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I have a great deal of respect for women. I believe the female body goes through many painful and demanding changes by nature, such as menstruation, childbirth, motherhood, prenatal and postnatal challenges, hormonal imbalances, weight fluctuations, anxiety, and more. Being a woman in itself is not easy. For all these reasons, women have earned my respect until my last day on earth.

That being said, having a woman is almost seen as a “necessary evil” for an African man to attain a fulfilled status. He is expected to have a woman by his side, someone who will bear children, so that his family can be regarded as complete or happy in societal terms. In the 21st century, however, it sometimes feels easier to tame a wild lion than to manage a woman as a wife. This may be due to several factors, including poverty, education, environment, upbringing, and behavioural patterns. This article, however, will not focus on those aspects.
One of the first perceived indicators of potential trouble in marriage, in this context, is the age of the woman a man chooses to marry. Ideally, age should be associated with wisdom, experience, maturity, and knowledge. But in some cases, it appears to work against women in marriage. Marrying a woman aged 30 and above, some argue, can feel like stepping into a rescue operation.

At that stage, it is often assumed that a woman may not be marrying purely for love, though she may not admit it. Instead, she may be settling for what is available. Informal observations suggest that many women begin to feel anxious about their future if they are still single at 30. This pressure is often more intense in African societies, where marriage carries significant cultural weight. A beautiful, mature, unmarried woman may be viewed as a queen without a crown.

The pressure typically starts with questions from family members, followed by concern, speculation, and sometimes judgment. Peer pressure intensifies it, especially with the constant exposure to elaborate weddings on social media. The effect is deeply psychological, creating the feeling that time is running out. As a result, when a man shows interest, she may quickly seek clarity by asking if he is ready to settle down. There is little patience for prolonged courtship.

At this point, she may lower her standards to accommodate the relationship, much like institutions lowering cut off marks to admit more candidates. You may not be her ideal partner, but you are seen as manageable or someone who could grow into that ideal. This is rarely stated openly. In many cases, the desire for marriage becomes urgent. The ring, the name change, and even the validation that comes with it become important.

This dynamic, some argue, can lead to dissatisfaction in marriage, particularly if she compares her current partner to past relationships, especially with more affluent or established individuals.

If financial struggles arise, tension may follow. She may become irritable or emotionally distant, questioning her choices and reflecting on missed opportunities. In some cases, unresolved past experiences, such as heartbreak, may influence her outlook, leading to trust issues or defensive behaviour. This can manifest as emotional withdrawal or a tendency to guard personal matters closely.

In certain situations, transparency, especially around finances, may become an issue. There are instances where partners operate independently in major decisions, which can create distance within the marriage.

These challenges may be more pronounced if the woman is more financially stable than her partner. Over time, this imbalance can shift the dynamics of respect and decision-making in the relationship. The man may feel sidelined, while the woman assumes greater control, potentially leading to conflict, resentment, or emotional strain.

It is important to note that this perspective does not apply to all women aged 30 and above. Many women in this age group have thriving, successful marriages built on mutual respect and understanding. However, the argument here is that, in some cases, certain patterns within this demographic may present unique challenges.

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Points well stated


Many deny it, but marriage is still a major status symbol in the African society.


"She is a married woman", has more societal regard than....... "she is a single woman"

Men are not spared either

Life itself is a risk 💯..if you follow "do" and "don't" lay down by all this motigbetional speaker or content creator you wil be more confused about life..just follow your mind and do what is best for your peace of mind which is the priority and the gate to long life or predestiny by God d Creator

uche87:
I have a great deal of respect for women. I believe the female body goes through many painful and demanding changes by nature, such as menstruation, childbirth, motherhood, prenatal and postnatal challenges, hormonal imbalances, weight fluctuations, anxiety, and more. Being a woman in itself is not easy. For all these reasons, women have earned my respect until my last day on earth.

