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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by crossbreedwears(m): 10:10am On Apr 20

For any man's sake, don't accept "No sex before marriage" from any woman or else you might regret it. 80% of men who agreed regretted it

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by crossbreedwears(m): 10:12am On Apr 20

It's not even about billing my dear. We have seen cases where after marriage the man could not perform during muster parade and on the other side, the woman doesn't like sex and the man went outside to cheat and the woman cheated on his husband due to incapable of satisfying his wife.

spiceadole:
That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by GingerbreadMen(m): 10:14am On Apr 20

spiceadole:
In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

Women like you truly are rare.
Sorry to hear about the incident.

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by DeepSight(m): 10:14am On Apr 20

ebubeson:
No sex before marriage is the best. If you love someone and want to marry them, and they say no sex before marriage, support it: but tell them no sex before marriage means no sex between us and any body else.

Do not let anyone tell you no sex before marriage while they probably satisfy themselves with a sex partner or whoever.

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No sex before marriage is a terrible prescription which can lead to disasters. Sexual compatibility is key in marriage and it is advisable to be sure of it before tying the knot.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by boxypane: 10:15am On Apr 20

stan4b:
If no sex before marriage, then no spending or billing of any kind before marriage. Case closed.

This billing thing sef, na most of our disgruntled female gender here dey misbehave. Nothing wrong in shearing bills. If you fit end the life of 2 Shawarma in a sitting, it means you can pay for it, but no, them go dey behave like orphans wey no get option.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by EmmyMaestro(m): 10:17am On Apr 20

No sex before marriage, ok no problem. But during marriage, a lot of women will only have sex with their husbands when they feel like or will completely starve their husbands of sex

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by dododawa1: 10:18am On Apr 20

inside life

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by nonny1212: 10:18am On Apr 20

Any non-virgin that tells you "no sex before marriage" is inputing her early manipulative codes into you. Fall for it and become her prey. She will know you're weak and can be controlled easily.

What am I even explaining. Any girl that tells you that, SIMPLY no send your papa!.

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Hmmmmm2024: 10:20am On Apr 20

stan4b:
If no sex before marriage, then no spending or billing of any kind before marriage. Case closed.

And not giving my time, advice or whatever till marriage

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by DeepSight(m): 10:20am On Apr 20

spiceadole:
In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

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There is of course sexually compatibility and incompatibility. It's crazy to say there isn't. People like different things sexually. That's a fact.

The mere fact that you succeed in having sex does not mean you are sexually compatible also. Much sex can be boring and routine like a chore. Not alive and fascinating as it should be. Not hawt.

However your case is peculiar so I understand you. The unsaid in your post should touch the heart of the discerning. It is well with you and I am happy for you.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by teeteepeejay: 10:23am On Apr 20

marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

So many ladies but you left out the men?

You funny sha

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by SmartyPants(m): 10:23am On Apr 20

I can agree to no sex before marriage but she must allow me to install a smart card reader that will monitor and log usage remotely.

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by smasher1(m): 10:24am On Apr 20

spiceadole:
That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

Good👍

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Heffalump(m): 10:25am On Apr 20

ebubeson:
No sex before marriage is the best. If you love someone and want to marry them, and they say no sex before marriage, support it: but tell them no sex before marriage means no sex between us and any body else.

Do not let anyone tell you no sex before marriage while they probably satisfy themselves with a sex partner or whoever.

Some ladies use No sex before Marriage to deceive gullible men and prove their fake decent lifestyle, meanwhile someone else is constantly washing the plate down there. We've seen all of this before and it's just to entrap men. Yes, I will prefer to keep it holy, but can you swear to an oracle for us to progress into marriage, that you've never done this since the relationship began? Many ladies will borrow leg and flea.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by smasher1(m): 10:26am On Apr 20

marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

3 months is enough to get married. A lady can pretend for ten years.

