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Love800:
Am very organise when with a woman. All my speech, point, summary, wish and objective of my attending to ladies are ironed out straight according to my account. Once i tell you no, take it like dat, and yes, take it also like dat. No bending. I can choose not to even communicate with you for a month. If you see anything wrong with it, i don't see any.

Just be precisely with your thoughts towards women. Don't ever bend your wish for dem cos they don't send you.

Not talking to your spouse for a month. That won't work. Nobody whether in marriage or relationship would not want to be with someone who wouldn't communicate for a month. Unless the person is in the military or in the sea or in oil rigs. Those are the only people permitted without talking to someone for a month.

I read this thread and I’m crossing myself. I swear to my mother. I swear on my life. Do you even realize that women are reading here the nonsense you’re writing? I’m just asking.

God forbid that, for example, your wives or those girls somehow meet me or someone like me—they would kill each other until only one remains. This is sad, everything you’re writing. What kind of material benefit are you looking for from women? Terrible.😕
They wouldn’t just fight—they’d kill each other until only one is left. Without hesitation. 😕😕
What are you talking about?

EvilMerodack:
I like to borrow their instinct anytime I'm to make tough life decisions. Their ruthlessness and how brutal they go after whats best for them is something i admire really much. As for male-female relationship dynamics, I set the bar so high even a female version of me would be intimidated by them. I have never dated rubbish and i will never do

A lady recently cut me off just because in her words 'must you always gain something from whatever you're doing with/for me". If i envisage from afar that you cant be useful to me in the next few years, judging by how you randomly treat people, i go cut you off one time

I date givers, kind-hearts and super-ambitious women. I can cope with any other negativity and yes, women like this plenty for here

You said it all bro ..one ❤️💯

Learning

KobolanderSegun:
After calling him naive you show your own naivety by saying men put women up.. Work and hustle opens doors for women. I know so many women who are single and making tons of money through their jobs and hustle. Babes whose level of independence is ridiculous for a human being. I know babes who will out hustle any man on any given day.

Just give them one child and they become superhuman

I never called women naive. On the contrary, they're calculating. I only referred to the commenters statement as naive.

Also, I'm trying to judge if you're a man or a woman before reacting to your comment. The reason is not really chauvinistic or that I don't like women. I love them very much, it's just that I've learned women are so ungrateful they don't give thanks or credit where it is due thereby giving the impression they do it all alone. That is also the reason I don't like them having the power in economic affairs. Because they get money and status for themselves and no one else.

Whatever field you think women hustle, men out hustle them. It's not even close. Even the native gender biased roles such as cooking. Men out hustle women once money is involved. The reason women seem more visible in the business space now is because a separate protected category has been created for them to enable them survive the competition not because they're inherently stronger. In my line of work, I deal with a lot of high net worth individuals. The women up there have men they have paid their dues to that hold them up and defend their positions and advise them and give them strength. They never do it alone. It's all hidden behind the scenes. Don't make conclusions based on a manifestation of things that have been sealed in secret.

Sexism, violence, and extreme poverty causes women to enter survival mode just like these things impact men.

If you want delicate flowers, start with addressing issues in your community, and protect women who aren't related to you.

When i see a possibility or success of something i envisage to do, and a partner closeness can affect it, i stay hibernated from you.
Is just so me.

See, nobody cares about your emotions. Just do what you think is right and rewarding at the end. As far i did not physically harm you or verbally abuse you, i dont care, as far am getting my priorities.

Nobody send you, even in marriage.

If she goes, i find someone else.

Omowale2023:
Not talking to your spouse for a month. That won't work. Nobody whether in marriage or relationship would not want to be with someone who wouldn't communicate for a month. Unless the person is in the military or in the sea or in oil rigs. Those are the only people permitted without talking to someone for a month.

Rapmoney:
Bro, leave karma alone. This is the reality. A woman can leave you and still get someone who is better than you. It is more about protecting your interest to succeed.

Thank you for setting LordIsaac straight. It’s not about revenge at all.

emmaodet:
I think the past experience of their mothers, grandmothers is what is making them to be more ruthless in their choices else, they will fall into the same pit.
Let's be frank, so many men out there are nothing to write home about.
They are very very irresponsible who just want to bang, no support for the woman's kids or pregnancy or upkeep.
Do you expect such men to procreate? And cause more wahala for us?

Very true.

emmaodet:
I think the past experience of their mothers, grandmothers is what is making them to be more ruthless in their choices else, they will fall into the same pit.
Let's be frank, so many men out there are nothing to write home about.
They are very very irresponsible who just want to bang, no support for the woman's kids or pregnancy or upkeep.
Do you expect such men to procreate? And cause more wahala for us?