That being said, having a woman is almost seen as a “necessary evil” for an African man to attain a fulfilled status. He is expected to have a woman by his side, someone who will bear children, so that his family can be regarded as complete or happy in societal terms. In the 21st century, however, it sometimes feels easier to tame a wild lion than to manage a woman as a wife. This may be due to several factors, including poverty, education, environment, upbringing, and behavioural patterns. This article, however, will not focus on those aspects.
One of the first perceived indicators of potential trouble in marriage, in this context, is the age of the woman a man chooses to marry. Ideally, age should be associated with wisdom, experience, maturity, and knowledge. But in some cases, it appears to work against women in marriage. Marrying a woman aged 30 and above, some argue, can feel like stepping into a rescue operation.

At that stage, it is often assumed that a woman may not be marrying purely for love, though she may not admit it. Instead, she may be settling for what is available. Informal observations suggest that many women begin to feel anxious about their future if they are still single at 30. This pressure is often more intense in African societies, where marriage carries significant cultural weight. A beautiful, mature, unmarried woman may be viewed as a queen without a crown.

The pressure typically starts with questions from family members, followed by concern, speculation, and sometimes judgment. Peer pressure intensifies it, especially with the constant exposure to elaborate weddings on social media. The effect is deeply psychological, creating the feeling that time is running out. As a result, when a man shows interest, she may quickly seek clarity by asking if he is ready to settle down. There is little patience for prolonged courtship.

At this point, she may lower her standards to accommodate the relationship, much like institutions lowering cut off marks to admit more candidates. You may not be her ideal partner, but you are seen as manageable or someone who could grow into that ideal. This is rarely stated openly. In many cases, the desire for marriage becomes urgent. The ring, the name change, and even the validation that comes with it become important.

This dynamic, some argue, can lead to dissatisfaction in marriage, particularly if she compares her current partner to past relationships, especially with more affluent or established individuals.

If financial struggles arise, tension may follow. She may become irritable or emotionally distant, questioning her choices and reflecting on missed opportunities. In some cases, unresolved past experiences, such as heartbreak, may influence her outlook, leading to trust issues or defensive behaviour. This can manifest as emotional withdrawal or a tendency to guard personal matters closely.

In certain situations, transparency, especially around finances, may become an issue. There are instances where partners operate independently in major decisions, which can create distance within the marriage.

These challenges may be more pronounced if the woman is more financially stable than her partner. Over time, this imbalance can shift the dynamics of respect and decision-making in the relationship. The man may feel sidelined, while the woman assumes greater control, potentially leading to conflict, resentment, or emotional strain.

It is important to note that this perspective does not apply to all women aged 30 and above. Many women in this age group have thriving, successful marriages built on mutual respect and understanding. However, the argument here is that, in some cases, certain patterns within this demographic may present unique challenges.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0qS5mCskSSpnvreSb6CP4hyRGx55z2L1KpLR18YuFYuedtap27LEbmszKukQ9Yx1nl

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Life itself is a risk 💯..if you follow "do" and "don't" and lay down by all this motigbetional speaker or content creator you wil he more confused about life..just follow your mind and do what is best for your peace of mind which is the priority and the gate to long life or predestiny by God d Creator

uche87:
I have a great deal of respect for women. I believe the female body goes through many painful and demanding changes by nature, such as menstruation, childbirth, motherhood, prenatal and postnatal challenges, hormonal imbalances, weight fluctuations, anxiety, and more. Being a woman in itself is not easy. For all these reasons, women have earned my respect until my last day on earth.

That being said, having a woman is almost seen as a “necessary evil” for an African man to attain a fulfilled status. He is expected to have a woman by his side, someone who will bear children, so that his family can be regarded as complete or happy in societal terms. In the 21st century, however, it sometimes feels easier to tame a wild lion than to manage a woman as a wife. This may be due to several factors, including poverty, education, environment, upbringing, and behavioural patterns. This article, however, will not focus on those aspects.
One of the first perceived indicators of potential trouble in marriage, in this context, is the age of the woman a man chooses to marry. Ideally, age should be associated with wisdom, experience, maturity, and knowledge. But in some cases, it appears to work against women in marriage. Marrying a woman aged 30 and above, some argue, can feel like stepping into a rescue operation.

