What’s the No. 1 sexual issue that men face today? OK, the guy who said finding a sexual partner wins – I’ll give you that
one. What’s the second then? Chances are most of you said premature ejaculation,and most of you likely had a reaction to
that term – you felt some anxiety or thought about clicking back to your streaming porn that’s taking forever to download. It’s time to stop avoiding the issue and look at it. Why? For the simple reason that we only live once and having
the best possible sex life should be an item on our bucket lists.

The Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV) defines premature ejaculation as a persistent or
recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before, on or shortly after penetration and before a person wishes.Wow, that’s not a sexy definition.Personally, I define it as you come quicker than you or your partner wants.How often does this occur in different age
groups for men? According to the 1999 NHSLS survey by Laumann et al., 30% of men ages 18-29, 32% ages 30-39, 28% ages 40-49, and 31% ages 50-59 stated climaxing too early was an issue. I know some of
you were hoping age would slow things down. If men were asked if they’ve ever had at least one experience of premature ejaculation, every man would have to queue up for their membership card.

What causes premature ejaculation?

There’s not one cause; it’s a combination of factors. Some believe anxiety is the culprit, repetitive learned behaviors,
excessive or insufficient arousal, or muscular tension. They’re all associated,and addressing each of them is the key to curing premature ejaculation. Evolutionary psychology suggests men learned to ejaculate quickly to ensure
they completed the sex act before a predator attacked, a female escaped, a male interrupted, or to increase the
chance of procreation. Maybe we can blame the cavemen? For our purposes,let’s leave the scientists to figure out the
causes and let’s focus on tips for curing premature ejaculation.

premature ejaculation: anxiety reduction
Let’s start with what we can do before our penis comes into play. First, you need to learn to calm yourself down and lower
your performance anxiety levels. Because premature ejaculation is associated with infrequent sex, men with low frequencies
of sexual activity often get extra excited and aroused, which can manifest as performance anxiety when sex presents itself. Even men with frequent sex can get
extra-aroused. Reducing anxiety is different for everyone. Meditation,hypnosis or imagery exercises may help for some. Just like an athlete works with
the sports psychologist to envision their performance, you can do the same sexual imagery for the bedroom. How many of
you imagine positive sexual scenarios,envision your interactions and what behaviors you would engage in? Imagery
can be like a positive mental plan,something you can fall back on that can help you manage your anxiety beforehand– and in the moment.Communicating your anxiety is also helpful. We hear the expression, “a big
relief to get that off my chest,” yet it’s rarely used for premature ejaculation.Talking with a partner, friend or therapist
opens the door for anxiety relief and can help address and alleviate some of our fears. Men are notorious for keeping things inside and it’s no different for a
delicate subject like this. Things like our penis size, body image, relationship difficulties, and stressors in life (work,financial, family, health) can all add to our anxiety levels in the bedroom. Lastly,pick up some sex education books/DVDs on sex technique and sexual expression.There are thousands out there and the more sex education you have, the more
competent, confident and less anxious you’ll feel.

premature ejaculation: pelvic muscles
Ever notice the tension you feel in your body? Men are less likely to find ways to release pelvic tension. Often, men are engaged in actions and behaviors throughout their lives and during sex that reinforce muscular tension. During sex, if you’re holding your breath, flexing your
abs and muscles, or supporting your weight in certain sexual positions(missionary), you’re creating muscle tension that increases the potential for
premature ejaculation.The classic example is men who tighten their muscles as they push out their erection to feel and appear larger to their
partner. Since orgasm is muscular contractions that release muscular tension, it’d be wise for us to work on our
muscle tension levels. Activities like yoga,stretching, anxiety reduction skills, and working out are all ways to decrease the
tension in your pelvic and abdominal regions outside of the bedroom.I also recommend you allow your partner to give you a full body massage. Be mindful of the performance anxiety you
experience and the tension release you feel as they touch your stomach, your thighs, your buttocks, and other areas of
your body. It’s not about genital
stimulation; it’s about managing the discomfort we may feel with our bodies,being touched and feeling exposed. Men that are comfortable with their body
image and with being touched often have lower ratings of sexual anxiety.Another important technique to lasting
longer is doing Kegel exercises. If you haven’t tried them, what are you waiting for? There’s no better method to strengthen your pelvic region and to create strong pubococcygeus muscles.
What are you doing to prepare for sex?You can’t expect greatness if you don’t put in the time.

premature ejaculation: start-stop method
The start-stop method is a tested method to learning ejaculatory control and lasting
longer. A male will stimulate his penis until he is ready to have an orgasm and then cease stimulation. Why this self-
administered torture? You’re training yourself to find when your ejaculatory inevitability occurs, or your point of no
return. This is the moment before orgasm when you’re about to explode. Instead of
ejaculating, you refrain from stimulation and allow the feeling of orgasm to subside. People will often squeeze their PC muscles (a Kegel contraction) to help hold back orgasm and ejaculation.Essentially, you’re teaching your mind and body to get comfortable with being in
heightened states of arousal and learning when the onset of orgasm approaches.The goal is to stretch out the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle and
put more distance between the
excitement and orgasm phase. People will do the start-stop method repeatedly for months and most gradually notice
changes in their control, duration of maintained stimulation, and their anxiety and confidence levels. At first, masturbate
alone using the start-stop method, then use it during partnered manual stimulation (hand job), MouthAction (Mouth Action)
and finally incorporate the start-stop method with intercourse.

premature ejaculation: masturbation
Masturbatory patterns are a form of learned behavior that often need to be unlearned. Most guys have a fast-track orgasm approach to masturbation. Whether it’s because your mum always knew the worst time to knock on your door or your decision to rub one out fast
when stressed, we often train ourselves to be quick on the orgasm trigger. You need
to change this masturbation mentality of goal-oriented orgasm to one that focuses
on taking your time and getting
comfortable with heightened sensations.Masturbation is the best practice for sex.Instead of racing to orgasm, take at least
20 minutes of masturbation time before allowing yourself to ejaculate. During this time, you’ll focus on the start-stop method and penile stimulation of the
shaft and glans (head). The glans are generally the most sensitive areas of the penis and is continuously stimulated
inside the vagina. However,most men masturbate using an up-down stroking motion of the shaft and neglect glan stimulation.Start off your 20-minute stroking without lube and just your imagination. In future
masturbation sessions, work up to imagery and lube, and then incorporate an adult magazine without lube, an adult magazine with lube, porn without lube,porn with lube, and eventually porn with lube and a intimacy gadget. What kind of toy?Anything that will mimic vaginal stimulation, such as a tenga egg, penis sleeve or artificial vagina will suffice it.
Each of these likely have internal ribbed and studded portions that offer heightened states of stimulation, which you will learn to enjoy and control. Any of these toys can be ordered online and delivered if you’re uncomfortable buying them in person. This gradual increase in
stimulation that you can manage, sustain and control will eventually be transferred
to sex with a partner.

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