Those men can’t procreate with women. Women are the enablers and that’s why we have shameful and ridiculous level of poverty all over Africa. But it is convenient to blame ‘ bad governance’. I am very happy about this new approach to relations, it must one with financial gain and progression for both parties otherwise NO DEAL!

emmaodet:
I think the past experience of their mothers, grandmothers is what is making them to be more ruthless in their choices else, they will fall into the same pit.
Let's be frank, so many men out there are nothing to write home about.
They are very very irresponsible who just want to bang, no support for the woman's kids or pregnancy or upkeep.
Do you expect such men to procreate? And cause more wahala for us?

Most women can tell a man who is irresponsible. Their ruthlessness has nothing to do with men's irresponsibility, has more to do with women now prioritising survival as the love/romance/marriage concept has provent to be a hoax, therefore outdated.

Everybody now knows everything is inevitably transactional.

Real men knew this for the longest time though, na mumu boys dey allow women use them

NaijaHelper1:
I think your comment is naive. Yes women are empowered. But it is men who have empowered them. Don't think there is any competition. You're commenting like someone who is outside looking in without any nuance nor context. Women who are high up are put there by men. More so, they need men to remain on top. I dint believe you have interacted with any high status woman for you to hold these type of beliefs.

The guy you quoted is a true naive guy in almost every sphere of life. But he likes deceiving himself with his textbook opinions. Funny thing is that he has not even ever had sex nor a girlfriend. Someone like him isn't meant to be taking seriously.

Gerrard59:
Women who are looking for sperm donors? Women who have decided that if dem no born, nothing much as long as they keep earning money? Women who are travelling around yanfu-yanfu? See, at 50, society looks at your economic achievement, not whether you don born or not. So, I find it funny when lads mock women with that in today's age given that women are getting plum jobs and building profitable businesses. In fact, most of the men who mock these women online MIGHT never get to live the lives these women have, and that is the most important metric - your economic prosperity, not whether she is unmarried at 50 or childless at 40.

I want the best for women and I think they should be free to achieve whatever they want ti achieve in business, at work, finances etc etc
This is already the case in the western world, however do not underestimate the level of emptiness, the mental imbalance, the deep emotional trauma, and psychological problems women face when they hit 50 and menopause, childless and single. It is devastating because money means nothing in that situation.
Remember money can only buy things…. Women may choose not to get married but choosing not to have a child or children is another thing entirely. We get them plenty for this America and frankly, they are all mentally ill and unbalanced and dangerous!!!

NaijaHelper1:
I think your comment is naive. Don't think there is any competition. You're commenting like someone who is outside looking in without any nuance nor context. More so, they need men to remain on top.

There is competition for good jobs and economic opportunities by both genders. In the '70s and '80s, men had to slug it out amongst themselves. Now, men have to slug it out with women. The best of men had only men as their competition, but now have the best of women as added competitiors. More women now study medicine than men in England. Zenith Bank employs more women than men. Thirty years, it was not like that. These positions are not expanding in number, but the number of applicants has soared over the years.

Yes women are empowered. But it is men who have empowered them. Women who are high up are put there by men.

Let's say we agree on this, but with a high number of single empowered women, which has led to a declining fertility rate in developed countries, why have these men not de-empowered the women? The women high up there aren't interested in the men below their status. The issue is that you think high status women are interested in "low status" men. They are not. In their lens, I wager, those "low status men" are not seen as men sef. However, these "low status men" constitute the majority of men in the society.

When you have a high proportion of young, single and economically empowered women deliberately deciding to remain single or opt for sperm donors to have children, it means something. It means these women are doing away with men largely because they don't need men for their existence.

I dint believe you have interacted with any high status woman for you to hold these type of beliefs.

I will let this slide...

ibedun:
I want the best for women and I think they should be free to achieve whatever they want ti achieve in business, at work, finances etc etc
This is already the case in the western world, however do not underestimate the level of emptiness, the mental imbalance, the deep emotional trauma, and psychological problems women face when they hit 50 and menopause, childless and single. It is devastating because money means nothing in that situation.
Remember money can only buy things…. Women may choose not to get married but choosing not to have a child or children is another thing entirely. We get them plenty for this America and frankly, they are all mentally ill and unbalanced and dangerous!!!

Well, the reality is that these women are now in greater numbers and their numbers are rising.

So, what do you say about it?