At that stage, it is often assumed that a woman may not be marrying purely for love, though she may not admit it. Instead, she may be settling for what is available. Informal observations suggest that many women begin to feel anxious about their future if they are still single at 30. This pressure is often more intense in African societies, where marriage carries significant cultural weight. A beautiful, mature, unmarried woman may be viewed as a queen without a crown.

The pressure typically starts with questions from family members, followed by concern, speculation, and sometimes judgment. Peer pressure intensifies it, especially with the constant exposure to elaborate weddings on social media. The effect is deeply psychological, creating the feeling that time is running out. As a result, when a man shows interest, she may quickly seek clarity by asking if he is ready to settle down. There is little patience for prolonged courtship.

At this point, she may lower her standards to accommodate the relationship, much like institutions lowering cut off marks to admit more candidates. You may not be her ideal partner, but you are seen as manageable or someone who could grow into that ideal. This is rarely stated openly. In many cases, the desire for marriage becomes urgent. The ring, the name change, and even the validation that comes with it become important.

This dynamic, some argue, can lead to dissatisfaction in marriage, particularly if she compares her current partner to past relationships, especially with more affluent or established individuals.

If financial struggles arise, tension may follow. She may become irritable or emotionally distant, questioning her choices and reflecting on missed opportunities. In some cases, unresolved past experiences, such as heartbreak, may influence her outlook, leading to trust issues or defensive behaviour. This can manifest as emotional withdrawal or a tendency to guard personal matters closely.

In certain situations, transparency, especially around finances, may become an issue. There are instances where partners operate independently in major decisions, which can create distance within the marriage.

These challenges may be more pronounced if the woman is more financially stable than her partner. Over time, this imbalance can shift the dynamics of respect and decision-making in the relationship. The man may feel sidelined, while the woman assumes greater control, potentially leading to conflict, resentment, or emotional strain.

It is important to note that this perspective does not apply to all women aged 30 and above. Many women in this age group have thriving, successful marriages built on mutual respect and understanding. However, the argument here is that, in some cases, certain patterns within this demographic may present unique challenges.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0qS5mCskSSpnvreSb6CP4hyRGx55z2L1KpLR18YuFYuedtap27LEbmszKukQ9Yx1nl

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AngelicDamsel:
Points well stated


Many deny it, but marriage is still a major status symbol in the African society.


"She is a married woman", has more societal regard than....... "she is a single woman"

Men are not spared either

No one dares disrespect me because am single. I go pocket you.

Lots of married people suddenly found themselves with responsibilities forced on them 📌💯. If not managed properly, it leads to divorce, irresponsibilities , violence and domestic violence 🤷🏿.

My girlfriend is 29, I try to inform her of marriage demands but she's carefree on that aspect but desperate to get married 🤷🏿

Crap. I’m beginning to think this writer may have underlying personal issues, as most of his articles on gender relations scream of inexperience, immaturity, insecurity and ignorance.

When children write

Ishilove:
Crap. I am beginning to believe that this writer is having serious emotional and mental issues

Certainly evening newspapers would be very angry by this

Dtruthspeaker:
Certainly evening newspapers would be very angry by this

You are very narrow minded and immature, young man. As you get older, we hope you will encounter sense and it will change your mindset and world view.

CJStarz:
When children write

Seriously. Someone up there is saying "evening newspapers will be angry at the message". That tells you the mentality and maturity of a lot of the posters on this forum.

All things being equal, there's a win-win position for both parties. The "huge risk" lies in mentality, not age. So, the huge risk could easily be mitigated if most men were to conquer themselves and to become more frank and if most women were to start to appreciate frankness from men and embrace reality. Thus:

A man marrying a woman who has the mentality of a wife, regardless of her age, should condition his mind that he's marrying a wife and always literally strive to treat her as a wife should.

A man marrying a woman who has the mentality of a partner, regardless of her age, should condition his mind that he's marrying a partner and always literally strive to treat her as a partner should.

A man marrying a woman who has the mentality of a companion, regardless of her age, should condition his mind that he's marrying a companion and always literally strive to treat her as a companion should.

