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I’m currently based abroad and I’ve found myself in a complicated situation.

I was in a relationship, but I got involved with someone else and even took her on holiday. Things escalated when my girlfriend found out, and the other woman also refused to walk away. Since then, I’ve been dealing with both of them at the same time.

Recently, my girlfriend showed up at my place unannounced in the middle of the night and discovered everything. That situation exposed how out of control things have become.

Both women have good qualities in different ways, and I haven’t been able to make a clear decision about either of them. However, I realise that I’ve allowed too much access and familiarity, especially with my home, and that needs to change.

Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to properly handle the situation, set boundaries, and regain control, because continuing like this isn’t sustainable.

I’d appreciate honest advice on how to deal with this properly.

Always that one card.. test of sad times alignment. Always works

If the first girl was cool
..there won't be need for the second...



Besides, I will never loose sleep over women matter again in my life..

As a man, you must learn how to make decisions and move on

You are a man for God sake...it's your world.

Starz825:
If the first girl was cool
..there won't be need for the second...



Besides, I will never loose sleep over women matter again in my life..

As a man, you must learn how to make decisions and move on

You are a man for God sake...it's your world.

It driving me crazyy

I’m really really in a tight position

Then marry 2 of them na.... What exactly are U scared of? Can't U take care of 2 of them?..

As a man U should know what you want, you should know the one that U love and understand most... If U can't do that, then what do U expect a complete stranger like us to tell U?.

Damakboy:
It driving me crazyy

I’m really really in a tight position

There is never a tight position...Its all in your head...

You can even decide to abandon both ladies and start afresh....

That's why you a man....they obviously need you more than you want them...

So choose one ...or abandon both...

Yet, always watch your back...no be say dem love you like that....bread dey your hand na why...that's why you have to make decision and move on

You are a man....not a sissy

Just dye your hair blonde na...



Since you don turn to tony tetulla when dey in love with two women and don't know which one to choose.


What kind of advice are you expecting people to give you... they should pick one of the women for you?


Okay, pick the short one.


Your ego made you create this thread... it's what is doing you actually!

Marry both of them

Damakboy:
I’m currently based abroad and I’ve found myself in a complicated situation.

I was in a relationship, but I got involved with someone else and even took her on holiday. Things escalated when my girlfriend found out, and the other woman also refused to walk away. Since then, I’ve been dealing with both of them at the same time.

Recently, my girlfriend showed up at my place unannounced in the middle of the night and discovered everything. That situation exposed how out of control things have become.

Both women have good qualities in different ways, and I haven’t been able to make a clear decision about either of them. However, I realise that I’ve allowed too much access and familiarity, especially with my home, and that needs to change.

Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to properly handle the situation, set boundaries, and regain control, because continuing like this isn’t sustainable.

I’d appreciate honest advice on how to deal with this properly.

Go ahead and marry the both of them.

Problem solved.

Starz825:
If the first girl was cool
..there won't be need for the second...



.

Lol this quote ehn! 😁 how I always believed this in the past until I realised humans are naturally insatiable, it takes intentionally to make relationship work and that quote is just an excuse for irresponsiblity.

You will keep picking "the second" until you decide to make the first work. Guess what "second " no dey finish. There's always someone better but no one perfect.

If after racking your head and still unsure, just go with the one with the bigger ikebe.

I dedicate:

I'm in love with two women

By:

VIP and Tony Tetwila

This kind of decision is very hard when you dont have a third option

lilvicky68:
This kind of decision is very hard when you dont have a third option

There's a third option:

He can leave both women.

Proserpina:
Lol this quote ehn! 😁 how I always believed this in the past until I realised humans are naturally insatiable, it takes intentionally to make relationship work and that quote is just an excuse for irresponsiblity.

You will keep picking "the second" until you decide to make the first work. Guess what "second " no dey finish. There's always someone better but no one perfect.