Adebaba1:
modern women are smarter, they don't really need men.
They just want to make money and shake their ass on a yatch
if you go to most white collar offices in Lagos, na women plenty pass
very soon, HR will start employing men for gender balance.
Most of them are selfish to the male gender, they prefer to give money to their gender that they don't know from Adam than their boyfriends
its the sad reality out there

This is already the reality in western world. But their men are smarter than the useless men in Africa. Now that women are doing it all in the west their men have left them alone. We need the same in Africa to reduce the level of unnecessary child birth, unnecessary children, too many unnecessary mouths to feed, destruction of men’s life with unnecessary family responsibilities, early death and low life expectancies of men.

Drfernandez:
The guy you quoted is a true naive guy in almost every sphere of life. But he likes deceiving himself with his textbook opinions. Funny thing is that he has not even ever had sex nor a girlfriend. Someone like him isn't meant to be taking seriously.

This is you predicting Peter Obi would win the 2023 elections:

Drfernandez:
You are naive politically and otherwise. Your little brain did not tell you that unlike the 1993 election where the two-party system was in place and was a two-horse race between NRC and SDP, which largely contributed to SDP victory, that it is not the same in the 2023 election.

The fact that you failed to tell yourself the truth that Atiku would do better than Tinubu in the entire North using your sentimental analogy, shows that you are completely naive.

The election will be Peter Obi's to lose, so he is winning by all indices available so far.

Yeah, I am nAiVe🙄

I will let the remainder of your comment slide.

Na mumuuuuu Dey do relationship or marriage for this 2026. The only business I have with women is Fvck and pay. Nothing concern me with marriage and relationship cos these people are not worth taking seriously.

Hhh4444:
Na mumuuuuu Dey do relationship or marriage for this 2026. The only business I have with women is Fvck and pay. Nothing concern me marriage and relationship cos these people are not worth taking seriously.

This is the best approach to modern life, unfortunately but meaningful. And it is absolutely idiotic to fall in love.

Gerrard59:
Well, the reality is that these women are now in greater numbers and their numbers are rising.

So, what do you say about it?

It will force them back to their natural role, but by their own free will, with nobody forcing or pushing them.

ibedun:
This is the best approach to modern life, unfortunately but meaningful. And it is absolutely idiotic to fall in love.

I wonder why most African men don’t want to come to this reality. All women are the same, there is no unicorn out there.

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See how person prioritize women...if a woman goes find another one no problem ...The pain most women have about a man they left is seeing him with another woman happy.....
While the man looks who makes his life easier which they would always be one ....
Women don't get committed men easily for relationship what they get are usually s**ual predators....But committed responsible aren't cheap ...
That's why you see them in religious houses more they can use religion to blackmail the man into commitment or staying faithful.....
But women's choices have always been the same nothing knew here it's always the same the Person that they perceive protects their interest that's what they go for in marriage usually not necessarily the man they love .....
Alot of women marry men they don't love it's common in naija

dreamxhaser:
Hahaha… don’t take what women say online seriously. Especially about not needing a man😂 besides how many women get to travel the world?

Also, women are nowhere near as close to men financially or economically, even in today’s world. Men still lead. How many women run successful businesses when compared to men? The only place women compete with men is in the white-collar industry, and that’s it.

Those are the women who constitute the greatest number of spinsters.

Finally, marriage benefits women way more than it benefits men, an average woman will prefer to get married and have kids with a man in her life than carry out some sperm donor shit. They will say otherwise online but we all know women say something and do the opposite.

Till today the average woman’s prayer is to have her rich dreams man, even more than building her own successful career. That is why they get depressed and too emotional when single at old age.

I have several aunts that are well off financially, but they still pray for a husband every day. It is their dream even after the successful careers they have.
Men should stop acting desperate about marriage and see women humble. That shit dose not benefit us in anyway, they still cheat with their lowkey true loves. So what’s in it for us? Pressure and early grave?

So all those single successful women you see at 50 having the best time of their lives are actually depressed and they are a tiny minority of the billions of women outhere

Until those women get their desirable men to marry, then I would change my stance. My position is for men to focus on their economic wellbeing, and not whether or not their female contemporaries would get married. So, their female contemporaries don't get married, but as long as those female counterparts are more economically comfortable than those men, in my books, they have won it in life.

I focus on the economics, not whether someone is married or not.

Gerrard59:
This is you predicting Peter Obi would win the 2023 elections:



Yeah, I am nAiVe🙄

I will let the remainder of your comment slide.

Did Atiku not do better than Tinubu in the North in 2023 presidential election? Does INEC pronouncing Tinubu a winner automatically mean that he won the presidential election? Your naievity is something else.

Drfernandez:
Did Atiku not do better than Tinubu in the North in 2023 presidential election? Does INEC pronouncing Tinubu a winner automatically mean that he won the presidential election? Your naievity is something else.