Summarily, as a man, know when what you need is a wife, partner, or companion, and as a woman, accept in good faith your position and treatment of a wife, partner, or companion subject to your mentality.

Ishilove:
You are very narrow minded and immature, young man. As you get older, we hope you will encounter sense and it will change your mindset and world view.

See it, even now are you still trying to manipulate men by always shaming the man or putting him down and insalting him and advising him all at the same.

What a wonderful trick you women do.

Then the word Mature!
The word women use to get men to drop their defences so that they can enter and do them Wike. dnes.

No aunty, i choose immaturity and peace over maturity and taking your h3l and rubbish.

RightToReject:
All things being equal, there's a win-win position for both parties. The "huge risk" lies in mentality, not age. So, the huge risk could easily be mitigated if most men were to conquer themselves and to become more frank and if most women were to start to appreciate frankness from men and embrace reality. Thus:

A man marrying a woman who has the mentality of a wife, regardless of her age, should condition his mind that he's marrying a wife and always literally strive to treat her as a wife should.

A man marrying a woman who has the mentality of a partner, regardless of her age, should condition his mind that he's marrying a partner and always literally strive to treat her as a partner should.

A man marrying a woman who has the mentality of a companion, regardless of her age, should condition his mind that he's marrying a companion and always literally strive to treat her as a companion should.

Summarily, as a man, know when what you need is a wife, partner, or companion, and as a woman, accept in good faith your position and treatment of a wife, partner, or companion subject to your mentality.

There is no mitigation of the"huge risk". The man is the one who carries all the risks whilst the woman is just moving on or trying to move on to the next stage of her plan. Which is to move up to the next man the man has given her access to whom she could not reach without first hooking up with the man.

Men don't know that women are not actually trying to catch them to stay with them. They are catching a man to catch the next man greater than the man they caught. That is why after they have caught a man, the man's father, uncle,
brother, friend, neighbour, boss etc are the next target and goal .

Ishilove:
Seriously. Someone up there is saying "evening newspapers will be angry at the message". That tells you the mentality and maturity of a lot of the posters on this forum.

What is wrong in pointing out that evening news will not like it? Even you have proven that you did not like it

First things first, contrary to common assumptions, there are many reasons why a woman would be single at 30 , 40, or more. Not wayward living or pride.

That said, it depends on the person. Marriage is always a risk in the areas mentioned. There are always too many possibilities. If you are a frequent user of TikTok, you will see that the younger ones are wayyyyyyy worse and so much more desperate.

As for the financial issues, I once told a female friend, "WHEN IT COMES TO CHOOSING YOUR LIFE PARTNER, YOU ARE PERMITTED TO BE A LITTLE BIT SELFISH, AND GREEDY FOR A BETTER LIFE".

So, age is the most important factor in choosing a life partner. We must always look at the whole picture.

henrycloud:
First things first, contrary to common assumptions, there are many reasons why a woman would be single at 30 , 40, or more. Not wayward living or pride.

That said, it depends on the person. Marriage is always a risk in the areas mentioned. There are always too many possibilities. If you are a frequent user of TikTok, you will see that the younger ones are wayyyyyyy worse and so much more desperate.

As for the financial issues, I once told a female friend, "WHEN IT COMES TO CHOOSING YOUR LIFE PARTNER, YOU ARE PERMITTED TO BE A LITTLE BIT SELFISH, AND GREEDY FOR A BETTER LIFE".

So, age is the most important factor in choosing a life partner. We must always look at the whole picture.

Same way men should be selfish and should endeavour that they cannot do all the work only to share the fruits of all their labours with a woman. E no jell set at all

Ishilove aka GloriousGbola fiancee:
Crap. I’m beginning to think this writer may have underlying personal issues, as most of his articles on gender relations scream of inexperience, immaturity, insecurity and ignorance.

how old are you?
Do you fall within the age range he's talking about?

Dtruthspeaker:
Certainly evening newspapers would be very angry by this

I swear.
The post really touch am

Ishilove:
Seriously. Someone up there is saying "evening newspapers will be angry at the message". That tells you the mentality and maturity of a lot of the posters on this forum.

Are you married? Just asking, unrelated to the argument.

