely defined by intimacy, contrasting it with the comforts she enjoyed before getting married.

Her remarks, which were delivered in a bold and direct manner, have since sparked conversations across various platforms.

Following the video’s circulation, Nigerians have taken to social media to share mixed reactions. While some individuals agree that intimacy is an important aspect of marriage, others argue that reducing marriage solely to sex overlooks deeper values such as companionship, commitment, and shared purpose.

Critics have particularly questioned the framing of marriage as being primarily about physical intimacy, noting that successful relationships often require emotional connection, communication, and mutual respect.

The controversy has reignited discussions about the expectations within marriage, especially in religious and cultural contexts.

Observers note that while intimacy remains a key component of marital life, perspectives on its importance vary widely depending on personal beliefs, values, and experiences.

As debates continue, the viral comments by Stellamaris Ajetomobi highlight the diversity of opinions surrounding marriage and the roles of partners within it.

https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/04/02/i-married-my-husband-because-of-sex-pastors-wife-says/

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Unfortunately, the motivation is only to be serviced!

See reasoning in a 21st century! What about martial responsibilities like shelter, food security, training of children, helping to promote your husband's career advancement? Those ones no concern you.

I love the fact that she's being honest. And that's a trait that an average Nigerian woman lacks especially when it has to do with sexuality. Dem go dey behave like say dem no like sexxx .

Is sex all that is needed in marriage?


Is it your personal opinion?

BlackfireX:
Is sex all that is needed in marriage?

Is it your personal opinion?

It is one of the reasons of getting married, let's not deceive ourselves. It's a licence to f__k and there is endorsement for it. Why do you think sex and finance are the top 2 reasons for divorce aside infidelity? Even the infidelity too is mostly about sex. We are still animals. And marriage is to protect who you have frequent sex with. Otherwise, all of us would have been having sex with whoever we feel like, whenever we feel like and society will be in chaos.

In marriage, anything that comes out of sex does not worry you, you are married. In boyfriend and girlfriend, you will see what happens, dem no de tell you. Marriage is an institution to protect sex and sexual appetite. Argument wey man and woman bring come internet, tell them to have sex and see how they solve their problems.

This woman of God is always controversial, very blunt.

She talk as e Dey do her I don’t see any crime

Make una leave Mama alone, she is only trying to encourage couples not to let their sex life to die off after years of marriage due to over familiarity

That is her own take.
We all have our weird imaginations of getting married.

Racoon:
See reasoning in a 21st century! What about martial responsibilities like shelter, food security, training of children, helping to promote your husband's career advancement? Those ones no concern you.

She summed all up together. Listen to the message and get the understanding.

She clearly stated that all the benefits that she wanted, she got all as a single woman. However, as a single woman, she has no business with sex. She tried to emphasize the importance of sex in marriage, particularly to woman who see it as too tasking, or who refuse their husbands.

Children, career, food, etc, are packages in marriages that you benefit. But sex with one’s partner, to avoid errors, is very critical.

Racoon:
See reasoning in a 21st century! What about martial responsibilities like shelter, food security, training of children, helping to promote your husband's career advancement? Those ones no concern you.

was she not getting all these before she married? She said the truth.

Hypocrites and "holy holy people" will argue against her even when everything she said is 100% true.

"I married my Husband because of Sex"

So she is an advocate of sex before marriage or was she having the sex before marriage.
Or better still she went into marriage because she want to be having sex.

Whatever, you can't separate marriage and sex, they go hand in hand,it's the sex that bound partners together in marriage, one of the vital ingredients in marriage. Before a marriage collapse, the sex life collapsed first, that's where the devil taget first.

But these days, because of the high body count, people now take sex as nothing, sex is more spiritual than we think.

Sonnobax15:

I love the fact that she's being honest. And that's a trait that an average Nigerian woman lacks especially when it has to do with sexuality. Dem go dey behave like say dem no like sexxx .

A woman once told me that the best lovers of sex in the family remain woman.Haven't you read over and over again how some women sought for divorcement because their men cannot perform well in the other room?

Most born again Christians and young pastors rush into marriage because of sex, only to realise there is more to life than sex.

A younger relative of mine was once obsessed with sex and couldn't get enough. Eventually, she left school and moved in with one riff raff. After two kids, babe is already tired of cohabiting and wants out.

SixSeven:
It is one of the reasons of getting married, let's not deceive ourselves. It's a licence to f__k and there is endorsement for it. Why do you think sex and finance are the top 2 reasons for divorce aside infidelity? Even the infidelity too is mostly about sex. We are still animals. And marriage is to protect who you have frequent sex with. Otherwise, all of us would have been having sex with whoever we feel like, whenever we feel like and society will be in chaos.

In marriage, anything that comes out of sex does not worry you, you are married. In boyfriend and girlfriend, you will see what happens, dem no de tell you. Marriage is an institution to protect sex and sexual appetite. Argument wey man and woman bring come internet, tell them to have sex and see how they solve their problems.

I can see you love sex... nothing wrong in it...

Carry on ...scatter the place

BlackfireX:
I can see you love sex... nothing wrong in it...

Carry on ...scatter the place

Unashamedly

But not to scatter the place

SixSeven:
Unashamedly

But not to scatter the place

carry go....

but really sex is good but rwsponsibility no go allow nigerians enjoy it


Just an observation

BlackfireX:
carry go....

but really sex is good but responsibility no go allow nigerians enjoy it


Just an observation

Then they are not ripe enough to have sex. I don't mean ripe in terms of age but their mind is not ripe. The greatest fear of sex is having a child. Why? Responsibility. What do you think?

Sex us like weed if you take it everyday it becomes useless with no vibes.