This is your notion...not mine..
For me...If the first girl was cool...i will never reach out to the second for a serious relationship...never...

Mind you..i will never be in this mess...its my world ...I will pick anyone I want.

If the first one was that cool and care,things won’t get this deep with the second one…
Most men cheats,but most men knows who they want at the end…:

Damakboy:
I’m currently based abroad and I’ve found myself in a complicated situation.

I was in a relationship, but I got involved with someone else and even took her on holiday. Things escalated when my girlfriend found out, and the other woman also refused to walk away. Since then, I’ve been dealing with both of them at the same time.

Recently, my girlfriend showed up at my place unannounced in the middle of the night and discovered everything. That situation exposed how out of control things have become.

Both women have good qualities in different ways, and I haven’t been able to make a clear decision about either of them. However, I realise that I’ve allowed too much access and familiarity, especially with my home, and that needs to change.

Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to properly handle the situation, set boundaries, and regain control, because continuing like this isn’t sustainable.

I’d appreciate honest advice on how to deal with this properly.

Discuss with both women and marry the two of them since they both have good qualities. Or

2. Let go of both ladies because if you marry only one and leave one, women do not forget. The one you marry will set trap for you and When she is fully settled, she will throw you out of the house you own for cheating on her during that pre wedding period.

Damakboy:
I’m currently based abroad and I’ve found myself in a complicated situation.

I was in a relationship, but I got involved with someone else and even took her on holiday. Things escalated when my girlfriend found out, and the other woman also refused to walk away. Since then, I’ve been dealing with both of them at the same time.

Recently, my girlfriend showed up at my place unannounced in the middle of the night and discovered everything. That situation exposed how out of control things have become.

Both women have good qualities in different ways, and I haven’t been able to make a clear decision about either of them. However, I realise that I’ve allowed too much access and familiarity, especially with my home, and that needs to change.

Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to properly handle the situation, set boundaries, and regain control, because continuing like this isn’t sustainable.

I’d appreciate honest advice on how to deal with this properly.

one thing I know is, if to say you no get bar neither of those parasite's go fight over you like this.

Choose the one that has tighter to-tow

How can a guy get himself a girlfriend or a date, if I may ask? I need one 😭😭

Damakboy:
I’m currently based abroad and I’ve found myself in a complicated situation.

I was in a relationship, but I got involved with someone else and even took her on holiday. Things escalated when my girlfriend found out, and the other woman also refused to walk away. Since then, I’ve been dealing with both of them at the same time.

Recently, my girlfriend showed up at my place unannounced in the middle of the night and discovered everything. That situation exposed how out of control things have become.

Both women have good qualities in different ways, and I haven’t been able to make a clear decision about either of them. However, I realise that I’ve allowed too much access and familiarity, especially with my home, and that needs to change.

Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to properly handle the situation, set boundaries, and regain control, because continuing like this isn’t sustainable.

I’d appreciate honest advice on how to deal with this properly.

There's no law against marrying two women in Nigeria

Damakboy:
It driving me crazyy

I’m really really in a tight position

This one head no correct

you neva talk wetin join 3 of una. Seems they are the ones feeding you or they have loans on you. You are hiding something but that one na your wahala.

Jeff3888:
How can a guy get himself a girlfriend or a date, if I may ask? I need one 😭😭

They sell them at shopRite or any market close to you

It's just sentiments...not worth the confusion.

Starz825:
If the first girl was cool
..there won't be need for the second...



Besides, I will never loose sleep over women matter again in my life..

As a man, you must learn how to make decisions and move on

You are a man for God sake...it's your world.

Any Man who has gone through with this, would clearly know what you're saying. That word I bold, Made me understand you perfectly fine.

It's simple... leave both and hit the reset button.

optimusprime2:
It's simple... leave both and hit the reset button.

i just did

MarkNsukkaBread:
There's no law against marrying two women in Nigeria

i dey oyinbp land