Ebenezer2021:
how old are you?
Do you fall within the age range he's talking about?

I swear.
The post really touch am

E pain am well well.

This one done post nonsense again. I hope you have sisters about 30

uche87:
I have a great deal of respect for women. I believe the female body goes through many painful and demanding changes by nature, such as menstruation, childbirth, motherhood, prenatal and postnatal challenges, hormonal imbalances, weight fluctuations, anxiety, and more. Being a woman in itself is not easy. For all these reasons, women have earned my respect until my last day on earth.

That being said, having a woman is almost seen as a “necessary evil” for an African man to attain a fulfilled status. He is expected to have a woman by his side, someone who will bear children, so that his family can be regarded as complete or happy in societal terms. In the 21st century, however, it sometimes feels easier to tame a wild lion than to manage a woman as a wife. This may be due to several factors, including poverty, education, environment, upbringing, and behavioural patterns. This article, however, will not focus on those aspects.
One of the first perceived indicators of potential trouble in marriage, in this context, is the age of the woman a man chooses to marry. Ideally, age should be associated with wisdom, experience, maturity, and knowledge. But in some cases, it appears to work against women in marriage. Marrying a woman aged 30 and above, some argue, can feel like stepping into a rescue operation.

At that stage, it is often assumed that a woman may not be marrying purely for love, though she may not admit it. Instead, she may be settling for what is available. Informal observations suggest that many women begin to feel anxious about their future if they are still single at 30. This pressure is often more intense in African societies, where marriage carries significant cultural weight. A beautiful, mature, unmarried woman may be viewed as a queen without a crown.

The pressure typically starts with questions from family members, followed by concern, speculation, and sometimes judgment. Peer pressure intensifies it, especially with the constant exposure to elaborate weddings on social media. The effect is deeply psychological, creating the feeling that time is running out. As a result, when a man shows interest, she may quickly seek clarity by asking if he is ready to settle down. There is little patience for prolonged courtship.

At this point, she may lower her standards to accommodate the relationship, much like institutions lowering cut off marks to admit more candidates. You may not be her ideal partner, but you are seen as manageable or someone who could grow into that ideal. This is rarely stated openly. In many cases, the desire for marriage becomes urgent. The ring, the name change, and even the validation that comes with it become important.

This dynamic, some argue, can lead to dissatisfaction in marriage, particularly if she compares her current partner to past relationships, especially with more affluent or established individuals.

If financial struggles arise, tension may follow. She may become irritable or emotionally distant, questioning her choices and reflecting on missed opportunities. In some cases, unresolved past experiences, such as heartbreak, may influence her outlook, leading to trust issues or defensive behaviour. This can manifest as emotional withdrawal or a tendency to guard personal matters closely.

In certain situations, transparency, especially around finances, may become an issue. There are instances where partners operate independently in major decisions, which can create distance within the marriage.

These challenges may be more pronounced if the woman is more financially stable than her partner. Over time, this imbalance can shift the dynamics of respect and decision-making in the relationship. The man may feel sidelined, while the woman assumes greater control, potentially leading to conflict, resentment, or emotional strain.

It is important to note that this perspective does not apply to all women aged 30 and above. Many women in this age group have thriving, successful marriages built on mutual respect and understanding. However, the argument here is that, in some cases, certain patterns within this demographic may present unique challenges.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0qS5mCskSSpnvreSb6CP4hyRGx55z2L1KpLR18YuFYuedtap27LEbmszKukQ9Yx1nl

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instead of you addressing a serious ssues more than this in your family, you are here crying over something that doesn't concern you.

uche87:
I have a great deal of respect for women. I believe the female body goes through many painful and demanding changes by nature, such as menstruation, childbirth, motherhood, prenatal and postnatal challenges, hormonal imbalances, weight fluctuations, anxiety, and more. Being a woman in itself is not easy. For all these reasons, women have earned my respect until my last day on earth.