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Solofresh2: 10:26am On Apr 20

Okoyeeboz:
Depends on the situation. If the lady is desperate and the guy is undiscerning, 8 months is not too short.

Marrying a desperate lady is a red flag for me

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by smasher1(m): 10:26am On Apr 20

marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

3 months is enough to get married. A lady can pretend for ten years. That's it.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by teeteepeejay: 10:27am On Apr 20

Gotocourt:
That Gee really wanted to marry you 😍 but dude was relieving elsewhere 🤷🏿.

You cant be certain. You should not judge others by your own standards.

He could be a morally upright person than you are you know!

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by smasher1(m): 10:27am On Apr 20

spiceadole:
Why should I be angry?
I had met guys who didn't agree to "no sex" even when I accepted they should not spend on me.
Finding someone who agreed to my condition was perfect.
I was working and spending on myself.
I didn't just want to be passed around in the name of relationship.
Very important. You did well.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by kingjayzeelan07: 10:28am On Apr 20

marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

if age no dey your side again, baba no need to waste time. That rule na for those wey age still dey smile on them grin

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by amshigida: 10:28am On Apr 20

Seing the above comments indicate the end time is near!!

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by smasher1(m): 10:29am On Apr 20

spiceadole:
6 months is more than enough to date and marry for someone who wants to marry.

It's different from people who want boyfriends and girlfriends.Those ones can go on with their 5-10 years or more relationship,studying their partners like undergraduate and master's degree combined.

Good luck to them

And committing abortions all through.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Solofresh2: 10:30am On Apr 20

ebubeson:
No sex before marriage is the best. If you love someone and want to marry them, and they say no sex before marriage, support it: but tell them no sex before marriage means no sex between us and any body else.

Do not let anyone tell you no sex before marriage while they probably satisfy themselves with a sex partner or whoever.

watch her actions,not her words

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by victorazyvictor(m): 10:33am On Apr 20

ebubeson:
No sex before marriage is the best. If you love someone and want to marry them, and they say no sex before marriage, support it: but tell them no sex before marriage means no sex between us and any body else.

Do not let anyone tell you no sex before marriage while they probably satisfy themselves with a sex partner or whoever.

Will you be following him or her to everywhere?

I was expecting "No sex" then No hiar making, in fact no monetary support until marriage.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Ishilove: 10:34am On Apr 20

IamAsiri:
Na broke people you fit use that one scare.

I swear. What they are saying in other words is they are paying for sex.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Ishilove: 10:38am On Apr 20

spiceadole:
And greedy ladies who are not contented.
When I met my now husband, I told him NO SEX and he said NO SPENDING.
Perfect!
We maintained it like that.

We got married 8 months later.

Giving should be mutual and from the heart. I don't understand the kind of relationship people of nowadays are practicing that ties the simple act of giving to terms and conditions.

Hian. I'm naturally a giver so all this is very strange to me.

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Adakintroy: 10:39am On Apr 20

No be sex withholding be the issue. Na your character.

Worry about your character. And less about sex manipulation.

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Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Originalsly: 10:40am On Apr 20

" No sex before marriage means no sex between us and nobody else" ... doesn't this imply after marriage she can sleep with someone else? It is better to ask if she is a virgin ... if no ...then you have something to think about .If yes ...then let her know she must be a virgin on honeymoon night... no excuses ....or the marriage will be over. She'll have something to think about.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by Emdi1914: 10:41am On Apr 20

Women of nowadays,if you don't desire sex they Will be the ones asking for it.
Women desire sex times 2 than men.
If a woman tells you no sex before marriage, better watch your back because the bitter truth is that women love sex more than men.

Re: When She Insists No Sex Before Marriage Tell Her This by kingthreat(m): 10:43am On Apr 20

From experience, for the woman you're going to marry, it's good you do a no-sex relationship if possible. Sex can cloud your eyes and you'd be forced to conform to some certain things you won't because it's happening. Let the relationship be about character and compatibility and see yourselves for who you are.

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