Tinubu was going to win as long as Atiku and Obi were separate. INEC is the umpire. I am not interested in anything else. Tinubu won the election as I predicted.

Maybe next time, use your profound knowledge to tell Atiku and Obi to merge so they can compete and withstand Tinubu. And oh! That should have been four years ago, not now, as Bola Tinubu would rather commit suicide than lose next year's election.

Gerrard59:
There is competition for good jobs and economic opportunities by both genders. In the '70s and '80s, men had to slug it out amongst themselves. Now, men have to slug it out with women. The best of men had only men as their competition, but now have the best of women as added competitiors. More women now study medicine than men in England. Zenith Bank employs more women than men. Thirty years, it was not like that. These positions are not expanding in number, but the number of applicants has soared over the years.


Let's say we agree on this, but with a high number of single empowered women, which has led to a declining fertility rate in developed countries, why have these men not de-empowered the women? The women high up there aren't interested in the men below their status. The issue is that you think high status women are interested in "low status" men. They are not. In their lens, I wager, those "low status men" are not seen as men sef. However, these "low status men" constitute the majority of men in the society.

When you have a high proportion of young, single and economically empowered women deliberately deciding to remain single or opt for sperm donors to have children, it means something. It means these women are doing away with men largely because they don't need men for their existence.


I will let this slide...

The premise of your response is already flawed. You're applying western standards to a poverty infested economy. The men have learnt that white collar jobs don't pay them given the amount of responsibilities they carry and have thus left it for women. Most men now will rather work online(or yehoo unfortunately) to make make sure they stay on top of responsibilities. That doesn't mean women are winning..it simply means women are occupying roles which require no additional effort other than a streamlined workflow and exact instructions which is where they excel.

Men and women have different definitions of status. A woman sees material enough to sustain her as fully independent. A man who has enough material to sustain himself only sees himself as poor. A woman will not date a man in the same economic bracket as her because she'll see him as lower which is a weird phenomenon if you ask me.

Women who are financially well off and therefore refuse marriage are nothing other than a symptom of a dysfunctional society. It's not sth to be applauded. It's an indicator of a fully mature and declining society. And it goes to prove my point. That women if left unsupervised will apply principles that only benefit them in a selfish disruption of the order of society.

Age humbles them all

NaijaHelper1:
I never called women naive. On the contrary, they're calculating. I only referred to the commenters statement as naive.

Also, I'm trying to judge if you're a man or a woman before reacting to your comment. The reason is not really chauvinistic or that I don't like women. I love them very much, it's just that I've learned women are so ungrateful they don't give thanks or credit where it is due thereby giving the impression they do it all alone. That is also the reason I don't like them having the power in economic affairs. Because they get money and status for themselves and no one else.

Whatever field you think women hustle, men out hustle them. It's not even close. Even the native gender biased roles such as cooking. Men out hustle women once money is involved. The reason women seem more visible in the business space now is because a separate protected category has been created for them to enable them survive the competition not because they're inherently stronger. In my line of work, I deal with a lot of high net worth individuals. The women up there have men they have paid their dues to that hold them up and defend their positions and advise them and give them strength. They never do it alone. It's all hidden behind the scenes. Don't make conclusions based on a manifestation of things that have been sealed in secret.

This is true.
Rich, successful women have messed-up minds. And that’s irreversible.
Irreversible.
Nothing can be done about it.
The worst thing is that the men who advise and support them don’t sleep with them. Maybe I’m wrong, but they don’t seem satisfied. It’s probably not even a priority for them.

Gerrard59:
Tinubu was going to win as long as Atiku and Obi were separate. INEC is the umpire. I am not interested in anything else. Tinubu won the election as I predicted.

Maybe next time, use your profound knowledge to tell Atiku and Obi to merge so they can compete and withstand Tinubu. And oh! That should have been four years ago, not now, as Bola Tinubu would rather commit suicide than lose next year's election.

You know next to nothing, so there's no point for any further dialogue with you.

NaijaHelper1:
Men and women have different definitions of status. A woman sees material enough to sustain her as fully independent. A man who has enough material to sustain himself only sees himself as poor. A woman will not date a man in the same economic bracket as her because she'll see him as lower which is a weird phenomenon if you ask me.

Women who are financially well off and therefore refuse marriage are nothing other than a symptom of a dysfunctional society. It's not sth to be applauded. It's an indicator of a fully mature and declining society. And it goes to prove my point. That women if left unsupervised will apply principles that only benefit them in a selfish disruption of the order of society.

Well, then we should expect more selfish women as more women are empowered. I have noted the same and the bolded text.