That being said, having a woman is almost seen as a “necessary evil” for an African man to attain a fulfilled status. He is expected to have a woman by his side, someone who will bear children, so that his family can be regarded as complete or happy in societal terms. In the 21st century, however, it sometimes feels easier to tame a wild lion than to manage a woman as a wife. This may be due to several factors, including poverty, education, environment, upbringing, and behavioural patterns. This article, however, will not focus on those aspects.
One of the first perceived indicators of potential trouble in marriage, in this context, is the age of the woman a man chooses to marry. Ideally, age should be associated with wisdom, experience, maturity, and knowledge. But in some cases, it appears to work against women in marriage. Marrying a woman aged 30 and above, some argue, can feel like stepping into a rescue operation.

At that stage, it is often assumed that a woman may not be marrying purely for love, though she may not admit it. Instead, she may be settling for what is available. Informal observations suggest that many women begin to feel anxious about their future if they are still single at 30. This pressure is often more intense in African societies, where marriage carries significant cultural weight. A beautiful, mature, unmarried woman may be viewed as a queen without a crown.

The pressure typically starts with questions from family members, followed by concern, speculation, and sometimes judgment. Peer pressure intensifies it, especially with the constant exposure to elaborate weddings on social media. The effect is deeply psychological, creating the feeling that time is running out. As a result, when a man shows interest, she may quickly seek clarity by asking if he is ready to settle down. There is little patience for prolonged courtship.

At this point, she may lower her standards to accommodate the relationship, much like institutions lowering cut off marks to admit more candidates. You may not be her ideal partner, but you are seen as manageable or someone who could grow into that ideal. This is rarely stated openly. In many cases, the desire for marriage becomes urgent. The ring, the name change, and even the validation that comes with it become important.

This dynamic, some argue, can lead to dissatisfaction in marriage, particularly if she compares her current partner to past relationships, especially with more affluent or established individuals.

If financial struggles arise, tension may follow. She may become irritable or emotionally distant, questioning her choices and reflecting on missed opportunities. In some cases, unresolved past experiences, such as heartbreak, may influence her outlook, leading to trust issues or defensive behaviour. This can manifest as emotional withdrawal or a tendency to guard personal matters closely.

In certain situations, transparency, especially around finances, may become an issue. There are instances where partners operate independently in major decisions, which can create distance within the marriage.

These challenges may be more pronounced if the woman is more financially stable than her partner. Over time, this imbalance can shift the dynamics of respect and decision-making in the relationship. The man may feel sidelined, while the woman assumes greater control, potentially leading to conflict, resentment, or emotional strain.

It is important to note that this perspective does not apply to all women aged 30 and above. Many women in this age group have thriving, successful marriages built on mutual respect and understanding. However, the argument here is that, in some cases, certain patterns within this demographic may present unique challenges.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0qS5mCskSSpnvreSb6CP4hyRGx55z2L1KpLR18YuFYuedtap27LEbmszKukQ9Yx1nl

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You really must be very idle

Kobicove:
You really must be very idle

They will say you too are "evening newspaper" 😂😂😂

Regardless of whether you like the OP or not, he’s speaking the mind of a lot of men. For most guys looking to settle down, finding someone who genuinely likes you is a priority.

A lot of ladies want to be married by 26-28, The anxiety sets in when this age goes by and the goal isn’t achieved. Women past this age ‘talk to’ multiple people to see which one sticks around.

At this point, can he provide and is he ready to settle down are more important than love and feelings. Most women will tell you love grows, just marry and hustle for love later.

At this age range, most women can’t date you for long. They aren’t with you because they like your presence in their lives, they are with you for a purpose and when that purpose isn’t aligning, they walk.

However, it is not only women that settle. A woman’s settling may come earlier than the man’s but when a man is ready, his criteria for picking a wife also changes. His demands reduces, his level of tolerance increases. He would accept things he would have ghosted a girl for five years ago.

At the end of the day, we all settle and are settled for one way or another. If we all had the ability to pick anyone we want to be with, more than 99% of humans will not be with their partners.

All a man can do is to pick the best of the options available to him and hope for the best. Look at what you can benefit from the relationship and not only what you would sacrifice.

Too much to read as haven't eaten..Can someone summarize it for before i warm my Egusi....